Obit: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline's grandson) 2009

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 01:56 PM

Oh, no- prayers ascending. Light]

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Dani
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 02:19 PM

Thinking of you all with deepest sorrow and prayers for comfort.

Dani

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: frogprince
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 02:56 PM

With my background, I still at times think of God as a loving Father figure. At numerous times thru life, when I've seen someone suffer a loss like this, I've heard someone say, "God must have had a reason".
My mind forms a different picture. I see God greeting Kaelan with open arms, saying "Kaelan, I'm so proud of you for what you did; but I'm so sorry that this took you from your family and friends much too soon."
I'm so sorry, and I know you will miss Kaelan with all your hearts.
                      Dean Elkins, in Michigan.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Duane D.
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:04 PM

I was in northern NJ yesterday when bbc phoned me to tell me this sad news. My heart has been sick and sad ever since. I share the sadness and sense of loss with the Paton family. bbc and I attended the Paton family reunion dinner on June 13, 2009, as guests of Sandy and Caroline. While there we took many digital images. I looked through all of mine last night and found ten of Kaelan. I added these into a set on my flickr gallery for the Paton family and friends and it may be viewed here.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: olddude
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:06 PM

I have no words other than
my prayers are with you and your family and deepest sorrow for your loss

Dan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,The Bristow Family
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:32 PM

A Child is born to shine their light. Kaelan's shown brighter than most. I had the privilege of knowing Kaelan as my son was a good friend of his. He brightened not only the room but each soul with his smile and his joy. Fate works in strange ways and I must say I am baffled as to her reasons. He must have a greater purpose in a better place than here.
"...Though we may stand on the shore and wave a tearful farewell, murmuring there...there he's gone. Know there are others, on a distant shore, who are waiting...watching, hopefull to raise the cheer, there...there he comes!..."

Our hearts are with you and with Kaelan
Karen Bristow

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Cool Beans
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 03:44 PM

I am so very sorry.
Marty

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Bobert
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 04:22 PM

Though everything has allready been said add my feelings of deepest sorrows for your loss and may the Good Lord be with you all during these difficult times...

Bobert

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Matthew Edwards
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 04:32 PM

This is indeed heartbreaking. My deepest sympathy to all the family.

Matthew

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Catherine Jayne
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 04:32 PM

There are no words. We're so sorry to hear of your loss.

Love

Khatt and Paul

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: My guru always said
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 05:15 PM

I am so sorry to hear this news, sending positive thoughts and have a candle lit in hope.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Richard Taylor
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 05:28 PM

Sandy, Caroline and the Paton family, on my own behalf and that of the members of the Folk Song Society of Greater Boston, please know that we are thinking of you at this tragic time.

Richard

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Kent Davis
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 06:31 PM

Now is the time of anguish and tears. In the days to come, may the God of all comfort bring calm to your soul and may you remember, and cherish, the courage of his death and the joy of his life.

Kent

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Mrrzy
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 06:33 PM

The day before we knew the final truth about Dad was probably longer than the 25 or so years since his death... I am so very, very sorry you are having to go through this. I will keep thinking of you, and those are beautiful pictures, thanks for posting them.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: skarpi
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:20 PM

úff , I saw the picture of the water .......


Very sad to hear.

Condolences to you, your family, and all the friends.

and may god stay by your side .

All the best Skarpi Iceland .

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Bob and Amba Coltman
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:39 PM

Sandy, Caroline, David, what can we say? Our hearts ache for you and we are with you in spirit in these terrible hours. Love,

Bob and Amba

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: dick greenhaus
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:45 PM

There are no words....but words are all we have.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Art Thieme
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 07:48 PM

This evening I spoke with Caroline and David. The great support of so many of you is truly appreciated there in Sharon. Our own grandson will be one year old on the 20th of this month. The sadness of Kaelan's passing has, for us, highlighted the wonder and love Carol and I have for young Byron and his sisters, Siera and Chloe, and of course for Chris and Kat. ---- The Personal emotions I feel since hearing this sad news are complex, surprisingly intense and varied.

