BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)

Subject: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: jacqui.c
Date: 21 May 09 - 07:58 PM

We've just got back from the hospital where Kendall was due to have further treatment to his damage vocal cord.

When the surgeon was about to put more filler in the right vocal cord he noticed a lump on the left vocal cord. Further examination showed that there was a growth on the left vocal cord which seems to be a carcinoma in situ. A deep biopsy has been taken and we will, hopefully, get the diagnosis by the end of next week.

In all probabilty this will entail further laser surgery to excise this new cancer and then further reconstructive surgery to try and improve the voice quality, which will deteriorate as a result of this surgery.

Needless to say, we are both devastated by this latest news, as is Kendall's surgeon, who has become a friend.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: SINSULL
Date: 21 May 09 - 08:02 PM

So very sad, Jacqui. This is such bad news. Tell the Captain he is loved and treasured.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 21 May 09 - 08:05 PM

Damn.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Jeri
Date: 21 May 09 - 08:06 PM

I'm so sorry. Big hugs from me and ditto what Mary said.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: kendall
Date: 21 May 09 - 08:06 PM

Definition of time: Just one god damn thing after another.
To hell with it. It's obvious that all the good thoughts and prayers are woth zero.Thanks anyway, you tried and I do appreciate that.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Maryrrf
Date: 21 May 09 - 08:21 PM

I am so sorry to hear this.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Amos
Date: 21 May 09 - 08:21 PM

Gawdammit, Kendall...you keep opening your mouth as wide as you can and all these demons fly in. I thought they taught you to keep yoah mouth shet back on the farm. Gawdammit.

Hell widdit. You know you are as loved as a feller can be and still be decent, so buck up and heal that one, too. You're bigger than it is.



A

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: curmudgeon
Date: 21 May 09 - 08:30 PM

Do, please, read   this -- Tom

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Deckman
Date: 21 May 09 - 08:30 PM

damn damn damn. bob

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: meself
Date: 21 May 09 - 08:32 PM

Hang tough, man. We'll be waiting here for you ...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Hollowfox
Date: 21 May 09 - 08:56 PM

%$@#. My thoughts are with you.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: katlaughing
Date: 21 May 09 - 08:57 PM

It's obvious that all the good thoughts and prayers are worth zero.

I know you are angry and feel devastated, but think..if you had NOT had all of those good thoughts and prayers, you might not be here. There are always worse alternatives and always more than an "either/or"...third and fourth alternatives, etc.

The Kendall I know and love has a strong faith in the Great Spirit, as do I. You can make it through this, if you choose and with Jacqui there I think you'd better choose or else! (Hope that got a small grin out of ya, at least.

Enough...I give thanks for your complete healing and send lots of {{{{{HUGS}}}} and love to you both.

(curmudgeon, thanks for the link. I'd heard that, too!)

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Severn
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:05 PM

A truly sad thing to hear. I wish him only the best getting through these new trials, and my thoughts and hopes will be with him.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Mrrzy
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:09 PM

Aw man. Woman and child, too. So very sorry.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Charley Noble
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:13 PM

Shit!

Someone had to say that.

And yes, Kendall, I'll mobilize some positive thoughts your way as well.

Charley Noble

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Ron Davies
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:15 PM

Aw, Cap'n.   You can coast on your laurels for a while. And, after the 7 years or so bad luck you've had it must be time for the worm to turn. When you get your voice back you can branch out and sing the blues--you've sure earned the right.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Beer
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:26 PM

Some folks say this with no problem on the internet. Many are friends whom I have never met. And thought I seldom use profanity the first words whispered as I read this was "FUCK".
Adrien

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Neil D
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:26 PM

My God, WTF?!? SO sorry to hear this news. We know that there is nothing we can say. My sister is having a radical hysterectomy in the morning. They will take lymph nodes to see if hers has spread. We completely understand the "where do the good thoughts and prayers get ya?", but we gotta keep hoping that sometime something has to let up. PLEASE!!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Barry Finn
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:27 PM

Sorry to hear this news Kendall. I wish there was something I could do or say.

BArry

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Ebbie
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:29 PM

DAAAAMMMMMMN

Katlaughing makes a great point- if it weren't for the intangibles...

