BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Ebbie
Date: 25 May 09 - 01:47 PM

I never filched anything from a store- one of the things my mother got firmly across to her kids: Don't touch that - it's not yours.

When my daughter was four and "safely" out of the store, she opened her pocket wide to me and said proudly: See? Inside was nestled a canday bar.

I first explained the crime then took her inside to tell the clerk what she had done and promise never to do it again. She didn't cry but she was a bit pale around the gills. She has since said it made a great impression on her.

But sometimes the store's reaction is counter productive, I think. When my nephew was four he picked up and pocketed an apple from a display outside. I saw it and followed the same procedure I had used with my daughter.

But the grocer said, Oh, that's all right, Mama. He can keep it.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Bill D
Date: 25 May 09 - 02:00 PM

Many years ago, I put a slug in a public scale...and silently stole a weigh.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 25 May 09 - 02:29 PM

hmmmm. Now remembering the history lessons in elementary school and how strongly they focused on the honesty of George Washington and Abraham Lincoln with the legend making tales. Then the dismanteling of those legends in college and uni history.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Fortunato
Date: 25 May 09 - 02:33 PM

Kendall,

I just saw this; I haven't been signing on much lately.

I'm sorry bad stuff is coming your way. I the docs can fix you up.

Hang in there.

all the best,

chance

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: TRUBRIT
Date: 25 May 09 - 06:18 PM

when my eldest daughter was about 11 we lived in England and we let her and her friends go off to Guildford on the train. We were about half an hour away. When they got back it was clear to me that something had happened.....thye had stolen make up from Body Shop. I called all the mums involved and told them what had happened anx drove penny back to Guilford to the store and the manager said ....IT DOESN'T MATTER .....! I looked at her and said it certainly does matter and pointed out she had the right to call the police -- my daughter went white = gave back the makeup and never stole again - to my knowledge

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Seamus Kennedy
Date: 25 May 09 - 07:56 PM

When I was a kid, I prayed every night for God to bring me a bike, but he didn't.
Then I realized that God doesn't work that way.

So I stole one and asked him for forgiveness...

(I stole that bit from Emo Philips).

Attaboy Kendall!

Seamus

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Janie
Date: 25 May 09 - 08:27 PM

We are talking about lessons in integrty, here. (Boy Kendall, has this thread morphed - but not unrelated - one of the reasons you are so beloved is because of your integrity.)

Thing is, integrity is multifaceted, and it seems to me, is no longer the norm. Because it is no longer taught within the context of the greater society. Cash register honesty is important, but it is a small piece of a much bigger pie. These days, what is legal is considered to be integrity, but integrity goes well beyond what is legal. Business values that posit that the only loyalty is to the stockholder or corporation lack integrity, even if the corporation stays within the letter of the law.

Remember when it was considered bad sportsmanship to boo the opposing team? Remember when you were in high school and technical fouls would be called if the crowd behaved badly to distract a basketball player at the foul line? IMO, those were lessons in integrity. Integrity engenders respect for others and the efforts of others, as well as moral respect for the self.   

Remember when a kid would actually tell on other kids who were drinking, smoking, stealing from other kids or teachers? It might have pissed some kids off, but it was generally accepted that the kid who told did the right thing, and they were not likely to be completely ostrasized or beat up in the alley because of it (at least in many places.)

Teaching integrity, because it was broadly defined and understood, was not such a hard task for my parents. I'm finding with my own son that I do not have the support of the general mores of society to teach him. That is what Deborah and others are encountering when the store says "nevermind." My guess is the store is so shocked that a parent is holding a kid accountable that they see that as the point, not recognizing that they also need to hold the child accountable, by offering some sterness and then forgiveness, instead of just "that's OK."

My son has had two i-pods taken at school after he carelessly left them in the library or classroom, and his lunch gets taken at frequent intervals. He simply accepts this. Kid's attitudes are "finders-keepers." No effort to figure out who left the equipment and return it to them. He recently found a PSP at school and was going to keep it, consistent with what his peers do. When I say it I asked where it came from. We had a heart-to-heart, and he decided he needed to put up posters saying he had found a PSP. It was soon returned to it's rightful owner. Curiously, after that, one of the I-Pods he had lost was returned to him by another student who decided after three months that maybe it wasn't just "found."

