Birthday Memoriam Andie-VTam's daughter

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: wysiwyg
Date: 30 May 09 - 06:51 AM

She attracted the wise and able-to-love-well.

I often say, at a funeral, that those gathered are the congregation of those passed. Not the congregation from which they came-- tho that is true also-- but the congregation that looked to them for leadership. Andie's "parish", now, THERE is a group (and a leader) I'd have been proud to join.

(((Andie's Parish)))

~Susan

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 30 May 09 - 10:49 AM

Susan

You just reminded me of something with Andie's Parish.

When she was in university, some friends from high school were to be married. I think it was Geoff and Jenn from one of the memorial postings earlier in the thread. They wanted Andie to officiate at their handfasting.
She was looking into getting some kind of ordainment so she could do this for them. I don't remember what happened out of this.

Another thing I remembered after retyping Duane's (SCA name Byram) Eulogy (while I was weeping away this morning) was what the videographer said about the service.

That he had never seen so many people come up and say so many wonderful things about the departed in one service. And that later when he was watching again, working on the finished DVD and VHS copies he started crying. A thing he had never done before. He was the one who put A Celebration of Life - Andie Robbins memorial on the labels. And then asked me if that was ok.

Oh dear. Here come the tears again.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: wysiwyg
Date: 30 May 09 - 12:15 PM

:~) Andie was a Mudcatter, inside, I'm sure of it.

~S~

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 30 May 09 - 02:12 PM

Another nickname for Andie when she was a baby.

She loved pitching fits when we put her in crib (cot) playpen or carseat. But she absolutely loved this song when we played it or it came on radio.

She was our Rage in the Cage

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 31 May 09 - 05:12 AM

With the song Rage in the Cage, her little fists curled around the top of playpen or crib rail, she would rock side to side (the crib would move across the room) jamming along to the music.

Rage in the Cage brings back very specific memory of her little face. Bright red with anger, the utter outrage at being pushed into clothing and equipment when she just wanted to be free.

I have thought since her passing since Andie was so adventurous and fearless, that when the time came of her passing, she saw something wonderful and naturally went toward it, not realising as she left her body she could not get back.

Her sister Hilary once visiting the house (which she said always felt very oprressive after Adie's passing) had an encounter. Hilary said Andie came out of the bathroom (where she had died) grabbed her by the shoulders and screamed, "Why won't Dad talk to me? Why can't he hear me?" Hilary told me she just said "Because you aren't supposed to be here, Andie. You died. That is why Dad can't hear you." She said after that the house did not feel oppressive anymore.

I guess I should say that Hilary had seen and heard people others did not from her toddlerhood through her mid teens, when it "started going away." She still does sense things, she tells me, but I don't think with the vivdness she experienced when she was younger.

I don't know what to make of what Hilary told me about the Andie encounter. I don't want to believe it, because it would mean for all that time my child was suffering and frightened and didn't know what was happening to her. She may be still. I can't bare that.

I have been so close to following her just so I could know she was OK.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: wysiwyg
Date: 31 May 09 - 09:34 AM

(((Hil)))

(((VT)))

~S~ (see PM)

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: GUEST,Garden of Solace
Date: 01 Jun 09 - 05:03 AM

"Life After the Death of My Son: What I am Learning". author Dennis Apple

CHAPTERS
"Will It Always Hurt This Much"
"Am I Losing My Mind?"
"I Don't Want Him Forgotten"

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 01 Jun 09 - 01:28 PM

Dear Garden of Solace

Thanks for the advice re book.

I am ok really. Have not self-harmed in more than a year (I think). I have no immediate plans to top myself. The first 2 years were hell on earth. But I have been surrounded by warm lovely caring friends. My partner is an angel on earth. I started singing again in 2007 and found my voice more confident, powerful and emotive than it was prior to Andie's passing. She is singing through me, now.

It is true I didn't want people to forget her, but I find on Live Journal that her friends remember her on their special days. So I am easy on that score. She was and still is well loved.

