BS: stay afloat while others don't

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 22 Jul 23 - 12:04 AM

Mudcatter Haruo has had some hard times lately and has a GoFundMe account set up: Help me avoid homelessness... an injury and an electric bill, and the need to set up services for someone over-65 have converged.

I sent cash via PayPal that won't count toward the GoFundMe account, but he doesn't have to wait to use it or share a cut with the fundraiser company.

PM me or Haruo if you want his email address that works with PayPal.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 21 Jul 23 - 10:58 AM

Yikes!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 16 Jul 23 - 09:41 AM

I got the working air-conditioning just in time to get cooled off
by the heavy rains,
and there's a tornado watch in effect.
Stay afloat, indeed . . .

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 13 Jul 23 - 10:20 AM

Heat can be dangerous when you're not accustomed to it. A friend who recently moved from Texas to Cupertino, CA, sent a screenshot of the heat advisory in her new town - it will hit 90^o this week. She being glad that isn't a problem for her to adapt to. Here in North Texas today is forecast to hit 107^o. But for those CA folks not accustomed or prepared for heat, 90 can make people ill or kill some. Same in Seattle (we didn't used to have air conditioning in most of our houses up there.) So New England also - and when it's as humid as it can be up there - ugg. Stay safe, and sleep on a sofa in the lounge if your bedroom is too hot.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 13 Jul 23 - 08:58 AM

Mwah, Nightwing!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 Jul 23 - 08:07 AM

Thank you, that is really sweet.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: NightWing
Date: 10 Jul 23 - 05:30 PM

Just read through this thread. Seen all at once, it looks like you are progressing toward better health. I'm sure that living it one day at a time, it feels much more of a question :-)

I have (thankfully, very minor) issues with depression, so I can definitely sympathize.

Know that many people are holding you in their thoughts. Get better!!!

BB,
NightWing

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Jul 23 - 06:02 PM

Right now we are floating through a metaphorical swamp of heat and humidity.
While I wish that the air conditioning in my bedroom was working -- it isn't -- refrigerated air is available in most rooms of most buildings on the campus here.
It is something to be grateful for.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 19 Jun 23 - 05:58 PM

Dig it.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Helen
Date: 18 Jun 23 - 05:24 PM

Yes, keb, the way is not always straight up, but hopefully Trending upwards - look at the straight blue central line in this image and not at all of the little ups and downs, peaks and troughs.

The other thing about the spiral is that usually in our lives there are a lot of different issues we are trying to work through. On the spiral, we move around, past different issues, try to make progress and then another issue comes into view which needs attention. But, when we look back at our progress and compare where we started, way back there, it becomes clearer that we have made progress. If we only looked forward to our goals we would become overwhelmed at where we hope to be, but looking at how far and how well we have progressed already brings hope and optimism for future progress.

That's how I view the milestones in my life. I'm not there yet, where I want to be, but I have made a lot of progress so far.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Jun 23 - 01:24 PM

Helen, I believe you are right about the spiral versus the straight line.
And the spiral twists and turns, and it can be disorienting at times.
And the direction is not always up --
sometimes one has to go down before one can go up again.

Am getting my calm back after a month or so of hectic activity,
and catching up on sleep -- always important.

More power to the people who are actually helped by the mushrooms,
but for some of us, our recovery must be with prescription meds.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Donuel
Date: 17 Jun 23 - 09:50 AM

While others don't - The suicide rate is at an all time high.

On this Sunday CNN has a special on mental health at 8 PM.
It is about the future of therapy in mental health - Magic Mushrooms.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Helen
Date: 16 Jun 23 - 05:47 PM

Which translates into "Onya, Keb!" in Aussie.

Congrats on reaching this milestone. Remember what I said (sometime in the last few years) about learning and progress in life is more like a spiral than a path straight up the mountain. You appear to have reached a point where you can look back at the significant points on your path and see them as milestones to achieving your life goals.

All power to you!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 16 Jun 23 - 05:18 PM

Good on you, keb!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 15 Jun 23 - 08:08 PM

Today I had something like fifteen minutes before a panel of clinicians to talk about my treatment.
They let me talk freely as I wished; their questions were friendly.
I have been seen by this team of clinicians before, so they are all familiar.
In spite of which, I was a big bundle of nerves, short of breath, had a hard time just speaking.
I struggled through and spoke at some length about what I still need in my treatment,
things I could not focus on before that I am ready to work with now.
I remember some awkward pauses when I had trouble answering questions,
and I remember that it was easy to answer some questions directly.
I don't believe I dissociated, which I was afraid that I would do.
It was kind of excruciating just to stay present, but I did stay present.

