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From Skarpi: Bad Karma?
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Subject: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: skarpi Date: 28 Sep 00 - 06:28 PM Hallo all, as many of you know i had some bad times this last summer and I thought it finished but no it is not.At the beginning of July this summer my little girl sexualy abused by an old man in the town we live in, ooh I have givin the case to the police and we are trying to help her as best we can. And to topp it all my mother hasent spoke to me for about two weeks. What did i do to get all this bad karma or this black sky over my head. Is the road we walk in our livetime so bumpy? and does it have so many side roads that will pass in our way, through the time we live?I just wander. I dont know where this is gonna end or go but I will fight through it all. Well I think i have said enough today. To all of us witch have had a bad time this year of 2000 be strong and fight back, walk with your faith. dia duit , All the best skarpi Iceland. |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: skarpi Date: 28 Sep 00 - 06:32 PM Sorry about this I my fingers slipped on the keyboard. skarpi. |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: CarolC Date: 28 Sep 00 - 06:43 PM skarpi, I'm afraid that you have described, very well, the nature of how life can be sometimes. It's a bumpy road with a lot of dead end alleys. But the good part is that there is a lot of beautiful scenery along the way, and sometimes there are loving people who will walk part of the way with us. I'm so sorry to hear about your continuing troubles. I think you can feel secure in knowing that the Mudcat community is doing its best to walk with you during these times, and to help you through them if we can. 2000 has been a tough year. Here's hoping we can get through the rest of it with the fewest possible number of casualties. Good luck and best wishes, Carol |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: katlaughing Date: 28 Sep 00 - 06:44 PM Oh, Skarpi, I am so sorry to hear about your little girl and about your mom. Maybe your mom is having a tough time with grief over your dad. I would give her some time. IT must be difficult for all of you right now; so many changes bring lots of stress. It does seem the rough patches come all at once. Hang in there, because it does get better. In one year we went through all kinds of things including Roger's dad dying, me being in the hospital twice, my son's three teachers all being killed by a drunk driver and a few other things. We made it through and I know you will, too. Just keep coming here and we will do all we can to help. I am giving thanks for blessings of peace, joy and prosperity in all things for you and your family. luvyakat |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: catspaw49 Date: 28 Sep 00 - 06:48 PM Geeziz Skarpi...Sorry to hear about your girl, its a subject I know well. Hold her close my friend. This has been a bumpy year for many, but we are all here together in this strange cyber world and you know that all of us here at the Mudcat are behind you with whatever support we can give. On a bright note Skarpi, Max played your videotape last night on Mudcat Radio and it was a big hit with all of us in the chatroom as I'm sure it was with everyone watching. And I see a girl from your country got an Olympic medal. But most importantly, know we are here. Then give all the love you have to your little girl and find her the best help you can to get her past this time. Much Love to All of You Skarpi.............. Spaw |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Joe Offer Date: 28 Sep 00 - 06:51 PM Transferred from another thread. -Joe Offer Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Bartholomew Date: 28-Sep-00 - 06:43 PM We have a saying - tough times don't last, but tough people do. Be strong, help your daughter, and hold fast to your belief that things will get better. I can't imagine facing harder times than you have described. I also can't imagine that it has anything to do with your karma; not judging by your posts. Yes, life here on this planet gets pretty bumpy, at times. But if it wasn't, none of us would want to leave this life and imagine how crowded it would get. Know that you have friends - around you and around here - that wish you all the best that life offers. Tonight I will say a short prayer and raise a brief toast to better days for Skarpi and his family in Iceland. Bart |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: SINSULL Date: 28 Sep 00 - 07:10 PM Skarpi, Your little girl needs all the love and support you can give her right now. She is fortunate to have a Dad who is able to speak openly about this to his friends knowing that they will offer support and love. Too many parents try to hide from the incident or pretend it hasn't happened leaving the child to fend for herself. I too know too well how a child can suffer and blame herself without caring adults to guide her. You and your family have had more than your share. I am sorry. I wish I could change it for you. Next best, I will keep you safe in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong. When the good times come back, you will appreciate them more than ever. And know that you have done nothing to deserve your troubles. It is just life. Mary |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: DougR Date: 28 Sep 00 - 07:15 PM Especially sorry