Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Diva Date: 11 Dec 09 - 01:29 PM It will get easier and though the end my relationship wasn't my choice I eventually realised that he'd done me a huge favour and I have had so much fun with my pals since then..........be kind to yourself and keep busy Kathyxx |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Diva Date: 11 Dec 09 - 01:15 PM Wishing you all the best on this next stage Kathy |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Noreen Date: 10 Dec 09 - 04:02 PM not dull, Bill. You are all lovely people and these responses warm my heart xxxx |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Bill D Date: 10 Dec 09 - 12:44 PM Oh my! Sometimes life is just too complicated.... Best wishes for easing into the next stages... (gee--don't I sound like a dull philosopher?) |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: GUEST,Mr rEd Date: 10 Dec 09 - 11:02 AM Time to write songs........................ |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Acorn4 Date: 10 Dec 09 - 08:29 AM The folk "community" is really supportive when things like this happen. We've always maintained that there's far more to it than just the music -it becomes a bit of a family in a funny sort of way! |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Dave Roberts Date: 10 Dec 09 - 05:50 AM I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. It happened to me and it is awful, but it eventually brings greater compassion, wisdom and understanding. The phrase 'sadder but wiser' is very true. Very best wishes. |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: My guru always said Date: 10 Dec 09 - 04:16 AM Oh Sweetie!! Huge hugs for you, hope you can tread the right path!!! Lots of love, Hil xx Ps, Maeve that was lovely, what a star you are!! |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Bobert Date: 09 Dec 09 - 06:18 PM Yeah, it sucks but one door closes and another opens... Here's hopin' that the one that opens will make you look back at this as God's way of making your life better... But for now??? {{{{{BIG HUG}}}}} B~ |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Janie Date: 09 Dec 09 - 06:12 PM What gnu said.... |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Noreen Date: 09 Dec 09 - 05:58 PM These responses are just wonderful, thank you all so much. Much thinking to do, had lots of positive thoughts today and hope to be able to sleep tonight. xxxx |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: gnu Date: 09 Dec 09 - 04:23 PM "And if it's the right thing to do, which I know it is, why does it feel so horrible?" Simple... it is a loss on many levels. No need to go into all of them. Each is a loss and they all add up. Just remember one thing... if it is the right thing to do, better now than later. If, by some strange twist of fate, it's not, it will eventually right itself. No words can stem the feelings. Only time heals. In the meantime. take solace in another simple fact. Life happens and sometimes all we can do is wait for time to heal. Just don't be hard on yourself in any way... life happens... whether we like it or not. |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Crow Sister (off with the fairies) Date: 09 Dec 09 - 04:16 PM "Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: GUEST Date: 09 Dec 09 - 04:04 PM Hi Noreen, It's a grieving process, but it does get better. I met a lovely, kind, supportive man a little while after my marriage ended and we're still together. You never know what's round the next corner. It was a very tough time, but it was definitely the right decision. Hugs." [I copy & pasted this Guest message when I spotted it, as the moderators simply delete any and all anonymous posts] |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Leadfingers Date: 09 Dec 09 - 04:14 PM Sympathy Noreen ! |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: GUEST Date: 09 Dec 09 - 04:04 PM Hi Noreen, It's a grieving process, but it does get better. I met a lovely, kind, supportive man a little while after my marriage ended and we're still together. You never know what's round the next corner. It was a very tough time, but it was definitely the right decision. Hugs. |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Crow Sister (off with the fairies) Date: 09 Dec 09 - 03:39 PM Good luck with whatever changes you need to make Noreen. I vividly recall you singing Suil a Ruin (amongst others) at one of the Kent meets early this year btw! And noticing in particular your beautifully elegant ornamentation - very lovely. Hope you're still getting out singing? |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Barb'ry Date: 09 Dec 09 - 03:09 PM Take great care of yourself and I'm so sorry this has happened. Lots of love. Keep in touch xxx |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Paul Burke Date: 09 Dec 09 - 01:44 PM Fairly recently divorced myself after 25 years together. said Janie. I wish I had the courage to divorce myself. Soon may both of you recover. |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Mrrzy Date: 09 Dec 09 - 11:10 AM Here you are, dear. |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Mrrzy Date: 09 Dec 09 - 11:09 AM The right thing to do is often the horrible way, so you are strong and admirable for taking it! I have an old thread, called something like Miserable and singing about it, for when this happened to me, I'll try to find it for you, there were a lot of very helpful posts from this community there... {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{best of luck and fortitude!