Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 22 May 09 - 03:50 AM I second everything said - especially Dan's comment about your jacket (I once had a leather jacket that my friends loved!) hugs to you both sandra |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Gervase Date: 22 May 09 - 03:13 AM Don't you bloody DARE get defeatist about this, Morse! It's crap news, but it isn't necessarily the crappest. Meanwhile, click this at regular intervals. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: KT Date: 22 May 09 - 03:01 AM This is so lousy. I can only imagine how deflated you must feel. Disppointed is the tip of the iceburg. AND, I AM continuing to hold you both in positive, loving thoughts. Love you both~ KT |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Nancy King Date: 21 May 09 - 11:55 PM Well, jeez, Kendall, what rotten news! You've had more than your share over the last while, and there's not much any of us can say or do it mitigate that. But we DO love you, and keep you in our thoughts. Hope it helps. Nancy |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Celtaddict Date: 21 May 09 - 11:54 PM Hate to hear it. What Dan said. And the love and hugs are here whether you appreciate them just now or not. But we will be glad to hear you again, even if it is in a whisper. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Bill D Date: 21 May 09 - 11:26 PM well, Dan Schatz & Janie said about everything I might have. People DO care, no matter "Murphy's Law 147Z.128" "Whatever hits the fan is not distributed equally." You've had your share and part of 6-8 others. Let the docs do their thing and maybe it IS time for some better news soon. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: ClaireBear Date: 21 May 09 - 11:21 PM Oh Kendall, oh Jacqui, cancer is such a bitch. Never give a bitch the time of day. I love you two. Be strong, yet again. Claire |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Stilly River Sage Date: 21 May 09 - 10:12 PM Hey, Kendall, I just got off the phone with Kat. We discussed your case--and concur--less time for you in the cellar now. That's one good thing that comes of it. SRS (takes off Pollyanna costume and heads for the door) |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: olddude Date: 21 May 09 - 09:57 PM Please get better , I am so so sorry to hear this ... anything I can do you know how to get a hold of me Captain ... anytime In my prayers what a bad time you good folks have gone through lately please take care of yourself Dan |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Rapparee Date: 21 May 09 - 09:56 PM Oh, goddamn sumbitch batshit ratsass and I'm about to get down to some real cussin' so I'll leave off before I offend someone. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Janie Date: 21 May 09 - 09:54 PM Kendall and Jacqui, I can and nothing to what has been said so far, other than to strongly second Dan's post. Prayers and good thoughts may not make a disease go away, but love does matter. You know that but that knowledge is just hidden from you right now by what I understand is in many ways devestating news, particularly in view of your expectation that you were going to take another step toward restoration of your voice. I think you know just how much you are loved, both of you. And Kendall, you have Jacqui at your side now, unlike the first time cancer was discovered, to walk very, very closely beside you. When you are ready, let this precious knowledge exist beside the anger and deep, deep disappointment. I am grateful that the carcinoma appears to be in situ and fully contained. I love you for who you are, not for your voice. Janie |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Stilly River Sage Date: 21 May 09 - 09:47 PM Kendall, read the article Amos linked to. I've been listening to that series all week, and now I see the reason why--it was to chime in as one more voice to say you can get over this, just take one day at a time and don't waste time looking at what you had, look at what you have now and what you want to have in the future. That's all we can ask of you. In the meantime, your friends at Mudcat and elsewhere are keeping you in their thoughts and prayers, and there isn't a damned thing you can do about it. Except get better. SRS |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: artbrooks Date: 21 May 09 - 09:43 PM Damn! |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Tinker Date: 21 May 09 - 09:42 PM What Kat said. .... and Kendall the thought of you tends to bring out the best of my positive thoughts and hugs and yeah, I'd rather be able to fix it too.... (I tend to go down that road too often myself.) But, the chorus tonight seems to be Dammmn.... followed by a really big hug. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Dan Schatz Date: 21 May 09 - 09:39 PM You're right, Kendall. The prayers and good thoughts and wishes don't change anything. You still have cancer, you still have to deal with the damage, and it still stinks, completely. All the prayers and the good thoughts and the best wishes do is tell you that you don't have to go through any of this alone. They tell you that as much as we all love your singing and storytelling, that isn't why we love you. (In some cases, actually, it's the leather jacket, but I for one like you as a person.) They won't take away a single ounce of suffering, but they can let you know that the suffering isn't all there is, and there are those among us who will walk with you - Jacqui most of all, but she is not the only one. It's bad news, yes, and I'd be thoroughly pissed if I were you - at life, at God, at the universe, at my body, at whatever and whomever I could find to be pissed at. You've earned the right. But on the other side of despair and anger is love - and you are deeply loved by more people than you know. You don't need to get there today, or even soon. It's all right. Our love and friendship will be wait for you. Dan |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: ranger1 