BS: Kendall's biopsy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Deckman
Date: 26 Sep 04 - 04:27 PM

SINS .... NO, I do NOT want to know! Bob

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: SINSULL
Date: 26 Sep 04 - 04:13 PM

"and you just don't look good naked anymore"

Kendall,
I have been in your house. There are two mirrors - one in the bathroom and a big one in the living room. I have a hard time picturing you balancing on a futon or the toilet seat trying to get a good look at your butt. How do you know it's not wrinkled? More importantly, how does Amos know it is?
Inquiring minds want to know.
SINS

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Megan L
Date: 26 Sep 04 - 03:54 PM

Aw bairns i missed this with being down south at hospital with my stubborn bissim. You are Both in our thoughts and prayers. Jacqui write it in the biggest thickest book you can find and keep hitting him with it till he gives in, mine came up with a beaut while in hospital "If i had known i was going to put you through all this I would never have married you." yeah right like they have any choice :)

Of course its not wrinkled Kendal my dear, it is just gently folded at regular intervals.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Amos
Date: 26 Sep 04 - 03:38 PM

But you are as stubborn as a double-crossed mule on a bad hair day, Kendall. Listen to them as cares, why doncha!! :)

A

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: kendall
Date: 26 Sep 04 - 03:28 PM

My ass is not wrinkled

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 26 Sep 04 - 09:45 AM

Of course we understand the loss--losing other parts of our functionality is a shock, surgical removal of an organ or a limb, but our eyes, ears, and voice, those are our interface with the world. Losing any one of those makes the other two work harder and means things will never be exactly the same again.

Kendall, your friends and loved ones are urging you to choose life. Make the choice that to you and your doctors gives you the best chance for a long and curmudgeonly life. And if you have a few options to choose between with the same relative outcome, then you're fortunate and can choose to give yourself the most latitude. As a friend told me when I was making a similar choice regarding cancer surgery, "don't choose based on recuperation from the surgery, choose based on recovering from the cancer."

Good luck!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: bbc
Date: 25 Sep 04 - 11:16 PM

jacqui, you stated it very movingly. We have been telling him & telling him, but, as you noted, he is a tad stubborn. We all know he is more than his voice; he's the only one who still needs to be convinced of it. Kendall, I hope you get what you want, but I hope even more that we get to keep you!

best,

Barbara

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: jacqui.c
Date: 25 Sep 04 - 04:25 PM

I was very attracted to this guy before I even met him - purely from the things he wrote - and have only ever known him since he has had a problem with his voice. I love Kendall for what he is now - not for the voice I never heard until AFTER I knew that I loved him. I must admit that when I listened to Beginner's Luck for the first time I cried because I could go somewhere toward understanding his loss then, but he makes me laugh and I know that I have found someone I want to spend my life with, whether or not he can ever sing again. Kendall knows this because I've told him so but he can be a stubborn b****r! I would prefer Kendall without a singing voice to no Kendall at all.

I'm glad that others are now telling him the same thing - he still has a lot he can do - storytelling can still be done, even if he can't sing, he can play a mean guitar and he can write another book of tall tales.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Dani
Date: 25 Sep 04 - 03:58 PM

Trust Mick to make me spit out my bean and cheese burrito....

I've got a minute between lunch and dinner messes/shifts at the restaurant, and checked in here. I'll be thinking of you this weekend, and on Monday. Your wait reminds me of that obnoxious poster, "Any asshole can handle a crisis, it's the day-to-day living that grinds you down!" Insert 'waiting', right? I'm with you. Don't mind pain, as much as waiting and wondering.

And, Kendall, listen to these folks. It may be your voice that YOU'D miss, but ask the rest of these folks what they're worried about.... Janie? Tinker? Jacqui? Ladies? Anyone?

Dani

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Tinker
Date: 25 Sep 04 - 12:26 PM

Ya know, most of Mudcat has never heard your voice. But we continue to hear you in every short and pithy post. We expecct to continue "hearing" you. Now I'll just go out to the garden and call SINS and see if we can dream up more ways to embarrass you with our love.... Beware.... lots of "simply" postitive stuff is coming your way.   