There is no decision that has to be taken or change that has to be made at this point.
I just felt ready to update the clinical team on how my treatment has gone and on my thoughts on how to continue.
It was time to attempt something, however nervous or awkward I was.
So I did my bit. It's a small success for me.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Vashta Nerada
Date: 12 May 23 - 08:06 PM

Being estranged from a sibling is a complex situation; our parents seemed to have some influence on my youngest brother, though even they at times said they were afraid of him. When it comes to the sibs, we all recognize that he is more likely to hurt one of us than a stranger. He has a mental illness that is untreated; there may be underlying chemical imbalances. He had trouble in school, and as an adult it got a lot worse. He can't hold a job for very long. He is smart, he knows how to do a lot of things, but he can't get along with people. His one skill seems to be charming little old ladies, but even there, I fear some dreadful outcome one day.

Anything that happens is someone else's fault, when he's fired at a job it always ends up (when he tells the story) that when he talks to the boss the boss understands and ends up siding with him (but somehow he is still fired?) - so there is no knowing the truth of occasions like that. He had a union job with low seniority and his co-workers voted him onto the night shift, and then those workers insisted that he work in the tail section of airplanes (at Boeing) where they didn't have to deal with him. He's not in that job now, my other brother thinks he might have figured out a way to collect disability so he's not doing any of his old side gigs (not advertising because it could nullify the disability). He's a gambling addict and has lost all of the family stuff he hoarded from our parent's estates (that he fought so hard to get his hands on.) He has lost two houses and a condo, and now lives in a single-wide mobile home.

He tried scamming family, including he tried to shake down our rich aunt and uncle in another country. He kept going to the other brother's house, and that brother gave him money to get him to go away - and you know that isn't going to work. Only when the cash was no longer offered did that stop. No one lives close to him now, though that younger brother can probably track down any of us, but no one will open the door to him or take his calls. I've told my grown children not to give him the time of day if he managed to track them down.

Years ago we tried reaching out to the woman who he had a child with; we sent gifts to the child via the mother - they were returned "refused" in the mail. I have a nephew I've never met, but now that he's over 21, the next time I'm in the area I will look him up.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 May 23 - 06:12 PM

Have been reading Judith Lewis Herman, MD, the psychiatrist who contributed the diagnosis "complex PTSD" some twenty or thirty years ago. She has long worked with survivors of abuse and trauma. She said something that resonated with me.

When a recovering patient goes through their memories and their story, especially the repressed, fragmented pieces around the abuse, time seems to stand still. Or, at the very least, time seems to pass much slower for them than it does for everybody else. It is as if time is frozen. It is natural for them to wonder -- as I did -- if they will spend the rest of their natural lives trapped in this heavy and frozen experience of time.

One sign that such a patient has moved on to another stage of healing and recovery, is that "time begins to move forward again", to quote Dr. Herman. There is even a sense of ordinary time being a special gift, after so long -- years in my case -- experiencing time as a form of purgatory.

I am having that experience now. My routine is mostly the same from week to week, with a schedule that is sometimes busy and sometimes waiting for the next thing. And the passage of time is no longer purgatorial. This doesn't mean that I am "cured". It means that I now get to go on healing in real time rather than in frozen post-traumatic time.

THis seems like a big deal to me.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 14 Apr 23 - 03:33 PM

Mwah, keb.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Apr 23 - 02:28 PM

Some stories have happy endings, and some stories have endings that are anything but.
Living a story like yours, Mrrzy, is not for the faint of heart.
The estrangement between your twin sons is surely complex, and to navigate the present situation you need to use your head as well as your heart.
It's not easy for you to be there for each of your sons;
but what you relate proves that you are indeed there -- for both of them.
All this is a clumsy attempt on my part to say, Take heart.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 13 Apr 23 - 09:10 AM

Saw my mad, homeless son napping in the ground by a coffeeshop. Had a more coherent conversation than usual, he spoke kindly to me, smiled, asked for money but not threateningly... He did say he was a Cherokee chief prophesied to kill the people involved in his legal woes so, still mad as a hatter, but it had been over a year since I'd seen him so in all, a positive interaction.

Plans for the forthcoming nuptials of his twin brother proceed. I cannot talk said brother into letting me tell his crazy twin about the wedding. I would like to offer the chance to clean up temporarily, but have been forbidden from saying anthing. So I am not. But that is distressing me out,I can say.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Helen
Date: 13 Apr 23 - 04:07 AM

Hi keberoxu,

I read a news article about a very clever, very funny, very empathetic Australian writer of fiction for children and young adults called Paul Jennings. The article was about his memoirs and one of the situations he faced his whole life was having a father who was very difficult to deal with. He said it took him a long time to realise that the fault lay with his father and that he (Paul J) should not hold the guilt or responsibility for that behaviour.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Apr 23 - 07:03 PM

One of the things that needs attention for me is
my attitude toward my family's occasional surveillance/harassment.
Over the years it has declined so that it hardly happens,
there were years when something happened on a daily basis.