to hear about your little girl, Skarpi. I hope they find the guy and they throw the book at him. Such a tramatic thing to happen to a little one. Hang in there, "this too will pass." DougR |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: MK Date: 28 Sep 00 - 07:29 PM Skarpi this is a subject that is near and dear to my heart as well, and although I usually refrain from involvement in emotional threads, I wanted to lend my support to you in these exceedingly trying times. I KNOW EXACTLY what you are going through and how you are feeling. (Be thankful it wasn't your own father who did this to your daughter.) Your daughter needs all the strength, love and nurturing you can give her now. And perhaps councilling by a professional experienced in these matters would help as well. You know best. By all you have shared on the Forum in these past weeks, it is apparent you are a survivor and very strong inside, and it is quite relevant to question why all these terrible things have been happening to you. It is also very easy to lose that strength and abandon hope, when you feel your heart breaking. Don't. As you said, fight it with every ounce of strength you can muster, for you and your family. Things will get better. I know what it must have taken for you to share this. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: MMario Date: 28 Sep 00 - 08:15 PM words fail me, skarpi; but you and your family are in my thoughts and in my prayers. |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Jon Freeman Date: 28 Sep 00 - 08:23 PM skarpi, sometimes life can just be nasty, you think you have had all you can take and it throws another pile of shit at you - believe me, I have been there. Nobody knows why it happens to some people but it just does. I also will be praying for you and your family. Jon |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Lonesome EJ Date: 28 Sep 00 - 11:28 PM Skarpi,it was great to see you and your talented band on the video on Mudcat Radio.In times like this let your friends and your music help you through,and keep praying for better days.I think it is human nature to believe that we have done something bad to bring bad times to us,but I believe that sometimes bad things just happen to good people. Be strong,and know that in any difficult situation there are things we can take away from it to enrich our lives and the lives of people we love. LEJ |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Amergin Date: 29 Sep 00 - 04:27 AM Skarpi, am so sorry to hear about your little girl....and I admire you for the courage to turn it over to the police...I think I would have killed the bastard....they say that time heals all wounds, but it doesn't, at least not entirely....love and support combined with time and patience heals the wounds...your baby will always bear the scars from her rape....but with your love and support, she will be able to cope with them.... The fact that she was able to tell you what had happened, tells others what sort of person you are....I have known a few people who could not go to their families for the type of medicine they needed and the scars are still there as visible as ever.... I have known others who have waited twenty years to toss this burden from their backs (and a heavy and deadly burden it is), because they had no idea how their loved ones would respond....and then finding they carried it for nothing....your baby is very lucky in that she has some one like you for a father....Good on you.... You and yours are in my thoughts....Blessed be. Amergin |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: GUEST Date: 29 Sep 00 - 07:02 AM Skarpi I can't find the words but know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Hold on brother, hold on. KJ |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Date: 29 Sep 00 - 07:32 AM Skarpi, add my thoughts and prayers to the good wishes of all of us. |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Catrin Date: 29 Sep 00 - 08:00 AM Skarpi, My thoughts and best wishes are with you too. Catrin |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Patrish(inactive) Date: 29 Sep 00 - 08:02 AM Skarpi, I am thinking of you now and trying to send out good and positive thoughts to you and yours. I don't know why senseless and cruel things happen, please know that I am sorry for what has happened in your family. I am not religous, I cannot pray for you, but I do have a big heart and you're right in there. lots of love Patrish |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: jeffp Date: 29 Sep 00 - 08:25 AM Skarpi, I know that this has been an extremely difficult year for you. As you can see from this thread, you are not alone in this world. My thoughts and prayers are joining with the others here and I'm sure that things will turn around for you soon. Hang in there and and it will get better. jeffp |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Barbara Date: 29 Sep 00 - 12:54 PM One of the things bad and bumpy times do besides test us and hurt us, is teach us how to be healers. As we find how to heal ourselves, we learn how to heal others, too. For your daughter, Mary has it right. Asking the child to keep the secret hurts much longer, and harms more; pretending everything is normal is much worse than speaking openly and gently about the problem. I know. And your mother -- ask, "Is this about me?" I always have to ask this question about my mother. My life lesson from her is "Don't take this personally".
