BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: katlaughing
Date: 23 Oct 06 - 10:44 AM

The father of the Malawi boy visited him every week in the orphage. Now, he has this to say:

Father of Madonna boy not aware of adoption

The father of the Malawian boy that singer Madonna took to the UK under a temporary custody order has said that he never intended for his son to be adopted, only raised on his behalf.

Yohane Banda told news agency Reuters that Madonna had asked to raise the 13-month-old boy on behalf of him.

"Had they told us that Madonna wanted to adopt my son and make him her own son, we would not have agreed to that," Banda said.

"It would have been better for him to continue staying at the orphanage because I see no reason why my child should be given away forever when I can feed him," he said.

"I cannot read and write so I relied on what the (government) officials told me that the papers said Madonna would look after the child the way the orphanage planned to educate him and then he comes back to me."

When asked if he had signed any agreements with the singer, Banda said: "I am still waiting to get my copies."

Explaining his decision to send baby David to an orphanage after his mother's death, he said: "We sent this child to an orphanage because at one month we could not look after him, we did not have a health centre nearby and the orphanage was the ideal place for him."

Banda said that he would wait until the papers, which are currently with government officials, were sent to him before deciding what action to take, after consulting family members.

Shambles, I do NOT argue as an anonymous guest. If you ever truly read my postings about anon. guests, you'd know that. But, that wouldn't serve your egenda, would it?

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,lox
Date: 23 Oct 06 - 08:17 AM

presumably madonna's lawyers got in touch with the fathers lawyers so they could be satisfied that the document was fair and in line with his understanding.

Whats that?

he doesn't have a lawyer?

He's possibly illiterate (76% literacy in Malawian men) though more likely he is functionally illiterate?

And I challenge any non legally trained Brit or American with above average literacy to make head or tail of their tenancy agreement let alone adoption papers - and are they in english? and who acted as interpreter between him and Madonna? was there an interpreter at all?

"He knew what he was getting himself into" - oh really? (that comment is not attributed to anyone in particular but I believe represents a view that I have seen expressed on this thread and elsewhere. A view which I find is not only deeply unfair but also grossly irresponsible.)

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,lox
Date: 23 Oct 06 - 07:59 AM

lol

And the father, being omnipresent was always able to stick around despite his busy schedule everywhere else simultaneously, though it seems there may have been some concerns regarding abandonment when his son was on the cross.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Bagpuss
Date: 23 Oct 06 - 07:53 AM

I believe that in the uk, you have to be an approved adoptive parent even if the adoption was done abroad. I am not sure whether madonna has gone through this.

Also, i read over the weekend that the father, after initially being all for the adoption, has said that he didn't realise that it meant him giving up all parental rights, and basically not being the childs father any more. If he had known he said, he wouldn't have approved it.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 23 Oct 06 - 07:19 AM

Barry - I was given to understand from various articles quoted above, that current Malawi law would not allow the child to be adopted outside the country, that prospective parents should live in Malawi for 18 months whilst the process is ongoing and that Madonna lives in Britain with a husband who is apparently not exactly 100% behind this adoption, just like the child's father seems to be now.

If another British citizen had wanted to adopt a child from Malawi, they would have had to abide by the local laws. Madonna has taken this boy home after something like 2 weeks.

If she really is the caring, loving parent she's made out to be, then surely she could support the child and his father whilst she's going through the correct legal process to adopt.


Skipjack - I think you'll find that THAT Madonna was actually the birth mother, and she had a fine support network!

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Skipjack K8
Date: 23 Oct 06 - 05:39 AM

Apparently there was another case of a woman called Madonna who brought up a baby that wasn't technically hers, but that was two milennia ago or so .........

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: skarpi
Date: 23 Oct 06 - 02:35 AM

Madonna , fít fíjú way to go .......... good looking woman
doing a great thing give a child a change to live.


All the best Skarpi Iceland.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Barry Finn
Date: 23 Oct 06 - 02:20 AM

Hi Lox
If the father was under a different understanding, I'd say all bets are off. Of course.

Hi Liz
If she didn't apodt the child on UK soil the UK has no say about legal transactions in elsewhere. If the UK recognizes Malawi, how could they leagely do otherwise. Please explain if we're both on track here.

Barry

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Lox
Date: 22 Oct 06 - 08:54 PM

GUEST

You're right, I'm being little hard on Madonna and she should be congratulated for the things you have listed above.

