BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Becca72
Date: 22 May 09 - 07:50 AM

Very well said, Dan. Thank you.
My own opinion is this sucks but we've dealt with worse. Kendall is a much loved father, grandfather, husband and friend voice or no voice.
I love you, Dad.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: SINSULL
Date: 22 May 09 - 07:58 AM

So...after a few Fucks! Shits! Sons of a Whore! and some tears, I settled down and realized that today is not a whole lot different from yesterday. The "What is": Kendall's voice is no worse than it was on Monday. Kendall may still get it back.

As to the positive thoughts not helping, I see just the opposite. Two months of looking for Ezra, comforting Meghan, and worrying 24/7 have taken their toll. This growth is at least partially due to all that stress.

So, for now, rant, rave, throw things. DO NOT kick Jacqui or the dog. Get all the frustration and anger out. And then we start over.

But not at the beginning - the experience you have with the first tumor puts you light years ahead on treating the second one. Let us know when to re-light the candles.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: catspaw49
Date: 22 May 09 - 07:59 AM

Dan came along and Janie and said what I was thinking as well. I see Bill and others, not surprisingly, agree with them too. If you didn't get it Kendall, then let me phrase it in a different way......

Fuck You...........

It don't matter a fat rat's ass whether thoughts and prayers heal or not. They are though, the tangible proof that you have loyal and caring friends who love you......and how dare you tell them otherwise? You have the right to feel pissed over the cancer and all but you have no right to tell these folks that they don't matter........because they do. And you know what? They obviously aren't going to let you remain in that present mood because it takes a lot more dumbass behavior than even you can provide to shake their love and friendship.

So wallow around awhile and then get up and apologize to those fine folks who love you for the man you are rather than anything you do, have done, or ever was. They don't care. They love you. I thought that any asshole could see that but I may have been wrong. All those good wishes and prayers are the proof of their love and care. If you can't see that or can't do that, then what you can do is kiss my ass.....and I just farted.

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Lox
Date: 22 May 09 - 08:29 AM

Don't give up mate.

I'll miss you if I don't see you around here.

You're a good man.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: MMario
Date: 22 May 09 - 09:17 AM

I opened this thread hoping and praying that a spambot had ressurected an old thread and I'd be reading posts from long ago...

Damn.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Dave Swan
Date: 22 May 09 - 09:27 AM

All best wishes for the best possible outcome.

D

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: topical tom
Date: 22 May 09 - 09:47 AM

So sorry, Kendall to hear such bad news. I'll keep you in my thoughts and, yes, even prayers. They can't hurt and they MAY help; what's to lose? Anyway, I wish you all the best. Hang on to hope.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: wysiwyg
Date: 22 May 09 - 09:49 AM

(((kendall)))

(((jacqui)))

Part of what makes the Captain the Captain is that he knows how to handle a storm.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: billybob
Date: 22 May 09 - 10:40 AM

Dear Kendall and Jacqui,
we have never met, but I feel I know you through mudcat, been here reading about your family and all the dreadful days you had to get through recently.The stress must have contributed to what is happening now.
You are very special to all your friends near or far, all we can do is send our love and keep you in our thoughts.I do know how devestating it is to get bad news and also the feeling of dread when you sit outside the doctors office every six months and hope that all will be ok this time.
best wishes from the UK
Wendy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Zany Mouse
Date: 22 May 09 - 11:33 AM

Only just caught up with this thread and I'm SSSOOOO sorry. I hear your views, Kendall, but I'm still going to do a working to send healing over the waves.

Blessings
Rhiannon and Mick

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: LilyFestre
Date: 22 May 09 - 11:46 AM

Lots of good thoughts coming your way.

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Sandy Mc Lean
Date: 22 May 09 - 12:35 PM

So sorry to hear this! Struggles never seem to end, but struggle on we must!
Best wishes for a positive outcome,
          Sandy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Azizi
Date: 22 May 09 - 12:44 PM

I'm still sending out Positive Vibrations.

-Azizi

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Mrs.Duck
Date: 22 May 09 - 01:11 PM

Bugger!
Duck love coming your way both of you. xx

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: mouldy
Date: 22 May 09 - 01:18 PM

Hell, Kendall, the measure of how much you are loved and respected is shown by the above people NOT giving up on the thoughts and prayers! I agree with all that's been said - and also sympathise with your knee-jerk reaction to the news you've just been given - but DESPITE that, we are continuing doing our bit by being there for you both, in spirit at least, so climb up onto all these good vibes that are coming your way, both of you, and let's have at this damned invader in your body!

Andrea x

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: jacqui.c
Date: 22 May 09 - 02:12 PM

Thank you all of you. I love you all.