The thing is that I still let it bother me more than is healthy.
What I worked out this past week is that
I feel guilt about abandoning my family, against all reason,
and the guilt is what makes me so paranoid.

This means that I have more work to do. I don't think it will be fun.
But if I can't get it done here, then where?

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 03 Apr 23 - 09:02 AM

Yikes!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 01 Apr 23 - 07:09 PM

A few years ago I was part of a chamber music performance here at the clinic. Besides me there was a violinist, a violist, and a cellist. All were patients at the time; I'm the only one still in treatment, the other three discharged already.

The violinist, who is in medical school (very difficult), is a good email correspondent and has stayed in touch with me from that day to this. The viola player responded to some emails but the responses have gotten fewer and fewer. The cello player did not respond at all to my email.

This week I was told, third- or fourth-hand, of a suicide attempt on the part of the cello player; I was told two other things:
that this happened some time ago, people here are just now hearing about it, and
this patient is a twin, whose brother committed suicide --
and the former patient made the unsuccessful attempt using the same method as the twin brother. It was not possible for me to ask what method that was.

THis former patient is/was a very good musician, practiced diligently and had been well-taught; he could have gotten work in music.
I've only scratched the surface here:
there is more which I will not tell; he has a lot of problems.

Talk about staying afloat while others don't ... it's uncanny.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 31 Mar 23 - 09:14 AM

Hang in there, keb!

Wedding planning for my well son is bringing up all kinds of pain about his twin, still homeless, still mad.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Mar 23 - 06:16 PM

Got through the winter months,
and spring is on a see-saw with winter,
up and down, back and forth.
Some blindingly sunny clear days,
and on days like those I get restless to be anywhere else.

However, I don't have to leave for want of money;
and it's not clear that I'm ready to discharge, have not set a date.

Other patients, esp former patients, tell me
that I will know when it is the right time to make my exit.
I hope they're right.

A staffperson sighted gypsy moths last night. Ugh.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 22 Dec 22 - 07:47 PM

That is big. It seems to be a comfortable space for you.

Pepper is feeling better, but don't get near her tummy or she becomes a dreadful barking monster. Threatening anyone with a growl and a snap. I fear the trip on Tuesday to remove stitches is going to be very difficult. Staying afloat - getting through stressful events - it's one day at a time. Sometimes one hour at a time is good.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 22 Dec 22 - 07:33 PM

Stilly, I hope Pepper is feeling better very soon, poor thing.

Spending Christmas at the clinic, my third Christmas here.
Something to celebrate, the family/trustee have said "yes" to reimbursing me for my clinic bills. That's a big one.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 16 Dec 22 - 10:59 AM

I drove my middle dog to the vet this morning for a surgical procedure. That will be a one-time hit on my finances, hoping it just a fatty tumor and isn't cancer because long-term expensive pet treatment when it's so hard on them isn't in the cards.

I only mention that trip this morning because I drive a back-route to get to my vet who is in a rough part of town. Literally. Tough, and rough, with a lot of homeless people who refuse to sleep in the night shelter (because of their xtian rules, and because of bed bugs.) There are lots of brushy vacant lots in that hilly part of town adjacent to large brushy street rights-of-way, and on my way out again I counted at least 10 tents with tarps over them in vacant plots of land; they are usually at the back of the space beyond a few trees and out of sight if someone isn't looking for them.

It was early so there were a lot of men (this time) out walking towards the main drag where food may be purchased. There was one pair of tents set up with a bit more equipment around, including a propane grill. That is great for cooking and I imagine propane can be purchased nearby on the main drag. These are small communities, and they are hugely impacted in places like Dallas where they go in periodically and "clean up," essentially removing any personal items along with any tents or structures, leaving these folks all that more hard up.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 16 Dec 22 - 10:43 AM

It looks as though my attorney has come through for me
and the money will be distributed to me after all.
It took months of negotiating. Whew!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 15 Dec 22 - 06:45 PM

Hmmm, lots of emotion usually meant working on something to me... Here's to success if that's the case!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Nov 22 - 06:51 PM

There is a lot of emotion coming up without any obvious trigger.
I suppose this is what my counselor would call "productive" ,
I call it exhausting. Feeling is raw.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 14 Nov 22 - 04:44 PM

Another rite of passage completed: enrollment in Medicare.
Because the social security website would not verify my identification,
I had to do this by way of a phone call with an SSA operator.
The call went on for thirty-five minutes!
The operator kept putting me on hold to double-check facts and stuff.
But we got it done.
And now I won't have to pay the dreaded penalties I was warned about.
A bunch of stuff will be sent in the mail from Social Security
and, eventually, notice of "award" if I heard right.