It is a mystery to me that parents do not notice, or do not inquire when their kids suddenly have these small but expensive electronic devices. Why do they not insist the kid make an effort to return the device to the student who carelessly left it somewhere at school? (Disclaimer- my son attends a small, Quaker school with less than 160 students attending the upper school [9-12])

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: SINSULL
Date: 25 May 09 - 08:47 PM

I am considered a bit of a joke at work because I don't accept the concept of "found" when it comes to wallets, jewelry, and expensive electronics.
The norm appears to be finders keepers... Maybe I have lost or had stolen too much not to feel the loser's pain. I don't understand how anyone could sleep at night after finding a diamond ring and turning it into a gift. But I guess I am old.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Dorothy Parshall
Date: 25 May 09 - 08:51 PM

Janie: lecture on integrity well done. Sounds like the same Q school, however, from which my son graduated in '81. Hand knit sweater and backgammon set gone.

Kendall: I understood there is clear evidence that prayer works. So does a positive attitude and you surely have that. And with all these friends...!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Art Thieme
Date: 25 May 09 - 09:21 PM

Kendall,
Sure is good to hear the latest better news you folks got. In '97 I was diagnosed with prostate cancer. Slow growing. Opted to watch and wait with periodic PSA tests.---Result: No sign of it at all -- in the last 12 years. I'm with Dan on this. Go with the flow. Be a realist. Like Art Buchwald, eat whatever you want to eat. Enjoy the time. If not for that commodity, we'd have to do everything all at once! ;-)

Love to you and Jacqui,

Art & Carol

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: EBarnacle
Date: 25 May 09 - 09:59 PM

Definitely keep on keeping on...and eat more garlic.

Remember that when you eat garlic every day before going to sleep, you will be prepared to greet the angel of Death. When he taps you on the shoulder, simply turn toward him and say "Yes?"
(courtesy of the Two Thousand Year Old Man)

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Art Thieme
Date: 25 May 09 - 10:21 PM

...and if you do eat all that garlic, and the train comes along and you get on board, in the Pullman Car........................................................................................they will be sure to give you a WIDE BERTH!!!   ;-)

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 26 May 09 - 07:16 AM

I'm going in for a CT scan on my neck at 10:30 today. If this evil thing hasn't spread I'll be going back to Albany to have it removed. Then, back to the original problem.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: maeve
Date: 26 May 09 - 07:31 AM

We'll be here, Kendall.

Love,

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Bobert
Date: 26 May 09 - 07:42 AM

With you in spirit, Capt'n...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: SINSULL
Date: 26 May 09 - 07:45 AM

Isn't that "back to the original program"? Keep us posted.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Rapparee
Date: 26 May 09 - 08:26 AM

Well, dang. I guess we're gonna run that interview in June anyway.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 26 May 09 - 12:40 PM

You better run it. I put a lot of effort into that interview, told the truth a couple of times.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Ebbie
Date: 26 May 09 - 12:48 PM

lol

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: gnu
Date: 26 May 09 - 02:45 PM

Continued thoughts and, ah, fingers crossed.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 26 May 09 - 04:24 PM

Holding you in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Cool Beans
Date: 27 May 09 - 11:25 AM

I'm very sorry. My thoughts are with you, hoping for the best.
Marty

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: maeve
Date: 27 May 09 - 12:21 PM

Checking in on a rainy day, Kendall. How's that fancy car of yours doing, anyway?

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Genie
Date: 27 May 09 - 12:46 PM

Hey, Kendall,
Just saw this thread, read your early posts and felt devastated and pissed at the unfairness of it all. Then I was delighted to read your more recent news from your wonderful doc. Haven't read through the whole thread, but I see now we're up to confessing childhood crimes. I'd say that's a great sign. ; )

Hope you can kick out this latest demon in short order.

Genie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 27 May 09 - 01:04 PM

Where my post go?

Late, but here.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: DonMeixner
Date: 27 May 09 - 01:46 PM

I'm glad to read that you don't need my help on this Captain. My record with goodluck bracelets has been mixed. About 50/50. But I have one with your name on it if you decide you need it. They are good looking bracelets in of themselves so maybe you need one to improve your already adequate looks. Then again maybe you don't.