I do want more people to know her and was invited by some mudcatters to start sharing her by creating a thread for her. So I did. It also gives me one place to put all my memories and all the nice things her friends have said. When people read and share or ask questions, it pricks more memories to come forward. It is also nice to know that my posting here may be helping others with their own grief.

So all is good.

All the best.
Tam

BTW, don't be afraid to use your real mudcat name. I won't take offense.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: olddude
Date: 01 Jun 09 - 09:46 PM

Virginia
you are in my prayers , right this moment. And you will remain there.

with love
Dan

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: GUEST,Phillip Cazares
Date: 02 Jun 09 - 05:26 AM

I love you so much,
Its so plain to see.
But what amazes me more,
Is how much you loved me.
And what one doesn't see,
Thoush its clear from the start
It's not the blood that we shared
But the love to our hearts.
The love will last until eternity.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: GUEST,William S
Date: 04 Jun 09 - 12:11 AM

Out, Out, Brief Candle!

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 05 Jun 09 - 12:56 PM

Hope to add some stuff to the thread this weekend.

Bit nonplussed by the guest posts. Especially the last one.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: wysiwyg
Date: 05 Jun 09 - 03:07 PM

It's a quote from Shakespeare. (Maybe Elton John's "Candle in the Wind" has some relationship there, I dunno what-all the persons might have been thinking.) Wasn't Shakespeare often called "The Bard?"

I sort of took it as what a person might say as a commentary on death in general-- the transitory nature of life?

But, as with all Mudcat threads-- "take the best and leave the rest" is usually good policy.

~S~

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 05 Jun 09 - 04:39 PM

Hi Susan

I know the quote's source. Just weird getting all these guest posts.

Will take your advice. Leave the rest.

Thanks

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 07 Jun 09 - 04:56 AM

Well internet connection was lost all day yesterday, so retyped some of the printed out posts from the lost SCA memorial page.

I alternated font colors to distinguish between posts.

I didn't know her very well, but I remember Francesca as a sweet person with a hug and a kind word for me every time I saw her. I still have a candle she gave me at 12th Night one year. I won't forget her beautiful voice or kind smile-- she will be missed. Lady Derdrui, North Carolina


I had the privilege of singing with Francesca in Pennsic choir several years ago. She was a lovely young woman of extraordinary talent, full of grace and a gentle fun-loving spirit. She will be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with her family and with you Bryce. Margaret E..., northern Virginia


I didn't get to sing with her much but I enjoyed hearing her when I could. Whenever I saw her, she had a smile and a hug for me.... that meant a lot. Godspeed Francesca.   Evan da C..., Virginia


Ah those lovely days of driving from Richmond to Chapel Hill for Piper Doon... the drinking, and singing (amd Classic swimming Hole) at Pennsic... the dingy Goth bars (she made me fall in love with Bella Morte & the Cruxshadows... all her fault) such a vibrant, charismatic lady....Andi's memory will live on in my heart and smiles. Jessica McM..... California

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: Pistachio
Date: 07 Jun 09 - 07:07 PM

What wonderful words for your daughter. I'm sure the sentiments keep you feeling cozy. I find myself smiling, Andie obviously touched most of those she knew. (((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))
H.x

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 08 Jun 09 - 02:41 AM

posts from SCA meorial page continued.


I remember sitting with Cesca at Troll at Sapphire while everyone else was in court. We were telling stories and she was singing songs. It is one of the most relaxed and calm moments I can remember. Nikulai, North Carolina

She was the only person to make me cry on my wedding day. Twice actually. The first time was when she didn't show up for rehearsal and I was sure she wasn't coming at all. Then she DID show up and she sang and made me cry again. I cried because it was all ok, it was worth the crying to hear her singing at that moment, in that place and time. I will forever be glad she was there. Dee Dee, east coast Virginia

There's a bard in my heart
But the memory's fading
She came and went
Like a sweet breath of spring
Throughout the cold winter
Her smile was still shining
Through winter's cold comfort, the Troubador sang
There's a song in my heart
And a red-headed singer
She whispers and watches
And laughs at what comes
Through out joyfall halways
Or in darkest dungeons
Through all, the red-headed troubador hums
There's a dance in my heart
And a freckle-faced dancer
Who skips it and glide
Throughout crowded feast halls
Amid joy and laughter
Through all, I can see her, til her form slowly fades.

