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Subject: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: hesperis Date: 14 May 02 - 02:32 PM If you have been reading part 1, you have gathered that I'm not doing that well right now. I am improving in health daily, still need dental work and still need to get some money coming in so that I can further afford treatments. Today I had a talk with the owner of the house, who returned yesterday. She has an illness that started acting up while she was on holiday, and to make sure she gets enough oxygen, she is definitely going to need to have the skylight open, and the windows, etc, etc. Of course, that is definitely NOT good for me, as it is now pollen season, and I am pretty badly allergic to certain of the trees and wild plants around here. Even with the air filter (I had lent it to my ex-bf and he jsut brought it back for me) I still react pretty badly. However, she just happens to know of a folk remedy for hayfever, which she used to cure her own allergies several years ago... so I will be trying that out. Even if it doesn't work, (and I have the feeling that it's at least going to help,) I will be off my current medication for a couple of weeks, which is a very good thing. My current medication (the only thing I had previously found that actually somewhat works) contains ephedra. I've been taking it for two years pretty intensively, and it can sometimes lead to heart problems in subsceptible (sp?) individuals. Considering the state of my teeth, I have to be pretty careful. I had gotten the dosage of the medication down to twice a day during this winter - last winter I still had to take it every four hours - and went back up to the "normal" dose as soon as pollen season hit. So... looking forward to trying this folk remedy. I will DEFINITELY let you guys know how it goes! |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Liz the Squeak Date: 14 May 02 - 02:36 PM Good for you! Keep it up! LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Liz the Squeak Date: 14 May 02 - 02:37 PM Good for you! Keep it up! LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Amergin Date: 14 May 02 - 03:31 PM Hey, Hes...I sure hope the remedy works...it is no fun being bogged down by allergies....my aunt and mom have the same sort of problems....my aunt is constantly sick becuase of everything...and there tend to be alot of pollen in North Idaho where she lives...mom used to get sick...but she went through a program of allergy shots that seemed to help quite a bit...it helped her quite a bit....but then she has insurance...and so was able to do so...not sure if she is doing the shots anymore though... |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CapriUni Date: 14 May 02 - 03:53 PM I have asthma as well as ordinary hay fever. I found that with Singulair (nightly little square pill) I could go weeks without using my albuerteral inhaler. But right now, it's over $100 for a 30 day supply! But when the doctor first gave me the perscription, I got the first 30 days as a "Free sample"... BTW, Breathe Easy Tea uses the herb Ephedra as a main ingrediant, as it has the compound pseudoephidrine. That might be helpful for you... probably something of a "lower dose" than you'd get with pharmeceuticals, and certainly a lot cheaper... Maybe that's the "folk remedy" your friend mentioned? Anyone who says air is free doesn't have any allergies to medicate! |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: hesperis Date: 25 May 02 - 07:35 PM The folk remedy is a teaspoon each of unfiltered apple cider vinegar and local raw honey. Mix that with water and sip throughout the day, one a day, two if it's REALLY bad. Sort of apple-cider-vinegarade, I guess. Take it for three months without expecting results, and then it'll be starting to work. Anyway, I'm just trying to get through spring pollen season with something that I know somewhat works, so I decided to start that remedy as soon as I get to Susan's rather than give up the allergy pills right now. The housing situation isn't really good right now, the windows are open and the skylight too, and I am not doing very well, especially I am very tired. She can't have it any other way in her condition, and it is her house. So... I have to play by her rules, even if they make me sick, because otherwise she'll be sick... it's just one of those situations. Looking for an alternative, and praying for rain in the meantime. Will be going to PA as of June 6th, for sure. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: catspaw49 Date: 25 May 02 - 08:30 PM Honey and honeycomb as well as vinegar are major ingredients in many folk remedies. They say chewing honeycomb will keep your nose clear. I don't know about vinegar and your nose but it is a mild diuretic...........So if the honey and vinegar both work, you'll find yourself running off at both ends. Take a box of Kleenex, sit on the john, and whizz and snort! Spaw |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CapriUni Date: 25 May 02 - 09:26 PM Hmmm... Sounds to me like the local honey is a homeopathic remedy -- it's the "local" that's the tip-off the honey would have traces of the local pollen in it, I presume, or would have the same protiens as the pollen that triggers your allergies, so I guess this would be nature's