Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007

Subject: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: kendall
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 09:25 PM

My brother, Daryll is dying of a brain tumor. He is 4+ years older than I and he sort of took the place of our Father who was never around. It will be relatively quick, but not easy to deal with. Some positive thoughts would help.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Rapparee
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 09:29 PM

You got 'em, Kendall. You got 'em.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: The Fooles Troupe
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 09:34 PM

My sympathies - some bits of life are tough. The slow ones can be tougher, but at least you have some time to deal with things - the totally unexpected can leave things unsaid and undone.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 09:53 PM

Nothing we can say will make it easy. You'll know best, yourself, how to say your goodby to him. I think you're a wiser man than to try not to cry when you need to. Strength and peace to you and your family.
            Dean.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: bobad
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 09:59 PM

I know it's easy for us to say it but try to keep in mind the cycles of life and death and the naturalness of it all.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Janie
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:00 PM

Oh Kendall, I'm so very sorry to hear this. You and your brother are in my thoughts and prayers.

xxoo,

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:24 PM

We're with you ...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Leadfingers
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:26 PM

Gawd Cap'n - its a Bugger aint it ?? Sympathy mate !!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: RangerSteve
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:27 PM

You and he are in my prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Bee
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:37 PM

Sorry for your trouble, Kendall. Lost my brother ten years ago, suddenly, only 43 years old, still miss him. Cold comfort, but at least you will be able to say goodbye.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Little Hawk
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 10:56 PM

These crossings are tough to deal with. I wish you the best, and I hope you have all the support you need from friends and family at this time.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Linda Goodman Zebooker
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 11:07 PM

Sorry for your sadness. We think of you often

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Barry Finn
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 11:14 PM

I wish I could help to ease things for you but I can't, best wishes.

Barry

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: katlaughing
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 11:41 PM

Oh, Kendall, that is so sad. May the Great Spirit guide you and Daryll in this journey and bring you much comfort. All of our love and thoughts are with you.

Kat & Rog

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Alice
Date: 11 Mar 07 - 11:45 PM

It is hard to find words to respond to what you are going through.
Take care. People love you. Alice

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Elmer Fudd
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:29 AM

Sending lots of good thoughts your way, Kendall and Jacqui. Wishing your brother as peaceful and painless a passage as possible.

Elmer

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Partridge
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:37 AM

I've sat here with reply to thread box open for ages, trying to write something, I don't have the words. So sorry Kendall, please know I'm thinking of you and yours.

much love

Pat xxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Wordsmith
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:38 AM

My sympathies.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Amos
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:53 AM

I'm with you, Skipper, and Daryl also. Courage.


A

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: bfdk
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:46 AM

Kendall,

Kind thoughts and best wishes speeding your way from Denmark. It hurts like hell to have to let go of a close relative like that. Apart from the loss itself, it's like part of your own history goes with them..

A big hug for you, mate,

Bente

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: MBSLynne
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:47 AM

Words don't help much but I'm sending you my thoughts, blessings and a big
((((((((((((((((((kendall))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Love Lynne

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Catherine Jayne
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:14 AM

Like others here I don't know what to say.

You and your family are in my thoughts.

(((Kendall)))

Khatt

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:24 AM

same here, death is the final taboo.

sending good wishes to you & your family

love from sandra

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: fat B****rd
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:27 AM

Best regards from Charlie.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Hawker
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:37 AM

Oh Kendall!
So sorry to hear this news, Kind and loving thoughts to you and Jacqui, and of course to your brother. A million Mudcat hugs to you all.
Much Love, Lucy Burrow

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: gnu
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:04 AM

Thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Zany Mouse
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:10 AM

Kendall, I don't know what to say. I hope you have some sort of faith and belief in life after death - if you do, that will help.

My main prayer for Darryl is that the pain will be controlled and that your mental pain will be eased by all the love that surrounds you.

Positive thoughts from Worksop

Luv

Rhiannon

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:22 AM

Kendall my dear, you know you have our love always, thinking of you and Darryl particularly right now. XX

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: fiddler
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:32 AM

Kendall - keep thinking positive, remember all those times you have had together, he will always be with you and is part of you. Sadly his body is giving up for whatever reason, we all paass down this route but as a person and a brother he will always be with you and all those his life has touched over the years.