I do think though, that the kind of criticism you're talking about would be a nobler gauntlet for her to run, and risking her reputation by engaging more meaningfully and less glamorously in the debate would be to her credit.

The fact that she doesn't shows how much importance she places on her public image, which supports my view that a large part of her motivation has been in enhancing it.

Ironically, I think that whatever the papers said, people would respect her more and the depth of public feeling for her would be more enduring.

Madonna has millions, maybe Billions of fans worldwide. That's a lot of loyal receptive minds all open to her words and her wisdom. Imagine if she stopped talking to them about herself and kabbalah and started engaging them in things that matter.

All those shallow party heads turning round and having intelligent conversations in large numbers about things that need large numbers of people to talk about them if they are going to be changed.

The problem with pop stars is their egos. If instead of big dramatic once in a lifetime events like live 8, there was consistent highlighting of issues and HOW they might be dealt with and WHAT might be done by ordinary flks like you and me, people might once again feel enfranchised, involved, less marginalized, less apathetic and more inclined to vote and make their vote matter and to force their leaders to listen in other ways.

I hope you're right about the link being maintained - but every weekend? It'll be tough - and how long will it be maintained before it dwindles away?

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST
Date: 22 Oct 06 - 08:16 PM

She has supported AIDS charities in the UK and Africa for at least the last ten years. And rather than giving them lip service she has contributed estimated millions.

She is setting up an orphanage in Malawi which will help feed, clothe and home up to 4000 orphans, most orphaned due to AIDS/HIV.

I have no doubt of her good intent and significant contribution to putting her money where it counts. If she were to stand at a conference and talk about the issues in depth she would be criticised for the way she spoke.

My only doubt in this whole situation is why she chose to adopt a baby with a living parent. But it says to me that she has all intention of maintaining links with his home country.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Lox
Date: 22 Oct 06 - 07:49 PM

PS

On the subject of international support for the state of Malawi in it's monumental task of trying to deal with the consequences of HIV/AIDS etc, I am with you all the way.

The newspapers should be covering these issues properly too. I agree on that point as well.

Madonna has kept the politics out of the story by keeping herself out of the politics. She titillates her audience with her daring from time to time, with a raise of an eyebrow and yet another inoccuous cliche about starving babies and aids, but never engages the issues in any real depth and certainly never says anything of any real controversy.

As a result the real arguments remain the preserve of nerds and smug politicians (politicians hate it when the issues are really discussed in any depth, that's why they eulogise in the same glib language as Madonna).

The tabloid press are suckers for a publicity stunt. They survive symbiotically with celebs who perform them in full knowledge of what they are doing and why. They won't always report it how it was intended to come across however, and I think they decided to knock Madonna for her actions because they decided that this stunt was too tasteless to be endorsed.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Lox
Date: 22 Oct 06 - 07:13 PM

Barry,

I'm glad there's no ill feeling there, I was afraid I'd touched a nerve and felt you had something important to offer.

You said:

"My friends are not well to do by anyone's standards unless you're comparing them to 3rd world living conditions."

I had said:

"The fact that your friends were well to do by comparison with most vietnamese would have been a bonus"

Apart from that, you have answered my initial question more or less as I expected:

"There is no history on the child, she was put on the doorstep of an adoption agency"

That tells me that, for whatever reason, she had already had her relationship with her biological family severed.

If the guardian article that Kat linked us to is correct, then the young lad Madonna adopted did have a relationship with his father, who cycled 25 miles to spend time with him every weekend, being unable to give more due to his lack of income.

Presumably with a bit of support, the contact between them could have been increased if not made permanent.

Let us try to put his shoes on our feet for a minute (assuming he has any).

Single parents in the UK can leave their kids at a nursery or a childminder while they work, and it will be paid for by public funding.

On the way home from work they pick their child up, tell them they love them, give them a kiss and cuddle and take them home (!) where they feed them and put them to bed.

In countries like Malawi there are neither Nurseries nor is there such public funding.

Where does a single dad put his beby son while he works?

This guy has made hard choice after hard choice for his son.

And yet he has never given up maintaining contact with his son.

Imagine that life for a second, and then imagine that a very rich woman comes along and offers your child financial security and all that he could ever want materially.

But imagine that the price is that your child has to go away. Your precious weekends aren't going to happen any more.

Imagine the confusion and bewilderment for the child. He doesn't have much, but his dad, with whom he has a deep magical bond that no one alive can match, and whom no one alive can come close to in terms of love and reassurance given.

