BS: Boyfriend or husband

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: katlaughing
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 12:50 AM

Intro yourself, step up and say "I'm his Better Half!"**bg**

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Ebbie
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 02:56 AM

That's the spirit, kat!

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: MBSLynne
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 03:36 AM

A thing I once read in a Reader's Digest: "I always introduce him as "My first husband"...it keeps him on his toes"

Love Lynne

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 04:05 AM

"My girlfriend", or "my better one-third" is how I usually introduce Nessie.

Interestingly, in Greece the politically correct way is to say either "the wife" or "my wife"! By using the definite article, they imply a sort of "naturally, I couldn't be without her, we're inseparable". Go figure.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 04:09 AM

It is not SWMBO JennyO,it is SWMBI.
G.

{Little joke there}

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 04:13 AM

I favour the introduction of one's fiancee, as 'My future ex- wife' Lynne :)
G.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: JennyO
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 07:02 AM

It is not SWMBO JennyO,it is SWMBI.

Hmmmm. You'll keep, Giok. One of these days I'll make it over there....

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 09:11 AM

After you've passed the half-century mark, talking about your 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' seems to me a little ... something. But so does every other available term. "I'd like you to meet Jane, my dear, dear friend, my lover, my partner-in-life, my companion, my woman, my roommate, my long-term fiance - in short, the ol' ball-and-chain!"

Hmmm - think I'll try that one next time ...

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 09:16 AM

I heard a lady of mature years on the radio yesterday describing the man who I assume is her 'latest squeeze'[I like that one] as her new best friend, which was quite good fun I thought.
G.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Joe Offer
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 10:12 AM

Well, when I want to get uppity, I introduce people to "my wife, DOCTOR Slowick." Now, if she would just make a quarter as much money as people think a doctor makes.
-Joe, spouse of a Chiropractor-

(and more often, I introduce her as "my sweetie")

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 10:28 AM

Joe,
I like the sweetie bit that is romantic.



Scooby

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: SINSULL
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 11:06 AM

You could always wear T-shirts that say "I'm with stupid ---->"

Here in Maine couples call each other Mother and Father. Took me a while to get used to it. "Get in the F**kin' car, Mother".

Sorry for the thread drift. We did allow a troll to take this off course and it was a serious discussion.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 11:22 AM

Yes!!!.
I know we did lets get back to boyfriend or husband what would you choose?.


Scooby

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Midchuck
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 11:47 AM

I was going to brag about having been married (to the same woman) for 40 years, after "going together" for almost five prior to that. But now she's gone home to mother.

She says she'll be back tomorrow, but you never can tell.

Peter.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 12:09 PM

Let's hope she will be back soon Peter. That is a very long time to be be married Peter too.Congratulations.


Kind Regards.
Scooby

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,Crazy Man Michael
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 01:21 PM

calling the other half,"the little woman" is just asking for a belt round the lug 'ole :-D

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 01:46 PM

Ignore that thread from Crazy Man Michael.




Scooby

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Ebbie
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 02:10 PM

Oh, oh. Is the little woman speaking? *g*

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Peace
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 02:18 PM

Two guys on a golf coures. One of them slices the ball and it narrowly misses hitting a female two-some about 100 yards away. Fellow says to his friend, "Bill, you should go over there and apologize to her." Bill gets halfway there, stares and returns to his friend. "Dave, would you mind going? One of them is my wife and the other is my mistress." Dave gets halfway there, stares and comes back. Bill just looks at him and says, "What's up?" Dave replies, "Small world."

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 02:24 PM

Why "ebbie".
It was my thread anyway!!!!!.Go away troll.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 02:52 PM

funnily enough it was Jenny O who first used the term in her post....

"There's the other half, the little woman, 'er indoors, trouble and strife, or even She Who Must Be Obeyed - to name a few. It seems there are more of these to describe women than men."

I was joking...

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Emma B
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 02:55 PM

I rather like the Spanish "mi media naranja" :)

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 02:59 PM

Well, after all, Spanish is a loving tongue ...