Of course my thoughts are with you throughout, don't we all wish it could be different for you, your brother and all of us.

Much love form this side of the Atlantic is all I can offer and it is freely and willingly given.

andy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: alanabit
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:39 AM

Kendall, all the kindness I can send you from this part of the world.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: skipy
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:45 AM

All of the above.
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:46 AM

Celebrate his life, and your lives together over the years.
When the time comes mourn him, then make sure his life is remembered in a positive way.
It's tough, and nothing anybody can say will change that.
Commiserations, from Giok.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: jeffp
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 05:50 AM

Kendall, you have my sincere sympathy. It's a terrible disease with no mercy whatsoever. My prayers for you and your family.

Jeff

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: bbc
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 06:00 AM

Boy, that's a tough one. I'm so sorry to hear.

Barbara

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Tinker
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 06:20 AM

Ahh Kendall, I'm sitting here and hugging you both. Remember to keep heading towards light. The gifts of your relationship speak lounder than the tersity of your typical Maine description. Hold those gifts tight and accept all of the wonderful things you are to each other -- including I'm sure the occaisional pain in the ass moment (Yeah you Kendall) And when it get's tough -- remember all those ladies Jacqui let's share ;your love...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Mooh
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 06:37 AM

Our hopes and prayers for you all.

Peace, Mooh.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: maeve
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 06:42 AM

Kendall- I'm so sorry. It seems your brother's death will in some ways be a double loss. I'm glad that you have so many of us who care about you and Jacqui, and family.

You have my friendship and warm thoughts heading your way and prayers to God on your behalf, asking for comfort and strength to see it through.

Love,

Holly

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST, Bainbo at work
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 07:52 AM

Kendall
At the moment, this won't come as any consolation to you. Your brother's dying, and you feel horrible.

You won't believe me, and this will sound trite now, but in the future you may even be able to draw some positives:

1) You say it will be relatively quick. That's a blessing that's not afforded to all of us.

2) You know it's happening, and when. You have the chance to talk to him, to tell him how you feel, to relive the happy times, to organise, and to come to terms with it. Again, something not all of us get the chance to do.

You have a difficult time ahead, but you'll cope. We do, because we have to.

Be thankful for the times you've had together. Kind thoughts,

John

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: wysiwyg
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 07:56 AM

Hardi has that same relationship with his younger brothers, so we understand.... and will keep you all in our thoughts.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: kendall
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 08:10 AM

I can't even talk to him. He lost his hearing in the artillery i Korea, and I lost my voice....the thousand natural shocks that flesh is heir to...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Keith A of Hertford
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 08:11 AM

Very sorry to hear your news mate.
I hope you find the strength for the tough times ahead.
You have mine and Mary's best wishes.
Keith.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: ranger1
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 08:16 AM

I thought I potsed here already...Kendall, you always get my good thoughts. I'll give you a hug when I see you.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Alba
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 08:58 AM

Sending my Love and support to Daryll and to you dear Kendall and Jacqui.
Holding you All in my heart at this difficult time.
If there is anything I can do to help in some small way do not hesitate to let me know.
Judi

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST,Cats
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 09:03 AM

Kendall, it is dreadful when you lose a brother, or in my case a sister. I know you want to say things and you can't speak and he can't hear, but say them anyway. Sit and hold his hand and think to him all the things you want to say. He'll 'hear', he'll know and so will you. Much love.
Kathy & Jon

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Jerry Rasmussen
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 09:23 AM

Hey, Kendall:

I was so concerned when I saw this thread this morning. My wife and I are part of a prayer chain at church, and it seems like every day we have new people to pray for. We have some tragedies down this way, too. As others have said, there's no easy way through all of this. When you lose communication, it makes it that much harder. But, not all words are spoken with our voice, or heard through our ears. There is a connection that transcends physical communication.
The last few weeks of my Mother's life, she was too weak to dial the phone and ultimately, too weak to even be able to carry on a conversation. We still called and left messages on her answering machine that the nurses would play for her, and they meant a lot to her. We've visited many people over the years who can't speak, or show any signs of communication, but when you held their hand, they'd squeeze it firmly as an affirmation of something you said.
Your brother knows that you are praying for him and that is a comfort.

