BS: Boyfriend or husband

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 20 Jul 07 - 08:43 AM

So, not a shotgun wedding then! It sounds like you "groomed" each other on the internet instead.

MBSLynne, snap! Nessie and I also celebrate our "stepping out" together, rather than our wedding anniversaries (we got married twice, CoE and Orthodox, thanks to the intransigence of the Greek Orthodox Church at the time).

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: jacqui.c
Date: 20 Jul 07 - 07:19 AM

Kendall and I had to get married.

If I wanted to stay in the USA, that is. We met online in about September 2003, met in the flesh April 04 and married in October 04. Didn't have the chance to live together beforehand and did most of our courting online.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 20 Jul 07 - 06:57 AM

Well it was whether to be married or not.I don't think i will get married again,i think that piece of paper does make you commit to a long relationship rather than living together which my eldest brother has done since 1980.So that will be the way i would go next time.



Scooby

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: MBSLynne
Date: 20 Jul 07 - 06:43 AM

I met Ted at Sidmouth 1989, at which time I had been married for 8 months and already knew it had been a mistake. Never actually went back to the husband. The following Sidmouth I was pregnant and, of course, the one after that we took 7 month old Richard. Got married in January 1995 so we've been together for nearly 18 years and married for 12. Interestingly we never celebrate our wedding anniversary but only our meeting.

If you're asking whether one should get married or not, I personally don't see the point but it depends on the feelings of the individual

Love Lynne

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Cats at Work
Date: 20 Jul 07 - 06:29 AM

Jon and I won't have been married for 20 years this Oct 31st. We never really have been boyfriend / girlfriend but have known each other since the mid 1970's.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 20 Jul 07 - 06:05 AM

Oh all right....I met Manitas in November, 1986, outside the Elizabeth Garrett Anderson school, Islington. He didn't become a boyfriend until late 1989, and we were engaged 27 Jan 1990. Married 8 Sept 1990. It'll be 17 years this year. Don't get that for armed robbery these days.

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 20 Jul 07 - 05:50 AM

First clapped eyes on her November 1972. Smitten.
Finally got courage to ask her out 27 Feb 1973. Over the moon.
Lived together since Jan 1974. Bliss.
Married 25 August 1979. More of the same, paperwork made no difference.
Doing the sums says "6 years, 5 months and 2 days" between the two.
The real answer is more like Richard's: She still my girlfriend 34 and a half years later, and being 3 months younger, I am still her toy-boy.
May she toy with me forever.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 20 Jul 07 - 05:16 AM

MBS Lynne,
No he is a very quiet person,not know on the folk scene yet!!!!!.
Thanks for asking though Lynne.



Scooby.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Folkiedave
Date: 20 Jul 07 - 05:14 AM

Met at start of December, engaged Valentine's day - married August 5th - 35 years this year and never a cross word.......... well not since yesterday.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: GUEST,Son of a Teacher Man
Date: 20 Jul 07 - 03:43 AM

I've got neither, but it's not long to 30 years of married blips.

Where's tha bin lad?
I've bin courtin'.
Where didst go?
Down by t'beck.
What'd she give thee?
Nobbut kisses.
Was it worth it?
Was it 'eck.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Bernard
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 07:36 PM

My parents married in December 1945... they are now in their mid-eighties, and have celebrated 61 years of marriage (60 is Diamond, and they had a card from the Queen).

Now here's spooky for you... I produce 'Sounds of Folk' for Radio Britfolk and Oldham Community Radio (we started on BBC GMR), and the show's presenter is Mudcatter Alio... her parents married just a few days before mine, and both are still going strong!

Me? No, not so fortunate... my wife walked out over twenty years ago, and there's been no-one since... ho hum.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: katlaughing
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 07:20 PM

Here's me wondering if Scooby's still got Miskin Man AND the boyfriend???!**bg** (Not living on that side of the pond, I don't keep up.)

The third time was a charm for me. Met my Rog on April Fool's day when he asked me out the same day! We were both sure from the get-go but he is not to be rushed. (Well, he'd never been married!) The kids and I moved out to his mini-ranch that June, he told me he loved me that July and as soon as our mutual employer lifted their nepotism rules, we were married the following March.

He told me he wouldn't wear a ring because his work was too dangerous for losing fingers that way, but he showed me a beautiful tattoo of red roses on his right upper arm/shoulder and said he got them with the plan to put his true love's name there someday. A few years after we married, we went to a friend's wedding. Right after that, we went to the tattoist and he got my name in a beautiful script placed right under the largest blossom. I got a small vine with a tiny star and flower with his name in script on my upper right arm.

This last anniversary was our 27th.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 06:51 PM

And there was me thinking this was a thread about which to choose!!

