BS: Dating Gift Ideas

Subject: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,Dating Again
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 02:04 PM

Any good ideas for a gift to give a man on a fifth date? He brought me flowers and treats for my cat on our third date.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: EBarnacle1
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 02:35 PM

I don't know. My lady friend and I keep surprising each other. The other day, she got me a razor with a mermaid handle. Even though I am a beardo, I appreciate the humor of it. A few weeks ago, I gave her a pair of earings which I had been holding until she wore something blue. She was surprised at how well they matched her clothes and how prescient I was. Stay loose and be prepared.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Kim C
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 04:36 PM

A book.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: SharonA
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 04:57 PM

If by the 5th date you don't have any idea what he might like, you guys need to talk more! *G*

But seriously, I think EBarnacle is on the right track. Something small, but something chosen with his personality and preferences in mind, rather than a generic gift.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Sorcha
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 05:09 PM

I'd counsel against jewlery for a bit longer........books, wine, a small tool for his hobby if he has one.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,dating again
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 05:29 PM

SharonA I know what he likes, I was just thinking something generic...like baking him cookies or something!

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Sorcha
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 05:34 PM

Cookies are good!!

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,Just Amy
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 05:37 PM

Home Baked Cookies are perfect because the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Also, it is a thoughtful, inexpensive and not too personal gift which is perfect at this juncture in your relationship. And it is just a bit old fashioned.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Amergin
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 05:41 PM

actually i thought the way to a man's heart was through his reproduction system....

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,Just Amy
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 06:19 PM

No, I been with the same man for 20 years now and I can still get him with a home cooked meal. Oh, heck, he's a man, I can get him with almost anything!

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Lyrical Lady
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 06:41 PM

Gifts??...we're suppose to give gifts!? Guess I have a lot to learn about this dating business! I've been out of the loop for so long ... I had no idea! LOL!

LL

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 07:08 PM

Amy,

Sorry to burst your bubble, but he pretends that your cooking has won his heart.

Us blokes tend to like an easy life, but we're not stupid. You can only get him with almost anything because he lets you.

Compliments from men have one purpose, they save on the nagging...

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: gwonya
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 08:09 PM

I'd really appreciate a D28 myself. Why...that'd just impress the heck outa me. And if he does'nt like that please get back to me and we can have coffee or something.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: C-flat
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 08:22 PM

Why don't you make him a tape of your/his favourite songs. If your relationship has a future you could be laying foundation stones through a piece of music that has some significance to you both.
Doesn't every couple have a song?

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,dating again
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 08:38 PM

Apparently my baking skills leave much to be desired...can't quite seem to get the cookies to turn out right! Back to the drawing board...

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Amergin
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 08:57 PM

a skimpy outfit usually works....

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Bobert
Date: 22 Aug 02 - 09:10 PM

Hey, as a member of the dumber sex, I'd suggest a CD. By now you know of his musical tastes (or should) and find something that he hasn'r quite heard but might have heard about. This will open up an entire area of conversation for the 6th date.

I'd say, cookies, with strawberrys, maybe some candles and Declan Masterson for down the road a bit...

Good luck,

Bobert

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Mudlark
Date: 23 Aug 02 - 12:52 AM

I heard somewere that the way to a man's heart is thru his chest....but be that as it may, a well-made cookie or loaf of bread is always a good plan. Also like the CD idea if he has any musical sensibilities...and if he doesn't...oh dear...

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,Fred Miller
Date: 23 Aug 02 - 09:37 AM

I've never actually dated. I still can't get a DATE WITH MY WIFE. Oops, I hit the cap key, but okay.

But as a gift for someone I can't figure out what to give, The Onion books are always good--it's a mock newspaper in Madison, very funny. Funny headlines and news stories written in deadpan parody of journalese. Once someone finds favorite things to laugh about, shared jokes, it seems personal enough.

If he has no sense of humor, dump him. Women dating guys like that is tragic, a waste of our natural resources.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Trevor
Date: 23 Aug 02 - 09:50 AM

How about a Ducati 998S Testastretta.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: SharonA
Date: 23 Aug 02 - 10:37 AM

Try this site for gift suggestions: http://dating1.indiatimes.com/date/karki_gifts/

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,dating again
Date: 23 Aug 02 - 11:08 AM

Thanks SharonA!