"What though the tempest loudly roar
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: catspaw49 Date: 29 Sep 00 - 01:06 PM Very nice Barbara.....really. Skarpi, you have been on my mind ever since I first read and posted here. I hope you have found someone to work with your daughter and the rest of your family as well. Professional help is simply invaluable for coping with this. We are here and can offer only support from a distance, but we do love and care about you. However, nothing can replace getting your daughter and yourselves the help you need at this time. If there is anything or anyway we can be of assistance, just ask. Spaw |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Dave (the ancient mariner) Date: 29 Sep 00 - 01:13 PM Words fail me Skarpi... You have my sincere sympathy and best wishes. I hope that you and your family will recover your sense of security and happiness soon. Yours, Aye. Dave |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Mrrzy Date: 29 Sep 00 - 01:19 PM I wish I knew what to say. We love you, hope that helps. I read that it is very important to keep being physically affectionate with your daughter (lots of hugs and kisses and cuddling) so she can get back to the idea that touch can be good and healing and all that she used to think it was... but individuals vary, and my best hope for her is that she's inherited your courage. You might have to have it for her for a while... and best of luck with smoothing things with your Mom, this doesn't sound like a good time for a family feud. Can it be that she isn't OK with the fact that you've "gone public" (well, gone to the police) with the abuse? I hope all looks up and skies get sunnier over the road which will, in this world, remain bumpy. I wish you all the shock absorbers there are, so you'll keep on traveling. |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Lepus Rex Date: 30 Sep 00 - 09:47 AM Sorry to hear about your family's troubles, skarpi. Good luck to you and your little girl :( ---Lepus Rex |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Llanfair Date: 30 Sep 00 - 04:26 PM Here is more affection and support, Skarpi, from me in Wales. Your Mum must be about my age, but what can she be thinking, withdrawing her support? I can't imagine doing that to either of my kids. Things will change, and your daughter will grow strong. Best wishes, Bron. |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Ferrara Date: 30 Sep 00 - 04:31 PM Oh, Skarpi, such hard, hard times! All I can do is say, this is not directed at you, it doesn't mean you aren't living your life right! -- My mother used to say that there were times in most people's lives when trouble seemed to hang over them. There's no darned reason for it. Barbara's words are very true and beautiful, I hope some of this support will help you. Bill called me, on Wednesday, to come see your videotape on Mudcat Radio. We were both so pleased to see it, and I said, "He looks just exactly the way I always pictured him!" My only regret was that I couldn't understand the dialogue. Wishing you the friends and the strength and the help you need in these trying times, Rita Ferrara |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Little Neophyte Date: 30 Sep 00 - 04:38 PM Skarpi, there is a great deal of love and support here for you at the Mudcat. Like the others, my thoughts of concern are with you and your daughter. I think Catspaw's advice above is wise. Bonnie |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Bill D Date: 30 Sep 00 - 09:32 PM I found this...perhaps it will bring a smile and a pause as you look for answers--- Once upon a time there were two mice who fell into an urn of milk. They swam around and around trying to find a way out. Soon one of them grew tired and started to complain. "We're going to die in here, we'll never get out", he complained. "Keep going," urged the other, things always changed. And what do you know, things did change. Soon the milk turned into butter and the two mice were able to climb out of the urn! Change is the nature of life. Cycles, seasons and change. It's the only thing we can count on. This too WILL pass. Try to find the best way for you, to ride out the 'down cycle'. |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Escamillo Date: 01 Oct 00 - 05:48 AM We are here, Skarpi. And our best thoughts are with you until and after these bad moments pass. Un abrazo - Andrés |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: Mooh Date: 01 Oct 00 - 07:33 AM Skarpi, I cannot pretend to imagine your grief, even though I've had my own this year, everyone's grief is profound. Please take comfort