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 04:09 PM

PEACE is PM me is she a Troll?????




Scooby

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Peace
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 04:16 PM

Ask Joe Offer. Here is my permission for him to track the url of the person who IS the troll. I post from the same url all the time. No, Peace is not your troll on this or any other thread. I have not used a guest name to post with for a long time. Here's my permission for you to ask Joe Offer. Do that. And until you get your answer, kindly take your head and shove it up your ass.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Peace
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 04:21 PM

My three messages to Scooby Doo:

1)Is GUEST the same as Michael?

2)If I knew the answer--your flip remark , "You tell me"--I would not have asked. Don't bother responding to my last message. I do believe we have nothing further to say.

3)No, I am not the troll. Your implication that I was really pisses me off. Here is what you can do.

Get in touch with Joe Offer and ask if any of your troll posts come from Hinton, Alberta. That is where I am, and my url never changes.

Please do not ever write to me again.

I think you are a woman, so I won't tell you what I think you should do.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Peace
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 05:45 PM

ScoobyDoo: I am sorry to have been so rude. I take it I didn't make myself very clear. I am not the troll. I was asking if you had any idea who the troll was. I am offering my apologies in hopes you'll accept them.

To be clear: I haven't posted under any name BUT Peace for a long time--a rough guest would be six to eight months. And when I did it was not for the purpose of trolling.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 05:53 PM

"a rough guest would be six to eight months" -

Six to eight months?! He'd have to be pretty rough AND tough if I couldn't get him out of the house after three or four days ...

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Peace
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 06:13 PM

LOL

"Oh, Dr Freud . . . ."

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,Chong Chimp
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 06:13 PM

I have heard of gorillas that moved in on someone and wouldn't leave after that period of time. But not at my place. No way, Jose. The last rough ape that overstayed his welcome at my place left by the window. Headfirst. He bounced off of the roof of a taxicab three floors down, and I ain't seen him since. I would not have done that if he was a female. Them I ask to leave by the door.

Anyways, I think what Peace meant there was to say "guess", not "guest".

- Chongo

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,Chongo Chimp
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 06:15 PM

Blast it! I misspelled my own damn name when I posted last time. Gotta cut down on the whisky, I guess.

- Chongo Chimp

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Dave Earl
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 08:40 PM

Sorry folk!!

Got problems of my own.

See you around.

Dave

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,Chongo Chimp
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 08:48 PM

Whatever they are, they can't match Brittney's. Her problems, I mean...

- Chongo

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 23 Jul 07 - 11:37 PM

Dare I ask what a 'fanjita' is?

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 04:25 AM

It's a wheel with pieces of flat Mexican bread fixed at regular intervals around the rim. This wheel is then rotated at speed which moves the air around and helps cool people down. It is also known as a punka sandwich.
G.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Diva
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 05:16 AM

Hobbit......well he is an older man and thinks the term boyfriend is a bit twee. I usually say partner since we are both still married to other people. Apparently we are the height of trendiness as we maintain separate homes, mine in hawick, Allans in Selkirk...living appart together is the term in current usage. We've both done the married thing, Allan three times!!!! so we won't bother....I'm in no rush to divorce my ex, we get on better now.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: MBSLynne
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 07:23 AM

I personally can't see what was wrong with the post from Crazy Man Michael anyway. He was just joining in the same conversation about what people call their 'other halves'.

Love Lynne

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 07:25 AM

SORRY Peace,i would like you to except my apology on the net.I don't know why i thought it was you as a troll.


Scooby.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: My guru always said
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 07:58 AM

I'm with you Lynne, I can't see any problem there except for Yas having a bit of a misunderstanding & mistakenly accusing Peace. No trolling here I reckon.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 08:35 AM

Nice try, Giok - but I wasn't born yesterday! Not the day before either ... (Very imagainative, though!).