Love Ya,

Tinker

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: annamill
Date: 25 Sep 04 - 11:51 AM

Go easy my friend. I am sending out love and good thoughts. Don't cut down the whole tree because one branch was struck by lightning. Cement up the broke spot and grow another branch.

There's a whole lot of you to love.

Annamill

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Big Mick
Date: 25 Sep 04 - 08:41 AM

Thanks, CapriUni, for saying what I was about to. Some times this crusty old son of a misbegotten deck ape doesn't get that we don't love him because of his voice. It's him that we care about. Quite frankly, I could care less if he sings and tells jokes, writes songs and passes me notes with great lines, or if he tattoos them on his wrinkled old ass. It is only important to me that I still have him as my friend, and mentor.

All the best,

Mick

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: CapriUni
Date: 25 Sep 04 - 08:08 AM

Tut! Losing your singing voice may be your big concern, but our main concern is losing the whole of you.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: kendall
Date: 25 Sep 04 - 04:45 AM

Having cancer is not my main concern. Losing my singing voice is the big one.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: bbc
Date: 25 Sep 04 - 12:02 AM

bummer. this, too, shall pass.

best,

Barbara

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: GUEST,Augie
Date: 24 Sep 04 - 10:33 PM

Hang tough Kendall
I have, as I'm sure many Mudcatters have, spent a damned eternity waiting for biopsy results to come back, and I have like others, when the news finally came, heard the disembodied, uneasy voice on the other end of the phone saying, "I'm sorry,but...".
My prayers-if thats ok- go with you.I truly hope things check out alright, but if they don't you can take some solace in the notion that if a wussie like me can hold off the big C for almost 5 years (and counting) then anybody can.
All the Best

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Kaleea
Date: 24 Sep 04 - 08:49 PM

Chin up, Kendall, we're all sending you positive thoughts & prayers! Cat-itude!!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: kendall
Date: 24 Sep 04 - 07:59 PM

I had my CAT scan today, was supposed to meet with my ENT for the results but he had to put me off until Monday. Three more days to agonize.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Hollowfox
Date: 21 Sep 04 - 07:15 PM

Blast it, this will teach me not to goof off on reading the 'Cat! I'm so happy that you and Jacqui are to wed, and who better to officiate than Sandy Paton? I'll raise a glass for you both on that day, and who knows, maybe one or two before that. Oh yeah, about that other detail...well, the @#$%-reduction candle series starts up in about an hour when I get home from work. Be well, Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Fortunato
Date: 21 Sep 04 - 02:46 PM

Hang in there, Kendall.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Roger in Baltimore
Date: 21 Sep 04 - 09:04 AM

We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.

Roger in Baltimore

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: jacqui.c
Date: 21 Sep 04 - 07:26 AM

Bruce - I asked Two Bears to work on this some time ago - hopefully that will lessen the problem and make the resolution easier. Little Hawk and Daylia were also going to do some work as well.

My neighbour in England is a healer and also is sending vibes so we've got a lot of help, plus all the good thoughts from Mudcatters everywhere.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: beardedbruce
Date: 20 Sep 04 - 11:34 PM

belt AND suspenders....

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 20 Sep 04 - 11:31 PM

He doesn't need Two Bears--he has Jacqui to work on him. That's the real cure! ;->

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: KT
Date: 20 Sep 04 - 09:52 PM

Kendall, I heard the news from another catter before I saw this thread. You have no idea how many times you crept into my thoughts during my set that night, . Still pulling for you, Kendall.

May all of the caring that's evident in this thread, be a source of strength for you. Hang in there, Kendall. Thinking of you and Jacqui as you weather this storm together.

KT

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: beardedbruce
Date: 20 Sep 04 - 08:55 PM

Give any thought to asking 2 Bears to work on you? No idea if it would help- but would it hurt?