Suddenly that contact stops, and his world turns upside down.

The most valuable thing a child can have is the love and reassurance of its parents.

If that has gone, then the best alternative must of course be gratefully and speedily offered as appears to have been the case with your friends and more power to them for it.

But if there is something there worth saving, then it should be saved. It should not be severed unnecessarily. The damage is too great.

I am a single dad who lives in a country where there are nurseries, where there is public funding, and where if, as a single parent, I can't get work, the state will support me for as long as necessary to ensure my child can have a basic secure stable home.

My daughter is asleep upstairs as I write this. I've just been up to check on her because she yelled out in her sleep. She was fine.

Being able to do that is something that I am grateful for beyond words.

I wouldn't have the arrogance to claim that I have the remotest idea how hard life is for The childs father.

As tough as he must be to carry on, he must also grieve in his heart every time he leaves to cycle the 25 miles home again.

Sorry, but what a fucking hero.

He and his son deserve help. Of course they do. As long as the person helping actually is helping. The way to be sure is to ask "how can I help". Not to decide what type of help they think is right and just dive in with both wallets blazing.

Money can't buy you love or happiness, we all know that.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 22 Oct 06 - 05:55 PM

Britain only has a say within it's own jurisdiction, or at least I would believe it to be so. Just like if you had an adopted child & chose to move here, you would not be told that because our laws differ that you can't say your adopted kid is yours & has to 1st meet our rules.


BUT SHE IS LIVING IN BRITAIN AT THIS VERY MOMENT!

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST
Date: 22 Oct 06 - 05:30 PM

Interesteing thing now is that the boy's father has decided to speak out and say he never realised madonna was going to become the child's 'mother'.

According to him he just thought she would bring the child up the same as he would have been brought up in the orphanage and then return home to his family once he was an adult.

Now either he genuinely didn't realise the orphanage was going to try and rehome the child or he has been advised to rethink his position for financial reasons.

Is it likely a boy brought up in the public school system will want to go and live in a third world country as a third world family member when he has graduated from university?

I think not, but he would maybe be in a position to help them enormously. An interesting twist.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Barry Finn
Date: 22 Oct 06 - 05:05 PM

Hi Liz
A love it or leave it policy helps no one. If she's adopting in a foriegn nation then by the law of that nation it's their child & Britain has no say in the matter weither they choose to live there our just pass through. Britain only has a say within it's own jurisdiction, or at least I would believe it to be so. Just like if you had an adopted child & chose to move here, you would not be told that because our laws differ that you can't say your adopted kid is yours & has to 1st meet our rules.

Hi Lox
I see no reason to look at your tone or question it, I have no doubt that we only have a diffenece in opinions & that's all.
There is no history on the child, she was put on the doorstep of an adoption agency. I believe it was quick because of overcrowding as it is through out Africa & other 3rd world nations. My friends are not well to do by anyone's standards unless you're comparing them to 3rd world living conditions. I don't know how they'd compare to Madonna in the home but I'm sure that Madonna & Guy are capable of offering a loving home & environment as my friends are & that's what matters. The child that Madonna & Guy adopted had a parent but for some reason the parent choose to give it up & place it in an orphanage & giving the father a little finincial assistence would not be appropriate, after all they're there to adopt not give out aid. That's what orphanages do, they try to place parentless(& it seems that this kid is parentless) kids in a home & with parents that will offer a healthy, stable, loving & caring home. The father's relationship is not the priority here neither is the child's past environment. As to attachment and abandonment issues hopefully as in all cases of adoption, that issue will hopefully come to pass. When the father placed the child with the agency that was his choice & at that point the child was cut loose, it was displaced & abandoned. Children with good homes & good parents can have these issues too but if the parents & child can bond those issues can be overcome. I am quite familiar with this, for the past 25 yrs that's what my wife has been involved with, the care & education of poor & troubled children has been her life.

It was also mentioned above about the child's race as being a concern. I will not even discuss that topic.
   
