BS: Separation pains

Subject: BS: Separation pains
From: kendall
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 03:57 PM

Due to financial and health problems I had to sell my boat. She just went down the road on a trailer, and I couldn't watch her go. Any spare sympathy out there?

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Peace
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 04:06 PM

Sorry, buddy. But ya got the gal who means so much to you; the one who makes yer face light up, and the one who keeps ya young. I figure it don't get better than that.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: gnu
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 04:18 PM

Ah shit! Ya got my deepest sympathy. I can only hope you sold her to someone who's gonna take great care of her. Let's raise a jar... to her and all who sails in her. And to you, Captain.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: wysiwyg
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 04:23 PM

Did you have a great time with her, Captain?

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Amergin
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 04:23 PM

Are you selling your bride next?

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: kendall
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 04:29 PM

I sold her to the guy who built my 12 string guitar. He is also a boat builder and he will give her a good home.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Sorcha
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 04:30 PM

Aw, Cap'n, I'm sorry.....maybe the day will come when you can get another that doesn't need so much work.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: GUEST,MMario
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 04:31 PM

did you retain visitation rights?

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: GUEST,Sandy Paton (cookieless again?)
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 04:49 PM

Nikos should make her beautiful, Kendall, as he does his guitars. You couldn't have placed her in better hands.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Amos
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 06:21 PM

Man, I can only offer condolences on your separation, Skipper.

Keep your eyes peeled for a better one, though!!


A

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: kendall
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 06:32 PM

No more boats, they require too much work.
Yes, I have visitation rights, and I expect to sail her at some point.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: open mike
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 06:45 PM

the best of both worlds...
someone to fix her and
the chance to sail her again!
it might not be such a sad thing
afterall...beats getting clonked
on the head head with a wayward mast!!

i have a boat (just a canoe) and no
partner--nothing worse that paddling
around in circles!!
you are the lucky one...better off, really!!

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Micca
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 07:00 PM

Sorry to hear this Kendall, even after 40 years every ship I served in is part of me and will be forever, you never really LEAVE a ship or boat they remain a part of you forever. Deep sympathies mate

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 07:25 PM

Oh, dear Captain, I'm so sorry. I'm glad you still have visitation rights, and your fine lady to give you comfort and company.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Leadfingers
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 07:27 PM

Kendall - my old Mum still talks nostalgically (?) about the little cruiser that Mum and Dad had on the Thames that they had to sell due to age and infirmity more than twenty years ago ! Sympathy goes to you mate .

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 07:30 PM

It's the same with motorbikes.. I still get a little tug at the heartstrings when I see a Suzuki 500 or a Kawasaki GT550 go by.....

Take care dear, time may not heal completely, but, to paraphrase from 'Flash Gordon' the movie - it will not make you forget, but it will make the remembering bearable.

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Shanghaiceltic
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 07:38 PM

Sorry to hear about the separation Kendall. But at least you will be able to sail on your old love and your new love wont get jealous.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Ebbie
Date: 22 Apr 05 - 07:45 PM

Sometimes logic and necessity don't help all that much, huh. But keep in mind that when that boat went sailing down the highway, another dream sailed in. Or in other words, when a door closes, a window opens. Commiseratin' with ya.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: kendall
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 07:18 AM

I talked it over with Arthur Guinness and that helped.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Bobert
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 08:01 AM

Hey, Kendall, think about it this way: You got lots of sailing buddies who'd be more than happy to take you out on their boats... Let them do all the upkeep, pay the insurance, dock fees, taxes, registrations, etc, etc...

My younger brother has a 43 foot twin inboard cruiser an' loves takin' me out on it to show off... Who cares... His headaches... Not mine...

But, sniff, yeah it's okay to go tru a period of mourning which is watz goning on wid ya now and that's normal an will last a couple weeks 'er so an' then you'll realize what I said about other folks headaches will sink in an' you'll look back on this differently..

But, today, yeah, a few tears for ya from this ol' hillbilly, Captain...

