BS: In the event of one's demise

Subject: BS: In the event of a demise
From: katlaughing
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 11:52 AM

First off, I AM fine...not planning on checking out for a long, long time, BUT I have finally done something I've been meaning to do for years. I have written a short message to be posted on the Mudcat in the event of my demise. I just wouldn't want to check out without telling you all how much I have loved being here.

So, I will forward a copy to my daughter and make sure Rog knows about it, too, to make sure it gets posted.

We had a thread, years ago, in which some of us agreed to be contact persons in case one of us became incapacitated and/or passed on. If anyone wants to write a "goodbye" post as I've done but are unsure of who might post it for them, I propose we offer that to one another.

I am aware some may find no need for this, but want to offer it for those of us who do. Thanks for your understanding.

kat

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: Jim Dixon
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 12:36 PM

Thanks for bringing this up.

Another helpful hint: leave a list of your passwords so that an appropriate person can update your web site (if you have one), access your email account, and send out an appropriate message to everyone in your address book.

I heard a story that a friend-of-a-friend died, and the only way my friend knew about it was that she looked at the person's Facebook page and saw that it was full of condolence messages from other friends! Even then, she had a hard time finding out what had happened, because the messages were more emotional than informative.

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: catspaw49
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 12:41 PM

Howzabout I tell you all right now that I love you all and now go fuck yourselves? Will that do katmyluv?


Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: katlaughing
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 12:44 PM

Only if you show me how, Peachesdarlin'!

Jim, thanks for the reminder. I do have my passwords listed for my Rog and/or kids.

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: Bill D
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 12:45 PM

I've got mine planned...but it's secret. *grin* I might should oughta tell 2-3 others besides my wife, and let them coordinate how to do it, just in case.

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: katlaughing
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 01:15 PM

Ah, Bill...I guarantee you, IF I go first and find I am able, I shall come back to haunt visit you and I won't be a figment of your imagination! Hahaha!

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: wysiwyg
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 01:24 PM

We had a thread, in the past, where people shared what they would want folks to remember. My contribution is there.

I ask folks not only to send me their contact info, but to title the PM "My contact info" so I can FIND their PMs. It's great to think people will back up their data, but people replace computers so much more quickly nowadays and not all the data always migrates, esp. if a disk crashes. For me, the info is safe and more accessible right here.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: SINSULL
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 01:27 PM

Bill,
Does it involve The Loved One and outer space?

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: Mrrzy
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 01:32 PM

Excellent idea. You are certainly a community I would want to notify.

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: ragdall
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 03:27 PM

Kat,
I've often wondered about how "online friends" could be notified if I ceased to be able to use a computer. I'm guessing that for most of us it won't be necessary because we will gradually use a computer less and less and fade away from the sites that are all important to us now.

I keep a recipe box full of cards with my registration information, passwords, etc. If that is ever destroyed, I'm hooped, because I can't remember that information.. I'd like to think that a family member would go through that box (there are only about 200 cards in it) and notify everyone, but in reality I doubt anyone will bother. My husband "wouldn't be able to figure out how to do it" and our children "wouldn't have the time".

Storing something on a site such as this seems like a good plan, but will the site outlive us with all the stored data intact? Hard to say. Will we even be using this kind of communication system x years from now?

rags

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: gnu
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 03:40 PM

Wrote mine about four years ago. Had to update it a few times. Meet new people. Get pissed at some you know and thought were your friends. Gotta do it again it seems.

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: open mike
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 05:16 PM

seems like i started a thread along this line just a few months ago..
I'll be damned if i can find it now. am I already dead,and i just don't know it??!! (I looked under "die" and "dead" but still can't find it...I guess i will have look under my name/handle and see all the posts i made...by then it might be a goner for sure...)

don't forget to also program your (cell)phone with emergency contacts
under the name ICE (In Case of Emergency)

if you are planning such things, might as well make out a will, too.,

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: open mike
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 05:42 PM

o.k.after searching 1,185 messages i found it
here
how to make sure survivors notify Mudcat

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: open mike
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 05:44 PM

perhaps if a post is made to facebook,
the news will get to a lot of folks
quite quickly...

