MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)

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From: wysiwyg
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 11:53 AM

I was thinking of you both while I worked on "Boulevard in Heaven."

Much love,

~Susan

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From: Lonesome EJ
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 11:52 AM

Strength to you and yours, Janie.

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From: Janie
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 11:51 AM

Thanks so much to all of you.

Daddy stepped gently out of life about an hour ago.

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From: catspaw49
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 10:09 AM

Hospice and Home Health................Amazing people doing amazing work. It takes a very special person............

I think of you often Janie and hope that the best thoughts and prayers from this place are as helpful to all of you as it has been many times for me.

All my best .....


Pat

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From: SINSULL
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 08:38 AM

Being allowed to die in the peace of one's own home with loved ones around is a real gift. Stay strong Janie.
Mary

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From: maeve
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 08:22 AM

Good morning, Janie. We have a bucket loader full of snow coming to us tomorrow, but Spring will again poke up her pretty head.

There's a special feeling of grace those helpers can bring to the home-in-need, underneath an outward ordinary appearance. Let them be kind to you. They will absorb some of your family's kindness and wisdom and love, as well, multiplying all three to be given to another family, and another. You are their recharging station, just as they are your gracious conductors and porters on this energy-rich, solar powered train ride.

Love to you,

Maeve

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From: Bill D
Date: 30 Mar 11 - 10:13 PM

There are good people out there....they often make it possible for folks to spend their last days at home. I often wonder how they develop the strength.

Thinking of you, Janie.....♥

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bobert
Date: 30 Mar 11 - 10:06 PM

I remember the folks who came into our home whe n my late wife,Judy, was dieing... I mean, they knew what to do with her and with us... I remember playin' Scrabble with one of them on our dining room table...

But they also knew everything else from nursing to funeral arrangements and this was all done with the most dignity, grace and love...

I hate it that your dad is at this point in life but I am so comforted knowing that he is also being comforted...

God bless the folks who do this... I mean that from the bottom of my heart...

And tell Dad that this ol' hillbilly right there with him... Guess the only thing that would make it better is fir me to be sittin' with him and be able to pass a shot of good Wes Ginny shine over to him...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 30 Mar 11 - 09:55 PM

The world of home health aides is a universe previously unknown to us. Pretty awesome, most of these lovely, compassionate women who make a poor living helping families tend to the dying.

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From: wysiwyg
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 06:38 AM

(((Janie)))

prayerfully,

~S~

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From: Maryrrf
Date: 24 Mar 11 - 02:36 PM

Best wishes to you, Janie, during a difficult time for your family.

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From: Mrrzy
Date: 24 Mar 11 - 02:26 PM

I'm so gald you reached out to us, Janie, and I hope we help! The 'cat has always been there for me... I hope we can do even better for you.
I'll be thinking of you.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 10:04 PM

For me, the ability to write long posts with readers in mind makes journaling possible. Have never found it effective to write just for myself, just to "hear" my own voice. I can not begin to say how many times in the last month I have typed and edited long posts to this thread, read them, gained clarity, solace or perspective from them, and then deleted them as much too personal, egocentric or revealing of that about myself I don't really want held up to public scrutiny.

Thanks for being here. Your care and attention matters in ways and gives a gift you may not always be aware you are offering that is in addition to your cherished responses to my asking for care and concern for my parents.

Janie

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From: ranger1
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 12:57 PM

Janie, you and yours are in my thoughts.

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From: jacqui.c
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 12:27 PM

Here and thinking of you all Janie. Please give everyone a hug from me.

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From: katlaughing
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 10:14 AM

I give thanks for an ease of passing in Divine time, may it be soon. This or something better for the highest good of all concerned. So mote it be.

Just one note, it seems sometimes, as in the case of my mom, some folks don't let go until alone, even for a short time. My mom waited to let go until she was alone for the night in hospital. We think she didn't want to put us kids through the actual passing. My sister had just left her and got home when she got the call. Speculation on our part, but I've heard similar when working as an aide in a nursing home, etc.