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Mrs.Duck
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 06:51 PM

Geoff and I met one year in Whitby Folk week, got engaged the next, married the next and took two week old twins to the next. This year will be our 11th Whitby as a couple and we've been married for nine of those years.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Georgiansilver
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 06:28 PM

I thought my marriage was great until we started sleeping in seperate beds...me in the marital one and her in someone elses!!!!!
Been much better off on my own as I can go to any folk club or festival I want, whenever I want and not have anything spoiling my plans.......one of the advantages of being single again.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Rapparee
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 06:23 PM

Well, actually, after I'd been hanging out with her for about three or four years I said, in my romantic way, "You'll have to let me know when you want to get married." And she said, "Fine, how about this Fall?" and I said, "Okay, how about October 11?" and she was all for it except that her mother nixed it, saying that I was not going to marry her on her birthday and only buy one present -- so we decided on October 6. And she called my mother with the news and said, "We're going to get married in October" and my mother paused and then yelled to my sister, "Martha! Pat's pregnant!"

She wasn't and we did and we've been living together ever since.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Uncle_DaveO
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 06:05 PM

On one Sunday, a while back, on July 13, I was enchanted to meet a personable and sightly young woman.

On that Labor Day, (I figure it as 48 days later), she said she'd marry me. She was a public school ("public", US style) music teacher.

"When shall we get married?"

"How about next summer?"

"Okay. Sounds good to me."

Still, as a few weeks went on, that seemed a long time away.

"That's so long! How about during spring school vacation?"

"Great!"

After a few more weeks or so, spring vacation seemed a long time away.

One night in late November, as we were talking, she asked if I REALLLLLY wanted to marry her.

"I'd marry you tomorrow!"

"How about Christmas?"

"You're on!"

So as soon as both of us were available for the Christmas break (me from the court, she from school), we were married, on December 21st. The longest night of the year. We were no fools!

Now some might think that was a thoughtless whirlwind courtship, and predict a brief married life. And maybe it will all go kerflooey pretty soon.

Maybe. We'll have to see. It's only been forty-three years.

Dave Oesterreich

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 05:13 PM

I met Karen on a Thursday night and proposed on Sunday night. Her friends all thought she was nuts (and of course she was) and pretty much got us to wait 6 months which allowed us to have a fun wedding with friends from all around the country able to come.......but we were both ready that Sunday night.

That's been over 20 years ago and the best ones of my life. Somebody said to us the other day that we were lucky to have married our best friends, not knowing how little we actually knew of each other at the start. But I think it is how James Dickey the author and poet once described it. His character said that when he met his wife he saw something inside of her...a tiny flame, small but brilliant in his eye. When he saw it, he married it...and so did I. I have no idea what that flame was or is but Karen has it and I see it today brighter than I did that Thursday night in Atlanta.

I wish the same for all of you.

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Mr Yellow
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 04:10 PM

seven year and no plans to be less than 5 miles apart. Aged relatives start to affect the decision.

Mind you getting her into yellow took 6 years - some things take time.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Becca72
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 03:57 PM

Sorry..25th wedding anniversary. Together a total of 30 years.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: mrdux
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 03:55 PM

We've been boyfriend and girlfriend for twelve years last week. We've been married for almost five of those twelve years.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Becca72
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 03:26 PM

Then there's my sister. She started dating my brother-in-law when she was 15. Married him when she was 20. They celebrate their 25th anniversary next month.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Little Hawk
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 03:22 PM

Amos, you are one of those shining examples that proves marriage can work for some people. Good on you!   ;-)

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Rapparee
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 03:11 PM

I've been living with the same girlfriend for, well, we'll be starting year 35 this October.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: MBSLynne
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 03:04 PM

I lived with one for 3 years, got married and we split up 8 months later.

Anyone we know Yas?

Love Lynne

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Amos
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 02:53 PM

In my case, about three weeks; that was 28 years ago and we are still laughing, and going strong.


A

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 02:28 PM

(That means a total of 20, not 12)

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 02:28 PM

Eight years. And as LH observes, divorced after 12. We were better off unmarried to each other. Better friends now after the divorce.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 02:25 PM

I was the boyfriend for 25 years!...

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Becca72
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 01:58 PM

I'll let you know if I every get past the "boyfriend" stage. One was 6 1/2 years living together and the other was 3 years living together but no walk down the aisle for me yet. Of course, I was perfectly happy just living together. Well, for most of it, anyway. :-)

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: gnu
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 01:48 PM

Now ya tell me.

Subject: RE: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Little Hawk
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 01:38 PM

Well, just one observation here. Some relationships that work great while unmarried seem to deteriorate noticeably soon after the marriage papers are signed...although, I'd have to add that that is not always the case. It all depends on the individuals, and how their minds work.

I think some people are better off not to marry. It somehow keeps them more motivated or something.

Subject: BS: Boyfriend or husband
From: Scooby Doo
Date: 19 Jul 07 - 01:24 PM

How long did it take from boyfriend to husband.It took me 18 months before i married Miskin man.Now i got a new boyfriend who i am taking each day as it comes.
Maybe he will come round the festivals with me you never know!!!!!.



Scooby.