version of "allergy shots" ...though if you drink it, it has a different meaning to the word 'shot'. When I was first diagnosed with asthma, we invested in an air filter machine and it helped greatly. The house I grew up in was big, and the only "air conditioning" in the summer was to open all the windows and run fans. But I ran the air filter in my bedroom and kept the door closed. And at least, that way, I could breath easier at night. Could you do something like that, and have at least one room just for yourself? |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: hesperis Date: 25 May 02 - 10:11 PM Spaw - LOL! I definitely snorted just on reading that! (Thanks.) CapriUni - Yep. Have an air cleaner running full blast. Except when I'm going out for groceries or whatever, when she comes into my room and turns it off, and opens the windows. I had a load of laundry hanging in my room instead of in the basement so that it wouldn't get full of pollen, and she did that. Then she accuses me of having no compassion for *her* health... uh-huh. Sure... I can still smell it pretty strongly, and why it alternately makes me completely sleepy (I almost fell asleep crossing the road on the way home today,) and then completely AWAKE (usually at 3 AM even though really tired physically,) I really don't know. Haven't had good sleep lately. But at least I have allergy pills again! Anyway, speaking of sleep, I'm TIREDzzzz. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CapriUni Date: 25 May 02 - 11:13 PM Jeez louise! Sounds like she doesn't take your allergies as seriously as she does her own... Maybe only what she feels is real... Did you have to wash your clothes again? |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Liz the Squeak Date: 26 May 02 - 05:03 AM If you are a tenant, what is she doing coming into your room? Even if you are just sharing, what is she doing in your room anyway? I don't know about the US, but in the UK, it's illegal for landlords to enter tenanted rooms without a specific invite, particularly if the room is considered separate - i.e., having it's own lockable entrance. Do you go into her room uninvited? If not, she should extend the same courtesy to you. Could you ask her politely not to enter the room whilst you aren't there, or find a way of locking it? If the doors are shut, what is the point of opening the window, particularly if she doesn't occupy the room at any time? If she was doing it to make your laundry dry quicker, then did she ask why it was there rather than the basement? I may be a cynical old cow (alright, I AM a cynical old cow), but I have a sneaky suspicion that she is making your life uncomfortable in a bid to get you to leave sooner, rather than later. It's a ploy that has worked on me in the past in several situations, and is being used by my present manager to get me out of the department. Try asking politely, discuss each other's allergies, you may find one or a cure in common. Once you have that common ground (heck, even the fact you both have allergies is common ground), maybe you can come to an amicable solution. Take care, and remember we're here. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CapriUni Date: 26 May 02 - 09:05 AM And if she needs so much fresh air, wouldn't it be better if she lived in a tent in the back yard for the summer, and you could have the house? [evil grin] |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: hesperis Date: 26 May 02 - 04:21 PM Well, since she "so generously" let me not pay rent this month, there's not much I can do. (And I have the feeling she did that on purpose, which of course, isn't generous at all... but she's unlikely to see that.) I'd have left on the 13th if I had a place to go. It's that simple. I'm only staying because I have a dental appointment on June 4th, and I'm going to that because I have three temporary fillings that need to be dealt with BEFORE I go out of the country. Otherwise I'd be going to Susan's a lot sooner. Apparently a friend called her and she agreed to make it easier on me while I remain here... however, there has been no action on that, and if the friend hadn't told me, I wouldn't have known about it. So, it's just a contest of endurance right now. I really do not know what I can do, I'm not paying rent, I have not enough money to go to a motel, I have no where else to go unless I miss the dental thing. You know, some older people just get stuck in the authority position, and don't know how to turn it off, and if you try to relate to them as an equal, they just can't take it, they think you're challenging their authority when all you're saying is that you're a human being who has rights too. How the heck do you deal with that? |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Amos Date: 26 May 02 - 04:27 PM If possible, you don't; the reason it makes sense to scramble hard for a while and haul yourself out of a dependent position is that you won't have to as much as possible. But it depends on how stuck they are, really -- a lot of people who run authority machines are real individuals right under the surface and are glad to communicate as such the minute you look behind the curtain!! :>) Please pay attention to the little man behind the curtain!! A |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 26 May 02 - 04:36 PM Hess, it might be possible for me to get the place ready sooner, but I am kinda decrepit too. But it sounds like the tooth thing is important enough to stay there for, for now. Can you get that appointment sooner and leave sooner, and I'll get going as fast as I can? In the meantime... don't spend a lot of time at home. Hang out in libraries where they have a good air system, and so forth.... And a word to folks encouraging Hess to protect her rights about this, with the landlady... I have a feeling she needs her strength to make this change, more than she needs to win one right now-- even though she is clearly right. ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Liz the Squeak Date: 26 May 02 - 05:18 PM Change can come in all manner of forms. And if someone doesn't make a stand, then some people never change. I was recently given a chance to move out of a section where I'm getting a great deal of grief from a manager. He arranged for me to move out of the section, for his benefit, rather than mine. I chose not to go because it would mean that a) he won, and b) there would be no-one left in the department willing to stay and challenge his unreasonable and unacceptable behaviour. My staying has made him rethink the way he behaves to me and the team (he's also got wind of the grievance the team is planning to take out on him on top of the individual one I'm bringing against him), and he's started to behave differently. We haven't done anything wrong, or yet official, but he's already started to act differently. If Hesp sticks up for her rights, then the change may be a whole heap easier for both her and her landlady. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CapriUni Date: 26 May 02 - 06:56 PM Yes -- I vote for the library, too. They're airconditioned, have big comfy chairs to sit in, and they're Free !!! I don't know how your body reacts, Hes. But mine deals a lot better with stress such as allergens if it gets a break and can rest... |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,cookieless hesperis Date: 28 May 02 - 03:15 PM Thanks, folks! A friend found me friends to stay with in London (I'm in ENGLAND!!! Just kidding. Still in Ontario. *g*) At the most basic, this problem was only the clash of one need against another, and that was not solvable. There were other things, on both sides of course. (I may joke that I am an angel, but be assured I know what I'm like!) So I think it is better to just leave in this case, it gives us BOTH peace of mind. I hope she will find other people to help her while she isn't feeling that well. Anyway, one of the friends I ended up staying with is a musician!!! And she loves computers too. And I can do some computer maintenance stuff to help out here, and I brought some food and got my stuff, so everything is ok. Susan - Would it be ok to come on June 5th? Also, I cannot bring the bed, it won't fit in the car anyway. Unless I don't bring Martin... (Since he's driving, that would be kinda funny to try.) *g* There's a cat here, but I don't get an anaphylactic reaction for cats. And there's some acupressure stuff that can keep it pretty minor. So I'm not worrying. So, I'm ok, I've had a chance to think things over, and my natural sunny nature is asserting itself again. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 28 May 02 - 03:53 PM Come ahead full steam, sweetie. Since you are cookieless I will ask you, here, what I asked you in the PM-- do I hang curtains and so forth, or wait for you to decorate it how you want? Have desk and bookshelf you can lug up there and assemble. Hardi will help. We'll toss a bed up there. We have various other furnishings you might want up there, once you arrive and see what you need. I am tempted to just paint or polyurethane the floor to knock the dust down. Any kinds that are toxic for you, or shall I wait and see what you think when here? Also keep in mind that Hardi's room at the church is still there-- if things are not just right the day you arrive, you can set up over there while it's being worked out and while your air cleaner is working on the space. Okiebokie? GREAT news about the cat thing. Tree pollen-- being south of you, our trees are fully leafed out now and the flowering trees seem to have quit flowering. Does that mean we are done with pollen season on the trees? Ragweed-- winds here are from the west, and to the west is mostly mowed hay and corn being planted. (Corn pollen???) You will have a west-facing window, but you can weather strip it if its new caulking has shrunk. Anything else from last year you want me to address before you arrive? ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,Bailey Date: 28 May 02 - 04:12 PM Bob Dylan KICKS ASS |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,cookieless hesperis Date: 28 May 02 - 04:49 PM EXCELLENT!!!!! Curtains and bed would be nice. We'll settle the rest of all this when I get there, June 5th. THANK YOU! Send me the phone # and address by PM again, I'll log in and out quickly before we set out. I just don't want to take up too much of my hosts' computer, or forget to log out. Heh. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 28 May 02 - 05:35 PM Need directions again too? Stopping at Jande's? Bringing her too? I'll leave word HERE when all details are IN A PM so you know when to go look. OK?
