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Subject: RE: another one lost From: Jim the Bart Date: 19 Sep 00 - 01:36 PM I'm sure that the individual who began this thread was speaking about her/him self and that this was more a regret than a gratuitous assertion. Maybe saying "I'm leaving and here's why" would have been better and clearer. I, personally, don't think anything is gained by chastising someone for expressing their concern for the Cat. People should state their concerns for something that they consider important in their life. I happen to like the breadth of the discussion here; as Tig mentioned, people talk about lots of little stuff on their way to the big stuff, and one often enlightens the other. I would worry, though, if the number of postings becomes a problem for the good folks who provide and maintain this site. Servers can get jammed up with data, after all. But if Max and Joe Offer are not concerned about the BS-threads, I won't discourage anyone from bringing up anything - I'll just pay attention to the ones that catch my fancy. I would suggest that before starting a thread you look at the existing ones to see if you're walking on well-travelled ground. Sometimes reading before speaking is a real time-saver. Blazoona - I'm glad you're back; I enjoy your posts Beanster - What have you got against sardines, anyway? Those who choose to leave - Too bad. Good Luck. So long, it's been good to know ya' |
Subject: RE: another one lost From: Jeri Date: 19 Sep 00 - 04:38 PM "Mind changing at Mudcat" - Jon wins. My dictionary doesn't even have "Lesley" and says "Leslie" is both M and F. Blazoona, if it makes you feel better, lots of people have left in a huff (was that a 1997, 2-door, Turbo Huff?) and come back. Go ahead and log back in - there's a chance a lot of people will have forgotten or missed it. Even if people remember, you probably won't have to hear about it for very long. |
Subject: RE: another one lost From: GUEST,Brendy Date: 19 Sep 00 - 06:22 PM Yo! If Mudcat = Life, then OK, leaving Mudcat would be considered an act of suicide. But that can be said about almost anything when one equates it with the essence of being. I don't like to talk about 'cliqueishness' or lack of it, at the 'cat; I have been pigeonholed into many...and into none, both at the same time. These kind of 'discussions' seem to go around in circles, and rarely get anywhere. No, Mudcat is a community, all right. And quite a number of its inhabitants are good friends 'on the outside', also. I'm no different, although my Mudcat '3D' friends are over here, in my neck of the woods. But to be honest about it, I don't come here to discuss mudcatology. I'm a 'hunter and gatherer', basically here for the music content, that makes the odd fray into political issues that I have either experience, or interest in. Politics is a dodgy subject, and all sorts of 'dodginess' gets brought into it. The reason I dropped my cookie (and here, I can only speak for myself) was two-fold. Reason number two, was in no way related to the first one, and concerns not tempting fate. It's a strange thing about professionalism in the music world; we are always expected to turn up on time, be sober, have all our strings, etc., in order, and put on a reasonably decent show. It is true, also, that very few of us have fulfilled all the above criteria, all of the time. But I take a look at the audience, try and get some sort of idea from the bar-staff (cos they're the ones that are serving the customers the booze), the nationality of any 'strangers' in the pub. Outside of the Norwegians, who have no vested interest in what you play, as long as you rock the socks off them with it (and that is in NO WAY disparaging to my Norsk friends), and the Irish, who, here at least, know me, and what I play, and can be relied upon to accept most of the stuff I come out with, I go looking around for the English. There are many songs that I can put in in the place of even something mild like 'Only our rivers run free'. Singing that song to a Norwegian/Irish audience isn't going to cause any feelings of discomfort among the listeners. To me that is part of a musician's 'professionalism' as well. I remember many years ago, I got stranded in a Loyalist club in Belfast. I was there with some Protestant friends, and we were there for the most innocent of reasons - getting a drink on a Sunday. Everybody was getting very drunk, and before too long, my friends started to crash out. I didn't want to stay too long in this place, and I couldn't get these guys moving at all. I certainly didn't want to be there at closing time. I stood for the National Anthem (The Queen), that night. Apparently that was the only way I could prove that I wasn't a 'Fenian'. It's ironic, really. I was making for the door, when two 'gorillas' grabbed me by the arm, so I was standing anyway. I wouldn't make anyone feel uncomfortable like that if they were at one of my gigs. There are many songs I can play. There are many songs I know backwards. But because I can do them, doesn't mean that it is morally right for me to do them, given certain sets of circumstances. It may have been wrong of me to withhold the lyrics of Mrs. Stein..., in the earlier lyric request. But, as with a lot of instances of these kind of things, five or six people have been known to respond in the space of an hour, so I didn't see any problem. It just seemed to me that the whole notion of the song was being discussed before the words arrived. I didn't see anything particularly odd about that. What should we have been done? It was when the intimidation charges started to be added, that I started to see a whole new dimension being uncovered, and I offered my membership, rather than have had the dubious humiliation bestowed upon me, of being 'shown the door'. To tell somebody to F off, though, is less aggressive than telling somebody to shut up, in my opinion. But I can only speak for myself