It is good to have this thread to try to come to grips with my own feelings now.

Thanks Mudcatters! --- Art

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: topical tom
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 08:21 PM

I am so sorry to hear this sad news. Somehow I missed this thread and someone pointed it out to me. All my sympathy and prayers go out to the Paton family.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: TRUBRIT
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 09:06 PM

Sandy and Caroline - -I have mot you but have heard so much about you that I feel I know you.   There are no words I can use to help --- but please know my heart is with you....

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: maire-aine
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 10:43 PM

I am so sorry. You'll all be in my prayers.

Maryanne

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Michael Harrison
Date: 18 Jun 09 - 11:19 PM

I am but a petty rhymeister left without words - so filled with sorrow for you. I send you prayers.

mwh

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: GUEST,Sandy Paton
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 12:39 AM

Dear friends:
    Please know that your thoughts and words do help. We will try to write more when the weeping stops.
    Sandy and Caroline

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Big Mick
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 01:11 AM

It is incredible to me that you, in the middle of this, take time to honor us. This is a perfect example of why we all love you and your family so very much. Know, dear friends, that we weep with you.

Love,

Mick

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: KT
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 05:37 AM

Dear Sandy & Caroline, I'm so very sorry. Holding your family in my heart. KT in Alaska

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Allan C.
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 06:02 AM

Others have said it as well or better. My thoughts are with you, Sandy and Caroline, and with the parents of that brave young man.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Zany Mouse
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 06:59 AM

There is nothing left to say - it's all be said. Positive thoughts winging their way across the pond.

Blessings
Rhiannon and Mick

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Mooh
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 07:18 AM

Very, very sorry to hear of this.
Our hopes and prayers for you all.

Peace, Mooh.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: RoyH (Burl)
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 07:31 AM

Sandy and Caroline, our thoughts and prayers go out to you and all the Patons. We are grandparents too. We feel your loss almost as if it were our own. Loving thoughts to you. Roy & Elaine.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Uncle Phil
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 08:06 AM

Please add our sympathy and condolences, and add two more names to the circle gathered around you here.
Phil and Michelle

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Gloucesterman
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 09:23 AM

A quote from one of my father's sermons:
    The reality of grief is the solitude of pain, the feeling that your heart is in pieces, your mind's a blank, that "there is no joy the world can give like that it takes away." (Lord Byron).
No child should predecease a parent, let alone a grand-parent.
When you mourn him least, you'll remember him best. It will come, I promise.
Godspeed.
David Coffin

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: katlaughing
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 10:12 AM

Brave youth can bring such courage which brings such sorrow with never a thought for themselves. Many years ago, I knew a family who lost three sons in a matter of minutes as they went to rescue each other from the Colorado River. Somehow their family did carry on, for many years and they were well remembered and loved. I can just *see* Sandy and Caroline's spirits in those photos of Kaelan; there is a gleam in his eye and it looks as though a smile came easily and lit up his whole being when it did. Sometimes, those bright spirits burn out too quickly by our estimation.

SandyGramps, thank you for taking the time to post and please do not feel any onus to do so any time soon...take care of yourselves and just know we are here for you.

luvyaKat'leen

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: momnopp
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 11:06 AM

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Holding you in love and light.

JudyO/momnopp

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: M.Ted
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 01:43 PM

I am so sorry to hear about this--this is the worst fear of every parent, grandparent, uncle, aunt or caregiver. You have my greatest sympathies, and all my prayers.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Mark Ross on the MONDAK border
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 03:58 PM

I've been out of touch here on the Plains playing for a Buckskinner Rendezvous. My best to Sandy & Caroline, we never know when these things will happen do we? Cherish those around you for you know not when they will leave you.

Mark Ross

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Burke
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 04:38 PM

I haven't been around much, but I was alerted to this thread. I'm so sorry to hear about this.

My prayers are with all of the Paton family.

