BS: stay afloat while others don't

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 19 Oct 23 - 07:12 PM

Maybe that's what people need. Dashboard warning lights.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Oct 23 - 06:23 PM

Thank you, Mrrzy and Helen!

My auto's warning system has been calibrated, and the tires filled,
so now everything is where it is supposed to be.
The timing of that dashboard warning is telling.
I was reminded by an acquaintance that
the change of seasons brings on a sudden temperature change
which can affect tire pressure equally suddenly.
So, although the tires had enough air in them anyway,
there would have been a sudden overnight change
which might have been enough to trigger the dashboard warning.
Anyway, it's done now.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Helen
Date: 14 Oct 23 - 06:43 PM

Hi keb, well done! :-)

I discovered when I was in my early 20's that I get angry when I feel powerless in a situation. That helped me to divert my attention from my own anger towards examining the situation which made me feel powerless, and then trying to find solutions to that situation or, especially if it was in the past, admitting I could do nothing about it and trying to accept that. My own feelings about my anger were made worse because I realised that when I am angry I cry, and then that makes me look like I am not in control so it was a bit of a vicious cycle until I realised how my mind and emotions were working, often against each other.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 14 Oct 23 - 02:28 PM

Excellent! I have fear of my anger, too. Autoirasciophobia?

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 14 Oct 23 - 01:55 PM

Anger is more an obstacle than a spur for me,
thanks to a lifetime of stuffing anger down and numbing it.
Therapy helped me deal with some buried anger this past week
and to my surprise I feel better.
I was always afraid that if I felt the anger,
I would feel sick, disturbed, out of control, I don't know what else.
Still, I feel more healthy now than when the anger was numbed out.
This is a big development for me.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Sep 23 - 06:04 PM

One of these days, I have to get
the Shingrix vaccine against shingles.
I keep putting it off.
But my grandmother had shingles and they were awful,
I remember her being bedridden.

They have just announced the death of Senator Dianne Feinstein,
and shingles was one of the things she was struggling with
in her final days, which sound like they were very difficult.

In the meanwhile,
Jimmy Carter looks set to observe birthday 99 tomorrow,
and Mudcat has a birthday then as well (but not 99).

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Backwoodsman
Date: 24 Sep 23 - 04:18 AM

Aaahh! Of course! Sorry Maggie, you or someone else has explained that to me previously - sadly my 76-year-old grey matter doesn’t retain ‘stuff’ as efficiently as it used to!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 23 Sep 23 - 06:38 PM

RSV is a respiratory virus that can stick around for a long time and like flu, it can kill people. FDA Approves First Respiratory Syncytial Virus (RSV) Vaccine. The drug manufacturers are on a vaccine development roll lately.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Doug Chadwick
Date: 23 Sep 23 - 05:11 PM

I had mine today. Covid jab in the left arm, flu jab in the right.

DC

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Backwoodsman
Date: 23 Sep 23 - 02:20 PM

Had my Covid jab last Saturday, and my Flu jab coming up in a couple of weeks - what is ‘the RSV dose’?

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 23 Sep 23 - 02:08 PM

The next round of vaccines for COVID are out, and my appointment is this afternoon. At this point it is a yearly vaccination, I don't think it is considered a booster.

Staying afloat these days means staying on top of the new vaccinations as they become available. Flu last week, and soon, the RSV dose. Everyone stay healthy out there this autumn and winter!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Sep 23 - 10:24 AM

Talking of others not staying afloat:
there is a big hot mess in the patient community here.
It finally came to everyone's attention that
a group of very young patients were sharing cannabis and having intimate relationships with each other. It was all in secret,
but an older patient found out, and told.

Close to ten patients are discharging,
which is an unheard-of number to happen all at once.
Some are leaving of their own free will, others got kicked out.

Some within this large group have been through a re-evaluation process
and then were permitted to continue treatment.

It's going to be a little quieter, I think, when they all leave.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Backwoodsman
Date: 03 Sep 23 - 05:00 AM

”The sensors in tires that give pressure information fail after a few years. On my old Pathfinder I was told that 7 is average.”

I’ve never owned a car seven years. Although, in those hard-up times when my kids were small and my wife was a stay-at-home mum, I’ve bought cars, out of financial necessity, that were already seven years old (and more)! ;-)

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 Sep 23 - 08:48 PM

The chorus that I joined has had the summer off,
and will resume in about two weeks.

Last year we performed the Brahms Requiem in June;
next June we are to perform Bruckner's Mass no. 3 in F minor,
which is another big long heavy piece.
Although it is supposed to be easier than Brahms for the chorus to sing.

