Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007

Subject: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: kendall
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 09:25 PM

My brother, Daryll is dying of a brain tumor. He is 4+ years older than I and he sort of took the place of our Father who was never around. It will be relatively quick, but not easy to deal with. Some positive thoughts would help.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Rapparee
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 09:29 PM

You got 'em, Kendall. You got 'em.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: The Fooles Troupe
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 09:34 PM

My sympathies - some bits of life are tough. The slow ones can be tougher, but at least you have some time to deal with things - the totally unexpected can leave things unsaid and undone.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 09:53 PM

Nothing we can say will make it easy. You'll know best, yourself, how to say your goodby to him. I think you're a wiser man than to try not to cry when you need to. Strength and peace to you and your family.
            Dean.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: bobad
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 09:59 PM

I know it's easy for us to say it but try to keep in mind the cycles of life and death and the naturalness of it all.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Janie
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:00 PM

Oh Kendall, I'm so very sorry to hear this. You and your brother are in my thoughts and prayers.

xxoo,

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:24 PM

We're with you ...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Leadfingers
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:26 PM

Gawd Cap'n - its a Bugger aint it ?? Sympathy mate !!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: RangerSteve
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:27 PM

You and he are in my prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Bee
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:37 PM

Sorry for your trouble, Kendall. Lost my brother ten years ago, suddenly, only 43 years old, still miss him. Cold comfort, but at least you will be able to say goodbye.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Little Hawk
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:56 PM

These crossings are tough to deal with. I wish you the best, and I hope you have all the support you need from friends and family at this time.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Linda Goodman Zebooker
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 11:07 PM

Sorry for your sadness. We think of you often

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Barry Finn
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 11:14 PM

I wish I could help to ease things for you but I can't, best wishes.

Barry

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: katlaughing
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 11:41 PM

Oh, Kendall, that is so sad. May the Great Spirit guide you and Daryll in this journey and bring you much comfort. All of our love and thoughts are with you.

Kat & Rog

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Alice
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 11:45 PM

It is hard to find words to respond to what you are going through.
Take care. People love you. Alice

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Elmer Fudd
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:29 AM

Sending lots of good thoughts your way, Kendall and Jacqui. Wishing your brother as peaceful and painless a passage as possible.

Elmer

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Partridge
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:37 AM

I've sat here with reply to thread box open for ages, trying to write something, I don't have the words. So sorry Kendall, please know I'm thinking of you and yours.

much love

Pat xxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Wordsmith
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:38 AM

My sympathies.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Amos
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:53 AM

I'm with you, Skipper, and Daryl also. Courage.


A

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: bfdk
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:46 AM

Kendall,

Kind thoughts and best wishes speeding your way from Denmark. It hurts like hell to have to let go of a close relative like that. Apart from the loss itself, it's like part of your own history goes with them..

A big hug for you, mate,

Bente

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: MBSLynne
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:47 AM

Words don't help much but I'm sending you my thoughts, blessings and a big
((((((((((((((((((kendall))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Love Lynne

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Catherine Jayne
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:14 AM

Like others here I don't know what to say.

You and your family are in my thoughts.

(((Kendall)))

Khatt

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:24 AM

same here, death is the final taboo.

sending good wishes to you & your family

love from sandra

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: fat B****rd
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:27 AM

Best regards from Charlie.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Hawker
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:37 AM

Oh Kendall!
So sorry to hear this news, Kind and loving thoughts to you and Jacqui, and of course to your brother. A million Mudcat hugs to you all.
Much Love, Lucy Burrow

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: gnu
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:04 AM

Thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Zany Mouse
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:10 AM

Kendall, I don't know what to say. I hope you have some sort of faith and belief in life after death - if you do, that will help.

My main prayer for Darryl is that the pain will be controlled and that your mental pain will be eased by all the love that surrounds you.

Positive thoughts from Worksop

Luv

Rhiannon

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:22 AM

Kendall my dear, you know you have our love always, thinking of you and Darryl particularly right now. XX

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: fiddler
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:32 AM

Kendall - keep thinking positive, remember all those times you have had together, he will always be with you and is part of you. Sadly his body is giving up for whatever reason, we all paass down this route but as a person and a brother he will always be with you and all those his life has touched over the years.

Of course my thoughts are with you throughout, don't we all wish it could be different for you, your brother and all of us.

Much love form this side of the Atlantic is all I can offer and it is freely and willingly given.

andy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: alanabit
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:39 AM

Kendall, all the kindness I can send you from this part of the world.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: skipy
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:45 AM

All of the above.
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:46 AM

Celebrate his life, and your lives together over the years.
When the time comes mourn him, then make sure his life is remembered in a positive way.
It's tough, and nothing anybody can say will change that.
Commiserations, from Giok.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: jeffp
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 05:50 AM

Kendall, you have my sincere sympathy. It's a terrible disease with no mercy whatsoever. My prayers for you and your family.