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: bbc
Date: 20 Sep 04 - 08:52 PM

Waiting--it seems like what we spend most of our lives doing. Hang in there. Keep busy & don't think too much about things you can't change. Great advice, huh? Easy for me to say, but I do sympathize.

best from NY,

Barbara

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: kendall
Date: 20 Sep 04 - 02:48 PM

I just got an appointment with the laser expert in Boston, 17 friggin' days after the biopsy. And that is just a friggin' follow-up!Sometime down the road I'll get the friggin' operation.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Noreen
Date: 19 Sep 04 - 06:17 PM

Shedloads of hugs and positive thoughts for you, Kendall, and for Jacqui.

Enjoy every minute of every day- worrying cures nothing!!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Herga Kitty
Date: 19 Sep 04 - 12:43 PM

Kendall, I'm rooting for you too! Best wishes, love Kitty xxx

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Emma B
Date: 19 Sep 04 - 08:52 AM

Just back from the wilds of the Alpujarras,(lots of mules but no computers); so sorry Kendall to hear your news belatedly
Mucha suerte y qué te mejores
un abrazo afectuoso

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: kendall
Date: 19 Sep 04 - 07:51 AM

Ahaaarrr Mike 'tis pleased I be that ye be thinkin' of the old captain.It's true I be sailin' into dangerous waters and may be caught on a lee shore, but damn my eyes the uncontrollable winds are plottin' me course and I can only pray for them to haul around and keep me from foundering. Aye...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Alaska Mike
Date: 19 Sep 04 - 12:23 AM

Arrggh, Cap'n. "Talk Like A Pirate Day" be's the right time to parlay 'bout this sad, mizzerble perdicament yer in.   Make sure yer sawbones tries all the pirate remedies afore splittin' yer gibbet. There's plank walkin', keel haulin', bilge dippin' just to name a few.

And don't ya go gettin' yer knickers all bound up in a bunch o'er this uncharted course ye seem to be on.   Yer a crusty ol' salt and ye've weathered many a gale afore this. So keep yer eye on the horizon and show yer lovely new shipmate how best to deal with rough waters.

Me and the little woman will keep a shore light burning brightly for ya along with yer many other friends. We'll share us a pint of somethin' dark and foamy when next we cross paths at the Getaway. Arrggh.

Pirate Mike

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Fortunato
Date: 18 Sep 04 - 11:28 AM

Kendall,

I don't know you nearly as well as you deserve, and it's going to take some years to remedy that. I hope to see you and tell some lies and sing some songs before to long. I asked the Great Animator to go easy on you from here on.

    chance

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Lanfranc
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 07:41 PM

Hi, Kendall and Jacqui

Our thoughts are with you both. You never know, the CAT scan might be encouraging, and radical surgery avoidable.

In the meantime, carpe diem, enjoy yourselves as much as possible. We'll keep the Millstream going 'til you get back over here - we're looking forward to some Jacqui and Kendall duets!

All the very best

Elizabeth & Alan

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: wysiwyg
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 07:34 PM

Prayer chain updated. We're pulling for you, both.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: GUEST,jacqui.c
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 06:43 PM

Hi all

Kendall has an appointment for the CAT scan on Friday 24th September - no earlier appointment could be found.

Thanks to everyone for all the kind words and encouragement - it is much appreciated by both of us.

We'll keep you updated.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: CapriUni
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 03:31 PM

Adding another string of curses and prayers... Other than that, I'm speechless.

How quickly can you get that cat scan done? It's not being able to answer that big "what if" that drives me so crazy...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Gorgeous Gary
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 03:19 PM

Sorry to hear the news. Hugs, best wishes and healthy thoughts!

See 'ya at the Getaway!

-- Gary

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: PoppaGator
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 02:45 PM

Kendall,

I've been meaning to send you an encouraging message about my own experience -- I've spent most of 2004 (since discovering a lump in my neck and visting a doctor on New Year's Eve) dealing with my own throat cancer, and I am lucky enough to be healing up nicely now and getting *almost* back to normal.

Now that I'm back from hurricane evacuation and have read this whole thread, I can see that you're facing a tougher set of choices than I had to confront. I'm not even going into any more detail about my own situation, which isn't that much like yours, after all.