here, as well 'Membership' is a state of mind, in my opinion, and, like any 'relationship', can go sour after a while. And because of a certain perceived policy shift, I felt obliged to surrender at least my 'physical' membership. I do not use the medium of Personal Message too often, and those who know me on this forum, and who 'get on' with me, have my E-mail address. Those are the bonds that mean the most to me here, if we talk in terms of a community. Being Guest,Brendy isn't such a big deal, and apart from the fact of giving DougR the added inconvenience of typing six more characters when he addresses me (*BG*), will not affect things one bit. But it is true that the 'Cat will continue without any input from 'the big guy'. How can it do anything but? Debate something with me, fine. Insult my 'intelligence' while you do it, and I react accordingly. That's me. But I don't believe in parcelling every sentence up in a little pink ribbon so that you can open it with silken gloves. I don't do that in ordinary conversation, and certainly wouldn't dream of going to that trouble in the printed media. Hell, I've got long nails on my right hand, and typing can be a real pain in the arse (*BG*). I will always apologise to a person if they have felt I have insulted them by what I have said. I have apologised to people on this forum before, and probably will do again. But I rarely 'jump down somebody's throat' without provocation. And when I do, It's normally for the reasons given above. If Mudcat doesn't need a God, then, this is good to know. There is nowhere like this place on the net. OK, to me, it is not life; sometimes it seems like a bit if a soap-opera, where everybody gets a go at writing the script, but to me it's a website that quite a number of interesting people exchange views about everything under the sun, and that a fair cross-section of them, know each other socially. Most of these people are quite affable folks, some grumpy, but affable, and some quite pig-headed, and not so affable. I take my chances with all of these people, every time I post something here, and I have had my throat jumped down on many occasions here. But those that know me, know me. And in a lot of respects, those are about the only ones on this site whose opinion of me I care about. My head's too full of other things to take Max's philosophical step, myself, though generally speaking, he is not that far off the mark. But life, and the Mudcat, goes on. Amen. B. |
Subject: RE: another one lost From: McGrath of Harlow Date: 20 Sep 00 - 09:43 AM Good man Brendy. Only hassle is, the next time we see "GUEST,Brendy" it might be some sheep masquerading in wolf's clothes. But I think we'll recognise the real thing.
"Most of these people are quite affable folks, some grumpy, but affable, and some quite pig-headed, and not so affable." I think we'd be better not starting a thread debate as to who fits in which category. I'd put you in all of them Brendy...depending on the context. And I think that's true of most of us. |
Subject: RE: another one lost From: mousethief Date: 20 Sep 00 - 11:12 AM What I want to know is, what if you (this is the generic you, not anybody in particular), I say, what if you find a "Lezlee" who uses the wrong spelling? Do you say, "Excuse me, but the Chambers 20th Century English Dictionary says you're the wrong gender."? That could get kind of dangerous. Imagine the possible responses. "The Chambers 20th Century English Dictionary doesn't even KNOW me!! How can it say I'm the wrong gender?" or worse, "I knew it! I knew it! I'm calling that surgeon back and telling him the operation is ON!" If your name was the wrong gender according to the Chambers 20th Century English Dictionary, would you have a sex change operation? Change your name? Or just deal with it? And besides that dictionary is out-of-date (or will be in 3 months depending upon which definition of "20th century" you use, the pendantic or the sloppy). Maybe the Chambers 21st Century English Dictionary (Newly Updated Edition With Gender Assignations Galore!) will recognize that "Lezlee" can be spelled either way. Just trying to lighten things up here. Sorry if I stepped on any toes.
Alex |
Subject: RE: another one lost From: Jon Freeman Date: 20 Sep 00 - 11:44 AM Alex, I think you have actually raised a valid point there. As for out of date, mine is more out of date than that - it is a 1983 edition. I'm not sure what they call the new one but I think they just settle for "The Chambers Dictionary". BTW, it is quite a useful reference - I think they claim it to be the most comprehensive single volume English Langauge dictionary. Jon |
Subject: RE: another one lost From: The Beanster Date: 20 Sep 00 - 10:50 PM Bartholomew-- I love sardines! I was just using what appears to be the Guest poster's logic when I made that entry. As someone else said, "throw the baby out with the bathwater." Makes no sense. Let me just add here that I think a lot of you folks here are too nice! lol Nicer than me, that's for sure! I can't believe the word "guilt" has been used here, several times. How could you guys (not a gender-specific word) possibly feel guilty about someone leaving who doesn't even have the guts to use his/her name to make the opening statement?? Do you feel like you did something wrong?? Baloney--nobody has done anything here to feel guilty about. Don't pull your lovely hair(s) out over this one. If they want to go, they'll go and happy trails to them. Besides, if Ms./Mr. Anonymous up there were really taking a hike outta here, that's all the more reason to use his/her name, isn't it? I mean, at this point, when they're halfway out the Mudcat door and presumably, we'll never hear from them again, wouldn't that be the perfect time to use their own name to drive the point home--so we could tell just how much we were losing? Hmmmmmm. Maybe that should tell us something...
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