Hamish, southeast Virginia

I met Cesca so long ago that now I have no idea when it was. I remember spending hours trying to figure out the best harmonies for songs to perform with her and Sam. I remember listening to her sing and the joy that she had in it. We grew out of touch over the past few years, something that I now regret. She is a great loss and I miss her. Jess/Gwen, North Carolina

Francesca is my earliest memory of the SCA.I was brand new, my first event and Francesca took me under her wing. She was kind and gentle and loving. And the thing that I will always remember is her voice. She sang to me, without music, which I find incredible since I can't sings. Her voice was like an angel itself. Whenever I think of her I will think of her singing with the angels. I will miss her. Just know that she was loved and made a difference in peoples lives.Prayers to the family. Love Cat, southeast Virginia

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: GUEST,William S
Date: 08 Jun 09 - 05:36 AM

No need to fear. It is indeed Shakespeare - "The Bard" in the heart and in the yard.

Elton John, Robert Frost and a score more have made reference to the line.

Macbeth, Act V, Sc. V

To-morrow, and to-morrow, and to-morrow,
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle!
Life's but a walking shadow

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 08 Jun 09 - 02:13 PM

lost SCA memorial page continued


I met you during your senior year.Even then you knew you wanted to sing. Oh lordy, and sing you did. Most of the time you came across a shy with strangers, convinced you would be ridiculed. But we all knew better. When you would stand and sing it was joy, a light pouring out from your heart. You would come across as aloof, but it was really shyness not wanting to let folks in, but we all know that you really cared to much. And oh how we care about you. [cutting some personal stuff] I feel like I didn't look deep enough past your outer shell. But I promise you this cuty (yeah I know you hate it when I call you that) I will look past the shell, and I won't wait till its too late to make sure a friend gets help. much love Andi, fjf


I have been trying to find the right words all day, but all I can really say is "Thank You". Thak you for the time we had, Thank you for your laughter. Thank you for your voice. Thank you for living. From Natalie Merchant's "Kind and Generous": "Oh I want to thank you for so many gifts you gave, with love and tenderness, I wanna thank you. I want to thank you for your generosity , the love and honesty that you gave me. I want to thank you, show my gratitude, my love and respect for you, I wanna thank you."   Drea, North Carolina


With you a part of me hath passed away;
For in the peopled forest of my mind
A tree made leafless by this wintry wind
Shall never don again its green array.
Chapel and fireside,
country road and bay,
Have something of their friendliness resigned;
Another, if I would, I could not find
And I am grown much older in a day.
But yet I treasure in my memory
Your charity and young heart's ease,
And the dear honour of your amity;
For these once mine, mylife is rich with these.
And I scarce know which part may greater be. -- George Santyanna
Andie, I will forever remember how you sang for my daughter, made her laugh, taught her a song. I know you are singing for us now, the songs we will hear in our hearts from now on. Thank you for your light, thank you for your humor, thank you for charing your gifts. You are missed. Christine B...


and I will write her name and cast it to the sky... silhouettes recede into a mother's tearful eyes... a host of angels clamour to her side... a light disolves to kiss the wind -- release the dragonfly.   tess

And this post from tess has started me weeping for the second time today.

This afternoon, my acupuncturist complimented my earrings, as I walked into her office. She only saw the right side. I reached up and noticed the left earring was missing. Andie bought them for me while on a mission trip to Mexico when she was 13 (I think). She worked so hard and did without birthday and Christmas gifts for the sake of going on that trip. And now I have lost one of the earrings she bought for me. That was the first time I cried today. Stood outside the hospital waiting for my husband to collect me and just let the tears run.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: wysiwyg
Date: 08 Jun 09 - 02:34 PM

VT, if it's not too time-consuming, would you consider making the alternate quotes blue and some-other-color instead of blue and black, so your own comments in default-black are more discernable? Or, I use this sometimes to separate segments of a post:

===

blahblahblah

===

Those are just lowercase equal signs, tho they display usually as a solid double line.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 08 Jun 09 - 03:07 PM

I don't know Susan. Guess I am more concerned with content than format.