I'll say this much: I was always aware of the support, prayers, etc., of many friends and family, and I was always able to maintain such a positive attitude that my doctors and nurses often commented upon it. Did my positive mindset help bring about my eventual recovery, or was I able to maintain that good attitude only because I somehow knew I'd come out of it relatively OK? Who knows? All we can know for sure is that faith and hope can't hurt, so you might as well conjure up as much as you can for yourself.

It's very encouraging to see that you're starting out on a new marriage at the very time that you have to confront this nasty disease. Staying hopeful and orienting yourself to the future rather than to the past is probably the very best medicine for you, so you seem to be on the right path. You've got plenty of good friends, all over the world, sending you all the positive energy they can muster. Hang in there, buddy.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Big Mick
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 09:46 AM

Cap'n, I have been in computer hell for nigh onto two months, and have only just gotten back and reset my cookie. I suspect when I wade through my email I will find one there too. This is the first chance I have had to read through a few threads, before heading off to play three cities in three days, the middle one with Seamus Kennedy.

This news sucks, and I must tell you that it makes me sad. I consider you a dear friend, and I wish I could take this away. You have been in my prayers as this has played out, and will continue to be. I remember being angry with you at how you were dealing with it a year ago. But I must tell you that when I read this, and the thread about you and jacqui c. getting married (that woman must be trying to earn her way into heaven by suffering on earth ...... hahahaha) in the face of this, I was so proud of you. You sure you ain't got some Irish in you somewhere?? It seems like a testament to the both of you that you are embracing this and working your way through. Often we cannot control the cards we are dealt, but we are in firm control of how we play them. I like the way you are playing these. It's a shitty hand, but you will play it well, with the assistance of a good partner. I can't wait to see you in October, and toast the happy event. And don't go getting pissy when I give the new bride a big hug and kiss. This is going to be a grand party. But I have one question. Can she throw a bowline?

Oh ..... and one more thing. "nervous as a Christian Scientist with a severed artery"? Where do you come up with this shit? Computer is back online less than a day and I have spit coffee all over the damned thing.

All the best,

Mick

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 05:35 AM

All my sympathy, Kendall. It's a tough call, but think on this: Our voice, or playing, is not what defines us. That's the job of brain, heart, personality, thinking. And Kendall will always be that - Kendall, a valued friend not for his voice or playing, but for himself.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Melani
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 05:09 AM

This really sucks, Kendall. Hang in there and be strong.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: fiddler
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 03:47 AM

Just picked up on this one as I have been very busy lately!

Oh Damm Kendall I can only offer mental and emotional support whatever your decision, I was lucky last time I was tested it was clear and only based on disposal utilities which whilst unpleasant are not as fundamental as the abilities you will have affected.

As I said above boy emotional and mental support completely and unequivicably (b*gg*r the spelling) given.

Andy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Teresa
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 03:24 AM

Kendall,

I've only met and talked to you in cyberspace, but I have enjoyed our conversations, and I feel I have gotten to know you a little. I'm sending my positive thoughts out to you and Jacqui. Hang in there, and keep on livin' and lovin'. :)

Teresa

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Deckman
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 02:56 AM

Question ...Do you have the title picked for your next book? Bob

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: GUEST,Pauline L.
Date: 17 Sep 04 - 02:51 AM

Kendall,

I'm sad that you got bad news but glad that you have the love of a good woman and the caring and support of a lot of Mudcatters to help you. Remember, we love your raspy voice but we love your life more. We'll talk, sing, play, and listen more at the Getaway.

Pauline

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Annie
Date: 16 Sep 04 - 11:05 PM

Kendall:

Well, this is not good news. My concerns and prayers are with you as you think through the choices. I'm sure you'll finally make the right decision.

Love ya, Annie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: Carly
Date: 16 Sep 04 - 04:36 PM

I agree with Charlie Noble; a second opinion is a good idea, especially when faced with such tough choices. In the meantime, I'm having frequent chats with the Lady Upstairs; I just hope She's paying attention! Much love to both of you, and I look forward to seeing you at the Getaway.

Carly Gewirz

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's biopsy
From: mooman
Date: 16 Sep 04 - 03:09 PM

Dear Kendall,

My sincere thoughts in your direction and wishing you every positive vibe for the difficult decision you have to make.

Very best regards and peace,

moo