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: gnu
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 06:30 PM

Indeed. Metchosin. Case in point. Such a wonderful person. Sigh.

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: katlaughing
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 09:25 PM

om, thanks...sorry I missed your earlier thread. Years ago we had one where several of us agreed to be contact folks for family of whichever of us might be gone, but I don't remember what I called it. It was back in 2001 or so. Oh, well, it'd be mostly out of date anyway.

FB is a good idea for quick dissemination.

rags, good questions, but I've heard Max say over and over, the Mudcat will live on, so to speak, even beyond his time here, or something like that. I didn't mean to actually store something here, but if you mean in a thread, then yes, I've found it to be an excellent "diary" if you will, of all kinds of events, etc. I'll bet your husband and kids might surprise you, too!:-) Or, maybe your grandkids. I know my Morgan would want to make sure Mudcat knew.

Thanks, folks,

kat

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: Bill D
Date: 13 Sep 10 - 09:44 PM

"Does it involve The Loved One and outer space?"

nawwwwww.... it's more about The Befuddled Ones and Inner Sanctum

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: olddude
Date: 14 Sep 10 - 06:50 PM

People would be debating, name calling and arguing about your real meaning for 500 posts or so until someone realized you had passed. Then there would be 500 more posts debating if you really passed away or simply was in a transient state of consciousness

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: katlaughing
Date: 14 Sep 10 - 07:15 PM

Ya know, oldude, you and Spaw may just be right. Howza 'bout I take a cue and just post it now:? Naw, on second read, I think not...there's things in there that don't want telling, for now.**bg**

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: kendall
Date: 14 Sep 10 - 07:20 PM

I'm not worried about this because I know that there are those who will know I snuffed it before I know!

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: Bobert
Date: 14 Sep 10 - 08:04 PM

Define "demise"... Me thinks that there are a certain minority here who may allready be into that demisin' stuff... I mean, I don't have to mention anyone by name, mind you...

As fir me??? Some days I feel on the "post" side of the stuff and others, ahhhhh, knockin' at the door...

No matter??? Seein' as others have come forth with their partin' shots, ahhhhh, sentiments I recdkon that I might as well, as well...

Let's see... First of all I loves all the Mudwomenz... I don't cre what shape ya'll come in or nuthin', ol' hillbilly loves you!!!

As for Mudmenz??? I loves lotta of 'um... No, I loves 'um all, too, tho some are knotheads and terribly misguided... You know, like Sawz and BB... But, sniff, I loves 'um, too... I actually like bb even tho he is, ahhhhhhh, mentally ill 'er kinda that way... Sawz??? No kinda about it... He's the poster boy...

But the all important question is do I love LH's "freinds"??? Chongz??? I donno??? I know that I don't like him much... Cost me my shot at being President... Shane??? Okay, he's lovable and likeable, too... Can't spell 'er talk good like me but he tries... Yeah, me and Shane outta get together some time, get drunk and talk trash about LH...

Who else??? Oh yeah... MGibson??? Hmmmmmm??? Hard to love a guy like Nartin... Hard to even like a guy like Martin... So maybe I'll just have to come up with another category fir him that don't involve "hate" 'cause hate is a bad thing that eat you up...

BTW, yeah... I think I'll put together my Mudburg Will and tell the P-Vine to post it should my demisin' get worser...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: Leadfingers
Date: 14 Sep 10 - 08:17 PM

Dont worry about me ! I decided a LONG time ago , I Aint Going !!

Subject: RE: BS: In the event of one's demise
From: GUEST,^&*
Date: 15 Sep 10 - 07:26 PM

In the event of one's demise
One must hope that someone wise
Will have sufficient nous
The news for to diffuse
And inform the Mudcat clan
That they've lost another man
Who did nothing but attempt
Casual ignorance to pre-empt
By supplying words and meanings
To whatever people's leanings
Caused them aye to go and seek
All of seven days a week
And tried not to keep them long
Circumnavigating songs
Which have roamed the whole world over
Like the fabled Irish Rover.
Though Death gives us no choice
We can hope, like Mister Joyce,
That the Workhouse may be "lán"
And the river may run on
Past swerve of shore…