As to the Aids & Malawi. It's not Malawi it's a national, continental & international problem with AIDS/HIV. These diseases are destroying the African continent. One of the by-products of this is the massive amounts of orphan children left to be cared for by grandmothers, the government agencies, health organizations & other charities. They are all overwhelmed & can't keep up, neither can many of the parents. If there's complaining to do it should be directed towards other nations & governments to kick in their fair share & to do more to aid these stricken nations & to adopt some friendlier policies that would add to their relief. Directing complaints at high profile figures that'll sell the news but it's scapegoating & does nothing to help out the situation. The news should be ashamed for covering this story instead of covering the tragedy of it all instead. They should be reporting about other high profile folks that are doing something & not folks that are rying to adopt. For some reason the news media lately has got it in their collective minds that the public really gives a hoot as to who's having who's baby. They should be reporting on Bill Clinton's lifetime commitment & Bono's commitment to helping out with this tragedy. I hear every day about the tragedy of the war but nothing about AIDS/HIV which is killing more per week on the African continent than the war has sense it's start.

Barry

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 21 Oct 06 - 01:05 PM

Madonna is married to a British Citizen and lives in Britain, surely any adoption should adhere to local law, i.e., British adoption laws. If she wants to adopt this child under the laws of another country, then she should go and live there until it's all settled.

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Lox
Date: 21 Oct 06 - 08:02 AM

Barry, in the interests of communication and clarity, please reread my specific response to you, and note the tone of it. There is no cause for confrontation (except in a purely academic sense) or for you to rush to the defence of your friends.

you said,

"Lox you assume way to much & are so off base as to my friends that you're in a different ballpark altogether"

I had said

"I may be wrong so feel free to correct me"

I made no assumption, I asked a question, then I "bet" on the probable answer.

So the key point of my response to your post isn't whether me and your friends are in the same ballpark, but whether Madonna and your friends actually have much in common beyond having adopted a foreign child.

I'm not, despite all appearances, so shallow as to get hung up on the question of whether adoption of foreign children is good or bad, but rather what circumstances are appropriate for a child to be moved from one guardian to another.

If someoneone wishes to offer help, one must first be sure what type of help is needed, lest one makes things worse. What does Madonna's new son need? First and foremost, a roof over his head, food on the table and the love of his family.

A little financial support for his father would have been more appropriate, though even that is a shallow "easy" solution to a tricky and complex problem.

Taking him to the UK (where, funnily enough, it is UK adoption laws which apply) to live in the public eye away from his family, raises a whole range of long term potential consequences.

These are not consequences that can be dealt with by a little counselling. They run deep and affect sufferers ability to interact within society properly. The associated disorders last for life and can be severely detrimantal to it's quality.

My guess was that your friends situation was different to Madonna's.

Either I'm right or wrong. Either their child had a relationship with it's biological family when it was adopted or it didn't.

I am genuinely curious to know the answer, and I think it would add value to this thread.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Barry Finn
Date: 21 Oct 06 - 01:52 AM

Lox you assume way to much & are so off base as to my friends that you're in a different ballpark altogether. It very late though, so please excuse me for tonight, I'll be back on this tomorrow.

Barry

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,lox
Date: 20 Oct 06 - 05:04 PM

once again, the assumptions being made by GUEST are as far from the truth as they could possibly be.

I have agreed with the well though out approach of a Brit. That does not make me a brit, so your thinly veiled attempt to rouse my jingoistic fervour is unfortunately way wide of the mark.

You missed.

Kat (the american who posted the link to the article in question) is not a brit either, so to try and polarise this debate into one between Limeys and Yanks is not only cynical but pointless.

"Again, the idea that the adoption should be done according to British rules is just plain silly."

Again, you demonstrate a weak and shallow understanding of what the article said.

Read up on Attachment and abandonment issues and personality disorders, read about the consequences of upheaval on a child and reread the article.

I have enough relevant experience in this area to justify my passion. My passion is based in love, care and the engagement of my brain in best trying to understand how those things are most effectively nurtured.

There are 2 seperate issues here.

1. the problems of starvation and AIDS in Malawi

2. The issue of responsibility towards a child who is being adopted and moved far from his real family with whom he has a relationship.

The two issues are mutually EXclusive.

Like I've said before, well done for showing concern for an issue, but that does not give you the right to take risks with a childs psychological well being because you've taken a shine to him. We're not talking about a puppy.

The father is very poor, and wants the best for his son, so of course he will say "go on and take him." Any loving father would make that sacrifice.

Thing is, it's not about what the dad is prepared to sacrifice, it's about what the child needs. I am sure that if the father was aware of abandonment and attachment issues and what they mean to people who have them, he might find the whole process even harder than he must already be finding it.

To understand this you need to learn about what abandonment and attachment issues are.
_______________

Barry Finn

What did you know of your friends childs history? were the parents still alive? if they were, did they have contact with their chiild?