Anyway, The news is good and I am pleased. Let me know if I can be a help.

Don

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 27 May 09 - 04:20 PM

For some reason, I have a hard time wearing a bracelet or a wrist watch. They irritate my skin. However, Jacqui volunteered to wear the one you made for me, Don, so I can admire the workmanship without the irritation.
Now, the wedding ring you made for me is ok, no irritation at all.

Do you know what a wedding ring and a tourniquet have in common?

They both cut off circulation.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 27 May 09 - 07:28 PM

As they are supposed to do.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: maeve
Date: 27 May 09 - 07:39 PM

Well said, Kendall.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Janie
Date: 27 May 09 - 09:58 PM

When do yo get the CAT scan results?

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 28 May 09 - 07:13 AM

Today or tomorrow, I hope. Not knowing is a bitch.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 28 May 09 - 07:19 AM

Breathe in....
Breathe out...
repeat

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: maeve
Date: 28 May 09 - 07:26 AM

Good morning, Kendall.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Tinker
Date: 28 May 09 - 08:02 AM

Patience is a virtue.....
Kendall is virtuous ,,,,,
Kendall is patiennt ?????


Waiting more or less patiently with you


tinker

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 28 May 09 - 08:52 AM

ditto

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: ClaireBear
Date: 28 May 09 - 12:20 PM

I don't happen to think Kendall's such bad news...

(Waiting with you. And know what I did the night before your doctor contacted you with the potentially better news? I prayed. So there.)

Kendall, I was playing your CD in the car yesterday as I drove a young neighbor to her train. After about 1/2 hour of sitting quietly and listening to "Mrs Ravoon" and all, she turned to me and said "You know? You have some very peculiar friends."

Here's to peculiarity.

Claire

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: gnu
Date: 28 May 09 - 01:56 PM

I don't find him pahticulahly peculiah, just thaht Maine drawl thaht sets his storytellin off so well.

I do a number of accents poorly. You shouldn't hear my Scots.... it's terrrrrible!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 28 May 09 - 03:48 PM

sitting here, wishing the news is such that there is no need to continue this thread but to start a new one titled


Kendall's good news or Whew what a relief!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 28 May 09 - 05:05 PM

I'm still waiting for the results of the CT scan.
In the meantime, I am enjoying a bottle of Glen Morangie Scotch. When that's gone, there is a bottle of Glen Fiddich.

As the spider said, "Time is fun when you're having flies."

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: gnu
Date: 28 May 09 - 05:06 PM

That's the Kendall I know!!!! Hahahahaa.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Pistachio
Date: 28 May 09 - 06:52 PM

Glad to know there's a Scottish Ingredient/Anasthetic in your First Aid cabinet.
I don't know you but having read this thread - and others over the years - I offer my best wishes. Hope the Glenfiddich helps. It was my Dad's favourite medication!
Hazel.x

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Janie
Date: 28 May 09 - 06:55 PM

A toast to you, and to your lovely lady love!

Cheers!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 28 May 09 - 08:58 PM

WHICH ONE? hehehe

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Tinker
Date: 28 May 09 - 11:43 PM

All of us dear one.... by now I figure you've had enough to toast us each and everyone....

And the dearest one gets to tuck you in tonight...

Sweet dreams dear ones

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Micca
Date: 29 May 09 - 04:44 AM

Timk, its his "Nearest and Dearest" she may not be the nearest but she is certainly the dearest :o)



Yeah I know Jacqui.............Micca, Celler!!!!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 29 May 09 - 05:12 AM

The cellar aint bad these days, I've all but stopped the water leaks.
All my vintage wines like it down there.Especially the Wild Irish Rose, 2007.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 29 May 09 - 05:22 AM

But his Wild English Rose prefers to be upstairs!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: SINSULL
Date: 29 May 09 - 07:56 AM

nd Seamus prefers to be at Aunt Mary's.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 29 May 09 - 08:34 AM

And, at my age it's nice to be anywhere.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: maeve
Date: 29 May 09 - 06:27 PM

My day is winding to a close. Apple-rhubarb pie may be made tomorrow, Kendall. Have a quiet night!

maeve