This is something of a job as it is, what with reading and retyping the comments. Something about retyping makes one pay closer attention, notice nuances, make connections to other things, even read between the lines. Dragging all the hurt to surface level again.

Is it nearing full moon? Not myself last couple of days and today is the worst re edge of precipice (tearing up) feeling.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: wysiwyg
Date: 08 Jun 09 - 04:26 PM

Oh, I understand THAT feeling. When working on lost-twin grief was a priority, as it was for several years, it took very little to remind me of the need to step away, breathe, drink water, take C's, and jump back in.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: Lizzie Cornish 1
Date: 08 Jun 09 - 04:50 PM

Tam, this is especially for you, Sweet Lady. It comes with loads of love.

It was written by a very dear friend of mine, Charlie, who lost his only child, aged 22. It nearly destroyed he and his wife, but they got through to the other side of pain, surrounded by love. I believe totally that their dear son, Peter, brought many people into their world who now help to carry them through. I also have no doubt that your Andie is doing exactly the same thing.

And hey, she'll be chuckling over that earring..."Oh! MOMMMM!" You be sure to 'take her with you' when you go to choose a new pair of Andie Earrings. (((xxx)))


'The Reason For My Journey'

Staying the course
Navigating without
Compass or maps
You are the star
That guides me home
From an ocean of darkness
I follow your light
Keeping you
In the center of my vision
Never losing sight of
The reason for my journey
You are
My Destination

(Charles R. James)


Just write naturally, from the heart, let it come out the way it's all meant to.

And by the way, there is no precipice to fear, just a gentle fall, into the arms of your daughter. Keep her 'in the centre of your vision'

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 08 Jun 09 - 05:21 PM

Thank you Ladies (both). Susan so sorry for your loss. Lizzie thanks you for that poem written by a father for lost son.

Strange that beautiful things are born out of such horrible pain. But that is art.

I will make a pendant of remaining earring. Have done this before with my Gammy's old screwback earrings.   Remember them?. That was torture.

Hugs to you both.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: wysiwyg
Date: 08 Jun 09 - 05:49 PM

LOL-- I've actually been known to BUY old earrings, just to get pendants out of them.

And Hardi gave me a lovely small pendant that nakes a nice, tiny brooch.

))hugs(((

(receiving them and sending them back out again)

~S~

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: GUEST,Emily
Date: 09 Jun 09 - 07:32 AM

Because I could not stop for Death,
He kindly stopped for me;
The carriage held but just ourselves
And Immortality.

We slowly drove, he knew no haste,
And I had put away
My labor, and my leisure too,
For his civility.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 10 Jul 09 - 04:58 PM

One of Andie's closest friends did this thing that leaves me speechless

I found it accidentally, just googling Andie's name. Yeah I still do that.

So good to know that her friends are still thinking of her, missing her.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 19 Aug 09 - 02:29 AM

Last 2 evenings spent alone. TheSilentOne spending time with his son in Lake District. I am glad he spends time with his kids, he has the luxury of them being in same country. Sometimes I do feel envious of that.

I was afraid I would fall apart, thinking and wishing and regretting, but I have been pretty OK, except for staying up past 3am the 1st night and 1am last night. Watching DVDs and doing a bit of work brought home from work. Avoiding empty bed, avoiding sleep, avoiding nightmares with no comfort to follow.

Still thinking of you my Babydoll, but I think I must be healing some. I haven't felt the grief shadow lurking just out of sight, waiting to swallow me for a few weeks now. Should I hope it will last? Should I feel guilty about not despairing?