I'll bet the child had no contact with it's biological parents at all and so it would have been a case of "the sooner the better" to get the child adopted, so as to foster some kind of security and stability in the childs life.

The fact that your friends were well to do by comparison with most vietnamese would have been a bonus.

I may be wrong so feel free to correct me, but if I'm not then your friends were in a very different situation to Madonna.

In Madonna's case, the child has a relationship with his father. This is to be disrupted with no apparent indication of an attempt to ensure it be maintained.

Again, to understand why this isof such importance, you need to read about attachment and abandonment issues. They ae not trivial things and are to be taken extremely seriously.
______________________

So, in short, Malawi <-> Baby , seperate issues.

On issue of baby,

It's not about Madonna, or the Dad, but about the child and his emotional and mental health.

That constitutes neither hate, icon bashing nor hot air.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST
Date: 20 Oct 06 - 12:22 PM

Yer dead on there, Barry.

Anyone, such as Mr. Lox, who has the energy to hyperventilate over celebrities the way he is here, isn't really interested in the welfare of an entire generation of African children being devastated by the AIDs crisis. They are interested in icon smashing, which is what Mr. Lox and the clueless twit of an editiorialist linked to above, are engaging in. The usual British begrudgery.

The Ritchies are stepping up to the plate and trying to help. They may have stumbled here, but they are making an effort, which is better than what Britney Spears and Kevin Federline are doing, yes?

Again, the idea that the adoption should be done according to British rules is just plain silly. The idea that the papparazzi would leave Madonna alone in Africa, and that when they didn't it was Madonna's fault, is beyond rational.

Mr. Lox, you are full of hot air and hate. Why should I listen to anything you say?

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Barry Finn
Date: 20 Oct 06 - 11:55 AM

My friends, a white couple, adopted a child in much the same way, from Viet Nam. No one was squawking about their choice. But they're not celb's. Once they went over seas it was done with within a week's time. Besides the news media couldn't have stired the tea pot into a tempest, no one would've given it a second thought.
What happens to a kid who doesn't get adopted in the UK?
OK, what happens to a kid that doesn't get adopted in the Sub-Saharaian region of Africa? In some African nations AID's is killing over 1000 people per day, that's not happening in the UK. The majority of the dying are women & girls. 20 million people have died from AIDS/HIV in Africa & 40 million are living with this today. The children of Africa need any kind of international aid they can get & adoption is one avenue. The majority of care givers their are grandmothers, their burden is self inflicted & it is killing them too but they are the hero's, if indeed there are any, just like adopting parents. If someone wants to adopt a child from there who's to say no. Any one who wants to cast the first stone at these parents, no matter who they are as along as they are willing & capable, should be held to public ridicule, including Yvonne Roberts who wrote that very bias editorial. Parentless kids don't need a woman like her, their lives are already tough enough.
Fair play to Guy & Madonna for their adoption, I don't hear of anyone whose in their shoes saying anything negitive. I know here in the US you can forget about trying to adopt a healthy white baby, it doesn't happen unless you've got eons of free time to wait. It still takes a village to raise a child & if the village cares what color the baby or where it comes from is then those living in it should not be raising children. I haven't seen much attention given to this AIDS crisis here on this forum & that is basically what this is all about. It's not about 2 high profile people that can't escape the trash writers that are are plague to their profession.

Barry

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: The Shambles
Date: 20 Oct 06 - 11:30 AM

This is the least important aspect of Kat's post. To focus on it to the possible detriment of the thread (by redirecting the focus of the reader from the issues being discussed to the issue you have chosen to raise) is deeply offensive in light of the subject matter of the thread.

You may find this to be the least important part of the post I responded to - you have posted to provide your reasons for why you judge this to be so. I don't find this deeply offensive, as this is your view and you are welcome to express it in any thread you wish to (unlike me). You are also welcome to do this as a non - member of our forum (perhaps not for very much longer). Although what the point of posting such a judgement on a post responding to a comment - and not the original comment itself - escapes me. But it does follow a pattern.

I think it deeply offensive to our forum that some anonymous fellow poster (possibly kat herself) is permitted to now judge and silently delete, move, re-title my posts and those of others and provide no evidence or explanation for this imposed action - in the form of an editing comment.

Unlike us - at least kat knows for sure that the non-appearance of her post - is not due to it being silently deleted.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,lox
Date: 20 Oct 06 - 09:35 AM

Ok GUEST,

"The process of third world babies being adopted by wealthy Westerners is what is at play here"

"It's all about the money, and ability of the wealthy elite to buy poor peoples' babies, body parts, etc."