Lots of hugs and loving thoughts to you and your family, Janie. It's a tough path.

luvyakat

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From: olddude
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 09:09 AM

Janie
In my thoughts heart and prayers my friend

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From: Bobert
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 09:07 AM

Well, this ol' hillbilly is right there in spirit with dad and I hope he feels me and others there 'cause we'll lovingly walk him right to the door where the Big Guy will welcome him into the Kingdom... And there he will be without pain and be filled with peace...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 08:30 AM

You are always in my thoughts and prayers, Janie. Hard times indeed.

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From: fat B****rd
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 07:03 AM

I'm sad to hear this, Janie. Please accept my best regards and take care.
Charlie in Dunfermline.

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From: VirginiaTam
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 03:46 AM

There is so much sadness in the Mudcat family these days. Yet when facing sadness it so good to have some family at arms distance. Knowing they are clumping together and all wishing and hoping and praying for best for their brothers and sister here.

Adding my best wishes to you and your family.

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From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 02:04 AM

sending good wishes to you & your family, Janie

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From: Ebbie
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 01:03 AM

A friend of mine who owned a nursing home said that she had observed that many old people have a certain bulldog quality to them, which makes it hard to finally let go.

As KT wrote in a lovely song of hers, Changin' of the Seasons: "like the last leaf on an Autumn branch comes a time you must let go."

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From: ClaireBear
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 12:11 AM

Oh, dear Janie. Sending love, blessings and release.

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From: Nancy King
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 12:08 AM

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts, Janie.

--Nancy

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 22 Mar 11 - 11:23 PM

Hard times. Precious times.

A common story. The ordinary warp and weave of what it means to experience life and love. But it happens to be my family's story right now, the headline news among a very small circle of people.



Good thoughts, prayers, energy, mojo, any little tidbit you might have to spare for a stalwart old man dying, and a stalwart old woman walking with him as far as the path allows.

All of us hoping now the path will be short, and fearing it will not be.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: olddude
Date: 07 Oct 10 - 09:28 AM

You got my prayers my friend
always

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From: wysiwyg
Date: 07 Oct 10 - 09:27 AM

Thanks for the update, Janie.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 06 Oct 10 - 11:22 PM

We will be very, very fortunate if he lives to see the redbuds bloom come spring, but you are right Amos. Our Dad would greatly enjoy spending a few hours listening in at the Getaway.

He has always been too inhibited to make music himself. Had a good voice, but was afraid to use it, even in the shower. He has always loved accoustical music, however. He was who brought home the Kingston Trio albums that were my introduction to folk music. From the time Annie learned to change smoothly through three chords and we three sisters learned to harmonize just a bit, he was often asking us to come into the living room and put on a little Hoot for him.    Even now, if Annie is practicing fiddle in some corner of the house, Dad will stop what he is doing and wander into where ever she is to listen, and on the rare occasions Annie and I are there at the same time, it is guaranteed that if we don't get around to doing a few tunes on our own, he will get around to asking us to play "just a couple of songs."

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From: Bobert
Date: 06 Oct 10 - 10:47 PM

What Amos said... Get him registered and tell him that he's in BobertsBluesBand... Bring whatever... A 2 quart pan an' a wood spoon do fine...

B~

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From: katlaughing
Date: 06 Oct 10 - 10:25 PM

I had no idea Little Jimmy Dickens was still around! So good that your folks got to see that!

{{{{{HUGS for ALL o'YA}}}}}

luvyakat

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From: Amos
Date: 06 Oct 10 - 10:20 PM

HEll, he should put the next Getaway on it, honey. You can bet we would take good care of him.


A

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 06 Oct 10 - 10:11 PM

Dad got roped into being evaluated for a clinical trial being conducted at Vanderbilt. I'm sorry about that, for my sake. It brings back intrusive memories of our older sister's hellish last 5 months of life from the adverse effects of a bone marrow transplant when that was an experimental treatment.   As I have said previously, however, it is his call to make.