I think that this hit us harder because we went to Albany on the hope that there might be some improvement to Kendall's voice as a result of the procedure. Those of you that have seen Kendall in the past few months know how much of an improvement there had already been. Instead of that improvement we were told that he could lose some of the voice he has now and that really hurt.

I think that having to tell Kendall the bad news when he was out of recovery was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. He still thought that the original operation had been carried out and the look on his face when I told him that it hadn't, and what Dr Shapshay had found, was one I never want to see again. We were staying at the house of friends fairly close to the hospital and had the house to ourselves as they were away overnight. That was a blessing as we both needed some space to deal with this.

Now he has to have a CAT scan of his neck next Tuesday and then wait for the results of the biopsy, we're told at the end of next week. In the meantime we're looking on the web to see what information there is and whether there have been any new treatments that might be a bit less invasive. We will both have our reactions, of course, but we will get past that and deal with what is.

The one good thing was that, if he had not had this procedure, this cancer was in a place where it would not have been easily seen - it didn't show up on the exam that Kendall had about a month ago. hopefully, because it has been found early, there may not be so much damage.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: kendall
Date: 22 May 09 - 02:16 PM

Spaw, you bastard! This is the first post of yours that has made my eyes leak.

Folks, I never said that you don't count. What I meant was, praying for someone else doesn't count. As the article Curmudgeon posted said, there is not one bit of evidence that prayers for someone else work.

Sure I believe in the Great spirit, but I'm a Deist. I'm mad as hell that it created tobacco, and that I got addicted to it.I quit smoking 13 years ago, and this appeared 4 years later. I'm tired. I can tolerate the despair, it's the god damn hope that's getting me.

There is a photo on our bathroom wall of a penguin covered in oil walking up the beach and the caption is: FUCK IT, I'M GOING HOME. I know just how it feels.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: gnu
Date: 22 May 09 - 02:24 PM

Well! At least there is a bright side, somewhat. And, with all the good wishes and Spaw to cheer things up, it's already taking an upswing.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: gnu
Date: 22 May 09 - 02:26 PM

Oh... there you are Cap'n. We all know you didn't mean ity that wat way, Kendall, but Spaw needs some kinda material to work with.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Jeri
Date: 22 May 09 - 02:31 PM

No, I don't think he does need material. I think he's mostly a 'self starter'.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: gnu
Date: 22 May 09 - 02:35 PM

I was alluding to the fact that it's pretty hard to find any fault with Kendall. Like the saying goes, "If ya gotta explain em, they ain't funny." I'll try harded in future.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: gnu
Date: 22 May 09 - 02:46 PM

Oops! I said "mean it" when I should have said "say it". Kendall was quite clear.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: DougR
Date: 22 May 09 - 03:00 PM

So sorry, Kendall.

DougR

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: open mike
Date: 22 May 09 - 03:04 PM

here's wiching for a good report..
since it has not been biopsied
yet perhaps it could be bening!

It is time for some good news for
this family....hang in there and
take a deep breath and like the
frog in the heron's mouth
NEVER GIVE UP!!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: Dan Schatz
Date: 22 May 09 - 03:06 PM

"{Prayer doesn't change things. Prayer changes people, and people change things." - Lon Ray Call

The trick is that the things that get changed might not be what you were expecting or asking for - though they may be what you need.

Dan

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: catspaw49
Date: 22 May 09 - 03:11 PM

Now that's more like it! And Kendall.....I have that same photo on our fridge!

And Jacqui.......What I said to Neil's wife Christina on another thread sorta' just fits here to you as well............

Much Love,

Pat and Karen (who suggested we need a "Sick Catter's Spouse Club")

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: katlaughing
Date: 22 May 09 - 03:20 PM

...things that get changed might not be what you were expecting or asking for - though they may be what you need.

Wise words, those. That's why I always end with "I give thanks for this, or something better, for the highest good of all concerned." That gets my little will out of the way and allows the Great Spirit to fill 'er up! :-)

Thanks, Jacqui and Kendall, for taking the time to post.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 22 May 09 - 03:36 PM

So sorry to hear this news. As if you haven't been swallowing great lumps of stress and sorrow over the last weeks, months. One wonders where cosmic justice is being dispensed.

Praying that this lump is one that will be easily dispatched and with little negative after effect.

Hugs to you kendall and to Jacqui and Becca. Strength and good health to you all.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: SussexCarole
Date: 22 May 09 - 07:05 PM

We're both so sorry to hear this news Kendall & Jacqui - our love and hugs to you both.