I've just been listening to the
"Benedictus" movement from the Bruckner Mass;
it is slow and gorgeous.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 22 Aug 23 - 02:59 PM

That sounds very convincing, about the tire sensors --
so the dashboard light is in fact working fine,
just the sensors are off.

Presently I am driving the car with that light signal on the dashboard,
it does not switch off at higher speeds,
and if the car is stopped and started again, the signal lights up again.

This is probably a job for the service mechanic.
In the meantime the wheels and tires are as they ought to be.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 22 Aug 23 - 02:42 PM

Indeed

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: MaJoC the Filk
Date: 22 Aug 23 - 01:08 PM

Steve: That sounds suspiciously like the running gag in Big Bang Theory about the engine warning light in Penny's car, which was always on, much to Sheldon's distress. The last exchange I can remember about it was (from memory):

What about the warning light?
That's still working, but the engine isn't.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Steve Shaw
Date: 22 Aug 23 - 09:35 AM

For at least seven years my old Ford Focus used to flag up "engine malfunction" and put itself into limp mode. All I had to do was pull over, stop the engine for ten seconds and start up. Problem solved. It might do it twice a day, twice a week or twice every six months. You would never know. Issue never resolved and there were no error codes. Blind panic the very first time it happened, breakdown callout, the lot, and shoulder shrugs after that.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: MaJoC the Filk
Date: 22 Aug 23 - 06:29 AM

We used to get that sort of problem after half an hour on a long journey. When the car goes *ping*, Herself (a nervous driver) starts worrying. Now the car's neglecting to *ping* us, I don't know whether to be relieved that it's stopped, or worried that it's not telling us about whatever's on its mind.

I'll skip the rant about computers being shoved into everything, as this margi[snip]

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Steve Shaw
Date: 22 Aug 23 - 05:23 AM

The kind of technology that's there to give you safety warnings should be either be failsafe or not there at all. At the very least the car should warn you that the technology has failed. After years of being accustomed to being advised that your tyre pressures are low, a sudden failure of the warning system could be downright dangerous, so I'm with Maggie on that one. A few years ago the reverse sensors on my three-year-old car failed. I found out when I nearly backed into a wall until someone screamed at me. Ever since then I've never trusted parking sensors.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 21 Aug 23 - 11:37 PM

The sensors in tires that give pressure information fail after a few years. On my old Pathfinder I was told that 7 is average. And when you replace one, they suggest you replace all of them, but it is expensive. Otherwise, ignore the sensor warning, let the tires go rogue and check the pressure manually.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Doug Chadwick
Date: 21 Aug 23 - 03:42 PM

My car had to be manually reset after after a low inflation warning. This involves repeatedly pushing a button on the steering wheel to scroll through a menu on a dashboard screen, selecting the category and then scrolling through sub menus. As it is so rarely. needed, I can never remember how to do it so I drive around for several days with the alarm up before working out how to get rid of it.

My wife's car auto-resets after re-inflation but only after driving for a minimum time/distance at more than 30 mph.

DC

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Aug 23 - 01:30 PM

Well, according to the nice man at the filling station who helped
with the air compressor,
my tires are all fully inflated and supporting the car nicely, thank you.

THe only trouble is that there is a dashboard light warning that
tire pressure is low and the tires need air NOW.
THis even after a little bit of compressed air was added to each tire.

SO it looks like I have a malfunctioning dashboard light.
All that excitement for nothing.
I'll have to talk to the service/mechanic that fixes my car.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 19 Aug 23 - 12:12 PM

Rhiannon Giddens prefaces this performance with a nice story about staying afloat. Nobody Knows You When You're Down and Out

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 15 Aug 23 - 01:37 PM

Dear Mrrzy, I believe you about the grope therapy post.
and by the way:

your question about "Iceland skipy?" on the obit thread --

I believe you were thinking of Skarpi, not Skipy!
What do you think?

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 15 Aug 23 - 12:19 PM

Oh, I meant exactly what I typed!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 15 Aug 23 - 11:15 AM

It became clear in the charges leveled against Trump and his co-conspirators last night that one of the more egregious related crimes was how some of the GOP party folks treated the state election workers, and that goes directly back to Giuliani's persistent efforts on Trump's behalf. Ruby Freeman and Shaye Moss were subjected to abuse, one of the GOP workers tried to entrap one of them into saying they'd rigged the votes.

In the days after the election, Freeman and Moss became the subjects of a Trump-backed conspiracy theory that was later found to be "false and unsubstantiated," according to an investigation by the Georgia Elections Board. Giuliani, in an appearance before a committee of the Georgia state legislature, told lawmakers that a video circulating online showed "Ruby Freeman and Shaye Freeman Moss ... quite obviously surreptitiously passing around USB ports, as if they're vials of heroin or cocaine."

