BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......

Subject: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: hilda fish
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 06:11 AM

Tonight a male friend said he 'liked me for my mind' so I asked him to marry me; i.e. ".... that is such an original line you're gonna hafta marry me". He, "what?" Me, "you'll hafta marry me if you're gonna talk to me like that..."   Him, "ok". Me, "on second thoughts, I've changed my mind". He, "does that mean we're divorced before we're even married?" Me, "fraid so old boy". He, "I don't like you for your mind any more. Does that help?" Me, "too late". He, "that's what I hate about you women, inconsistency".   Ah, wadya do? He sang me a song. I think I'll ask him to marry me again.

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 06:47 AM

I'm jealous now!
Giok

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Cluin
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 06:48 AM

Chicks and their f___in' head games.



;)

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: artbrooks
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 07:18 AM

So...are you available or not?

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 07:42 AM

I'm a slut, I'm always available, but only to lovely ladies with lovely minds ☺
Giok

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: GUEST,Helpful Hattie
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 07:46 AM

Well, Art and John, you are divided by the seas but united in intent. Why not start a gentle cyber conversation - you never know where it could lead..

Good luck to you both, I say!

H.H.

p.s. some of the best friendships have started in tents.

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: wysiwyg
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 07:56 AM

HF, sounds like true love to me.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Gervase
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 08:00 AM

some of the best friendships have started in tents
...and ended, too, with my camp cooking! Still, you know it's love when you can smile at the farts...

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 08:17 AM

Personally I find that it works better if you smile at the person farting. Never got a response from the farts.

And there are some old farts I wouldn't give a smile to.

But that's a grand little story, HF. Reel him in, gently now...

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Rapparee
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 09:21 AM

Well, if you're divorced now, shouldn't you get alimony or child support or at least part of the joint property?

He tossed you away, gal! He betrayed you, tossed your proffered love and nubile body out on the ash heap like a burnt-out cinder.

Take him for all he's got, the cad! The bounder! The very idea!

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 09:28 AM

You were doing well, R, until "nubile" - there your imagination betrayed you...

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: ranger1
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 09:28 AM

Giok, you're already taken, or has Ewetopia been cast by the wayside?

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: GUEST
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 10:27 AM

Lots of that going around.

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Peace
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 10:34 AM

I asked a guy to marry me, too. He told me to fuck off!

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 10:51 AM

Ewetopia has taken up residence in Beverly MA thanks Tami.
Giok

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Rapparee
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 11:19 AM

I asked a lady to marry me once. She said yes. Now see where I am? Idaho!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: hilda fish
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 04:09 PM

Rapaire I just showed him your suggestion. He said I can have all he's got - which is not much, on the proviso that he has the same rights to all I have which is some. I think we might call it quits and just hold onto the friendship. I was married once to my childhood sweetheart and that ended in tears and then I was living with someone who was wonderful for 20 years and that busted up and then I lived with a dear friend of 15 years standing that also finished after a coupla years with the friendship lost as well, so I am a bit over it. By the same token I have many adorable male friends who are also idiots in their own way and I think I'll ask them all to marry me in the safe assumption that they will look at me in amazement and presume that I am feeling insecure. I don't get guys and they don't get anything (I think?)

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Cluin
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 04:17 PM

Do they get a word in sideways?

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 05:16 PM

Careful who you ask, they might accept!!
Giok

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: GUEST
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 05:26 PM

Who cares.

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 06:57 PM

Ah guest you would care if you met the lovely lady in question!
G

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Bobert
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 07:22 PM

First step to divorce is amrriage so....

...don't do it...

And Cluin is entirely correct... Womenz got some bad wirin'...

Bobert

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 07:28 PM

Just think Bobert, without marriage adultery is impossible, so it's not all bad news!
Giok ☺

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Rapparee
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 09:14 PM

Adultery is essential to marriage. They won't let kids marry.

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: number 6
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 09:21 PM

HuH ??

sIx

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: JennyO
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 10:12 PM

Hilda fish -

DON'T DO IT!

All the menz I know got screwy wiring - even the nice ones.

I know of what I speak!

Jenny

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From: number 6
Date: 18 Nov 05 - 10:23 PM

Jeeeezuz H. !!

sIx

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Cluin
Date: 19 Nov 05 - 04:32 AM

Men are just as full of bad wiring too. It all keeps things interesting.

But I will admit to sometimes feeling like Abe Klarn.

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Dave'sWife
Date: 19 Nov 05 - 05:31 AM

awww.. I dunno. I'm a big fan of marriage. On December the 6th, And December the 14th I will be celebrating my tenth Wedding Anniversary to DAVE! yay!

We'll celebrate again on 4/19/06 because we got married 3 times. It was so much fun the first time, I just had to keep doing it (to the same man mind you, and no divorces in between). I had 3 wedding dresses, 3 wedding caked..one groom.

What is the Tenth Anniversary anyway.. WOOD?

I think I'll send him a cake to his office to commemorate. he and I don't celebrate birthdays, so our Anniversary is the one big party all year long.

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: GUEST,*daylia*
Date: 19 Nov 05 - 07:20 AM

"some of the best friendships have started in tents
...and ended, too, with my camp cooking! Still, you know it's love when you can smile at the farts..."

That's just not as funny as you think, Gervase ☻ What is it about Men in Tents?