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: EBarnacle1
Date: 23 Aug 02 - 01:53 PM

It's always fun to share the Times crossword on Saturday night/Sunday morning. Consider something to share.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Hrothgar
Date: 25 Aug 02 - 07:34 AM

Yes, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, if you're not confident about getting the knife between his ribs.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,dating
Date: 25 Aug 02 - 07:47 AM

Seems to be some bitterness about this subject...

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: EBarnacle1
Date: 26 Aug 02 - 11:07 AM

DA, I don't know how far your relationship has gone. My friend and I were discussing this thread and she pointed out that if [and only if] the relationship has progressed to the point where you are both looking at commitment, a good symbolic gift would be a toothbrush in whichever bathroom you use most, so that the guest does not have to bring his/her own. Keep me posted, I will try to help. Eric

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: SharonA
Date: 26 Aug 02 - 12:04 PM

"Dating again": You're welcome! I can't say much for the music "suggestions" on that site (it's just a link to a shopping page, though why one is linked there when one says one has no money is beyond me!), but some of their other gift ideas are pretty creative. I wonder what "karki" means?

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,Just Amy
Date: 26 Aug 02 - 12:28 PM

so, have you had the date yet? What did you give him? Your loving Auntie Amy

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,dating again
Date: 26 Aug 02 - 01:07 PM

Actually I did end up giving him the cookies with apologies that they didn't taste better! I think he ate most of them anyway.

Gosh, this dating thing is really agonizing. But I suppose the benefits make up for it...Still I can't shake the feeling I will be single forever!

And SharonA, karki is a new word to me! I have no idea.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Amos
Date: 26 Aug 02 - 03:39 PM

It's obviously Indian slang from the context. Probably something akin to "economical".

A

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,not dating anymore
Date: 27 Aug 02 - 10:51 AM

Well I must have poisoned him...I'm getting the old runaround. Why can't you guys just come out and say you're not interested? Would save an awful lot of wondering...

Damn men!

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: EBarnacle1
Date: 27 Aug 02 - 11:48 AM

Damn us not for the sake of a fool. Next time you see him just slip him an ipecac laced chocolate chip cookie and smile.

Meanwhile, consider that there are plenty of others out there just looking for a proud beauty like you--and wondering where you are. [No, don't wear a sign.]

You will also find that the more relaxed and happy you are, the more you will be approached. this will be especially true once you get a good relationship going and don't feel any need to look.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,dateless
Date: 27 Aug 02 - 12:06 PM

You're right EBarnacle, it's just frustrating and disappointing.

Ahh well, I'll bounce back soon enough.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Amos
Date: 27 Aug 02 - 12:52 PM

Dateless, you're not alone; the endless time-honored battle between Mars and Venus is still in full fury, spilling the blood of countless innocent hearts all across our sorry planet. You grab any four people off the street and three of them will be in or just out of a damn heartbreak of frustration trying to wig-wag a message across to the opposite sex. (Why DO they call sexes opposite, anyway? Aren't they supposed to be on the same side???)

If we really wanted to end war, we should figure out a reliable decoder ring for all these tongue-tied men and women who are so smart and able and frozen at the stick to the point of not communicating worth a damn. SOmething that can parse obscure gestures, translate hearts and see through obsessive reluctance. Wotta concept!!

That would really put a new look on the international situation!! Just imagine -- real communiucation between men and women!! Holy Moly!! Revolutionary!!

A

A

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: SharonA
Date: 27 Aug 02 - 05:25 PM

*sigh* Did I not caution against a generic gift for a fifth date? (...especially after he gave you the rather personalized gift of treats for your beloved kitty two dates ago...) Oh well, nobody listens to me in the 3-D world, either.

Anyway, I truly am sorry to hear of your troubles. Hope things go better for you the next time 'round. Who knows, maybe Kitty-Treat Man will come to his senses! If not, well, if you'll pardon the expression, that's the way the cookie crumbles.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,date free
Date: 27 Aug 02 - 06:57 PM

Ahh, SharonA, somehow I doubt a less generic gift would have avoided the present situation! I'd give you the rant I've been giving out today, but it'd just be wasted bandwidth.

Suffice it to say that I am very careful and observant - and despite that I was completely fooled this time around!

So, anybody got an unmarried male relative that needs a date? :-D

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Amergin
Date: 27 Aug 02 - 07:55 PM

well date free....it is their loss...