Are you saying you think this is a bad thing?

So why do you think we sjhould leave Madonna alone?

Because she's a celeb - that you like?

Guess what - Madonna is a wealthy westerner.

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Did you actually read Kats article? No I didn't think so.

Ok so you did but you don't understand what it said.

It spoke about WHY the brits have the rules they have.

It spoke about attachment issues, which again, you clearly don't understand.

It spoke about upheaval and referred to the long term effects of these things on a child.

Have you ever heard of personality disorders?

Please engage your brain.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,lox
Date: 20 Oct 06 - 09:26 AM

"I could have sworn I already posted this, but do not see it.

You get used to it........ "

Shambles,

This is the least important aspect of Kat's post. To focus on it to the possible detriment of the thread (by redirecting the focus of the reader from the issues being discussed to the issue you have chosen to raise) is deeply offensive in light of the subject matter of the thread.

What do you have to say in response to THE LINK that Kat gave us?

Kat

I think it is absolutely superb and I would like to thank you for bringing it to our attention.

It clearly highlights how the question of altruism towards the needy should not be confused with the question of uprooting a child for the sake of ones selfish desire to have a little black baby for the collection.

A right doesn't excuse a wrong. Well done for giving money to an orphanage, but that does not give her the right to uproot a child.

I find the whole thing revolting.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST
Date: 20 Oct 06 - 09:16 AM

Madonna is an American citizen, and has every right to adopt the child according to US and Malawi laws. So this harping by the British press about the Ritchie adoption not following THEIR rules, is just bizarre beyond belief.

Do I believe there has been some speeding up of the process on the Malawi side? Absolutely. But not because it is Madonna. The process of third world babies being adopted by wealthy Westerners is what is at play here, not celebrity.

It's all about the money, and ability of the wealthy elite to buy poor peoples' babies, body parts, etc. So the rants about Madonna are just that. Rants against Madonna by a bunch of people who didn't give a shit about this issue before Madonna did what thousands of wealthy people do internationally every single year: buy poor people's babies.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: The Shambles
Date: 20 Oct 06 - 07:39 AM

I could have sworn I already posted this, but do not see it.

You get used to it........

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: katlaughing
Date: 20 Oct 06 - 12:52 AM

I could have sworn I already posted this, but do not see it.

I am not familiar with this op/ed writer, but I thought she raised some good points and found it an interesting read:

Click Here.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Lox
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 07:35 PM

sorry, I should really have sent you here

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Lox
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 07:30 PM

You're right billybob.

More power to you for taking the initiative to raise the issue.

click here to see what the "activists" are up to

and sponsor a child

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: billybob
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 07:22 PM

Sorry but my point is that this thread should be about children in Malawi not Madonna,however without Madonna this thread would not be here! Sponsor a child , then tell us what you think?

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,lox
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 07:04 PM

Many celebs get hounded by the paparazzi

It's what they do with it that shows them up for who they are.

Madonna gets courted by the media because she is adept at manipulating them and putting herself in the limelight. It is her talent.

She is no more a serious contributer to any debate than Jade Goody or Paris Hilton. She's just a bit fitter and was once a bit more fanciable.

We're supposed to see her as somehow controversial. exactly what has she actually done that has been of any actual impact? can anyone remember?

Playboy? Sex book? songs about herself? films about herself? even her love song about guy ritchie is all about herself -

(This guy was meant for "ME" - many miles have "I" travelled - it doesn't extoll one virtue of his.) - ( oh no - sorry - it was a clever play on words -> this "guy" - wow!)

But nothing genuinely controversial.

And whilst on the subject of mass generalization and misinformation, the kind of "activists" of which I speak, and to which you refer, are not, as you appear to have assumed, busy villifying madonna, they couldn't give a s**t about her, being too busy trying to draw attention to the roots of the problem and actually tackle it in a way that is in line with actual understanding of it, as opposed to grandiose gestures of goodwill.

Do you see Madonna giving up her job as an entertainer to focus on her (apparent) new found responsibilities? do you see her message having any depth in terms of the actual issues?

Do you hear her songs saying anything else other than "Me Me Me" or does she still peddle the same lie in her lyrics that it's each man for himself in a material world, thus encouraging the rest of us to carry on behaving that way, with the result that our society and culture carries on sucking at the livelihoods of people in poor countries like Malawi, whilst they watch her video's in awe of the lifestyle that they can never have (because the planet simply cannot sustain it for everyone) and develop unrealistic aspirations of their own, or turn to violence to get some of what they've been miissing.