Last year Freeman told ABC News' Terry Moran that she subsequently received so much harassment from conspiracy theorists that for a time she was forced to leave the suburban Atlanta home where she had lived for 20 years. The pair gave similar testimony when they appeared before the House selection committee investigating the events of Jan. 6.

The investigation by the Georgia Elections Board cleared Moss and Freeman of all wrongdoing last month.

From The Hill.

That mother and daughter duo are after three years hopefully seeing things turn around. Ending up afloat can take a while.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 14 Aug 23 - 03:35 PM

Good advice, Steve. I know what you intended to type, Mrrzy, but that is a really classic Freudian slip, if I must say so. ;-)

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 14 Aug 23 - 01:02 PM

Reading this thread makes *me* feel better. Grope therapy...

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Steve Shaw
Date: 12 Aug 23 - 08:42 PM

Don't let it mess with your head. Such people are past masters at concealing their predilections whilst putting on a face. I've mentioned in other threads a couple of people in my life who fooled us all into thinking they were pillars of society. One pretended to us all that his wife had tragically died and he was moving into our area to start afresh. He died of leukaemia a few years ago, and only then did we discover that his wife was still very much alive and that he'd fled from accusations of sexual abuse of his own daughter (he'd lied about plenty else too). The other was in his eighties, a true man of the Church, who is now serving twelve years in prison for grooming and sexual abuse of small boys decades ago. Lots of us round here knew him well (though not well enough....) and we all feel incredibly bitter that we'd been hoodwinked by him for many years. To say that we feel tainted would be an understatement. We should feel good about the fact that we generally try to see the best in people. That opens us up to being deceived, but I'd far sooner have it that way than to go around automatically suspecting everyone all the time. I feel your pain, having been through similar emotions. But if you knew him and loved him for what you thought he was, that's you just being a proper human being. That's good enough, eh?

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Aug 23 - 08:07 PM

Today some triggering news came to me.
A musician I worked with forty years ago,
who has had a burgeoning career since then,
has been accused, by multiple other musicians,
of sexual misconduct.

This is messing with my head.
At the time I liked and trusted the man.
He was gay, and I'm a straight woman, so neither of us threatened the other in any way.
It's all other men who have come out with their allegations.
He has now resigned from all his posts and duties.

It's a heck of a thing when it's somebody that you used to know.
I'm talking about it and trying not to isolate with it.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 09 Aug 23 - 10:08 PM

When Mrrzy wrote "Agency," why did Steinbeck's "nonteleological" philosophy pop into my mind? I've stumbled across Steinbeck several times this week. It must be time to pull out a book to read.
FYI, from an online homework help site:

There is no meaning to life. Life has no inherent meaning. The meanings of our lives are chosen by what we feel and experience or are assigned to us by others. The ends of our existence cannot be foreseen and will not be limited by such things as destiny. These are the ideas and philosophies of those who believe life to be non-teleological. A famous literary example of a non-teleologist is a man named John Steinbeck. Throughout his life Steinbeck experimented with Darwinism, transcendentalism, realism, socialism, naturalism, and Taoism (Endnotes 1). Each of these ways of thinking show up in Steinbeck’s philosophy and therefore his work cannot be classified specifically. All that may be said is that he had a non-teleological way of thinking. As nature played such a major role in his life, Steinbeck’s characters are shaped by nature and their surroundings give purpose to their lives. These characters’ fates are not pre-determined. Instead every event in the natural world gives new meaning to a life. As a result of Steinbeck’s non-teleological beliefs, his characters’ lives contain no inherent meaning and their ever-changing paths are influenced by occurrences and over the passage of time.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 09 Aug 23 - 08:33 PM

The Agency fallacy is the root of theistic thought, but I digress...

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Aug 23 - 06:20 PM

Ah, the word Agency!
Here at the clinic, there are three A-words that are part of the jargon.
Agency
Authority
Alliance

As in, patients are encouraged to take up their authority, a phrase that is repeated often.
Alliance refers to the interchange between patients and staff, the latter representing the institution.

You know, I'm not altogether sure what Agency means . . .
maybe I'm the one who had Agency taken?

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 09 Aug 23 - 11:15 AM

Keberoxu, you can set up a Google Voice account and port a mobile phone number into it to keep forever. The catch is that you have to have a phone number that it can forward any of those calls to. Do you have a different phone number now? Google has a one-time charge, maybe $25. I did that with a cell number that was once my house number. For a dozen years it has been my Google Voice number and it is the one I give in stores when they ask for a phone number. So it catches all of the spam. The account is set to only forward numbers from calls in my contact list. The rest go to voicemail, set upon Google Voice. I can also use it via computer and send text messages through it.