We'll keep the prayers flowing from down here..

Jerry and Ruth

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Jean(eanjay)
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 11:05 AM

Thoughts sent from Yorkshire.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Crane Driver
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 11:08 AM

So sorry to hear the news. We're thinking of you and yours. Can't say any more than that really.

Andrew & Carole

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Ebbie
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 11:58 AM

Cap'n, who was it who said, loss doesn't get any easier, we just get better at it? Holding your brother's hand, meeting his eyes, just being there, is telling him everything that the both of you need to say and hear.

{{{{hug}}}}

Ebbie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: folk1e
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 11:59 AM

It was hard when I lost my dad to the big C, it will be hard when I loose my wife to it! The only conclusion I have come to is not to view life as a "right" but as a "gift". It's not what you have got it's what you do with it!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: RoyH (Burl)
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:01 PM

Kind thoughts and prayers across the water from Mrs Burl and I. Try to think of the good times together Kendall. Happy memories will be a comfort in course of time. Burl.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Rasener
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:10 PM

Kendall, my thoughts are with you.

Les

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Metchosin
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:24 PM

Sorry to hear about your brother Kendall. All my best thoughts go out to you and your family. My old Mum died this weekend. Some goodbyes are never easy. We sang her along and it seemed to help her, myself and my brother.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Escamillo
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:34 PM

I´m very sorry Kendall. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Un abrazo from Buenos Aires
Andrés

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: eddie1
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:43 PM

Hi Kendall
No help right now but the time will come when you can look back on events together and smile then even later, look back and laugh.
As long as someone remembers us, we're not really dead.
Thinking of you mate.

Eddie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST, anonymous
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:45 PM

Sad. Sorry. Condolences.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Lonesome EJ
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 12:49 PM

Sorry to hear it, Captain. My thoughts are with you.

Ernie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Dan Schatz
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 01:08 PM

Dear Kendall,

What a terrible loss to deal with. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Our thoughts and care are with you and your family - and though it is a time of loss, there is always something to celebrate in a life well lived.

Love,
Dan and Geeta

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Deckman
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 01:35 PM

I can only begin to imagine what you're going through. One of the best things you can do is to take extra good care of YOURSELF right now. That might sound a little strange, but you're very needed right now and the demands on you will be increasing. Best wishes to you. Bob

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Ebbie
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 01:37 PM

Metch, my condolences to you too. I've been there. At my age, sometimes there seem to be more loved ones on the 'other side' than there are those remaining here. That's a good reason to collect new loved ones all the time...

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: katlaughing
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:16 PM

Mets, all my love and good thoughts to you, too. It's not easy to lose a parent.

I don't know why, but the following quote seems to want to be posted here. It is from one of Nevada Barr's books:

Ghosts were not the spirits of the dead returning but the memories of the living not yet laid to rest.

Namaste,

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Mrs.Duck
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:27 PM

We're thinking of you.
Jane and Geoff

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:28 PM

Positive thoughts from this little corner of the world as well. I will sing a song for both of you at the club tonight.

Dave

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST,Nancy King at work
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 02:50 PM

Kendall, I'm so very sorry to hear this sad news. Just know that you -- and your brother -- are in the thoughts of many people right now. Hang on to all those great memories!

Nancy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: open mike
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 03:14 PM

Oh, Kendall, Here's hoping that his passing
is as good as it can be.
(even though that may sound odd right now)
I wish I was there to offer a hand to hold,
and hugs to help you both through this.
sending love and light...winging your way.
Laurel

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Maryrrf
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 04:48 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this Kendall.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Hollowfox
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 06:06 PM

Strange, isn't it...how on this forum, where words are so important, it's so hard to find the right ones to say. My heart goes out to you and yours, and tonight when I get home, I will indeed light a $#@!-reduction candle. This candle thing may have started out as half a joke years ago, but they're one way for me to think about you when I'm home, away from the computer. I know there'll be $#@! to deal with, and I hope that our thoughts, prayers and the occasional candle will lighten the load.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Bert
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 07:36 PM

Love and kind thoughts on their way from everyone here.

