BS: Lonely Hearts Club

Subject: RE: BS: Lonely Hearts Club
From: kendall
Date: 14 Jan 07 - 07:48 PM

That's my girl!

Subject: RE: BS: Lonely Hearts Club
From: gnu
Date: 14 Jan 07 - 08:46 PM

Hahahahaha. I think I'll stick to singing in the shower. And, like I said, I can drop the soap anytime cause there ain't no one to pick it up but me.

Lonely is the subject.... well, I have been lonely for a long time, but, I was lonely for a long time when I was married. I would rather be lonely alone than married and alone.

Subject: RE: BS: Lonely Hearts Club
From: bobad
Date: 14 Jan 07 - 08:54 PM

"Lonely Boy"
(Paul Anka and Joe Dowell)

I'm just a lonely boy
Lonely and blue
I'm all alone
With nothin' to do

I've got everything
You could think of
But all I want
Is someone to love

Someone, yes, someone to love
Someone to kiss
Someone to hold
At a moment like this

I'd like to hear
Somebody say
I'll give you my love
Each night and day

I'm just a lonely boy
Lonely and blue
I'm all alone
With nothin' to do

I've got everything
You could think of
But all I want
Is someone to love

Somebody, somebody
Somebody, please
Send her to me
I'll make her happy
Just wait and see

I prayed so hard
To the heavens above
That I might find
Someone to love

I'm just a lonely boy
lonely and blue
I'm all alone
With nothin' to do

I've got everything
You could think of
But all I want
Is someone to love

Subject: RE: BS: Lonely Hearts Club
From: SINSULL
Date: 14 Jan 07 - 09:30 PM

bobad, you left out the Whoowhooos

Subject: RE: BS: Lonely Hearts Club
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 14 Jan 07 - 10:32 PM

gnu, you make an excellent point.

I was becoming invisible in a house full of people before my divorce. When my kids started treating me the way of their father's example, I knew it was time to get out and go back to being a full fledged human being again. It worked, and I got out before we hated each other. Getting involved with someone else again would probably drive that man nuts, because I'm not in any rush to complicate my life with a territorial relationship or marriage.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Lonely Hearts Club
From: Anne Lister
Date: 15 Jan 07 - 03:52 AM

Both my husband and I had been long-term single, neither of us had married before or had live-in partners. We're both perfectly fine human beings. But if you're anti-relationships and not looking for a partner you wouldn't be likely to participate in a lonely hearts thread in the first place, unless you were trying to make life difficult for people!

As to the differences - yes, you might well get it wrong on line with the wrong mental image of the person, but you're more likely to know more about the way they think about stuff and less likely to be distracted by good looks, fashionable clothes and so on (and alcohol) than if you meet someone in a night club. Many relationships founder when two people suddenly realise the attraction between them was mis-placed, many people have told lies when meeting face to face as well as on line - meeting on line is pretty much like meeting in real life. Hey, it IS real life!
But it's good for people who, like us, met zillions of people in a working life without necessarily being able to sort out (a) who might be interested, (b) who might be available and (c) who we might have the courage to approach. Night clubs and singles bars were not the kind of territory we would have been comfortable in, and as a woman I found I was in huge demand and in total control when I came to "audition" all my potential men.

Still think I won the first prize, of course.

Anne

Subject: RE: BS: Lonely Hearts Club
From: Linda Goodman Zebooker
Date: 15 Jan 07 - 09:02 AM

I was in a marriage for almost 30 years, that was emotionally distant for more than half that time. Now I've been separated for several years with no thought of going back. I'm finding that contemplating the notion of a romance is very appealing, but I know that I don't want to commit to a real relationship again. My nature is to slip into 2nd rank when I'm in a relationship and I can only be my own person when not tied to somebody else. But before marriage, the end point, the driving force, of dating was to find that one special someone and get married. Not that it's not what I'd want, and I know it up front - dating would seem like a very strange thing to do. And yet I'm drawn to the idea -- I think it's how we are wired.
--Linda