You can also set up a Google Voice account and have it assign you a number. But you still need a phone for it to occasionally forward calls to.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 09 Aug 23 - 09:15 AM

Doesn't sound appetizing.

I had an urgent meet wih my shrink to discuss betrayal, and my huge and childish overreaction to it. Shrink thinks what was taken was Agency. I am not so sure. We will meet again tho next month when I'm back from my vacations. I will think-and-feel on that as I sun sand sea myself into near-liquidity...

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Aug 23 - 10:51 AM

This month, the dining hall needs a new floor. They tore it up this week.
It will be another week or two before the new floor is in.
All the tables and chairs have been moved out of the dining hall
and into various adjoining corridors and rooms,
and there we sit when we eat our meals.
The kitchen can still function even when the dining room is under construction, fortunately.
But the hammering and sawing are ferocious noises.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 30 Jul 23 - 09:40 PM

Plus whomever they sell your number to, hah, foiled!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Helen
Date: 30 Jul 23 - 07:15 PM

Well done! A neat bit of sidestepping.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Jul 23 - 06:08 PM

Well, to shorten a long story,
I had a debacle of an experience last year,
trying to use a little flip phone as a mobile device.
It's cancelled now, but I did end up with a mobile phone number.

So, out of curiosity, I pulled up the US Mail online form
for a forwarding address,
and submitted the cancelled mobile phone number.
And guess what -- it went through.
So now my mail will be forwarded as before, for another six months.

The misadventures I get into ...

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Helen
Date: 27 Jul 23 - 12:40 AM

Hi keberoxu,

During the height (or depth?) of COVID here, a lot of businesses required smart phones to scan QR (quick response) codes but people like me with no smart phone were given alternatives, like downloading and printing a card which could be scanned by the business instead.

There has to be an alternative to using a smart phone. It might be worthwhile contacting them to work out an alternative. A comical aspect of my no-smart-phone status was watching the young people serving me while they tried not to look amazed, aghast or even disgusted at the little old biddy who is so out of touch with modern life and technology. ("I mean, how can anyone SURVIVE without a smart phone?")

The other thing is that in all of the government related departments I worked in there was a clear, strict policy of not denying access to services especially if the person had special circumstances to be taken into account.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Jul 23 - 06:31 PM

This is a surprise:
It was time for me to submit another temporary change-of-address /forwarding order.
The USPS wants you to do it online.
So I started online, only to find that a new requirement has been added.
Unless you have a working mobile phone account,
you MAY NOT submit an order to have your mail forwarded.

I have a little flip phone with a cancelled account.
Now it seems that the mobile phone is part of the means
for verification of identity.
It has come to this . . .

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Jul 23 - 08:17 PM

Would the news about Haruo get out to more readers if it were on
the Check-In Mudcatters Worldwide thread, I wonder?

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 22 Jul 23 - 06:14 PM

Today the high is under 100 for the first time in about three weeks. I'm watering, hoping to keep the foundation from cracking worse than it has already. My house is "afloat" - built on a slab on this clay soil. Few basements in this part of the world.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 22 Jul 23 - 12:04 AM

Mudcatter Haruo has had some hard times lately and has a GoFundMe account set up: Help me avoid homelessness... an injury and an electric bill, and the need to set up services for someone over-65 have converged.

I sent cash via PayPal that won't count toward the GoFundMe account, but he doesn't have to wait to use it or share a cut with the fundraiser company.

PM me or Haruo if you want his email address that works with PayPal.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 21 Jul 23 - 10:58 AM

Yikes!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 16 Jul 23 - 09:41 AM

I got the working air-conditioning just in time to get cooled off
by the heavy rains,
and there's a tornado watch in effect.
Stay afloat, indeed . . .

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 13 Jul 23 - 10:20 AM

Heat can be dangerous when you're not accustomed to it. A friend who recently moved from Texas to Cupertino, CA, sent a screenshot of the heat advisory in her new town - it will hit 90^o this week. She being glad that isn't a problem for her to adapt to. Here in North Texas today is forecast to hit 107^o. But for those CA folks not accustomed or prepared for heat, 90 can make people ill or kill some. Same in Seattle (we didn't used to have air conditioning in most of our houses up there.) So New England also - and when it's as humid as it can be up there - ugg. Stay safe, and sleep on a sofa in the lounge if your bedroom is too hot.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 13 Jul 23 - 08:58 AM

Mwah, Nightwing!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 Jul 23 - 08:07 AM

Thank you, that is really sweet.