Bert.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 07:39 PM

I did 'John Kanaka'. Everyone joined in. Just picture us all singing for you and your brother, Kendall. Landlocked limeys singing an American shanty. Hope it brings a smile:-)

Cheers

Dave

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: SINSULL
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 07:40 PM

Kendall,
Daryll lived the life he chose. In some ways I envy him. Make sure he knows you love him. I keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: JudyB
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 07:58 PM

Kendall, our thoughts are with you and yours. The hug will follow next time we see you, but this will have to do for now:
(((((((Kendall)))))))
Love,
JudyB & Charley Noble

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: TRUBRIT
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 08:29 PM

Oh Kendall, I am so very sorry. Much much love to you and to your brother and to Jacqui

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Sorcha
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 09:01 PM

Well, I'm sorry too, esp if his time here was too short, but things do this. All of them. Plants, animals....not even the rocks live forever as my dad said.

He will finish with this, and no doubt go on to something else. Hopefully better. Not a day goes by that I don't miss my loved ones, but I'll never wish them back here. I miss them for MY sake, not theirs.

Better a life lived long and in wonder than not a life at all. We cannont say what comes after this. I am sure there is something.

My dad left this life in 1989, and for a few years he hung around all the time, mostly checking on Mom. He still stops in for a bit now and then. You just have to believe. And do ask after them......someone will answer.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST,Art Thieme
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 10:01 PM

Kendall,

So sorry to hear this bad news. After a certain point, it does seem it's one loss after another. Nothing more to say. Just know we're thinking of you.

Art

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: KT
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 10:40 PM

I'm thinking of you, Kendall, as you walk through this time.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Peter Kasin
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 10:47 PM

Kendall, I am so sorry to hear of this. I hope his passing is as painless as possible. My thoughts are with you and jacqui.

Chanteyranger

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: katlaughing
Date: 12 Mar 07 - 11:09 PM

Sorcha, that was beautiful. Thanks.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST,lox
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 09:53 AM

Kendall

I can't comment on your brother,

but if he's anything like you then he has depth, subtlety, wit and sublime quality in his character.

The loss will be profound.

But only because his presence was of such infinite value.

And for that you can be forever grateful.

Take care of yourself.

lox

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Bill D
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 11:47 AM

I guess the real important thing now is that he knows that you care...and this doesn't require words. Just being there can speak volumes. It is never easy to lose someone close...all you can do is help them ease the passing.....and remember.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Seamus Kennedy
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 02:08 PM

Hang in there, Skipper.He knows you're with him.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Partridge
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 02:33 PM

I echo what Sorcha said. Still thinking of you and your brother. Still sitting in front of the keyboard and not finding the words(if they exist) to bring you any comfort - but I'm trying,

lots of love,

Pat xxxxx

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: My guru always said
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 03:57 PM

So sorry Kendall, candle lit here & thinking of you & Darryl,
Hil x

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: The Vulgar Boatman
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 05:34 PM

Sing him home all you good people. May he come to his place in peace.
C.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: catspaw49
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 06:15 PM

Sorry to come so late to this thread Kendall, but you have my deepest symapthy and best wishes as this part of your brother's life draws to a close.

In the ending days and hours of my closest friend's life we sat together in comfortable silence, the presence of the other was enough for each one. I will remember and value those days long past my own time.

"Sometimes the best sort of love can wash away the pain
And the best kind of answer has no sound."
                                 .......Peter Himmelman

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Bobert
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 06:28 PM

I'm so sorry, Kendall. Your family will be in my thoughts and in my prayers...