Walls & trim = white Perky, but peacefully. Might get an electric picture made and hung up somewhere so you can start seeing it. Can you getting e-mail at the "brass" address? ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,Just Amy Date: 28 May 02 - 07:26 PM Someone above mentioned about landlords not being able to go into rooms and as a landlord I can tell you that a roommate with a separate room is treated the same way a tenant in a separate apartment is treated. That is, in California, I cannot enter the room of my tenant without 24 hour notice unless it is an emergency (overflowing toilet, leaking gas, etc.). Tenants have rights. Right on Hes. Let us know how you are doing. Glad you are getting the teeth fixed. It will totally make you feel better. Amy |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Irish sergeant Date: 28 May 02 - 08:21 PM Same in New York about the landlord. Hes: it sounds like things are looking up. I have found with the apple cider vinegar/honey remedy that even store bought honey will work. there isn't a reason to stint on using it either or dosage except for taste. I usually use two teaspoon or a table spoon of vinagar about the same of honey and hot water drinking it as if it was tea and as much as is needed for cold sinus etc. I can't comment on allergy but it is the cat's meow for cold and sinus. Do be a dear and get better! and good luck in your new place. Neil |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,53 Date: 28 May 02 - 09:12 PM I have recently started taking Klonopin for my anxiety problems again and it seems to be working good. I just hope that it will continue to work. Bob |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Jande Date: 29 May 02 - 12:05 AM Yay!! Hes has landed on her feet once again! Honey, you are an inspiration to us all! Thanks for giving us the gift of being able to help and support you each in our own way. {{{{Hugs}}}} Susan-- not this time. Jande is *working* (18 hours a day and loving it!), creating illustrations for a series of 21 educational books for young people on American Folklore that have to be finished by July first and sixteen books yet to go! :) so no time, atm. But maybe afterwards and Hes has settled in a bit. :) thaks for the thought! ~ Jande |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 29 May 02 - 12:16 AM We'll have to sneak over there and kidnap you sometime, then, J! (Of course you are welcome here any time.) Sigh.... what a GREAT project..... you go, girl! ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Liz the Squeak Date: 29 May 02 - 12:48 AM Great news Hesp, keep us posted on the health issues, we're all thinking of you. I hope there wasn't too much ill feeling with the landlady when you left? Maybe she just doesn't realise that she's not supposed to act that way as a landlady. If she really does have all those problems, maybe she should rethink letting. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 29 May 02 - 01:39 AM Hess is going to need a small window-size air conditioner in there so she can leave the window shut in the summer, and altho it is well insulated up there it is right under the roof. Our money is tight, so contributions toward this (PM me) would be welcome. Hess coming has spurred me on to a whole new way of thinking-- she has repeatedly insisted we have things (work) for her to do-- says it's not just for "rent" but that she needs it to keep her getting WELL. So naturally I thought of her helping us with MUSIC stuff, and there is a LOT that needs doing in that department.... getting our band out in the public eye, organizing materials, drawing up songsheets, and so forth..... all stuff she can do at her own speed. So she can be help us learn how to have an intern! Yeah! When she leaves I'm recruiting someone else to occupy the space, to help--- and with a local college, and kids not always liking to go home to Mom and Dad for the summer..... music majors all over campus..... hmm, maybe Hess will help find her replacement when she's ready to move on.... not too soon I hope..... So really, Hess is helping us far more than we are helping her! Thanks, hesperis! I love it when a rant, fully encouraged, turns into great solutions and a celebration! ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,cookieless hesperis Date: 02 Jun 02 - 01:25 AM Amy - The situation was a little more complicated than a landlady-tenant thing. So it was best to just get out, now we're all happy. Neil - cool. yeah, my ragweed thing isn't even the classic hayfever, it just goes straight to the lungs and makes me *tired*. I get hayfever with the cat thing, that's much better now my friend did Reiki and acupressure on me. Bob - Good! Jande - thankies! *Big hug!* Glad you've got work, eh? Liz - health is better now that my friend did the Reiki and acupressure thing, and the pollen is only really bad in late afternoon-evening. So I get kinda sleepy then, but that's it. As for ill feeling, I have none, and she says she has none, so we'll just leave it at that. I'm really going to miss the people I'm staying with now, when I leave. Susan - AWWWWWWWW! *HUG* Thanks. I can *definitely* do computer stuff and music stuff, I'll just throw it in with the stuff I'm already doing, hehe. Speaking of which, would you (or Jande) happen to have a good mic? Hawk wants his back. He'll be ok with lending it to me for the next few months, but if there is a good mic there that I could use, then I can leave his for him here. (It would be less messy to get it back to him now than later, for sure.) I'd like to finish recording that CD since it's about a third done. *Big grin* |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 02 Jun 02 - 01:36 AM Have complete selection of mics. *G* Including Shure SM58. And we can schedule a trip to go visit back north if we can figure out the gas money. See ya soon! Get the e-mail with info you requested? ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 02 Jun 02 - 01:42 AM Come to think of it, that girl looks HONGRY; I think she needs a cookie! *G* Hess, I put the info in a PM, it's all there now. ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CarolC Date: 02 Jun 02 - 02:22 AM Hey hesperis... good luck with the big move!