Bobert

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: kendall
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 09:37 AM

Anyone who has never served in a ship or owned a boat will never understand.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Amos
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 11:26 AM

The bond between man and sea is never known to those who have never gone there; but it never goes away. Seagoing men all know it and you can hear it singing in the background no matter where you talk to them ashore, in cocktail parties, banks, backyard barbecues or lawnmower expositions. It makes them restless, as thought heir shirts were a size small, and the song in the back of their minds is always singing quietly of stars rising at the dawn watch, or the colors of a sunset three hundred miles offshore, or the taste of green water washing their bones in a Force Five full of foam and adrenalin.

Amos

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 11:54 AM

On a miniscule scale, when my dad died I sold his Boston whaler and motor. There were several interested parties, but the one I choose to sell to was not the young guy who was talking about the nautical equivalent of doing donuts in the parking lot. I sold it to the guy whose own boat had been stolen, and who wanted one to take his wife fishing in.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: kendall
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 12:40 PM

..and she knows salt water runs in the blood of sailors sons, and she knows there is no ending to the tale...

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Amergin
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 12:56 PM

Boats need a good home noe to sit in the driveway or tied to the dock. People who own a boat have to love going underway with them. They have to love to keep up the maintenance when the boat is tied up. It's shameful to see them just lying there yearning to run free, like an unused instrument learns to play the song.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Tinker
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 01:43 PM

Kendall, at the momnet the bottom of the page is offering sympathy cards and Radio controlled boats..... The later doesn't bear further thought, but .... The sympathy cards are appropriate. A piece of yourself went with the boat, but it went to a craftsman and with love and understanding that you still have a relationship. Somethings don't end. Give Jacqui a few extra hugs for me today and if you can spare me a bit of sympathy, my boys are holed up with the NFL draft !!!

Love Ya

tinker

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: kendall
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 01:45 PM

I agree. At least now she will get the work she needs and she is in the hands of a very good sailor. However, she still left a huge space in my back yard.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Peace
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 01:50 PM

Write her a song, Kendall. To get out of the blues ya gotta get into the blues.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Big Mick
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 02:14 PM

Sucks, skipper. Only a sailor really understands the bond. It's not just the boat, it's that it represents being landlocked, not able to feel her respond beneath your loving hand. It is about a pact between you and your ship to try and outwit the old man lurking beyond the break, waiting for you to slip up. And it's about the coming home, the pulling into port, and the warm feeling that one can only get by leaving and then returning.

I ache for you, my friend. Let's have a drink on this one soonest.

Love and friendship,

Mick

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Deckman
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 02:37 PM

I'm with you on this one Kendall! CHEERS, Bob

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Ebbie
Date: 23 Apr 05 - 03:02 PM

"Now the old man, he lingers on the shore for awhile
His weathered old face softened by his warm smile
Serene and content, looking back through the years.
In the distance, young voices he hears."

OLd Salt, Kathleen Martin Fanning

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: kendall
Date: 24 Apr 05 - 07:30 AM

Beautiful words Ebbie. How about posting all of them? I was so honored when Kathy told me that I was that old salt in her song.

Here's a bit of what I wrote:

..and I tell myself it's an old man's dream
My youth is past and gone,
And that ocean rolls as it always has,It doesn't care that I'm not home.

I think of a Viking funeral
The dead in his own long ship
They set it a fire then set it adrift
With a dog at the warriors feet.
That's how I'd go if I had my way,
To sail to the great beyond,
But, that can never be, because you see,
There are laws in this hide bound nation
They would never allow such a funeral now
It would be a hazard to navigation.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: frogprince
Date: 24 Apr 05 - 01:46 PM

Hadn't really thought about a viking funeral, despite having served a navy hitch. But my funeral of choice would be a close variant, and is also something that can't really happen. My choice would be to be put on a nice big pyre of wood, on a little hill, and let the breeze carry the mortal stuff away; any bone that didn't burn could go in a little unmarked hole at the root of the nearest tree; if the location mattered to anyone, they would be one of those to know where.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: KT
Date: 24 Apr 05 - 02:13 PM

Kendall......beautiful words...but..."It doesn't care that I'm not home???"   That's 'cause it's not missing you 'cause you're NOT gone. You're going to go out with her every time she sets sail, no matter who's at the helm. Every repair, every touch, every decision, every quickened heartbeat, every moment of joy and every tear on her deck .....You are still very much with her and she with you. Never will change....it can't.