Bobert

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: momnopp
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 07:36 PM

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Kendall}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: kendall
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 08:25 PM

You people are so incredible. I can't thank you enough for your support. Love on all of you.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Gulliver
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 08:48 PM

Sad for you. Take care...lots of folk are thinking of you. Don

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 13 Mar 07 - 09:51 PM

Wonderful sentiments posted here, Kendall. I hope they help. I especially like Spaw's remarks about just spending time together. I know from what you wrote how much you love your brother, and I see from what others write here how much they love you.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Megan L
Date: 14 Mar 07 - 04:31 AM

Sorry i did not spot this earlier
all of you are in our thoughts and prayers

Dauvitt and his Meg

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Carly
Date: 14 Mar 07 - 05:06 PM

Please know that, like so many others here, we send our sympathy and love to you and your family. Spend time now as you can with your brother; I am sure it will help him to know he is loved and appreciated. Perhaps you could write down whatever you feel you most want to say to him; it may help both of you, and fortunately, you still have time to deliver it to him. You are in my thoughts, and in my heart.

Carly

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Mrrzy
Date: 15 Mar 07 - 08:41 AM

So very, very sorry to read about this. My thoughts will stay with you.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST,ib48
Date: 15 Mar 07 - 01:34 PM

thoughts go out to you kendall

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: maeve
Date: 18 Mar 07 - 03:58 PM

I'm thinking of you today, Kendall.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Kim C
Date: 19 Mar 07 - 01:22 PM

I'm just now seeing this.

Hugs and prayers to all your family.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 07:26 PM

I just got word that my brother died. I saw it coming a year and a half ago but it is still a shock. The end of an era.

This message was posted by Kendall without a cookie. I'm sure he had more things on his mind than whether or not he was signed in. My condolences to you Kendall.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Deckman
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 07:33 PM

Yes friend, it is the end of an era. And you will honor that era as only you can do. Take VERY good care of yourself ... there will be people needing YOU. Love to you, Bob

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: catspaw49
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 07:45 PM

The end of an era but certainly not the end of memories. Today there may be a hole in your heart but the years of memories will soon fill it again. I am beginning to believe that our hearts are simply refillable holes where the reality of today is replaced by the thoughts of good times now gone.

Be strong and my best to you Kendall.

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: kendall
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 07:49 PM

Belay that last...some asshole in Alabama spread the word that he had died. I just got word that he is not dead.
Sorry about that.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: SINSULL
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 07:50 PM

So sorry, Captain.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Deckman
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 07:55 PM

WOW! What's that all about?

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Deckman
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 07:58 PM

Do you want me to go to Alabama?

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: catspaw49
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 08:11 PM

"Asshole" does not seem to be a strong enough epithet for someone doing something like that! I have a few if you'd like to borrow some......

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: katlaughing
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 08:14 PM

I know some folks down there who are not particular about what they hunt, Kendall...just say the word. What a sick bastard.

Take a deep breathe and know we are still here for you as is the Creator.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 08:17 PM

what a horrible thing to do to anxious family & friends.

hugs to you.

sandra

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: DougR
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 09:01 PM

So sorry Kendall. My older brother died a year ago May 8, and I can empathize with you. Losing your only sibling is not easy. God bless.

DougR

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: jacqui.c
Date: 29 Mar 07 - 11:16 PM

And if I find out who started the rumour they will get a piece of my not inconsiderable mind.

Right now I'm pissed off. Kendall has enough on his plate without this sort of nonsense.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Hawker
Date: 30 Mar 07 - 05:42 AM

Mudcat hugs Jacqui and Kendall still coming your way, Jacqui if you need a back-up I'll come and give them a piece of my mind too! Hope the fingers are healing too!
Love, Lucy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: kendall
Date: 30 Mar 07 - 07:47 AM

There is a certain witless, skanky skagg that he used to hang out with and right now, she is my prime suspect.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: freda underhill
Date: 30 Mar 07 - 08:56 AM

Kendall, I've just read this thread. all my best wishes to you, your brother and jacqui,

freda

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 30 Mar 07 - 10:30 AM

What a cruel prank. Malicious. I'm sorry you're exposed to such a personality's behavior. The death of a loved-one is hard enough to deal with.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: ranger1
Date: 30 Mar 07 - 01:46 PM

Kendall, you want I should go lace up my steel-toed logging boots and go kick the crap out of someone for you?