Carole & Andrew xxx

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: TRUBRIT
Date: 22 May 09 - 07:54 PM

Kendall -- ok, here's a deal--you can kick MY dog--she is a sweetie and won't nip you -- EVEN IF YOU WHIP HER. I hope to see you both tomorrow night.....

Let us all enjoy every minute of the time we have......................and long may it last.....

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: CapriUni
Date: 22 May 09 - 08:13 PM

Aw, hell!

(What they all said, too).

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news
From: GUEST,winterbright
Date: 22 May 09 - 09:53 PM

Yeah... what Charlie Noble said.

Enough, already, God!

Gotta pray, though... otherwise there's only beating your head on the wall.

Love to you both. Hold hands and take it one day at a time.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: My guru always said
Date: 23 May 09 - 05:10 AM

So sorry to read this. So many good words from Catters and loved ones here, especially Dan, kat, Janie and Spaw, made my eyes leak too! Sending love and hugs to you and jacqui and will keep up with the positive thoughts.
Hil x

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 23 May 09 - 06:10 AM

Becca, of course I expect that from you, but it's still nice to hear. I love you too, more than you know.

Trubrit, the only time I ever kicked a dog was when it attacked me.I could never kick Asha, but thanks for the offer!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 23 May 09 - 07:33 AM

Thanks, Spaw, for saying what I was about to say: thank goodness for Jacqui!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 23 May 09 - 09:07 AM

I just got this e mail from my E.N.T. who is treating me for this thing.

Hi Kendall,
You should definitely keep on fighting-this new tumor is localized and curable. I will be there for you- need to get the final Pathology report and find a time to remove the tumor. The bottom line is that you're going to be fine -I've gotten used to your wonderful sense of humor and need to keep you telling stories and working on your next book.
SShapshay

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Janie
Date: 23 May 09 - 09:18 AM

There ya' go!

Remember, "Life wasn't meant to be easy. It was meant to be life."

(don't know who I'm quoting, but it ain't meself.)

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 23 May 09 - 09:21 AM

If anyone ever had a better Doctor, I'd like to know who it was.
I only wish he had told me this before I left Albany.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: billybob
Date: 23 May 09 - 09:57 AM

Good news

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: gnu
Date: 23 May 09 - 10:11 AM

Just keeps getting better!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: GUEST,Jack Sprocket
Date: 23 May 09 - 10:25 AM

Good. Hope it doesn't mess up your voice too much. Get better and keep walking under ladders. Nil illegitimum carborundum.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: kendall
Date: 23 May 09 - 10:27 AM

Now I feel like the kid who yelled "WOLF".

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: katlaughing
Date: 23 May 09 - 10:39 AM

Wow, what an incredible doctor!

Crying Wolf is okay...esp. with the info you had to go on! I didn't realise this until I happened to see an old thread...you've been at this for nine years...long enough you can yell whatever you want and we will still be here for you and will NOT let you get away with too much!**bg**

luvyadarlin'

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Dan Schatz
Date: 23 May 09 - 10:49 AM

Nah. All that frustration, anger and pain was already there, and needed to come out. Now it has. This is good.

Dan

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: catspaw49
Date: 23 May 09 - 10:53 AM

Look, if you can yell "Wolf" then we can start doing away with these threads........So get the surgery and yell Wolf! If that's too simple, yell "Coyote" which is a bit like a yodel and even better....

Spaw (Seriously---that's some great news!)

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 May 09 - 10:58 AM

hooray - my immediate thought was that your new scar won't be on the scale of mine - a 10" scar to deal with a 1" cancer!

Having a good doctor is everyone's right, but some are better than others.

sandra (who also has an excellent doctor)

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Ebbie
Date: 23 May 09 - 11:11 AM

The people who love you dom't mind being cried 'Wolf!' to.(Is there such a phrase?) We'll be with you under the hurdles as well as over them.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: SINSULL
Date: 23 May 09 - 11:14 AM

Captain,
You didn't cry "Wolf". This was supposed to be a fairly routine surgery giving you your voice back. Instead it turned into more of the same old shit. At least this time, they know exactly how to treat it - no screwing around for a year with radiation, for example.
And a doctor who puts his diagnosis in writing! Wow. You're going to be OK. Now if we could only improve your disposition...
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: Micca
Date: 23 May 09 - 11:15 AM

Kendall, I held off posting to this mostly because everyone seemed to be saying what I wanted to say but better, but now that the "eastern sky seems to be lightening" I will say, we are pulling for you,we have been pulling for you, and will continue to do so, all of your friends and we are looking to a happy outcome even if only to hear your choice of colourful language when you are working around the place or cursing out those doctors!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's bad news (May 2009)
From: katlaughing
Date: 23 May 09 - 11:18 AM

100

and, just what exactly are you pulling, Miccadear?