Sigh! Glad my honey is back tonight. I need a cuddle.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: Pistachio
Date: 19 Aug 09 - 07:42 AM

The speechless link is so lovely.
I telephoned a friend of my twin sister (when I was near her location in Germany last week) and Karen said,"Gillian is such a beautiful person 'inside'. She has the capacity to help, care and share and the world needs more like her".
I believe from this thread that Andie was beautiful too.
Smile.
I just went to a friends grave this morning with my pal Jane. We were able to smile, remembering Lesleys' beauty too.

((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))))))

Hazel.x

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: My guru always said
Date: 19 Aug 09 - 07:54 AM

Sending you a hug {{{{{{{VT}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: sing4peace
Date: 23 Sep 09 - 05:13 PM

If I can stop crying long enough, I'd like to thank you for sharing your pain and your Adie. Your thread has been a journey - one that feels all too familiar and as such is very painful.

I hope you are remembering to take care of yourself. These AI diseases really flare up during stress. Grief is about the worst kind of stress there is.

A burden shared, is a burden divided
and a joy shared is a joy multiplied.

By letting us help you carry your grief - you have allowed us to share the joy that is your Andie.

One day at a time. We are here for you.

Your sister in Hope,
Joyce

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 22 Oct 09 - 04:32 PM

Reading through the Getaway planning thread and reading "guest Cooper's post, prompted me to come back to read about my lost daughter. Nearing end of this thread and I remembered something I thought I'd share.

From: VirginiaTam - PM
Date: 08 Jun 09 - 02:13 PM

I reached up and noticed the left earring was missing. Andie bought them for me while on a mission trip to Mexico when she was 13 (I think). She worked so hard and did without birthday and Christmas gifts for the sake of going on that trip. And now I have lost one of the earrings she bought for me.

I forgot to come back in here and say that the earring found its way back to me about a month later. I sent a picture of the remaining earring around work, explained that I lost and where it might be (between office and the bus stop some 500 yards away, up one road and through a car park). Also explained its significance to me.

Guess who found it. A very young male temp worker. He hadn't seen my email as a temp he didn't have an email account. He just found it about halfway between office and bus stop and thought someone at work might know to whom it belonged.

Now how likely is a young man (early 20 something) to
1. notice a not shiny (about dime sized) earring lying on the pavement?
2. bother to pick it up and bring it into work?
3. remember by the time he got there to put it in lost property?

The earring just wanted to come back to me.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: fat B****rd
Date: 22 Oct 09 - 04:44 PM

Best thoughts and kind regards to you VT.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 08 Feb 10 - 04:38 PM

My dollbaby has been much on my mind and heavy on my heart of late. Since just before Christmas, she pops into my thoughts more often. Silly things set me crying. Piano score in a tv advert, reading stuff on mudcat, hearing a snort laugh from a young woman, seeing wildly died hair.

Seeing and hearing phenomenally talented young women wailing out trad songs and wishing so much that my Andie could be there strutting her stuff too.

It is very hard.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: Bonnie Shaljean
Date: 08 Feb 10 - 05:01 PM

Thinking of you, Tam. Of Andie too - she's such a sparkling presence in this thread that you've perhaps helped us to get to know her, a little. I can't imagine what you must be going through. I can't think of anything useful to say. Only that I hope you can find some sort of peace and that my thoughts are with you.

And yes - most definitely a music thread. It comes in all forms.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: wysiwyg
Date: 08 Feb 10 - 05:40 PM

Ah, there's the whiskers.

I know it probably doesn't help to try to think that Andie IS there with those great muso's.... but.... the tears might flow less painfully (and thus more healingly) if you could try to smile.... thinking that SHE knows that.

(That's just for Tam, folks.)

~Susan

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: My guru always said
Date: 08 Feb 10 - 05:42 PM

{{{VT}}}

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: LilyFestre
Date: 08 Feb 10 - 05:46 PM

My mom likes to tell me that when I dream of someone who has passed, it means they have come for a visit. Perhaps Andie is popping in and out to say hello. I don't know about you but when those moments or dreams happen, I never want them to end.

