Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: katlaughing Date: 24 Jul 07 - 04:07 PM {{{Sins}}} That would be enough to put anyone off having an SO! |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Diva Date: 25 Jul 07 - 05:33 AM Having read Jenny O's post......while Allan and I are still legally married to other people....the missing premise is we met one another long after our official relationships had ended |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: JennyO Date: 25 Jul 07 - 07:02 AM Diva, I hope you didn't think I was being judgmental about you or what you wrote. I was just having a guess as to why GUEST,outside looking in said "all this talk of infidelity and choices etc". Everybody has their own story and only they know why they have done what they have done and made the choices they have made. Sometimes they turn out to be the right choices and sometimes they turn out to be the wrong ones - that's life. You try to do the best you can with what life hands you. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: SINSULL Date: 25 Jul 07 - 11:17 AM Same here, Diva. No implied criticism. In fact, from what you have said, both you and your husband were up front with each other about where your relationship was going. I am genuinely sorry that my comments came across as criticism. Mary |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: GUEST,In thanks for the prompt Date: 25 Jul 07 - 08:05 PM Prompted by "Outsiders" post and being in a somewhat similar situation and not having had intimate contact with anyone except my spouse for more than 4 years. I went to my local GUI clinic today and I have to say my experience was quite different from Outsiders. The Staff were sympathetic and discreet and very supportive, You don't even give your name out loud, but are given a number and a form to fill and when they call you they only use your first name. They did everything they could to put me at ease and to minimize the stress of the situation and They will text the results to my mobile so I don't even have to go back unless they find something that needs treatment. so, many Thanks for the Prompt, outsider |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: GUEST,meself Date: 25 Jul 07 - 09:14 PM Good luck, GUEST, In, etc. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: TRUBRIT Date: 25 Jul 07 - 09:19 PM Oh Sinsull -- my goodness - what a story. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: SINSULL Date: 25 Jul 07 - 09:56 PM Horrible - I heard of her death on the radio. I was at work at the time. Strange business, She and I grew up together. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: SINSULL Date: 25 Jul 07 - 10:13 PM Outsider and In Thanks, You must not be in the US. Here you can get an HIV test done in your doctor's office. Private and quick. Sorry you have to endure the humiliation but better safe than sorry. SINS |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: katlaughing Date: 25 Jul 07 - 10:22 PM No kidding! That's what I was thinking, Sins. (Doesn'tr eally matter, but I had the impression "outsider" was in the States?) Seems strange, though I suppose folks here who do not have a doctor probably do have to go to a clinic. I would hope the clinic people would be sensitive about it; I know Planned Parenthood folks would be. Thanks to both of you, guests, for posting of your experiences. Good luck! |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Amergin Date: 25 Jul 07 - 10:50 PM I wouldn't want to wish marriage on my worst enemy. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: TRUBRIT Date: 25 Jul 07 - 11:42 PM Depends on your experience perhaps. Marriage can be wonderful -- and so, of course, can the alternative. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Little Hawk Date: 26 Jul 07 - 12:45 AM Heh! Well, I wouldn't wish some of the marriages I've seen on my worst enemy...that's for sure. But it all depends. I've seen a few marriages that were quite inspiring. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: SINSULL Date: 26 Jul 07 - 11:01 AM And the inspiring one are the result of hard work. It doesn't just happen. Lots of give and take. Sometimes one side has to accept all the responsibility for keeping the relationship on track. Children can be a joy and a terrible burden. Financial setbacks and illness take a toll. Inlaws interfere. Work interferes. The bad stuff either brings you closer together or forces you apart. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Little Hawk Date: 26 Jul 07 - 11:45 AM You're absolutly right. Hard work and a lot of character. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Wilfried Schaum Date: 26 Jul 07 - 11:50 AM From boyfriend to husband: 72 days. 28th anniversary to celebrate in 13 days. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Scooby Doo Date: 26 Jul 07 - 11:51 AM I have just found out that my new man does not like folk music,what do i do now?. Scooby |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Amos Date: 26 Jul 07 - 11:55 AM Make him change his mind! :D A |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Scooby Doo Date: 26 Jul 07 - 11:58 AM Thanks Amos,i will have too have a go. . Scooby |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: JennyO Date: 26 Jul 07 - 12:03 PM Scooby Doo, does he like any music? Folk music is so varied, there is probably some he hasn't heard and might like - if he has some interest in music. If they have a passion for any kind of music, you have something to work with. The problem comes, I find, when music isn't important to them at all. I remember one guy I met years ago - at some stage I asked him what kind of music he liked and he thought about it a bit and said "Oh, middle of the road". Which turned out to mean that music wasn't important to him. It was a relationship which didn't last long - that was one of the many ways in which we weren't compatible. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: MBSLynne Date: 26 Jul 07 - 12:33 PM Yeah, similar experience. My ex wasn't interested in music, nor did he have any desire to go to folk festivals despite being a morris man. So, since I couldn't possibly miss Sidmouth, I used to go without him.......and met my current husband. Scooby doo will remember all this! She was there! Love Lynne |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Scooby Doo Date: 26 Jul 07 - 12:42 PM JennyO, He likes heavy rock music.I also think he is a mummies boy as he is 48, he lives with his mother in his house and i think she is scared to loose him,so she will tell me anything to go away. My first marriage to Miskin Man was similar i liked pop and he was the opposite so i will keeep my fingers crossed that i can change him. Thanks for your advice. Yasmin. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Scooby Doo Date: 26 Jul 07 - 12:44 PM Lynne, I remember it well.I am so pleased you married Ted in the end.What is Dove Dave doing now?. Yas |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: MBSLynne Date: 26 Jul 07 - 01:41 PM Happily married...to someone he met at a folk festival! This year will be his first not going to Sidmouth in 28 years. Love Lynne |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Scooby Doo Date: 26 Jul 07 - 02:15 PM Well i never.Good Luck to them both.Pass on my regards to them both. Thanks Lynne. Yas. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: GUEST,meself Date: 26 Jul 07 - 03:14 PM "i will keeep my fingers crossed that i can change him" Always a helpful attitude to bring into a relationship ... |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: JennyO Date: 27 Jul 07 - 02:48 AM I like to think of it not so much as "changing" him, rather - opening him up to a whole new world of experiences ;-) Seriously though, people can have their horizons broadened with things they didn't know existed - if they have an open mind and a willingness to try new things. If they don't, then that is a problem - one you can't do much about. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: SINSULL Date: 27 Jul 07 - 09:31 AM And it can be healthy to have separate interests. There is lfe outside of folk music. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Scooby Doo Date: 27 Jul 07 - 09:38 AM Your all right.Its healthy to have seperate interests,i thought he would be involved in my interests.I will have to except his interests too. Yas. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Midchuck Date: 27 Jul 07 - 10:48 AM i will keeep my fingers crossed that i can change him. Where was it I read the statement that "Women marry men, thinking they'll change, and they don't. Men marry women thinking they won't change, and they do."? Peter |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: Little Hawk Date: 27 Jul 07 - 01:14 PM LOL! There's a lot of truth in that. |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: SINSULL Date: 27 Jul 07 - 08:02 PM Peter, I believe you may be joining Kendall in the cellar. SINS |
Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband From: jacqui.c Date: 27 Jul 07 - 10:19 PM Very true saying - seen it happen too many times. |