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: gnu
Date: 30 Mar 07 - 02:24 PM

Sweet Jaysus! Thoughts and prayers dear friend.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST,lox
Date: 30 Mar 07 - 05:53 PM

Woooaaaaahhhh folks ...

Some witless skanky skagg isn't worth all this energy.

She matters not a jot, so let us not degrade the quality of this thread one mote further by giving her one more inch of column space.

I hope you folks don't feel I am being a thread dictator - I know how annoying it is when people try to do that.

However I would humbly suggest we reserve the rest of this thread for those who are worth our thoughts and concern.

Take care Kendall Make the most of the time you have.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: skipy
Date: 30 Mar 07 - 06:03 PM

There is a certain witless, skanky skagg that he used to hang out with and right now, she is my prime suspect.
Drop it, this piece of shit must not be allowed to take away even a second of the time that you two have together. Deal with her later.
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: jacqui.c
Date: 30 Mar 07 - 06:29 PM

I think that there will be a number of people with a bone to pick with this one, in time. Sometimes it just helps to vent though.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: SINSULL
Date: 30 Mar 07 - 08:07 PM

Put her aside, my loves. She has to live with herself. That is punishment enough.
Positive thoughts to your brother and you.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: mouldy
Date: 31 Mar 07 - 04:47 AM

My thoughts are with you. Make the most of every precious moment and treasure it. There are pleasant memories you can make to sustain you in the future, even now.

Big hugs

Andrea

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: kendall
Date: 31 Mar 07 - 07:15 AM

Here is another forgotten casualty for George to ignore. My Brother served in Korea in the field artillery where he sacrificed his hearing. Now, he's in a private nursing home waiting for admission to the VA hospital. I don't know myself but I'm told that VA hospitals are full of alcoholics. What does that have to do with battle scars? It may be a result of serving but it's not like having a leg shot off!

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: GUEST,sinky
Date: 31 Mar 07 - 07:46 AM

my thoughts are with you friend.God bless

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: SINSULL
Date: 31 Mar 07 - 11:06 AM

Kendall,
Don't be too hard on your brother. He saw things in Korea that no one was meant to see. We raise our sons to be good decent people then ship them off to defend their country. But let's not talk about disemboweled babies, rapes, lost limbs, burned bodies. Let's not deal with the mind changes brought on by living in fear 24/7. Better it should all fester in their minds than have the general population and our government face reality. War is not pretty or noble or full of strong shining young faces. Its horrors corrupt all who are involved.
John McCain went through years of night terrors and worse before coming to terms with his past. Many are not so lucky. A friend of mine, an ex-Marine and opera singer, told me in a weak moment about hiding in a trench in Korea and hearing his buddies screaming for their mothers. He still wept over it.
Your brother is a good man. He deals with his demons the best he can.
He is one of those we honor on Veteran's Day. The dead ones are remembered as young and strong and good. The living disgrace themselves with drugs and alcohol while we stick them in sub-standard rooms at Walter Reed.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 31 Mar 07 - 09:26 PM

Kendall, I just saw this. I'm sending light and love and compassion to you and to your brother as well. We're all here with you, captain.

Allison

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: wysiwyg
Date: 31 Mar 07 - 09:47 PM

VA's are for ALL medical needs of vets, not only war-related.

Knew someone treated for advanced alcoholism in a VA-- best treatment he ever got.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: kendall
Date: 31 Mar 07 - 10:14 PM

I have no complaint about vets being treated for alcoholism but when they are taking up room that a seriously damaged vet could be using, that's different. Alcolohism is self inflicted and should not be on the same level as combat wounded.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: kendall
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 05:15 PM

The Grim Reaper came for my brother last night. It's a drill that no one is excused from, but it's hard to say goodby to one who has been so close.
I hope he finds the peace that eluded him in life.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 05:20 PM

Kendall my friend, it comes to us all, and it only really hurts us who are left behind. Those who are gone are past pain, and better off than us in that respect. It's been a long time coming, mourn him decently, and enjoy the memories.
Giok

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: gnu
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 05:23 PM

My sincerest thoughts and prayers. RIP. And, peace be with you, dear Kendall.