(((((((((((((Lots of Hugs)))))))))))))))))))

Michelle

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: Pistachio
Date: 09 Feb 10 - 01:43 PM

Brilliant to read you got the earring back, soon after it's loss.


It's been lovely to read about your Andie,thanks for sharing.   

             ((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))


Hazel.x

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: Janie
Date: 09 Feb 10 - 01:57 PM

{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: maeve
Date: 09 Feb 10 - 02:08 PM

I can't say much Tam, yet you and Andie are in my thoughts.

maeve

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 14 Feb 10 - 08:46 AM

Returning here to the posts left on a memoriam page to Andie that has now disappeared. I am so glad I printed it all.

Tuesday May 3 2005 (the day after funeral) from Trav

Far Away where the soft winds blow, Far away from it all, There is a place you go, Where teardrops fall. Far away in the stormy night, Far away and over the wall, You were her in the flickering light, Where the teardrops fall. We banged the drum slowly, and played the fife lowly. You know the song in my heart. In turning of twilight, In shadows of moonlight, you can show me a new place to start. i've torn my clothes and I've drained my cup, Strippin' away at it all, Thinking of you when the sun comes up, Where teardrops fall. By rivers of blindness, In love and with kindness, We could hold up a toast if we meet. To the cuttin' of fences, to sharpen the senses, that linger in the fireball heat. Roses are red, violets are blue, And time is beginning to crawl, I just might have to come see you, Where teardrops fall.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 14 Feb 10 - 08:51 AM

Tuesday 3 May 2005 from Jen Thies

Cesca had such a glorious smile and a gentle heart. When she came to visit me on my Pelican vigil, she entered the tent with a shy smile and sang a song for me. I was so honored that she would take a moment of her day and share her gift of song with me. She told me I was an inspirations, and I don't think I returned the favor. But she was an inspiration to us all.
Mistress Isobel wrote a song that has a most fitting chorus. - I'll put one foot before the other, and though I know the road is long, I will cross over the raging river and make it safely to the dawn....

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 14 Feb 10 - 09:15 AM

Tuesday May 3 2005 from Sunniva and Turgeis, Stafford VA

Francesca was a beautiful person inside and out. Her warmth and humor, and voice were gifts she shared. My favorite memories are of her with my children. She would sit, singing and teaching them songs. I will continue to listen for her angelic voice amidst the children's laughter.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 14 Feb 10 - 09:17 AM

Tuesday May 3 2005 from Kateryn Rous, Chapel Hill, NC

I will never forget the fun of the nearly weekly Piper Doon performances the summer Cesca lived in Chapel Hill.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: wysiwyg
Date: 14 Feb 10 - 09:20 AM

VT, I am still "pacing" you on this; I re-read the whole thread the other night when I could not sleep because a cat's whiskers tickled me to do it.

Are you re-typing all this BTW? If so and if it would be helpful, I could scan text out of what you printed, for you. Healing vs time/energy expenditure.... do only as much as Andie would want for you? :~)

~Susan

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 14 Feb 10 - 09:21 AM

Tuesday May 3 2005 from Lisa Nash, Richmond VA

Such a beautiful person. she was never seen without a smile and open arms for a hug. I was so fortunate to have known her -- even for this short time. I remember being brought to tears when I heard her sing for the first time at DeeDee's wedding last year. My husband had told me how lovely she sang, but to hear is firsthand was truly a blessing. She will be missed by many, but her memory will live on forever. All my love Andie, as you shine your bright light into the next life.


Lisa Nash was the person who set up the memoriam site from which i printed these remembrances). - tam

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 14 Feb 10 - 09:33 AM

Susan

I have had the papers on my laptop table since I started this thread. I don't know why I felt need to pick it up today of all days. see pm coming up.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 14 Feb 10 - 10:01 AM

Beautiful, dear one. Holding you and Andie in the light of love.

Subject: RE: BirthdayMemoriam Andie_VTam's daughter
From: wysiwyg
Date: 14 Feb 10 - 11:46 AM

VT: Yes.

~Susan