Knowing a family that lost a father in very similar circumstances, I'll also hold the boy he was trying to save in my prayers.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Jan and Ken
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 06:01 PM

To the Paton family - we met so briefly but you are high in our thoughts so many times- and we often relate the story of your kindness, warmth and hospitality. No words can say how much we are thinking of you this has really touched our hearts - and today when our grandsons came to visit I gave them an even more special hug - because I was also thinking of you - and felt priviledged and humbled that I could hug them - please keep on hugging Kaelan in your hearts and remember all the joy he gave you in the years you had together.

I am weeping as I write this but send you all the love possible from here in England.

Very much in our thoughts

Jan and Ken

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: wysiwyg
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 09:37 PM

Still keeping watch with you.

~Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,ScuttleBob
Date: 19 Jun 09 - 09:39 PM

Oh, Dear Friends, My heart breaks for & with You All! And all these warm words from so many who have been touched by your Music, Your lives and sense of family. I wish I could be with you-but my thoughts & prayers are joined with this Greater Family that surrounds you...in love and careing.
Be strong, be well...
I Love You All
Bob Z

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Naemanson
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 03:40 AM

Did they ever find him? I lost a student this year in the ocean and they never found him. It adds to the sorrow and grief.

Sandy and Caroline, I only met you briefly, one face in thousands, yet your love and gentle hearts touched me and still ride with me. I wish you peace and relief from your grief.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: adventure
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 07:51 AM

David, Caroline, Sandy and Family,

We are thinking of you all......

Sincerely,

Peter and Joanne

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: bbc
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 08:01 AM

Hi, folks,

Duane & I shared hugs, tears, & chat with Sandy & Caroline last evening. To date, Kaelan's body has not been found. Sandy & Caroline are bearing up, but this will be a long, long haul. Kaelan leaves a hole in the life of his loved ones that, although, over time, may hurt less intensely, will never be filled. He was such a special person. To die, at fifteen, with so much potential unfulfilled is a crushing blow. Your love, thoughts, prayers, & good wishes are deeply appreciated. The phone may not be answered, but Sandy is sitting at his computer, reading. To communicate with Caroline, letters might be more appropriate.

love,

Barbara

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Lighter
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 10:00 AM

Sandy, we've met only in cyberspace, but I trust that you and Caroline will accept my sincere condolences anyway. I am so sorry to hear about this terrible tragedy.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: GUEST,Bob Tedrow
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 12:11 PM

I am very sorry to hear the news. My families deepest sympathy.

Bob Tedrow

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: Michael S
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 05:39 PM

I had held back from adding to this thread. I didn't know Sandy and Caroline, and didn't know Kaelan and his parents. I talked to Sandy and Caroline once, many years ago. It was a formal context, an interview. They were very friendly, but I know it's not a very personal connection.

Then I found myself checking in here frequently to see if searchers had found Kaelan. I have two teenagers. My daughter is Kaelan's age, and also just completed the 9th grade. There's a kinship among everyone who loves someone else deeply, and eventually it seemed OK to me to express my sorrow.

So, finally, I came here, as so many others did. I am so sorry and I hope that there is peace and acceptance at the end of grieving. My thoughts are with this family, that has offered so much.

Michael Scully

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's gran
From: GUEST,DADGBE sans cookie
Date: 20 Jun 09 - 11:32 PM

My God! Sandy, Caroline, David, Robin my heart aches with you and for you.

Ray Frank

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: open mike
Date: 21 Jun 09 - 12:33 AM

oh, no, another water tragedy for one of our young men.
If there is any chance that our two fellows are together
above, that is something, at least, to hope for.

hugs to all, and thank you for raising a son and grandson
to whom generosity and helping friends was such a powerful
priority. my sorrow joins yours....

oh, silly words.....

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: GUEST,Glen Reid
Date: 21 Jun 09 - 09:43 AM

Such a terible tragedy. My most heartfelt condolances to Sandy Caroline and David.
Sincerly, Glen

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 21 Jun 09 - 11:20 AM

Still holding you all in the Light-
Allison

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Partridge
Date: 21 Jun 09 - 11:48 AM

So very very sorry to hear this. Words seem pathetic as they hit the page. I just dont know what to say.

Please know I'm thinking of you and yours
much love

Pat xxx