So, grieve as you need to my friend, and do what it takes to take care of the ache. And when the time is right, soon, I hope, begin writing. There are many tales to be told in the way only you can tell them. The children, expectant, will gather around , and listen wide eyed as the stories abound.

KT

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: kendall
Date: 24 Apr 05 - 08:24 PM

Kathy, if I could write like you, I'd start right now!

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: SINSULL
Date: 24 Apr 05 - 08:41 PM

Oh man are you in trouble! I opened this thread and knew it would be yours but expected you would be missing jacqui who is off visiting her daughter in Florida.

Ah well. You have my sympathy. It saddens me to know I will never see you guiding her through Casco Bay and on down east to where ever.

Much love,
SINS

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: kendall
Date: 25 Apr 05 - 03:18 PM

I AM missing Jacqui! The difference is, I know she will be back tomorrow. OPUS is gone for good.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: KT
Date: 25 Apr 05 - 09:27 PM

Okay, Kendall. Have you started yet? The first chapter, maybe? Or perhaps you've started with a list of tales you could tell.....an outline of sorts. Once you get started with that list, you'll be reminded of so many more times that are stored away just waiting for the telling.....Here's a little kickstart.....It was a dark and stormy night.....Get going, now..........

KT

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Lin in Kansas
Date: 25 Apr 05 - 10:21 PM

Oh Captain--

I felt the same when I watched my little Aeronca Chief go down the road to a new airport without me. Many sympathies. Please try to just remember the good times and the joy you gave and took with her.

Best,
Lin

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: GUEST,MBSLynne
Date: 26 Apr 05 - 03:17 AM

So sorry Kendal...I DO understand how you feel, even though I've never owned a boat or served in one. My parents were both in the Navy when they met, and I was Christened on a Royal Navy destroyer and spent the first few years of my life as part of a navy family so the salt water runs in my veins too....

Love Lynne
((((((((((((((((((((((Kendal)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: dianavan
Date: 27 Apr 05 - 02:23 AM

Yes Kendall -

I still miss the boat that brought me to Canada. My son lived aboard for the first year of his life. I worked very hard to keep that boat ship shape and when my husband and I separated, he got the boat on condition that my son would someday inherit it.

He let her go and then sold it for a pittance. My heart broke more completey than when the marriage broke up. I felt so totally betrayed. Life goes on but whenever I see a gaff-rigged cutter my heart flutters.

As it turns out, my son is more of a mountain boy anyway.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: MuddleC
Date: 28 Apr 05 - 03:38 PM

boats and water....
my most fond memories all involve water
..the gurgling streams I used to try and dam as a child, the fast river pools I used to swim in below the moorland, the huge flat 360 deg horizons out in the bay of Biscay on a calm day, and the sheer skill that a slip-streaming albatross shows when exactly matching the pitch and roll of the ship in a South Atlantic gale....... letting the water out of a lock on the grand union canal is the closest I get now!!!

It's better to give the boat it's freedom rather than watch it rot away......

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Clinton Hammond
Date: 28 Apr 05 - 03:43 PM

Ken.. At my gig on Saturday, I'll sing "The Jeannie C" by Stan Rogers for ya... not totally applicable, but I think it's the closest I got...

And that Arthur Guinness guy you mentioned? Don't trust him... He'll sneak up behind you and empty your wallet!

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: kendall
Date: 28 Apr 05 - 04:17 PM

One of my favorite songs, and somewhat appropo, especially the line...I'll go to sea no more.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: gnu
Date: 28 Apr 05 - 04:34 PM

Ne're say such a thing Captain. You'll sail again.

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: jacqui.c
Date: 28 Apr 05 - 06:06 PM

He'll sail again - otherwise he gets nagged!

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: SINSULL
Date: 29 Apr 05 - 12:12 AM

He'll get nagged anyway.
SINS, ducking for cover

Subject: RE: BS: Separation pains
From: Ellenpoly
Date: 29 Apr 05 - 04:43 AM

This is a really nice thread, Kendall. Lots of sympathy, along with my own.

You'll sail again; on the water, in your mind, always in your heart.

..xx..e