Jeff

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: bbc
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 06:00 AM

Boy, that's a tough one. I'm so sorry to hear.

Barbara

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Tinker
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 06:20 AM

Ahh Kendall, I'm sitting here and hugging you both. Remember to keep heading towards light. The gifts of your relationship speak lounder than the tersity of your typical Maine description. Hold those gifts tight and accept all of the wonderful things you are to each other -- including I'm sure the occaisional pain in the ass moment (Yeah you Kendall) And when it get's tough -- remember all those ladies Jacqui let's share ;your love...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Mooh
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 06:37 AM

Our hopes and prayers for you all.

Peace, Mooh.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: maeve
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 06:42 AM

Kendall- I'm so sorry. It seems your brother's death will in some ways be a double loss. I'm glad that you have so many of us who care about you and Jacqui, and family.

You have my friendship and warm thoughts heading your way and prayers to God on your behalf, asking for comfort and strength to see it through.

Love,

Holly

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST, Bainbo at work
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 07:52 AM

Kendall
At the moment, this won't come as any consolation to you. Your brother's dying, and you feel horrible.

You won't believe me, and this will sound trite now, but in the future you may even be able to draw some positives:

1) You say it will be relatively quick. That's a blessing that's not afforded to all of us.

2) You know it's happening, and when. You have the chance to talk to him, to tell him how you feel, to relive the happy times, to organise, and to come to terms with it. Again, something not all of us get the chance to do.

You have a difficult time ahead, but you'll cope. We do, because we have to.

Be thankful for the times you've had together. Kind thoughts,

John

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: wysiwyg
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 07:56 AM

Hardi has that same relationship with his younger brothers, so we understand.... and will keep you all in our thoughts.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: kendall
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 08:10 AM

I can't even talk to him. He lost his hearing in the artillery i Korea, and I lost my voice....the thousand natural shocks that flesh is heir to...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Keith A of Hertford
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 08:11 AM

Very sorry to hear your news mate.
I hope you find the strength for the tough times ahead.
You have mine and Mary's best wishes.
Keith.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: ranger1
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 08:16 AM

I thought I potsed here already...Kendall, you always get my good thoughts. I'll give you a hug when I see you.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Alba
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 08:58 AM

Sending my Love and support to Daryll and to you dear Kendall and Jacqui.
Holding you All in my heart at this difficult time.
If there is anything I can do to help in some small way do not hesitate to let me know.
Judi

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST,Cats
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 09:03 AM

Kendall, it is dreadful when you lose a brother, or in my case a sister. I know you want to say things and you can't speak and he can't hear, but say them anyway. Sit and hold his hand and think to him all the things you want to say. He'll 'hear', he'll know and so will you. Much love.
Kathy & Jon

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Jerry Rasmussen
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 09:23 AM

Hey, Kendall:

I was so concerned when I saw this thread this morning. My wife and I are part of a prayer chain at church, and it seems like every day we have new people to pray for. We have some tragedies down this way, too. As others have said, there's no easy way through all of this. When you lose communication, it makes it that much harder. But, not all words are spoken with our voice, or heard through our ears. There is a connection that transcends physical communication.
The last few weeks of my Mother's life, she was too weak to dial the phone and ultimately, too weak to even be able to carry on a conversation. We still called and left messages on her answering machine that the nurses would play for her, and they meant a lot to her. We've visited many people over the years who can't speak, or show any signs of communication, but when you held their hand, they'd squeeze it firmly as an affirmation of something you said.
Your brother knows that you are praying for him and that is a comfort.

We'll keep the prayers flowing from down here..

Jerry and Ruth

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Jean(eanjay)
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 11:05 AM

Thoughts sent from Yorkshire.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Crane Driver
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 11:08 AM

So sorry to hear the news. We're thinking of you and yours. Can't say any more than that really.

Andrew & Carole

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Ebbie
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 11:58 AM

Cap'n, who was it who said, loss doesn't get any easier, we just get better at it? Holding your brother's hand, meeting his eyes, just being there, is telling him everything that the both of you need to say and hear.

{{{{hug}}}}

Ebbie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: folk1e
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 11:59 AM

It was hard when I lost my dad to the big C, it will be hard when I loose my wife to it! The only conclusion I have come to is not to view life as a "right" but as a "gift". It's not what you have got it's what you do with it!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: RoyH (Burl)
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:01 PM

Kind thoughts and prayers across the water from Mrs Burl and I. Try to think of the good times together Kendall. Happy memories will be a comfort in course of time. Burl.