BS: folky singles dating ?

Subject: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: lilly
Date: 20 Jul 09 - 04:24 PM

Has anyone ever thought of having a folky person dating site ? I'm fed up of looking on conventional sites where no one understands folk or morris dancing .! Where's a girl to go to meet a nice folky man ?!

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Bill D
Date: 20 Jul 09 - 04:43 PM

Is there no REAL folky singing or dancing near you? I met my wife 30 years ago by going to RT events....

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,PeterC
Date: 20 Jul 09 - 05:16 PM

I thought that was what ceilidhs were for.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Amergin
Date: 20 Jul 09 - 06:52 PM

That is why god invented pubs...

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 20 Jul 09 - 09:17 PM

Since many folkies seem to be better educated or more intelligent than pub rock lovers, why not learn that "fed up of" is a solecism and see if the quality of conversation you get improves?

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Smokey.
Date: 20 Jul 09 - 09:58 PM

Since many folkies seem to be better educated or more intelligent than pub rock lovers

No prizes for guessing your musical preferences then?

I've done a lot of both, and I can assure you you're wrong.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: number 6
Date: 20 Jul 09 - 10:24 PM

I met my wife on a trolley bus ... you can't get more folky than that.

biLL

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Bill D
Date: 20 Jul 09 - 10:37 PM

"That is why god invented pubs..."

If the pubs are specifically 'folky'...maybe....but alcohol is not always a good help in finding the 'right' person

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,punkfolkrocker
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 12:30 AM

alcohol [specifically cider and vodka] gave my mrs the courage
to chat me up at a student party...


.. so that'll be a 'one night stand' that's lasted nearly 30 years..!!!???

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Gurney
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 02:08 AM

I met my wife in a folk club. We had friends in common, and she bought a round! Including me! How could a man resist?

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Joe Offer
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 02:15 AM

I fell hopelessly in love a number of times at folk gatherings. Now that I'm married, I try to avoid that phenomenon, but I have to confess I'm not completely successful...I still have serious crushes on a number of Mudcat women. Don't like the idea of computer dating, but when you combine Mudcat with folk gatherings, it's very effective.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Leadfingers
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 06:43 AM

Well I am currently available - Make me an offer ! LOL

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Georgiansilver
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 07:17 AM

Me too.....Free as a bird!!!!

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: TheSnail
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 07:44 AM

Short, fat, middle-aged concertina player, own flat, car, teeth and hair seeks....

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 08:05 AM

Grumpy short fat old left-wing lawyer seeks well-spoken ...

I know, let's compose the least likely lonely hearts ad ...

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Leadfingers
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 08:09 AM

Dirty Old Man - Banjo Player - seeks Teenage Girl Singer with house and car !

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Crow Sister (off with the fairies)
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 08:13 AM

"...seeks Teenage Girl Singer with house and car !"

LOL!

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: SINSULL
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 09:08 AM

Compulsively single, white, sixtyish female with house, car and four cats needs someone to clean the litter box. References required. Accordian and electric guitar players need not apply.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 09:38 AM

Well-built working shantyman requires girl to help blowing the bosun's whistle and re-enacting the Hog's Eye Man for discerning audiences. Own pub and washing machine an advantage.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: gnu
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 10:11 AM

Engineer... nevermind.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Alice
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 10:15 AM

Happy single not looking for anyone who would upset my apple cart, rain on my parade and monopolize my time. ~signed, Blissfully Single and Staying That Way ;-)

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Rasener
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 10:52 AM

Big hairy arsed folker would love to be living next door to Alice

:-)

Don't tell the wife LOL

Daren't put the rude one up :-)

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Georgiansilver
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 01:22 PM

Handsome guy 61yrs old, Ex pilot, loads of money, own house, own fast car, everything a girl could want. seeks beautiful younger woman to fill a gap in his life.........OH and I am looking for someone too!!!!! ROFLOL.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Joe Offer
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 01:59 PM

See? Who needs commercial dating services?