in knowing we hope and pray for you and yours, and that justice, be it ours or God's, will prevail. Please also seek professional assistance with your troubles, it really does help. There are people here who genuinely care. Come back if you want to talk some more. It will do us all good. Peace, Mooh. |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: CamiSu Date: 02 Oct 00 - 01:08 AM My prayers are with you both, and love as well. I'm sure your daughter understands, since she told you, that she can still trust, and I know her trust in you is well placed. Cami Su |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: skarpi Date: 04 Oct 00 - 04:52 PM Hallo all and thank you all for your support and nice words to me and my family. Nothing has happend from the justicedepartment or the police so this man can do what ever he wants to other victims. My doughter is doing well at the moment and are doing well in her school, I was afraid somthing would happen to her there but it hasent yet. Hoping that everything will go well hereafter and in the nearest future. I whis I could give something back to all of you good Mudcat freinds. All the best skarpi Iceland. |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: catspaw49 Date: 04 Oct 00 - 04:57 PM You do Skarpi.........You give us your music, your thoughts, your friendship.........Its what we all share. Spaw |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: MK Date: 04 Oct 00 - 05:01 PM Ditto Spaw. |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: annamill Date: 04 Oct 00 - 05:06 PM All love and my hugs go to you, my friend. I only wish you were here so I could give them to you in person. I hope things get better soon for you and your family. Everyone is right. Hold her close to you. Love, annamill |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: JamesJim Date: 04 Oct 00 - 11:38 PM Can't imagine what you are going through. You need your mother's support right now, not her indignation. Perhaps you should go to her and talk about your daughter. It may do you both good. Anger takes funny turns in life, but it can often be defused with communication. My very best to you my friend. Keep your face to the sun and your back to the shadows. Jim |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: bseed(charleskratz) Date: 05 Oct 00 - 12:19 AM Skarpi, It is certainly not bad karma--nothing you may imagine you have done makes you deserve that kind of thing--and your daughter certainly is not tortured to punish you...bad things happen to people in this great irrational machine of which we are all a part: You can't believe that that Palestinian father had done anything to deserve having his son shot to death as they huddled against a wall last weekend. Be strong and loving for your daughter and let her know that she is in no way diminished by what happened to her. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts, --seed(Charles Kratz)
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: katlaughing Date: 05 Oct 00 - 12:30 AM Yndi, Skarpi, ÉG er enn landareign þú og þinn fjölskylda í [the] Ljós og [giving] takk fyrir [the] koma aftur af góður örlög hver er þinn. Mega allur [the] sár lækna og leyfi eini [the] [memories] af [the] góður landshluti af þessir sinnum. Þú gera gefa svo mikill til okkur eins og [Spaw] , þú ert [a] yndi vinur til okkur allur. Blessun fyrir þú og þinn fjölskylda, kat (Since I don't have as clue about how well the translation program works, here is what I meant to say:) Dear Skarpi, I am still holding you and your family in the Light and giving thanks for the return of good fortune which is yours. May all the wounds heal and leave only the memories of the good parts of these times. You do give so much to us as Spaw said, you are a dear friend to us all. Blessings for you and your family, kat |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: WyoWoman Date: 05 Oct 00 - 01:22 AM Oh, Skarpi, I'm so sorry to hear about all of this. Nothing I can add that hasn't been said already, but I just wanted to let you know I'm holding you and your family in my heart and sending you much lovingkindness. ww |
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Subject: RE: From Skarpi: Bad Karma? From: JedMarum Date: 05 Oct 00 - 10:03 AM I'm very sorry to hear of your troubles Skarpi, and will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. My mother too, suffered serious depression and grief over the loss of my younger brother ... it may be that coping the loss she has suffered is the cause of the rift between you two. All the best to you and yours. |
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