Date: 21 May 09 - 09:38 PM Oh, crap! Well, tell that nodule to get itself gone or Jacqui will kick its ass. (((Kendall))) |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Beer Date: 21 May 09 - 09:32 PM I think I'm also a little upset because my close friend and co-worker for 35 years was diagnosed with lymphoma cancer 4 weeks ago and he finally told me yesterday. Peace (Bruce), if you come on this thread you met him with a beer in his hand two years ago in my garage. His name is Grant. Sorry to side step for a minute but I'm sure you understand. Adrien |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Ebbie Date: 21 May 09 - 09:29 PM DAAAAMMMMMMN Katlaughing makes a great point- if it weren't for the intangibles... And we do know that at least some bodily functions are affected by thought. Biofeedback is in common use. And since we know that much, we also know how much more we don't know. But, as I said, DAAAAAMMMMMN |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Barry Finn Date: 21 May 09 - 09:27 PM Sorry to hear this news Kendall. I wish there was something I could do or say. BArry |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Neil D Date: 21 May 09 - 09:26 PM My God, WTF?!? SO sorry to hear this news. We know that there is nothing we can say. My sister is having a radical hysterectomy in the morning. They will take lymph nodes to see if hers has spread. We completely understand the "where do the good thoughts and prayers get ya?", but we gotta keep hoping that sometime something has to let up. PLEASE!!!! |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Beer Date: 21 May 09 - 09:26 PM Some folks say this with no problem on the internet. Many are friends whom I have never met. And thought I seldom use profanity the first words whispered as I read this was "FUCK". Adrien |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Ron Davies Date: 21 May 09 - 09:15 PM Aw, Cap'n. You can coast on your laurels for a while. And, after the 7 years or so bad luck you've had it must be time for the worm to turn. When you get your voice back you can branch out and sing the blues--you've sure earned the right. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Charley Noble Date: 21 May 09 - 09:13 PM Shit! Someone had to say that. And yes, Kendall, I'll mobilize some positive thoughts your way as well. Charley Noble |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Mrrzy Date: 21 May 09 - 09:09 PM Aw man. Woman and child, too. So very sorry. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Severn Date: 21 May 09 - 09:05 PM A truly sad thing to hear. I wish him only the best getting through these new trials, and my thoughts and hopes will be with him. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: katlaughing Date: 21 May 09 - 08:57 PM It's obvious that all the good thoughts and prayers are worth zero. I know you are angry and feel devastated, but think..if you had NOT had all of those good thoughts and prayers, you might not be here. There are always worse alternatives and always more than an "either/or"...third and fourth alternatives, etc. The Kendall I know and love has a strong faith in the Great Spirit, as do I. You can make it through this, if you choose and with Jacqui there I think you'd better choose or else! (Hope that got a small grin out of ya, at least. Enough...I give thanks for your complete healing and send lots of {{{{{HUGS}}}} and love to you both. (curmudgeon, thanks for the link. I'd heard that, too!) |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Hollowfox Date: 21 May 09 - 08:56 PM %$@#. My thoughts are with you. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: meself Date: 21 May 09 - 08:32 PM Hang tough, man. We'll be waiting here for you ... |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Deckman Date: 21 May 09 - 08:30 PM damn damn damn. bob |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: curmudgeon Date: 21 May 09 - 08:30 PM Do, please, read this -- Tom |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Amos Date: 21 May 09 - 08:21 PM Gawdammit, Kendall...you keep opening your mouth as wide as you can and all these demons fly in. I thought they taught you to keep yoah mouth shet back on the farm. Gawdammit. Hell widdit. You know you are as loved as a feller can be and still be decent, so buck up and heal that one, too. You're bigger than it is. A |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Maryrrf Date: 21 May 09 - 08:21 PM I am so sorry to hear this. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: kendall Date: 21 May 09 - 08:06 PM Definition of time: Just one god damn thing after another. To hell with it. It's obvious that all the good thoughts and prayers are woth zero.Thanks anyway, you tried and I do appreciate that. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Jeri Date: 21 May 09 - 08:06 PM I'm so sorry. Big hugs from me and ditto what Mary said. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: Stilly River Sage Date: 21 May 09 - 08:05 PM Damn. |
Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news From: SINSULL Date: 21 May 09 - 08:02 PM So very sad, Jacqui. This is such bad news. Tell the Captain he is loved and treasured. Mary |
Subject: BS: Kendall's bad news From: jacqui.c Date: 21 May 09 - 07:58 PM We've just got back from the hospital where Kendall was due to have further treatment to his damage vocal cord. When the surgeon was about to put more filler in the right vocal cord he noticed a lump on the left vocal cord. Further examination showed that there was a growth on the left vocal cord which seems to be a carcinoma in situ. A deep biopsy has been taken and we will, hopefully, get the diagnosis by the end of next week. In all probabilty this will entail further laser surgery to excise this new cancer and then further reconstructive surgery to try and improve the voice quality, which will deteriorate as a result of this surgery. Needless to say, we are both devastated by this latest news, as is Kendall's surgeon, who has become a friend. |