This came up quite suddenly, and Darlin' Annie cancelled out of the Getaway last minute to drive them to Nashville, TN for the evaluation. The neat part is that my Dad has loved country music since country music was invented, and for years listened to the Saturday night radio broadcast of the Grand Ol' Opry like it was his religion.   Annie took them to a show there last night. I just got off the phone with him, and he is floating on air! They all had a grand time. His favorite was 90 year old Little Jimmy Dickens, but he loved it all.

If he were the type to make a bucket list, I am pretty sure going to the Opry would be on it!

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From: Amos
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 04:30 PM

Bumpy times are always a heart-strain; you have my best flitter coming your way for comfort and support among your family. Chin up!


A

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: GUEST,Janie
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 04:27 PM

We have absolutely no cause to complain.

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From: VirginiaTam
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 04:05 PM

hugs and good thoughts refreshed from me to you. pass them along where needed.

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From: SINSULL
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 04:02 PM

Janie,
I lost my mother very suddenly when I was in my early 20s. No time to say goodbye or talk through our differences. Cherish the time you have and the gift you've been given.
Much love,
Mary

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From: catspaw49
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 07:01 AM

"We are spending as much good time together as a family as we can."

Well it doesn't get much better than that does it? My parents have been gone since the late '60's so it makes me sorta' envious. Sometimes these threads give back more than we send..........thanks for that Janie and all my best to all of you.

Spaw

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From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 04:11 AM

sending more good wishes to Janie's family

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From: katlaughing
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 05:18 PM

Thanks for checking in, Janie. You are always in my heart and thoughts...you and your folks and Sun.

luvyakat

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From: Bobert
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 05:18 PM

"Hey" again to both of them from a fellow hillbilly...

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: GUEST,Janie
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 03:46 PM

Nothing new to report. We are spending as much good time together as a family as we can. Mom and Dad again commented on how knowing others hold them in their and prayers is a support to them, so I thought I'd bump the thread back up for a little bump up for them.

Thanks.

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From: wysiwyg
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 08:54 AM

What Maeve said-- near or far, posting or not.

May the Mojo be always with you, Janie.

~Susan & Hardi

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From: maeve
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 08:44 AM

We're still. here and keeping y'all in thought and prayer. Lots of digging-in-the-garden thoughts, too.

maeve

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From: Bobert
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 08:41 AM

Yeah, what's up???

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From: jacqui.c
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 06:58 AM

How are things going, Janie?

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From: Janie
Date: 25 Jul 10 - 11:25 PM

Refresh.

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From: Genie
Date: 06 Jun 10 - 12:51 AM

Again, Janie, I'm so glad your mom and dad have you (which is no accident) to help them navigate the sometimes treacherous waters of the health care system, and that you all have the love and support of the good folks at Mudcat, among others.   It is, indeed, hard to have your care overseen by a doc who knows that "the toe bone's connected to the foot bone, the foot bone's connected to the ..., etc." and can keep in mind the various ailing body parts/systems and their interrelatedness, but that is so important. When you, the patient or family, can "connect the dots," so to speak, that can be invaluable.

I won't bore you with the details, but I've been wrangling with a similar sort of specialist-disconnectedness myself recently and really appreciate having a doc who can and will look at me as more than just skin or just a hip joint or just a liver, etc.   So I do hope you and your dad have been able to find a primary care physician who can look at him as a whole person.   And even if that doesn't happen, I'm so glad you're there for your dad.

All I can offer is what so many others are, that is love and prayers and positive energies and visualizations of your dad and mom and you healthy and happy.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Janie, Janie's dad & mom}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

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From: KT
Date: 05 Jun 10 - 03:00 PM

Thinking of you, Janie, with love.

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From: Tinker
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 08:24 PM

Janie..... Annie..... I'm so glad you have each other. Wish sometimes that it was easier to cross cyberspace into that 3-D real time so hugs and such could be give first hand.

Blessings and Light all around

Tinker