They're Men - they're Men in Tents
When it rains they rant and rave and rip and rent
They're Men - they're Men in Tents
They snivel and snore and stink like excrement

They droooown you with buuuuullshit; say,
"Take off all your clothes - it's warmer to sleep that way!"
They're Men - they're Men in Tents (BIG tents!)
Camp out with 'em twice, you gotta be mighty dense


But Men Themselves do seem to have a much different perspective ie

"... Just later on that very same night
She crept to my tent with a flashlight
And my long years of innocence ended
She took me to the woods sayin
Here comes something and it feels so good and
Just like a dog I was befriended
I was befriended

Oh, oh what a night
Oh what a garden of delight
Even now that sweet memory lingers
I was playing my guitar
Lying underneath the stars
Just thanking the Lord for my fingers
For my fingers"

- from "Duncan" by Paul Simon


(sure sure bout the "fingers" bit, Paul...)

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 19 Nov 05 - 10:01 AM

What else was he going to pluck his guitar with?
Fingerpickin' good!
G ☺

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: paddymac
Date: 19 Nov 05 - 10:05 AM

'Giok" is mostly right - it is a gentleman's duty to be available.

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Mr Red
Date: 19 Nov 05 - 01:54 PM

Hilda - trying to understand guys is not quite the hardest thing to understand - from the male standpoint there is one tougher puzzle .................

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Ebbie
Date: 19 Nov 05 - 05:12 PM

I once heard a comic say that men have only two real interests so if he's not thinking about sex (paraphrasing here), make him a sandwich.

Hey, I know that's simplistic. *G* But it does seem to point up the complex nature of man and woman relationships.

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: John P
Date: 20 Nov 05 - 01:41 PM

Men are great. Women are great. They're just generally different than each other, that's all. Since around 90% of us aren't gay, we're happier when we learn to enjoy the differences. This is easier if we learn that seeing the differences solely from our own point of reference won't allow us to understand what's going on.

John Peekstok

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 21 Nov 05 - 05:02 AM

Ya gotta love that Hilda Fish, throws in a remark like that, and then backs off to watch the fun!
We need to know if you are still a free woman Hilda Fish, all the members of your fan club await the answer.
Giok ☺

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Mr Red
Date: 21 Nov 05 - 07:37 AM

sweep, sweep, sweep - just generalizing

A man looks at a problem and likes to see the solution then solve it, a woman is more likely to want to feel good about it and then solve it.

And I have plenty of evidence that that is a good short (ney shorter) odds-on bet.

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: *daylia*
Date: 21 Nov 05 - 08:14 AM

A man looks at a problem and likes to see the solution then solve it, a woman is more likely to want to feel good about it and then solve it.

Well, it's easier to think clearly enough to find that solution when you're not struggling under a load of angst.

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From: Cluin
Date: 21 Nov 05 - 11:50 AM

But not as motivating.

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From: GUEST
Date: 22 Nov 05 - 08:38 AM

Screw it. I'm hungry.

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: ragdall
Date: 22 Nov 05 - 08:46 AM

I asked a guy to marry me, too. He told me to fuck off!

Who's "off"?

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From: Tannywheeler
Date: 22 Nov 05 - 09:56 AM

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: Tannywheeler
Date: 22 Nov 05 - 10:01 AM

Sorry, got to laughing and didn't mind where my fingers were.   Tw

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: John P
Date: 23 Nov 05 - 09:25 AM

So, hilda fish,
I know this is all a light hearted thread and you were probably joking when you asked him to marry you, and it certainly turned into a bit of a joke between you and your friend. But I thought I detected a strain of seriousness in your original post. It made me curious, and it made me think of questions. Do you really want to get married? If so, what sort of man are you looking for? Liking you for your intelligence, certainly; you'd get bored and hurt very quickly if that weren't there. How about physical attributes? I've noticed that lots of people seem to get turned on physically by people who are really bad for them emotionally. Are you one of the lucky ones who fall in love for other reasons, and then find themselves turned on because they're in love with this person? If not, can you become one?

Is money an issue? There are lots of lovable deadbeats walking around ruining their partners' lives. But using income as a prime attribute makes one feel so grasping. Are you one of the lucky ones who can see the importance of having a responsible mate but doesn't put a dollar amount on it?

There's lots more questions, but I don't have any more time right now. I've been thinking a lot lately about what makes a good marriage and how people choose mates, so your humorous situation set off a train of serious thought.

John Peekstok

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: hilda fish
Date: 24 Nov 05 - 02:21 AM

Ah there you go. I'm always serious in the middle of my joking and laughter. No, I don't want to marry - it was my way of saying I think my friend is terrific but marriage is a very serious matter to some people - and asking people to marry is a PROPOSAL. Serious stuff.   My friend thought I was serious but now knows differently. I love and am very loyal to my friends as I am to my partners. Same really, but no sex with the friends. My last partner, who I loved very dearly, was described by my friends as ugly as a hatfull of arseholes - how could they???? But he was a sweet man, very dignified and gentle. I had to leave him which was difficult, because something happened that I wasn't prepared to accept. I've never looked - ever - been very happy with my friends, extensive family, etc. etc. but someone always comes along.   I thought my last one was forever - we were friends for 15 years - but I was wrong. We were together as a couple for three years. He came to me at a time of great grief in my life and it was all so unexpected and wonderful. Now, well now, I wish him well. And I'm not looking once again but someone always turns up somehow don't they? And then you make up your mind, or not. I started this thread after being with my friend and sorting out this issue and I guess it was a bit silly to do it but I was feeling contemplative, it was late, a pathetic sort of 'alone' chat. Odd. But there you go. I did it. However, I AM looking for a number of girlfriends, beautiful, successful, independent, gentle, sweet, caring, oh just so wonderful, and all in some way looking for someone to care for and who would care for them. Know any wonderful men for them?????????????????

Subject: RE: BS: Asked a guy to marry me ......
From: GUEST
Date: 24 Nov 05 - 09:35 AM

"...beautiful, successful, independent, gentle, sweet, caring, oh just so wonderful, and all in some way looking for someone to care for and who would care for them."

Sounds great, I'll take two please.