Bobert, from what I have read of the thread, your P-vine is a lucky lady to have someone in her life so understanding and non-judgmental. Great qualities in anyone but attractive in a man moreso I find.

I think your 'conduct' in this has been marvellous and trying to understand potential trouble, if there is any, has to be commendable. You obviously have a great relationship with P-vine and long may it last :-)

If this was a man who had started emailing 5 times a day, with no 'coming on' mind, whould your feelings be the same or different? Point I am am making is that you are right to question because instincts are often all we have to go on. Much should be able to be told from the content of the 5 emails a day. But if there is no subtle caht there alluding to more then maybe what you have here is a lonely woman who feels comfy with P-vine. When you may not be out of the closet yourself having friends who understand can be wonderful but often you can forget how much pressure you put them under by being overly connective. Perhaps the lady in question is just lonely. I guess the thing to watch for - alarm bells - might be a change in tone of the emails or wishing for more actual contact than she now has with P-vine.

I think as long as you two are unassailable and keep communicating then this new lady can be no threat. Only you two know. If it becomes a threat then you will both have to gently pull back.

As for jokes over you maybe wanting two women... pay no heed. That is not happening in your head but in others. I never understood the facination of men wanting to watch two women as long as they can be involved. I know this is definitely not the case with you. It has been a wonderful thread to read.

I wish you both well - indeed, all three all well - and hope it turns out into a simply great friendship. Sexuality aside, loneliness makes a sad bedfellow, while friends are priceless and no bed is needed.

If I ever end up with a guy I hope they are as thoughtful and caring as you seem to be :-)