The difference between those such as Joanna lumley etc and those such as madonna etc is that the first lot try to assist people who know what they're doing, while the second lot think they're the messiah. In madonna's case, she thinks she's Evita Peron.

Finally, the paparazzi don't write articles, they take photographs.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: billybob
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 06:13 PM

ok your views about Madge are yours!
However if we all sponsored a child in Africa we would not even notice the money and we would give a child a future, education and who knows what else.We may all have known what poverty there was and about the children who lost their parents to aids, but maybe the publicity has got to those peop;e who did not know?
We do not know how long the Ritche family have been in the process of this adoption, but now it is in the public domain how many of you are prepared to send money or sponsor a child?
Stop all this hypocracy , love her or hate her, get off your butts and HELP!!
You may get a lot more back than you think!Like letters of a childs progress at school even university!WE do not have to be millionaires to help... but it took one to get this response on Mudcat!

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 05:56 PM

I have no earthly idea what Madonna thinks. I'm neither defending nor villifying her for this adoption, because I simply do not have enough accurate information to make an informed judgment on it one way or the other.

From what I've read in the press accounts, nor does anyone else.

But the press lying about the terms of the adoption, and the                                                                                        "activists" opposing it being every bit as misinformed about the circumstances as the press (not to mention being white middle class Westerners) hasn't done much to convince me that Madonna deserves the negative press she is getting on this.

And to compare the papparazzi press following Madonna, to Joanna Lumley's self-effacing goodness--that's intended as a joke, right?

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: pdq
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 05:07 PM

I believe GUEST lox really hit the nail squarely on the head with the 04:12 post.

BTW, I don't think she thinks of others as people. Look at the picture of Madonna in the Malawi orphanage. She look like a spoiled teenager in a pet store saying "I want that one".

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,lox
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 04:57 PM

If people didn't know malawi was poor before this then they are either incalculably thick or weren't interested in the first place.

If the latter is true, then reading and unending deluge of articles about madonna's problems is unlikely to change their attitude, and when this episode is over they will all go back to not caring.

The only articles I have seen on this issue have been about Madonna, and the issue of celebs adopting babies. This thread is about madonna and celebs adopting babies.

At no point have I seen the media, madonna or this thread turn round and start to discuss the issue of poverty in malawi.

That discussion remains the domain of relief workers and "loony" political activists.

I know a few relief workers, and I know which celebrities they feel gratitude towards for their help in the third world.

Joanna Lumley is one. But you didn't know that, because when the camera's turn up, she points them at the suffering around her. Whenn the journalists start asking questions, she refers them to the experts ie the locals and the relief workers.

On the hitlist are people like robbie wiliams and martine mccutcheon - and Madonna.

Why? because the story always ends up being about them and what they have experienced and how they have reacted, and the issue becomes sidelined in hhe blink of an eye.

When Robbie went to mozambique the issue was his depression. When Martine went to Ethiopia with water aid (all expenses paid) she went home having done nothing because the hotel wasn't up to scratch and it was just generally too hot and uncomfortable.

Madge is a Narcissist - iie self serving and self absorbed. Don't be fooled.

Try and see beyond loyalties here and tell me what has been brought to light other than the question of Madonna and celebs adopting babies.

PS 3,000,000 doesn't buy a baby, it buys public approval, cos of her work for "chariddee"

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,lox
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 04:39 PM

whetther it's true or not will probably never be known for sure, but check this out

a bit embarrassing?

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Kara
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 04:33 PM

I'm with Madonna on this one. The publicity will only do the children of Malawi good as 3 weeks ago most people didn't even know there was a problem in Malawi.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,lox
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 04:12 PM

Problem with Madonna is that she is a Total narcissist of the worst order.

Having this child is not about the child, it is about her ego.

Go find out for yourself.

Madonna is incapable of talking or singing on any subject without somehow relating it back to herself in a way that somehow puts her at the centre of it.

Mark my words, when the official interview comes out, it will be about "how much I have grown" and "how this has all changed me" and she'll probably take the opportunity to say a few things about kabbalah while she's at it.

... Kabbalah's great because it really allows me to be honest with myself about who I am and how I really feel and I can really explore my real feelings in a real and honest way and I can ask my mind my body and my soul the same question and be in touch with myself ...