So while you're at Susan's, you'll be living in the state right next to mine. We'll be neighbors! (Although it is all the way at the other end of a pretty big state. Ah, well.) Sounds like you've got a lot of adventures waiting for you. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,mg Date: 02 Jun 02 - 03:54 PM do a google search for asthma and dehydration...also a google search for asthma sea salt and water...not sure you'll find anything there but I have read of something... mg |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,cookieless hesperis Date: 02 Jun 02 - 04:35 PM Carol - So, when are you moving? *g* Susan - Thanks, we know where we're going now! |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 02 Jun 02 - 05:01 PM Yes, but what kind of soap can I use on the wood floor to pick up a bit more plaster dust? Maybe just damp mop it so we can still paint if we want? It's kind of unnerving not knowing every last thing that is NOT OK, to see what IS OK.... so I am just on hold waiting for you mostly. Like, do I even put the bed up there now or do I wait for you to run the air cleaner for a day or two first? Do I air it out (I haven't) or leave the window shut as it has been for the months since it was painted? So.... just get here and we will figure it out, or tell me now anything I can work on.... ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: catspaw49 Date: 02 Jun 02 - 10:14 PM Lemmee get this right huh? I ain't the sharpest knife in the drawer and I think I missed how/when this seems to have taken place but uh.....Hesp is moving in on some kind of basis for awhile with Susan? Is that it? Spaw |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,cookieless hesperis Date: 02 Jun 02 - 10:34 PM Sooz - Wash stuff now and it ought to be fine when I get there. Put the bed up, wash the pillow, if it's catless for day or two that'll help. The air cleaner may take a couple of days to get it totally ok, but I'm not going to die from a little discomfort. (The discomfort is why we're coming on the 5th instead of the 6th. *g*) Thanks for wanting to make me comfy, though! Spaw - yepper! |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Amergin Date: 02 Jun 02 - 11:16 PM clueless how this came about myself....but ok....one less reason to visit Canadia....one more reason to go back east.... |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 02 Jun 02 - 11:36 PM How? *Try Max's Personal Messages!* Hess, nyah nyah, no pillow washing-- it's brand new! *G* And the room in question is catless, catless, catless. Can I open the window then? ~S~
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CarolC Date: 02 Jun 02 - 11:49 PM So, when are you moving? *G* Good question, eh? |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 02 Jun 02 - 11:52 PM Yeah, Carol, which room do you want? Pine paneling or lighthouse decor? *G* ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CarolC Date: 02 Jun 02 - 11:59 PM Ooohhh... tough choice there. I'm going to have to think on this a while. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 03 Jun 02 - 12:24 AM OK, when Hess is settled in we will tempt you with pictures. *G* Stranger things have happened, so you never know! *G* ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Jande Date: 03 Jun 02 - 10:32 AM Good God, it's June 3rd already! :) The big move is in two days. Hes... No mics to spare, sorry. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 03 Jun 02 - 10:35 AM Jande, somehow I don't think "matron"napping sounds right either. *G* ~S~
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 03 Jun 02 - 05:25 PM Making good progress up there on your space, Hess.
DETAILS: I'm running the linens through the wash one time more to eliminate any stray cat hairs or laundry additives, tonight. I found an unused lamp, a chair, a nightstand, and a bookshelf lying around, and I think we will nab you a 6' table from the church (for a desk). Curtains go up tomorrow, too. You can decide how you want it all arranged when you get here! We have set aside an area downstairs for your stuff to go when you get here, so you can take your time over the succeeding days moving it upstairs. If you can nab an outlet strip and heavy extension cord easily, up there, do it-- so you can spread electric stuff around. There are only two outlets up there. We need to go grocery shopping when you get here-- so you can guide us on what to get. *G* Are you still a hot-dog-chomping vegan? *G* Maybe we will grill dogs to celebrate your arrival. Is that with or without cheese and chili and onions, ma'am? *G* Alas, I have not gotten the sitting pool set up yet. :~( It just needs more bodies working on it at once... I am recruiting the neighbor next. *G* But it will warm up quickly once set up and it's good for horizontal aquasize. (Did I mention Hills Creek Lake a few miles away as well? It has a sand beach and clear swimming area.) Hardi will run the vacuum over the downstairs Wednesday afternoon and I may even dust! (We are down to just one housecat.) You may instruct us on the rest when you arrive. *G* Call collect from the road, if needed. ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Irish sergeant Date: 03 Jun 02 - 09:03 PM Susan: If it's a wood floor, Murphy's oil soap and rinse well. i will be pm ing you a pic or two from a fwe events last yea that you might share with our mudcat friends. Neil |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 03 Jun 02 - 10:09 PM Yes, thanks, it's wood, but so many layers of stuff ground in, if I mop it will just turn mud. I think leaving the patina of grund-in character will do better, after a good industrial dustmopping... and then if Hess wants to paint it she can (oil-base Kilz), and if not we will toss a rug on it. ~Susan