One more thing to help keep me afloat, so to speak.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 12 Nov 22 - 09:46 AM

Bon courage, keb.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 10 Nov 22 - 06:18 PM

Trying to stay afloat in terms of money to pay the bill.
The bills are paid, of course, up to this point.
It's the future I'm worried about.

I have an attorney representing me to
the people controlling the family estate planning.
They are arm-wrestling and negotiating this month.

Supposedly it is only a matter of time: of when, not if.
What if I run out of time?
Then the money will decide my discharge date, I suppose --
I would be far from alone, it has happened to many others.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Helen
Date: 25 Oct 22 - 07:16 PM

keberoxu, I think up and down is normal, and it's only when feeling down makes us think we'll never feel up again that it causes a downward spiral and that can be a problem.

Knowing that downs are followed by ups helps me not to get lost in the downward spiral. When I was in my late teens, early 20's I hadn't figured that out yet.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Oct 22 - 05:42 PM

Well, the housemate is back,
and the real-estate transaction, the big one with the lake house,
is done to their satisfaction, so all's well that ends well there.
Said housemate has a discharge date set, so is just finishing up here.

My psychiatrist and I are experimenting with meds dosages and combinations
and so far, the experiment is going well.
Not always a stable feeling, but having said that,
I have more ups than I used to,
I'm familiar with being all down all the time.
So now it's up and down . . . maybe that's normal?

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 21 Oct 22 - 10:56 AM

Real estate transactions can make the most rational of people go a little nuts. For everything you think you're doing to protect yourself from extra costs of downright being taken advantage of, there are people in the world who know how to get what they want at your expense. (A friend of mine tried to sell her house to a "normal family" so turned down an offer from a guy who was shopping for a house to use as a group home. So he sent someone else to make an offer and it still ended up becoming a group home for probationer sex-offenders. Not what she wanted and not what the neighbors needed.)

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 16 Oct 22 - 08:31 AM

Part of me says Their choice and thrn I remember they may not be able to make good choices...

Yikes. Nice that you care. You are a fine person, keb, wish you well. Be fine, someday.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 15 Oct 22 - 10:27 AM

Sometimes I have the luxury of overlooking the fact that
others here don't have it together at all well in their lives.

The past weekend was a long holiday weekend here in the US, and
many people took advantage of same.
One housemate at my residence got permission to spend that weekend,
with its extended days, with their family at home.
To that end, they left on Thursday October 6, promising to return Monday.

Well, they seem to have gone walkabout.
We have not seen them since then. They have been gone for about ten days.
There have been one or two messages, explaining that they came down with a stomach 'flu bug for several days and had to recover from same.
Part of the complications include the fact that the family is putting more than one piece of real estate up for sale,
and this patient who is supposed to be getting mental health treatment, cannot imagine the family negotiating and processing the transaction without them.
But this is not how one is supposed to go through with treatment at this clinic, and I fear that
we will not see this patient again except when they stop by to remove their personal effects from their residence room after being asked to get out!

It isn't how I would do it, but I have to accept that this is a different person in a different situation.
Sometimes treatment here is a truly edifying experience, and sometimes it is merely mystifying.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 30 Sep 22 - 07:05 PM

Whole bunch of discharges in September,
and they have been replaced with new admits,
so many that I have got to the point
where I can't match faces to names anymore.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 25 Sep 22 - 09:27 PM

Awful about your mate, but good about the heat!

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Sep 22 - 11:49 AM

Update:
it took maintenance an entire seven days to fix the house system
so that there is heat in my bedroom.
Just in time for the really cold nights,
fortunately in between there was a warm spell.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 22 Sep 22 - 01:33 PM

Most of us patients are comfortable enough at the moment.
It's the staff, when I chat with them, who lament
that they've been having a rough time of it at work here.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 18 Sep 22 - 10:56 PM

Today one of the newest patients attempted suicide.
The patient was taken by ambulance to the big hospital up the road.
Every patient who comes here agrees to a code of behavior
that includes, no harm to self or to others.

A great many of the patients here sought admission
precisely to turn around their suicidal ideation,
I'm guessing this patient was one of them.