... and thinking about world affairs has really helped me broaden my mind and I have become so much wiser and I am growing out of my box and my boundaries and horizons are expanding and my life is taking a new turn ...

... and being a mother has made me reevaluate who I am and I have seen myself throughh different eyes, the eyes of a child ...

... and adopting a malawian baby has made me go so far up my own arse that I just have to tell the whole world all about how I feel about it and yet agaiin I'm causing huge controversy by highlighting the plight of ... erm ... a multimillionairess trying to adopt a child ...

... and nobody will ask me anything about the actual issues people actually face day to day in malawi, and I will not actually allow the conversation to be about that, because then it would be about somebody else and not me and this is about my journey and development and you could all learn so much from me and my uniquely valuable experience ...

... BLAH BLAH BLAH ...

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 01:41 PM

And how convenient is that for the politicians? And people wonder why the mainstream press is more interested in Madonna than what is happening at 10 Downing Street or Westminster.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: The Shambles
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 01:34 PM

We do seem to be a lot harder on our pop stars than our politicians.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,Different than all of the above
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 12:17 PM

The only thing that stinks about this story is the British tabloid press villifying Madonna for her charity work, and being perfectly sexist about it as usual (I believe there is a celebrity couple adopting this boy, not a single female celebrity), feeding the usual British begrudgery frenzy.

No one on the planet is worse than the Brits when it comes to this sort of icon smashing begrudgery. No one. It just makes them all look so mean and awful and selfish, not Madonna.

I'm no Madonna fan, and I'm often cynical about celebrity charity work. But not always. There are celebrities who do a lot of good work on behalf of "good works" projects.

What bothers me most is the lies the British press keep spreading about this. Apparently, this is an adoption that has been in the works for far longer than a week. The Ritchies choice to adopt this particular child brings attention to one of the problems facing Africa as it relates to the AIDS crisis especially: that of fathers abandoning their children when the mother dies.

People don't like to talk about how sexist much of Africa is, and how much sexist "traditional African life" is contributing to the AIDs crisis, particularly the spread of AIDs to women of child bearing age because men refuse to use condoms and stop having sex when they contract the disease.

If the Ritchie's adoption of this child opens up even a few peoples' eyes to the crisis, it will benefit far more than just one child.

I'm no celebrity worshipper. For instance, I can't stand Bono. However, I have to admit the guy has been tireless in his campaign to erase third world debt. Now, I don't think that is the right solution to the problems being created by global capitalist domination, but at least he has put his money where his mouth is. The Ritchies seem to have put themselves on a path some celebrities take as they mature, and look for other ways to influence the world beyond their entertainment industry roots.

Lots of billionaires and millionaires do this sort of thing, so why the special scorn for Madonna? And not for Madonna and Guy both, hmmm?

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,18 Oct 06 12.27 am
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 11:53 AM

The last GUEST wasn't me.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 11:48 AM

I am very cynical about this, obviously the price of a little black baby these days is £3million. Wonder if she got the crocodile skin handbag too?

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST
Date: 19 Oct 06 - 11:45 AM

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Greg F.
Date: 18 Oct 06 - 09:25 PM

Perhaps young black boys are once again becomming the fashion accessories for the well-to-do that they were in 17th Century London & other European capitals. Wonder if Madonna intends to dress him in livery?

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: billybob
Date: 18 Oct 06 - 06:03 PM

At least now we all know about the plight of the children in that country, we can all sponsor a child for a few pounds a year,Madge has given millions to an orphenage there and David hopefully will get us to help too by his being in the public eye. Come on you lot.... money where your mouth is!! What now Giok??

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST,ibo
Date: 18 Oct 06 - 04:26 PM

Will she breast feed him,lucky kid

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: Barry Finn
Date: 18 Oct 06 - 01:21 PM

"When you go to Rome do as the Romans do". I think she's got some there. It to bad more don't do the same. I dislike the woman but that's changing fast.

Barry

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: GUEST
Date: 18 Oct 06 - 12:27 PM

"She did her utmost to evade the glare of publicity on this one'
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So what was all the video footage of her dancing like a dervish with the natives, and wearing her designer clothes while posing alongside the poor of that boy's village about then?

Some of you dopes are so easy to suck in.

Subject: RE: BS: A little Malawi boy and Madonna
From: pdq
Date: 17 Oct 06 - 08:04 PM

Keep that quiet, will you. It never happened. Besides, it was along time ago.