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 04 Jun 02 - 01:46 PM Hess, I won't be online much tonight, tomorrow... leave word here if anything important, or call collect if you need to, but I won't be near the phone much either. It's raining nicely so I opened the window to air the room a bit. ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 05 Jun 02 - 12:49 AM Curtains up, CHECK. So pretty. Bed up there, CHECK. You assemble when you decide how to arrange. Linens, washed, CHECK, and up there, CHECK. Bagged to keep dust off. Shelf, other items up there-- CHECK. And there is still lots of room. You will have space for a sleeping area, a work area, and a sitting area. We can jam up there if you like. Rag rugs, temporary till big rug comes-- CHECK, and fresh laundered too. Everything was cleaned before it went up there or as soon as it got up there. Monica was a vacuum demon. And we dust-mopped the floor and it looks dirty but is actually pretty clean and dust-free (except for two areas needing degreasing. Dunno what got on it.). Hardi sewed you a pretty cover to brighten up your lampshade. Tomorrow he will hem the last curtain, for the tiny side window. Cat-- she is temporarily up in the main house's upsatairs in the room we call "sick bay," so your first couple of days here will be catless. I am praying hard that the border guards will see a nice empty tourist car, and not see anything else, when you drive through. I have also been thinking and praying a lot about your teeth. You must be so tired, having to deal with all that today AND get ready to hit the road. Hardi will let the parish secretary know you may call there collect tomorrow. She is there in the mornings only. I really would love to know how you fared getting through the border, if you get a chance to call along the way. See you soon! ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: MMario Date: 05 Jun 02 - 08:54 AM Hes - if you can't reach WYSIWYG or Hardi - and need directions or something during the day - I will be at work. got an 800 number! Will PM you with it. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Jande Date: 05 Jun 02 - 10:20 AM Susan... More like "Crone-napping". LOL!
Good luck to you both! May your new living arrangements be blessed with benefits to you both. ~ Jande |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CarolC Date: 05 Jun 02 - 12:40 PM Are you there yet? |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 05 Jun 02 - 12:51 PM No! Jande, are they stoppping at your place? ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: MMario Date: 05 Jun 02 - 01:09 PM yeesh! If they are not pushing it, it isn't anywhere near panic time. Don't know which way Hes was planning to take around the lake |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 05 Jun 02 - 01:15 PM If she did not leave yesterday after her tooth appointment, and plan to stop at Jande's like she did last time.... no panic, but excited, and worried I won't be ready, since I managed to have myself a little boo boo last night.... ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: MMario Date: 05 Jun 02 - 01:21 PM Things'll be cool - calm down; breathe; in ...out...in...out... |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: 53 Date: 05 Jun 02 - 01:23 PM I think that you feel the same way as I do in about losing interest in the guitar right now. I don't know what causes it but it just happened. Maybe its the down side of my illness. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 05 Jun 02 - 07:47 PM Still no word from hesperis. She had thought to arrive late this afternoon or early this evening, but now there is a tornado watch to the north and a severe storm warning here. If she is on the road now, there is some really nasty weather between us. I'm hoping she will stop at Jande's for the night, since dark and stormy is not a good combination for a drive who does not know the area. But on the upside, the rain has washed the air nice and clean, so whatever! *G* Let's wish Hess and her friend Martin safe travel and arrival at home, soon, folks! ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 05 Jun 02 - 08:02 PM Disconnecting puder till lightning is gone. Nasty. ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,cookieless hesperis Date: 05 Jun 02 - 09:27 PM Well, got turned back at the border, too much stuff, not enough ID. (I have no photo ID at all.) Probably just as well what with the storms and all... was majorly disappointed, but also a bit relieved, I really love Canada. Guess I'll just do my best over here, as I do not want to see the inside of a car again for a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG time! Miss Jande and really wanted to see Susan again, but I guess I wasn't done here! *g* Say hi to everyone for me. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 05 Jun 02 - 09:34 PM Hess, I have a feeling this has happened exactly as it was meant to. And I am SO pleased for you-- you get to stay in Canada and get the healthcare you need-- which had been your stated preference from the start. And you will be in a musician's household-- apparently you did not realize how much they enjoyed having you there. *G* I did not do anything more to that room than I had already planned to do for increased guest space, so now we have nore room than ever, and the allergy-free space I had envisioned. And now I am ahead of the game because I can write a complete job description for an intern, and I have discovered how much people here are charging just for a sleeping room. *G* As I told you, if your arrangement gets old, or you want a US base for heading to school, come on down! Hardi and I wish you the best in ALL your adventures-- love, ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CarolC Date: 05 Jun 02 - 09:58 PM *G* It's a funny old world, innit?