You would think that a mental institution would be inured
to this sort of thing, but in fact it is always a hard blow for us all.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 18 Sep 22 - 04:46 PM

Good on you, keb.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Donuel
Date: 17 Sep 22 - 01:53 PM

I've paid my dues
Time after time
I've done my sentence
But committed no crime
And bad mistakes
I've made a few
I've had my share of sand
Kicked in my face
But I've come through
And we mean to go on and on and on and on

We are the minions, my friends
And we'll keep on fighting till the end
We are the minions
We are the minions
Its time for losers
'Cause we are the minions of the World

I've taken my bows
And my curtain calls
I had five minutes of fame
And everything that goes with it
I lost it all
and it's been no bed of roses
No pleasure cruise
I consider it a challenge
before The human race
We're all gonna lose
And we mean to go on and on and on and on

We are the minions, my friends
And we'll keep on fighting till the end
We are the minions
We are the minions
All just for losers
'Cause we are the minions of the World
We are the minions, my friends
And we'll keep on fighting till the end
We are the minions We are the minions
We all are losers
'Cause we are the minions of the World



We are the minions to the one tenth of one percent who are the multi billionaires dedicated to keep expanding their con, scam or crimes. You agreed to the fine print of miniondom with a click but probably never read the user agreement.
Rights, freedoms and liberty are not obstacles to the ultimate rich anymore. Rights and freedoms will continue to disappear. Believe me they have improved the George Orwell outlook a million times over.

This makes many people angry for the wrong reasons and is easily handled by inducing a fight between the minions and the other colored minions or the other religion minion fights. The red blames the blue and the blue blames the red but they both lose to the system made by the owners of the Banks.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: keberoxu
Date: 17 Sep 22 - 12:41 PM

This past week was a mixed one.
My mental health is resilient, more so than two years ago at the time of admission to the clinic [I'm still there]. Things roll off of me now, which back then would have set me back and overwhelmed me for a time.

Physically I have had better weeks. For some reason, on Thursday the best description for me would have been, as Senoufou quotes the Scottish, "peely-wally." Rather than hibernate, I got through the day taking brief naps, walking from my residence to the dining hall and back, eating sparingly and selectively, drinking a lot of fluids. I had to ask at the medication closet for a pair of ibuprofen tablets, which helped the achy feeling, in my head amongst other places. Can't explain what came over me, but it was gone in twenty-four hours.

Then came the debacle with the residence HVAC. The HVAC system is such that you can have either refrigerated air or heat, but not both -- you cannot change from one to the other with the touch of a switch or two. So here we were with refrigerated air from the length of the summer. Then Thursday night the temperature plunged, and when I got out of bed at 7 am on Friday morning, the temperature in my bedroom was down to 60 degrees F. Colder than I like it, I have to say. I was fortunate to have warm blankets on the bed; but then, I was most reluctant to get out from under the covers into the chill of the bedroom air.

So I went to the powers-that-be at the clinic and said, I cannot endure another night like last night, cannot something be done!
Well, maintenance came to the residence and did their maintenance thing. When they were done, there was heat aplenty in many parts of the residence, such as the large kitchen, with an abundance of hot air coming through the vents. But across the house, in my bedroom, nothing. No air moving at all, and no sign that any heat was going to visit the room anytime soon, and night coming on.
So somebody scared up a space heater, the kind that is filled with oil and resembles a miniature old-fashioned radiator. This was brought to my bedroom and plugged in to the electric outlet, and thankfully, it solved the cold problem nicely for the moment. I did not have to go through another overly chilly night in the bedroom.
In the meantime we don't know what is wrong with the heat in that section of the house, and more maintenance servicing and repair is probably in order. What a time for it to conk out, just as the seasons are changing.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 13 Aug 22 - 02:34 PM

We hold our breaths here during this extended heat wave - the conditions can cause streets to shift that result in water main breaks and if a fire gets started it will spread fast. Happening at the same time would be catastrophic.

We're past the time of trying to keep some of the plants alive and are focused mostly on the larger more expensive shrubs and trees. The lawn is golden straw at this point (not that I treat it well, but I haven't managed to plant the area with something else yet.)

Staying afloat now means staying the course until it cools and there is some rain and we can go outside and start cleaning up dead plants after the drought. Fixing parts of the house that show signs of drying or shifting from the heat (our foundations all need to be watered to keep the house in good stead). My foundation needs to be stabilized and this year has left a lot more cracks in the walls.

Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't
From: Mrrzy
Date: 13 Aug 22 - 02:12 PM

Timing, while not everything, is a lot.

I came out of my in-patient thing just in time for the lockdown. Oddly enough I was much happier alone knowing I *couldn't* visit or be visited. Made it not lonely.

Then again, I had discovered keto by then. I just didn't trust it yet.