Gary

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Hawker
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 05:28 PM

Kendall,
So sorry to hear this, though for him,I am sure it is a happy release. Love to you and Jacqui and your family, sending you all my love, may his next journey be on a smoother path!
From your birthday buddie,
Lucy x

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Ebbie
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 05:45 PM

{{{{{{Kendall}}}}}}

Ebbie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Wesley S
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 05:52 PM

I'm sorry for your loss.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Bill D
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 05:58 PM

It was a long and sad farewell....but there must be relief mixed with the grief. He is at peace now....I hope it comes soon to those who miss him.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 06:02 PM

Warmest sympathies, Kendall.
Every case is different of course, but in a weird way I feel closer to my dad now (he died last September) than ever before. I talk daily to his picture, on the windowsill, 2 feet away from me. Oh, I know, it's just symbolism - I talk to my memory of him, but isn't that the essence of people? I consider his likely approval or otherwise of my decisions and behaviour more now than I ever did when he was alive. So I don't miss him, he is with me, within me. And I am grateful for his time on earth.

Perhaps an equivalent approach might help. But it's at times like these when we feel most like little kids, despite our age. I am sure big bro knows your love for him and will take you under his wing again.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Rog Peek
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 06:30 PM

So sorry to hear of your sad loss Kendall.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Linda Goodman Zebooker
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 06:48 PM

My sympathies, Kendall. I hope the memories of you caring about each other will help you and comfort you. May the good things your brother did in his life live after him.

Linda

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Sorcha
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 06:53 PM

What they said, Kendall. I can't add much at all.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Janie
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 07:00 PM

I'm sorry, Kendall. May he be at peace. Holding you and all who loved him in my thoughts and prayers.

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: vectis
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 07:01 PM

Sorry to hear that he's gone Kendall.
Sending hugs to you as I type.

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: wysiwyg
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 07:08 PM

Peace to him. And peace to you too, Kendall.

~Susan & Greg~

Subject: RE: BS: Kendall's brother is dying
From: Leadfingers
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 07:17 PM

Commisserations Kendall !

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June
From: bobad
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 07:23 PM

My condolences to you and to all who knew and loved your brother.

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 07:27 PM

wishing you & all who loved him peace

sandra

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June
From: katlaughing
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 07:44 PM

{{{{{{{Kendall}}}}}}}

May you find comfort in the Great Spirit and your memories. Your brother will know.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Skivee
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 07:53 PM

how sad

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Azizi
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 08:13 PM

My condolences to your family, Kendall.

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: TRUBRIT
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 08:15 PM

Kendall -- so sorry.....hugs from S.P. -- Deborah and the chef!

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: SINSULL
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 08:20 PM

I am sorry, Captain. He lived his life his way. I hope he rests peacefully.

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Rt Revd Sir jOhn from Hull
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 09:08 PM

Sorry to hear this,
my thoughts are with you at this sad time.

John

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June
From: artbrooks
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 09:40 PM

Regrets from us as well. Probably a relief to all concerned, but still a time for sadness when it finally comes.

Art and Jenn

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 09:51 PM

My condolences ...

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Alice
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 10:19 PM

My sympathy to you and the family, Kendall. I, too, hope he finds peace.

Alice

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Deckman
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 10:39 PM

"WHEN YOU'RE SINGING FOR YOUR FRIENDS,
WHO'S TIME ON EARTH IS THROUGH,
THEY'LL BE GATHERED UP ABOVE,
THEY'LL BE SINGING SONGS FOR YOU!"

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June
From: maeve
Date: 21 Jun 07 - 11:23 PM

Kendall- I've sent you a PM.

Warmly,

maeve

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Barry Finn
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 12:40 AM

Sorry to hear of your loss & of his passing Kendall.

Barry

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June
From: MBSLynne
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 03:10 AM

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Kendall))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Love Lynne

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Catherine Jayne
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 03:46 AM

SOrry to hear of your loss. Thinking about you and your family

Khatt

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Partridge
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 03:54 AM

I'm so sorry Kendall,thinking of you,
take care, much love,

Pat xx

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Megan L
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 04:31 AM

Our thoughts are with you and the family Kendall.

