BS: Advice please

Subject: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Guest
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 04:26 PM

My partner has taken to hanging out day after day with an old girl friend of mine. She even likes my dog more than me. I do all the cooking and housework, she has never pushed the Hoover, and can't even figure out how to operate the cooker.

I do all the work while they hang around the charity shops; if we go out it's always as a threesome, and now she wants to take this woman on holiday with us. I like the woman, but, there is a difference between affection and adhesion.( To quote Andy Capp)

I've tried talking to her about this, but it just starts row.

Opinions please.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: alanabit
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 04:37 PM

If there are no children involved, you can do what you want. I don't know if what you say is all true, but if it is, and she is not interested in how you feel about things, your relationship has already ended. Mind you, I am sure she would not want to lose a good housekeeper.
(By the way ladies - I would say exactly the same about a man who treated a women so contemptuously).

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Larry Flynt
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 05:08 PM

maybe you can have a threesome

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 05:17 PM

You'd have to ask the dog first though, only fair.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Guest
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 05:30 PM

Shes not all bad, great in bed.

Sorry but the dog is a male, no way.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Skipy
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 06:11 PM

if you where a pilot you would reach for the black & yellow handle instinctively!
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: Don(Wyziwyg)T
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 06:16 PM

Yep! The black and yellow handle on HER seat.

Don T.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 06:51 PM

Stop cooking and pushing the hoover, see what happens
G

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: Sorcha
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 07:07 PM

Well, maybe she wants a threesome or away from you? Hard to tell.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Seaking
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 07:28 PM

Maybe she wants a twosome and away from you...

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,dr.doc
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 07:35 PM

Nah, she wants you and the ex girlfriend to get it on, so she can run off with the dog, and the cow jumped over the moon.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Grace Slick
Date: 12 Mar 05 - 08:35 PM

Why can't we go on as three?

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: CarolC
Date: 13 Mar 05 - 01:21 PM

Never introduce your new girlfriends to your old girlfriends (but make sure your old ones are completely out of the picture before moving on to any new ones).

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: Troll
Date: 13 Mar 05 - 02:04 PM

Simply don't come home from the market. Leave. Get out and don't look back.

Unless you want to try counselling.

Or folk dancing.

troll

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: gnu
Date: 13 Mar 05 - 02:55 PM

Troll's right, almost. Take the works when you leave.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Dr. Joyce Brothers
Date: 13 Mar 05 - 10:02 PM

My Dear Guest,
How did your partner come to meet your old girlfriend? More importantly, how many of your old girlfriends have you hauled around in her presence? Perhaps she is trying to make the point that she would prefer not to be given a list of your conquests. Perhaps too, she is tired of being nagged about the Hoover and the cooker and is taking refuge in the company of a sympathetic friend.

Why is she forced to hang around charity shops? Is she not given enough money to buy something new? Sounds to me like you are looking to have your cake (great in bed) and eat it too - cheap labour.

Two pieces of advice if you wish to salvage the relationship: 1) DO NOT allow this other female to accompany you on holiday. You need time alone together to communicate, clear the air, and start afresh. 2) Do not pile her and all your belongings in an RV or van and drag her around to folk festivals and basement accomodations in friends' homes. Part with a few dollars you cheap SOB and let her enjoy a first class hotel complete with room service and a masseuse. Charity shops...good lord!

Yours truly,
Joyce

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,guest
Date: 14 Mar 05 - 06:59 AM

Jeez, I ask a simple question and get a lecture.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,The other half
Date: 14 Mar 05 - 07:41 AM

I've just found this thread after a lovely weekend with my friend. I'll tell you it was good to get away from the moaning and groaning I have to put up with at home. He never stops going on about something.

Clara (my friend and his ex girlfriend) tells me that he's always been like this. Well, he certainly didn't show it when we were courting but as soon as I moved in there he went. And now I find out that the reason he wants me around is because I'm good in bed. Well he can go whistle for that as far as I'm concerned. He gets no more nookie from me. Clara's already offered to put me up if I want to leave him and after this I think I'll take her up on her offer.

Anyway he cant cook for toffee and he never gets to the corners with the hoover. As for washing the clothes he put my good cashmere jumper in with a load of dark clothes on a cold wash and ruined it. I dont think he's any good for anything much. He must have been the one that coined the phrase a quick shag.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Cretinous Yahoo
Date: 14 Mar 05 - 07:43 AM

Sounds like you two deserve each other.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Guest
Date: 14 Mar 05 - 07:44 AM

Cretinus Yahoo, who asked you anyway?

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,The other half
Date: 14 Mar 05 - 07:47 AM

What sort of name is cretinous yahoo?

I bet youre just like that waste of space indoors. Totally expect us women to be available when you want us but to keep quiet otherwise.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Avril Betts
Date: 14 Mar 05 - 07:52 AM

I've been following the mudcat for the past year without joining in but have to break my silence here.

Guest guest, she's not worth bothering with you know. Where are you? If you are anywhere near me I can give you two very good reasons to throw her out and get to know me instead.

You won't have to worry about any ex girlfriends either. I don't like the company of other women. I prefer to be with the men.

By the way, do you play the ukelele? I just love uke players.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Guest
Date: 14 Mar 05 - 08:00 AM

I'm in London. Where are you? A Uke? I could learn with the right motivation. I almost learned to play the banjo once.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: SINSULL
Date: 14 Mar 05 - 02:13 PM

Banjo?????? Did you ssay "BANJO"????? I have no friends - male or female. Maybe we can work something out.

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 15 Mar 05 - 05:34 AM

Avril.. surely the events of the past year should have taught you to modify your behaviour.....?

That restraining order can be reinstated you know!

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Guest
Date: 15 Mar 05 - 07:20 AM

You keep out of this!

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: GUEST,Grace Slick
Date: 15 Mar 05 - 10:11 AM

Look what's happening on the streets!!

:-O

Subject: RE: BS: Advice please
From: jacqui.c
Date: 15 Mar 05 - 01:26 PM

SINS - "I have no friends - male or female".

So what are we madam - Scotch mist?