}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Date: 09 Dec 09 - 10:44 AM Oh, my dear one- so sorry. I've traveled this road. I did learn that the pain heals, the heartache eases, and you will grow stronger. Sing out the pain, my dear. love, Allison |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Bonnie Shaljean Date: 09 Dec 09 - 09:34 AM Thanks for reminding me of the Donne poem, Bryn - one of the most beautiful expressions of loss and sorrow in the language. It's the right time of the year for it, too. * * * A Nocturnall Upon St. Lucie's Day, Being the Shortest Day John Donne Tis the year's midnight, and it is the day's, Lucie's, who scarce seven hours herself unmasks The sun is spent, and now his flasks Send forth light squibs, no constant rays The world's whole sap is sunk The general balm th' hydroptic earth hath drunk, Whither, as to the bed's-feet, life is shrunk, Dead and interr'd yet all these seem to laugh, Compared with me, who am their epitaph. Study me then, you who shall lovers be At the next world, that is, at the next spring For I am every dead thing, In whom Love wrought new alchemy. For his art did express A quintessence even from nothingness, From dull privations, and lean emptiness He ruin'd me, and I am re-begot Of absence, darkness, death - things which are not. All others, from all things, draw all that's good, Life, soul, form, spirit, whence they being have I, by Love's limbec, am the grave Of all, that's nothing. Oft a flood Have we two wept, and so Drown'd the whole world, us two oft did we grow, To be two chaoses, when we did show Care to aught else and often absences Withdrew our souls, and made us carcasses. But I am by her death - which word wrongs her - Of the first nothing the elixir grown Were I a man, that I were one I needs must know I should prefer, If I were any beast, Some ends, some means yea plants, Yea stones detest, And love all, all some properties invest. If I an ordinary nothing were, As shadow, a light, and body must be here. But I am none nor will my sun renew. You lovers, for whose sake the lesser sun At this time to the Goat is run To fetch new lust, and give it you, Enjoy your summer all, Since she enjoys her long night's festival. Let me prepare towards her, and let me call This hour her vigil, and her eve, since this Both the year's and the day's deep midnight is. |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Morticia Date: 09 Dec 09 - 09:09 AM i'm so sorry, hugs and much love to you xxxx |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Bryn Pugh Date: 09 Dec 09 - 09:03 AM Dear Noreen, It won't always hurt like this. You are going through grieving ; bound to, when what might previously have been a loving relationship goes tits up. Give time time. It won't always hurt like this. Joy, Health, Love and Peace. Should you have access to a reasonable book of poety, try John Donne's "Nocturnal on Saint Lucie's Night". Erica and Bryn |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Stower Date: 09 Dec 09 - 03:14 AM Noreen, as someone who has been in this situation more than once, you have my every good wish. It does get easier. In the longer run, life also has a habit of springing some nice surprises, though that ray of sunshine will be hidden behind a very dark cloud at the moment. Be kind to yourself. Seek the company of good friends when you need them. Sending kind thoughts and good wishes. Stower |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Catherine Jayne Date: 09 Dec 09 - 03:06 AM Sorry to hear this Noreen. You are a strong woman and time heals. Hugs. |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Stilly River Sage Date: 09 Dec 09 - 12:08 AM Noreen, it does hurt like hell. If you were thinking about dieting, don't bother. If you're like many of us you'll one day look down at yourself and wonder that you don't blow away in a strong breeze. Broken up relationships will do that to you. But you do get over it, and you usually gain the weight back. It all takes a while. Keep your friends close by--they can be a huge help. SRS |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: maeve Date: 08 Dec 09 - 11:55 PM Noreen- When Singledom Beckons First there is winter; the pain and the grieving, Bitterest anger washed clean with your tears. Snow-swirling blizzards will bandage the wound. When singledom beckons the earth keeps its spin. Next will come planting; the seeds hold their harvest. Throw off your burdens and compost the fear. Seeds of tomorrow will grow in the warm earth. When singledom beckens, new spring can begin. Sunlight caresses the garden inside you. Fragrant wild rosebuds are blossoming here. Trickles of joy melt the ice-hobbled stream. When singledom beckons the song can begin. Maeve in Maine copyright 2009 |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Amos Date: 08 Dec 09 - 11:13 PM Ach, NOreen. My sorrow for any pain. We males are unruly, volatile, and full of conceits. Not always as smart as we pretend to be, either. So, even though the short term is full of momentary pain and loss, the chances are the long term is full of growth, new discovery, and fulfillment. The sooner you are free to find those things, the better. Free yourself at your earliest convenience. Warm regards, Amos |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: katlaughing Date: 08 Dec 09 - 10:19 PM {{{{{{Noreen}}}}} It will pass. luvyakat |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Janie Date: 08 Dec 09 - 09:46 PM I'm so sorry Noreen. Fairly recently divorced myself after 25 years together. Don't know what your circumstances are, but do know that it was very hard, and is still very sad, even though it was me who made the decision to end it. While I have never regretted the decision, I will always regret that it was necessary. Hugs, light and loving kindness to you. Janie |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Bonnie Shaljean Date: 08 Dec 09 - 09:34 PM One from me too. I don't know you, but I sure know what that feels like. Remember, it WILL heal. You will not always feel like this. Love from Bonnie |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Noreen Date: 08 Dec 09 - 09:15 PM Thank you, Mary. Much needed. |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Noreen Date: 08 Dec 09 - 09:14 PM And if it's the right thing to do, which I know it is, why does it feel so horrible? |
Subject: RE: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Maryrrf Date: 08 Dec 09 - 09:13 PM Oh I'm sorry to hear this. Whatever the circumstances, and even if it is necessary and for the best, ending a relationship is never easy. You'll get through it, and probably yes, you will be glad. But for now, hugs and white light are in order. |
Subject: Non-music: Singledom Beckons :0( From: Noreen Date: 08 Dec 09 - 08:56 PM In shock, not what I hoped and planned for, but seemingly no alternative. I'll be glad soon, I hope. Hugs gratefully received. |
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