Words can mean so little but they are all people have to let you know they care.

Dauvitt and his Meg

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: GUEST,The Barden of England at work
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 04:46 AM

So sorry the hear this. My thoughts are with you all.
John Barden

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: bfdk
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 05:49 AM

Sorry to hear about your loss, Kendall. Kind thoughts and a big hug from this side of the Pond.

Best wishes,

Bente

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June
From: mouldy
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 06:36 AM

My sincere condolences. Just because it's expected doesn't make it any easier.

Andrea

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Desdemona
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 07:02 AM

Please accept my sympathy and condolences for your loss.

~D

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: skipy
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 07:23 AM

All of the above.
Skipy

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Pistachio
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 07:24 AM

May his release from pain give you relief.

My thoughts are with you and your family and friends.

Mudcat hugs
((((((((((((((((((((Kendall and Family))))))))))))))))))))
Hazel. x

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 08:09 AM

So sorry to hear about your brother Kendall. A virtual hug now and a real one soon.

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: sapper82
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 08:14 AM

Kendall, there is now a big hole in your life, exactly the shape of your brother. At the moment, and for some time to come, the edges of that hole will be very raw and very painfull to touch.
As time goes by, they will start to scab over as they heal, but will still hurt and be liable to bleed and weep if touched too roughly.
As more time passes, the scabs will fall off and the edges of the hole will heal. That hole however, will remain and those edges will always be sensitive to over rough handling.
My sympathy and best regards to you.
Bob

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: kendall
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 08:53 AM

I thank each and every one of you for your posts and PMs.
They do help.
My mind is filled with the good times. He bought me a second hand bike when I was 13. He gave me a car when I was 16. We raised a little hell way back when...picking and grinning, chasing women, some debauchery, few regrets.

He was one of my most avid fans. I'm really going to miss him.

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June
From: Rapparee
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 09:30 AM

Of course you'll miss him. And you will continue to miss him. But one day you'll hear his laugh and turn around and you'll know that he's still around because you remember.

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Mrrzy
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 12:19 PM

Very sad news, Kendall. Nous avons toute la vie pour noius amuser / Nous avons toute la mort pour nous reposer! I wish him a good rest. Love you.

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June
From: Greg B
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 12:36 PM

Kendall---

It sounds to me as if he'll live in your heart for as many
as are the number of your own years in this world, and in
the next.

He was fortunate to have you for a brother.

Greg

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Mrs.Duck
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 03:12 PM

So sad but so many happy memories. Our thoughts are with you.
Jane and Geoff

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: HouseCat
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 03:16 PM

Peace in your heart, Kendall. Good thoughts coming your way.
HC

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Herga Kitty
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 03:19 PM

Kendall - I've only just seen this, and am very sorry for your loss. Would give you a hug if I could, so please accept a virtual hug instead, fwiw.

Kitty

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Ythanside
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 03:59 PM

Sorry, bud.

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: SussexCarole
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 04:36 PM

We're so sorry to hear your sad news Kendall. Our thoughts are with you and Jacqui.

Love and hugs Carole & Andrew x

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: skipy
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 06:37 PM

Kendall, I have just reread the whole thread, thinking of you and your family, hope your brother now finds the peace that he deserved.
Skipy

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June
From: Dan Schatz
Date: 22 Jun 07 - 11:13 PM

What a long and many-faceted journey its been for you. I'm so sorry for all that you've lost, though grateful for the peace that has come. It's easy to forget how complicated people can be - we've never talked about your brother, but he sounds like someone who embodied a lot of good and some challenges, wrapped all together. But I know for sure that you're who you are partly through his influence, and in that he gave a wonderful gift to the world.

Dan Schatz

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: Mickey191
Date: 23 Jun 07 - 12:10 AM

Kendall, I'm sorry for your loss. He is at peace now.

Subject: RE: Obit: Kendall's brother is dying -RIP 20 June 2007
From: alanabit
Date: 23 Jun 07 - 04:19 AM

Now the suffering and the uncertainty are over, maybe you can move on to enjoying the memories. Peace will come.