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Amos
Date: 27 Aug 02 - 08:32 PM

Being careful and observant is a two-edged sword, DF -- sometimes the observing ruins the experiment. Remember the old physics lesson about Schrodinger's Ball? :>) Just an observation FWIW.


Best regards,


A

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,df
Date: 27 Aug 02 - 09:02 PM

Can't say I remember that lesson, Amos.

Though it does seem that no matter what I do, I should have done something else. Gets tiresome after a while, you know? :-)

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Amos
Date: 27 Aug 02 - 09:50 PM

Sure, I understand. My instinct under such circumstances is that there's a hidden, uncommunicated standard you're being measured against, but not told about, which makes it quite unfair and really, IMHO, not worth messing with!!


A

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Yorkshire Tony
Date: 27 Aug 02 - 11:14 PM

Am I the only single man reading this thread?

You sound a nice thoughtful person DF. If you want to send me a PM we can at least console each other by e-mail.

Best wishes

Tony

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,df
Date: 28 Aug 02 - 10:17 AM

Thanks Tony. Perhaps I'll do that.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Amos
Date: 28 Aug 02 - 10:59 AM

Uhoh!! The vibes are starting!! Look out world -- another madcap Mudcat mooshy story is in the making!! :>)


A

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Dave Bryant
Date: 29 Aug 02 - 11:21 AM

A rather shy bloke was dating a rather worldly girl. One evening he appeared with a huge bunch of flowers. The girl was very touched by this and told him to wait while she went into her room. A minute later she called him in, and he found her naked with her legs wide apart. "This is for the flowers", she said. "Oh", he said, "Don't you have a vase ?".

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Amos
Date: 29 Aug 02 - 11:51 AM

In your dreams, Davey!! LOL!!

A

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,JTT
Date: 29 Aug 02 - 12:07 PM

Dating/Not, your fate has cleared the way for a nicer fella. One so nice that you won't have to wonder what he'd like for a present, you'll have a thousand ideas just from thinking about him.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: EBarnacle1
Date: 29 Aug 02 - 12:17 PM

I just got this in an EM from another friend: Love like you've never been hurt and Dance like no one is watching."

I believe the reference a few threads back is to Heisenberg's uncertainty principle--You cannot observe both the speed and location of a particle. It is similar to the rule I try to get my friends suffering from GHAB [Gotta Have a Boat] to follow. Have someone else give you the pros and cons, then decide for yourself. Keep on goin', gal.

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: GUEST,date free
Date: 29 Aug 02 - 12:36 PM

LOL Dave Bryant!

Thanks for that statement, JTT. I can only hope it comes true someday!

Well, guess I'll have to start being proactive about this. I've never been one to initiate contact with men but maybe now is the time!

Of course, there's always the possibility of remaining single, which might not be such a bad thing...

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Amos
Date: 29 Aug 02 - 01:01 PM

Dear Date Free:

Being single is certainly not a bad thing!! Consider that it is our natural condition at birth, and it takes millions of dollars in TV advertisements and cultural bigotry to get us to even begin thinking about changing it! Allowing yourself to be suborned into a Hallmark mindset might conceivably be a serious error, unless you seriously want to settle for the careful construction of a life-long companionship. You pay a lot for such a decision, including putting up with laundry and another person's farts under the covers. You also get a lot in return. It is a matter of how you place your values in designing your life, of course.

However if you intend to continue the experiment, by all means go jump a few bones, and see if it succeeds -- at least it will be an adventure!!

Doctor Abby

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Irish sergeant
Date: 29 Aug 02 - 03:39 PM

DF: It sounds like Mr. Kitty treats just doesn't appreciate a good woman. Chin up and keep plugging. Cookies on the fifth date would have done it for me! (Actually if I make it to a ffth date a rubberband would do.;~) ) have a good week and good hunting. There is some lucky guy out there that just doesn't know it yet. Neil

Subject: RE: BS: Dating Gift Ideas
From: Mr Red
Date: 29 Aug 02 - 05:38 PM

avoid ties - wrong message - associations. Socks - not.
If all else fails buy the drinks.
My reaction is one of circumspection. Don't start something you can't sustain. The slow-down of these offerings has to be handled carefully.
Joy liked my singing (no honest) and holding hands etc - call me a cheapskate but I have sustained that out of preferrence for 18 months and don't see it changing.
Mind you I bought her a mobile phone on day 3 so we could conduct textual intercourse daily.