And we do know that at least some bodily functions are affected by thought. Biofeedback is in common use.

And since we know that much, we also know how much more we don't know.

But, as I said, DAAAAAMMMMMN

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Beer
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:32 PM

I think I'm also a little upset because my close friend and co-worker for 35 years was diagnosed with lymphoma cancer 4 weeks ago and he finally told me yesterday. Peace (Bruce), if you come on this thread you met him with a beer in his hand two years ago in my garage. His name is Grant.
Sorry to side step for a minute but I'm sure you understand.
Adrien

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: ranger1
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:38 PM

Oh, crap! Well, tell that nodule to get itself gone or Jacqui will kick its ass.

(((Kendall)))

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Dan Schatz
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:39 PM

You're right, Kendall. The prayers and good thoughts and wishes don't change anything. You still have cancer, you still have to deal with the damage, and it still stinks, completely.

All the prayers and the good thoughts and the best wishes do is tell you that you don't have to go through any of this alone. They tell you that as much as we all love your singing and storytelling, that isn't why we love you. (In some cases, actually, it's the leather jacket, but I for one like you as a person.) They won't take away a single ounce of suffering, but they can let you know that the suffering isn't all there is, and there are those among us who will walk with you - Jacqui most of all, but she is not the only one.

It's bad news, yes, and I'd be thoroughly pissed if I were you - at life, at God, at the universe, at my body, at whatever and whomever I could find to be pissed at. You've earned the right.

But on the other side of despair and anger is love - and you are deeply loved by more people than you know.

You don't need to get there today, or even soon. It's all right. Our love and friendship will be wait for you.

Dan

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Tinker
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:42 PM

What Kat said.
.... and Kendall the thought of you tends to bring out the best of my positive thoughts and hugs and yeah, I'd rather be able to fix it too.... (I tend to go down that road too often myself.) But, the chorus tonight seems to be Dammmn.... followed by a really big hug.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: artbrooks
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:43 PM

Damn!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:47 PM

Kendall, read the article Amos linked to. I've been listening to that series all week, and now I see the reason why--it was to chime in as one more voice to say you can get over this, just take one day at a time and don't waste time looking at what you had, look at what you have now and what you want to have in the future. That's all we can ask of you.

In the meantime, your friends at Mudcat and elsewhere are keeping you in their thoughts and prayers, and there isn't a damned thing you can do about it. Except get better.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Janie
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:54 PM

Kendall and Jacqui,

I can and nothing to what has been said so far, other than to strongly second Dan's post. Prayers and good thoughts may not make a disease go away, but love does matter. You know that but that knowledge is just hidden from you right now by what I understand is in many ways devestating news, particularly in view of your expectation that you were going to take another step toward restoration of your voice.

I think you know just how much you are loved, both of you. And Kendall, you have Jacqui at your side now, unlike the first time cancer was discovered, to walk very, very closely beside you.

When you are ready, let this precious knowledge exist beside the anger and deep, deep disappointment.

I am grateful that the carcinoma appears to be in situ and fully contained. I love you for who you are, not for your voice.

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Rapparee
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:56 PM

Oh, goddamn sumbitch batshit ratsass and I'm about to get down to some real cussin' so I'll leave off before I offend someone.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: olddude
Date: 21 May 09 - 09:57 PM

Please get better , I am so so sorry to hear this ... anything I can do you know how to get a hold of me Captain ...
anytime

In my prayers
what a bad time you good folks have gone through lately
please take care of yourself

Dan

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 21 May 09 - 10:12 PM

Hey, Kendall, I just got off the phone with Kat. We discussed your case--and concur--less time for you in the cellar now. That's one good thing that comes of it.

SRS (takes off Pollyanna costume and heads for the door)

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: ClaireBear
Date: 21 May 09 - 11:21 PM

Oh Kendall, oh Jacqui, cancer is such a bitch.

Never give a bitch the time of day.

I love you two. Be strong, yet again.

Claire

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Bill D
Date: 21 May 09 - 11:26 PM

well, Dan Schatz & Janie said about everything I might have. People DO care, no matter "Murphy's Law 147Z.128"
"Whatever hits the fan is not distributed equally."