Glad you're safe. And I'm glad you're glad to be staying in Canada. In a way it's nice to still have you as one of my reasons for wanting to go back to visit (or whatever) some day. Looking forward to chatting again sometime soon, and getting caught up on your adventures. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Amos Date: 05 Jun 02 - 10:02 PM Hesperis: When you can, get yourself a passport. There are many occasions when having a basic, irrefutable, legal ID can save you lots of hassles over the years. A |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Amergin Date: 05 Jun 02 - 10:07 PM I agree with Amos....one of the reasons I still keep my MMD though I have had no reason to use it for years.... |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Jande Date: 06 Jun 02 - 03:32 AM Hes... Well... Doesn't that beat all! So what the heck happened? What kind of questions did they ask you? Yeah. I guess Amergin and Amos are right. A passport is a good idea. Especially since all you have to do is get the photos and apply for one. You could have it within a couple of weeks... Are the phoaks you are staying with okay to have you there? I got your phone call rather late. How about emailing me all about it? Amergin... What's a MMD? ~ Jande
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Amos Date: 06 Jun 02 - 02:53 PM A Male Masher Diploma. They issue them to first-time offenders as a sort of warning to gals, ya know.:>) A |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,cookieless hesperis Date: 06 Jun 02 - 06:05 PM lol, get the birth certificate first - AGAIN... the last time I saw it, it was on the keyboard before I moved to Burlington and I've been looking for it ever since. Sigh. Susan and Jande - full email of what happened will be written later today. Will definitely get a passport as soon as possible, I have the feeling I'll be needing it for more than the states, soon. Healing stuff will be good, as will having the opportunity to go through my papers. I'm obviously not portable enough right now. *g* |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 06 Jun 02 - 06:30 PM hesperis, you know I am always glad to hear your news. But only write me if it would be helpful to you-- you do not owe me an explanation... I am behind you in any decision you make, I hope you know. Also, the e-mail address you have for me may not work unless you put MUDCAT in the subject line. ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Rick Fielding Date: 09 Jun 02 - 11:30 AM Boy, passport checking can be a strange process. I've crossed the border at least a hundred times in the last four or five years and never needed it. When Heather travels with me, she's usually asked about her status (landed immigrant) and that's it. One time last year while crossing at Detroit, we were both hauled in and fortunately I keep the passports in the glove compartment. Got the full treatment... lots of computer checking, and looking at photos...an hour and a half's worth....even had to state my Mother's maiden name(!) Thank goodness I remembered it. Rick |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Amos Date: 09 Jun 02 - 12:30 PM They probably caught wind of your Layabout enterprise, Rick -- ya know that kind of thing is looked on as undermining the American way of life -- you and the others are threatening to put hundreds of red-blooded American couch potatos and beer drinkers out of a non-job! Americans find it awfully hard to admit that anyone else could outdo them in useless inactivity -- it's one of our national pastimes, and we take it seriously. A |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Rick Fielding Date: 09 Jun 02 - 06:46 PM Possibly Amos, but it was Heather that got us busted....and she works a lot harder than me. I guess they thought her Scottish accent was suspicious. Rick |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,cookieless hesperis Date: 17 Jun 02 - 07:22 PM Sigh. I got all set up, we were going to start recording tomorrow... So now their dad volunteered them to host their niece and nephew... and I'm out of a place to stay. I'm staying at another friend's place, in another city, but can only stay here for a week or two at most. If ANYONE has a spare room, particularly in the Toronto area, please let me know by PM, I'll check in a couple of days. Allergy-free would be best, but any roof is better than none. I have money for food, but would have to go on welfare for rent money... I may have to do that anyway, I'm moved four times in the past two weeks alone and am really getting sick of packing and unpacking. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 17 Jun 02 - 08:16 PM Huh! Can you get here this time around? Travel a lot lighter? Use our computer for instance, just bring any peripherals we lack and your software CDs? Your room here is getting kinda cute! ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Irish sergeant Date: 17 Jun 02 - 09:47 PM Hes: I do hope all works out for you. Please keep us informed and by all means don't let this get you down! We want you well and happy! Have a lovely night and we are prayinbg for you. Neil |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CarolC Date: 17 Jun 02 - 10:03 PM Couldn't hesperis ship some of her stuff separately so she doesn't have to have it all in the car (or whatever) with her when she crosses the border? |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 17 Jun 02 - 10:07 PM I had thought of that too, but I dunno the border rules or the post office rules going across the border. I know if her stuff got shipped I'd go wherever I needed to go to pick it up. Hess, about clothes-- remember I have a whole thrift shop here right under my feet, OK? Plus lots more in the area. Plenty good stuff too.... ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CarolC Date: 17 Jun 02 - 10:38 PM Here's another thought. I bet, if you come up with some sort of document, like a letter of acceptance or something, hesperis could say she's coming here to work as your apprentice. Seems like that could give her a legal reason for being in the US for an extended period of time, and she could present that document when she crosses. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: CarolC Date: 17 Jun 02 - 10:41 PM Oops. I meant "intern" rather than "apprentice". |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 17 Jun 02 - 11:04 PM I wondered about that too-- we sure have church letterhead and would use it, and it would actually be completely straightforward. But I'm concerned that making it official might require her to get some kind of visa that's harder to get-- that the more official it is, the more it's a problem. Anyone on the Canadian side able to look into that? ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 17 Jun 02 - 11:34 PM A quick look at immigration stuff online and I am glazed over. Help! ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,cookieless hesperis Date: 18 Jun 02 - 02:18 AM Hmmm, good thoughts. I definitely would need the birth certificate if we did a legal volunteering or internship thing. That would put back the estimated time of departure at least two weeks just to get that piece of paper... then more weeks for the visa... and I don't know how long I'll be able to stay here. Also, I don't really have an address right now, which makes it difficult to get legal papers, and difficult to persuade border guards that I'm planning on coming back. I just feel confused right now. No direction looks likely, and I've been so busy just trying to find a roof that I am no longer sure of what I WANT to do. Actually, I know what I want. I want to dig in somewhere for three months and sort through my stuff, sort through my options, and decide what I want to do. ARRRRGH! |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 18 Jun 02 - 10:17 AM Whenever I have screamed "I can't take it any more!" to the universe, the bullshit has always stopped, and the changes I needed have begun. I think you just screamed. Let's see what happens over the next few days. An option I want to mention is that if you can store your stuff and just come, even for a visit, we can go back and forth and get stuff in batches every couple of weeks. I am not portable at the moment-- but I expect to be more portable over the rest of the summer. Neil, is there any chance you could get her across? ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Amergin Date: 18 Jun 02 - 11:06 AM what about using a side road? |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST Date: 19 Jun 02 - 12:42 AM Some are weak and some are strong Here's a crying towel, weep, weep on. |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: katlaughing Date: 19 Jun 02 - 03:50 AM Sirepseh, if welfare would enable you to get a stable place for those three months you long for, why not go for it? I am a strong believer in working with what you've got, where you are, in order to improve things AND make major changes while in the best possible frame of mind, body, and spirit. It sounds to me like you need to regroup and, barring getting over all of the obstacles to getting to Susan's, that might be your best bet, at the moment. With all good wishes, kat |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: KingBrilliant Date: 19 Jun 02 - 05:15 AM But Kat, I don't think Hes should live in a stable - think of all that horse-hair and hay! :>) Best of luck with finding a haven Hesperis. KRis |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: hesperis Date: 03 Jul 02 - 02:29 PM Well... interesting stuff happening. 1. I've been putting off getting welfare. I've decided to get it and move to Toronto, where I can stay with friends for a bit and then get more solid. Now I just need to find that number to apply... Sigh. I detest welfare. But, if you need help, you need help. 2. Toronto is where my current allergist is, just add money and I'll be able to get some more healing happening. 3. A multi-author fanfiction written over the internet is going to become an amateur movie in late August. Two of the major characters met in Toronto last saturday, and we decided to go for it. She has some experience with directing and producing, and knows people who can act, do makeup, direct, do effects, etc. I have experience in organizing creative projects, and in writing music. You can find out more about the movie by going here and here. You can read the story so far here. (The part that we'll be filming starts at the middle of page 8, everything before that is pretty much just having fun and getting to know each character, that's also partly on another thread.) |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: GUEST,Just Amy Date: 03 Jul 02 - 03:05 PM I have been reading these threads with interest. I makes me happy that there are still people in this world who care about each other. Hes, I am glad things are looking up for you! Good luck, Amy |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: wysiwyg Date: 03 Jul 02 - 07:42 PM Kewl beans! With hot doggies! ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: Irish sergeant Date: 03 Jul 02 - 09:03 PM Hes: Glad to hear things are going well for you. Hope this move is just the ticket. Keep well and happy young lady!! Speaking of movies, your hum,ble and obedient Irish sergeant had the opportunity to work as an unpaid extra in the film "Gods and Generals" which is slated for release between Thanksgiving and Christmas. It is a major release and I'm in it if I didn't end on the cutting room floor. Hes, Darlin, hope you're abl;e to get some writing done too. You do have a flair for it. Neil |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: hesperis Date: 03 Jul 02 - 11:17 PM Read the story, Neil! Yours truly is Brassfire, Mage and Bard. ;) And I will definitely look for that film! |
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Subject: RE: BS: Waaaah! I need to rant - 2 From: hesperis Date: 08 Jul 02 - 12:50 PM And yes, still working on Goddess Quest, too. The above was the story for the movie, just in case there was confusion. *g* Anyway, this thread is being continued here. |