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,outside looking in
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 11:22 AM

In all this talk of infidelity and choices etc. no one has mentioned the feelings of shame, pain and humiliation the innocent party feels while, through no fault of their own, they wait at the Genito-urinary clinic to be tested for STDs and HIV, because their "partner" "overlapped" their relationships and they (the innocent party) are now exposed to ALL the sexual partners of ALL the partys involved for the duration.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 11:31 AM

Infidelity? Who's been talking about infidelity? The OP seemed to be speculating on the possibility of marrying her boyfriend; others talked about marriage as opposed to common-law or dating relationships; then people got talking about what to call your SO; a couple of bitter and peculiar exchanges occurred - but infidelity? Did I miss something?

Okay, it's coming back to me ... a couple of posters talked about someone they knew whose marriage(s) broke up, and infidelity had occurred ... Way up the thread somewhere ...

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Little Hawk
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 11:33 AM

That would be just awful! Despite having had 2 pathologically unfaithful partners in the past, I was lucky enough (or careful enough...using protection) to be spared that miserable experience.

Amazingly enough, despite their promiscuity, I think the two people I'm speaking of managed not to catch anything.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: katlaughing
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 11:55 AM

There's been plenty of talk of infidelity on here. I was lucky enough to never have caught anything from my ex's indiscretions and, thankfully, have had a monogamous partner since before HIV/AIDS came on the scene. I cannot imagine how angry and hurt I would feel if that were not the case and I caught something. My daughter trusted someone in her first sexual experience and got HPV for her naivete, before ti was widely known. As a result she lost most of her cervix to removal of pre-cancerous cells causing her to stay in bed for 19 weeks whilst pregnant with her twin sons.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: JennyO
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 12:22 PM

I think GUEST,outside looking in might have had Diva's post in mind, for one.

There is such an assortment of experiences represented here - ones that have been central to our lives, so it is not surprising that strong emotions are coming into some posts. What started out as a fairly straightforward question has brought forth all sorts of responses and touched some people's 'sore spots'. Some of us have a lot to be angry about.

I haven't posted anything serious yet, probably because some of my experiences would make your hair stand on end, and they are way in the past, so I'm not sure if there is any point dragging things from the unpleasant past into the present. If the discussion goes that way, I may post part of it. If it gets lighthearted again, I'll go that way instead. I'm happy to go with the flow.

We've gone from light-hearted to deadly serious and everywhere in between, and I still think there is the potential for much more that is worthwhile in this thread, if we can keep our cool and not get angry at each other.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 12:33 PM

You're making me mad.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: JennyO
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 12:34 PM

I'm not sure if there is any point dragging things from the unpleasant past into the present

I'm speaking for myself here, by the way - not meaning to criticise anyone else who has talked about the past, particularly when past events continue to have an impact, as in Katlaughing's story. I may yet do the same, depending on how the conversation goes and how I'm feeling at the time.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Little Hawk
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 12:44 PM

"if we can keep our cool and not get angry at each other"

Yup. That is the key to all of these threads, JennyO. It's a tricky business, and it's very easy to get hijacked.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 12:46 PM

Okay, I take it back - I mean, I'm still mad and everything - but looking back a couple of days, I see there WAS some discussion of infidelity. I guess I'm just so twenty-first century and so wired and everything that I don't remember anything past five minutes ago, so - um, what were we talking about?

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: SINSULL
Date: 24 Jul 07 - 01:38 PM

Another cousin (I have a huge extended family) died a few years ago from cancer of the cervix brought on by a sexually transmitted virus. She had had one husband and was monogamous. Turned out he wasn't. I was as angry at her as I was at him over this one. A simple PAP test would have caught it early and saved her life. Insttead she died a horrible painful death and left behind a retarded son who thrived under her love and care but regressed without her.

Still another cousin left an abusive husband too late. He murdered her and her date with an ice pick and set their bodies on fire. A few weeks later he was shot to death but no one was ever accused. Her child was left in the care of her father's family - a strange bunch at best.

So - if you have found a true and loving partner, treasure him or her. If you are in an abusive relationship, get out. If your relationship is over, have the decency to be honest about it and not risk anyone else's health.

Lecture over,
Auntie SINS