You've had your share and part of 6-8 others. Let the docs do their thing and maybe it IS time for some better news soon.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Celtaddict
Date: 21 May 09 - 11:54 PM

Hate to hear it.
What Dan said.
And the love and hugs are here whether you appreciate them just now or not.
But we will be glad to hear you again, even if it is in a whisper.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Nancy King
Date: 21 May 09 - 11:55 PM

Well, jeez, Kendall, what rotten news! You've had more than your share over the last while, and there's not much any of us can say or do it mitigate that. But we DO love you, and keep you in our thoughts. Hope it helps.

Nancy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: KT
Date: 22 May 09 - 03:01 AM

This is so lousy. I can only imagine how deflated you must feel. Disppointed is the tip of the iceburg. AND, I AM continuing to hold you both in positive, loving thoughts.
Love you both~
KT

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Gervase
Date: 22 May 09 - 03:13 AM

Don't you bloody DARE get defeatist about this, Morse!
It's crap news, but it isn't necessarily the crappest. Meanwhile, click this at regular intervals.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 22 May 09 - 03:50 AM

I second everything said - especially Dan's comment about your jacket (I once had a leather jacket that my friends loved!)

hugs to you both

sandra

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Keith A of Hertford
Date: 22 May 09 - 04:08 AM

All here thinking of you two today.
Hoping for better news,
keith.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Herga Kitty
Date: 22 May 09 - 04:26 AM

Have only just seen this thread, and can only echo what Keith (and others) have said.

Love and hugs to you both (and to family)

Kitty
xxx

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: bfdk
Date: 22 May 09 - 04:31 AM

So sorry to hear your news, stay strong.

A big hug for the both of you,

Bente

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: alanabit
Date: 22 May 09 - 04:33 AM

What Beer said.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Anne Lister
Date: 22 May 09 - 04:44 AM

Whether it's worthless or not in practical terms, we're sending love and,yes, healing thoughts across the ocean. Might not do any good, but at least it's something we can do rather than just feel totally helpless.

Words don't do it, really, do they?

Anne

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Bryn Pugh
Date: 22 May 09 - 04:47 AM

Sorry to hear this. Love and hugs from Erica and me.

May the Great Mother and the All Father heal and comfort you both.

So mote it be.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 22 May 09 - 04:49 AM

Bugger. Bugger, bugger, bugger, bugger, bugger.

I'm not going to stop thinking good thoughts for you though, just because you're a grumpy old coot. Miserable bastards like you just keep going and going!

((hugs))

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Leadfingers
Date: 22 May 09 - 05:15 AM

One day , as I sat musing , sad and lonely , without a friend , a voice came to me out of the gloom saying " Cheer Up ! Things could be worse!"
So I cheered up , and sure enough , things got worse .

Hell Cap'n , words fail me , so I fall back on Bad Humour !

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: maeve
Date: 22 May 09 - 05:31 AM

Kendall and Jacqui,

Life does not get easier. Listen to Dan. Anger makes sense right now. Keep the door open for the return of joy. Because I said so.

I love you both,

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: gnu
Date: 22 May 09 - 06:11 AM

Oh my.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 22 May 09 - 06:37 AM

....excuse me (leaves the room, goes outside, kicks some rocks and shouts and swears for a minute).

OK, I'm back. And having gotten that off my chest, I'm still determined to send light and love and healing thoughts and prayers to you, dear friend. I'm with Kat (as usual) on this one.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Hawker
Date: 22 May 09 - 06:40 AM

Not a lot I can add, except NOT FAIR! Love you both, holding both your hands and im not stopping thinking about you both either! You dont deserve this, and like many here I only wish I could carry this heap of shit for you!
Hugs, Lucy x

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Bobert
Date: 22 May 09 - 07:28 AM

Nuthin' left to add... It's all been said...

Listen, ya'll... Ol' Bobert gonna have a bigass talk with the Bigass Big Guy this evenin' and see if He will get this thing sorted out...

Until then, ya'll take care and know that you're in my thoughts...

((((BIG HUG)))

Bobert