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Stower
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 04:13 PM

Lilly, I completely agree with you. Being a trad musician and ceilidh dancer I couldn't possibly (I don't think ... getting dangerously certain here) be with a woman who doesn't dance - or would at least try a ceilidh - and wouldn't at least *try* to like trad English etc. music. But a folky dating site would be a minority within a minority, so hardly an earner for a dating company.

I see your problem - the same problem I have: how to meet someone with the same interests who is *also* personally compatible.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 04:18 PM

I met my guitar/fiddle/morris musician/contra musician husband at Green Singles.com!

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: kendall
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 04:30 PM

I don't do pubs, bars, social clubs, church stuff or dating services. However, I do do Mudcat, and that's where I met Jacqui, my wife of 5 years.
It was in the forum, there was a thread on dating later in life , she said something intelligent and I responded. We communicated back and forth via PM and email and the next thing I knew I was burning my little black book. At my age, most of the names in it end with MD anyway.


I'm not going to say that all Mudcatters are above average in IQ, but I'll bet most of them are.

Some years ago some wise guy gave my name to a dating service and they bugged the hell out of me for months. I told them I wasn't interested but they kept calling from time to time.
Finally, one woman called and asked if I was seeing anyone. I thought, "None of your damn business" but I said "Yes, I am". she said "Oh is it serious?" I replied, "It will be if her husband finds out."

Never got another call.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Rasener
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 06:02 PM

Nice one Kendall :-)

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: jacqui.c
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 06:35 PM

Lilly - this is the best dating site available for folkies.

Here you will get to 'meet' a disparate group of human beings who mostly have an interest in folk music and to find out what is happening, and where. If you don't click with someone on site it is possible that you might find someone at an event that is publicised on the 'Cat.

Best thing to do is stop looking, enjoy the company of likeminded idiots here and at real life events, enjoy yourself and see what transpires.

As Kendall says, we came together about six years ago on the 'Cat and things just went from there.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: gnu
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 07:01 PM

Been a few "hook ups" in this here Café.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: MuddleC
Date: 21 Jul 09 - 07:15 PM

Hi lilly, I am currently trawling through a couple of sites and as I seriously think it important that a body can relax with their significant other... I always put ' looking for someone who can appreciate a Morris dance and enjoy an evenings entertainment at a folk club, ability to sing or play an instrument is optional...'..............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................I'm still waiting for a positive vibe from anyone!! or perhaps I'm just plain ugly , too old or they don't like the Harley or sitting the wrong side in a American car on the A5.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Rowan
Date: 22 Jul 09 - 01:34 AM

G'day Lilly,
Come to the National (Oz) next Easter and you'll be overwhelmed with offers.

Cheers, Rowan

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Ernest
Date: 22 Jul 09 - 01:45 AM

Lilly, your chances would be much better if you would give a link to a photo of....


















...your instrument.

And maybe a youtube/myspace link to your singing/playing...

;0)
Ernest

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Joe Offer
Date: 22 Jul 09 - 02:06 AM

I met my wife at the Sacramento Song Circle. What's nice about folk music gatherings, is that people go to them for the music. Finding a "soul mate" at a folk gathering is an extra benefit. Somehow, that works better than going somewhere strictly to find a mate. The best encounters are chance, not deliberate.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Mr Red
Date: 22 Jul 09 - 07:53 AM

Where's a girl to go to meet a nice folky man

At a folk festival. (eg see this page for West UK ish) and stewarding is a cheap way in.

Might I suggest that ceilidhs are not a dating agency but they are a very social event. And if you read the New Scietist (last week) dancing is a common route to the goal!

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,punkfolkrocker
Date: 22 Jul 09 - 09:44 AM

..on the other hand..

couples we've known with identical interests and tastes can appear
to be just a bit creepy..

..even downright sinister when they also show up in public
dressed in identical fashion..


Theres definitely something to be said for 'opposites attract'
and the positive effects of dynamic contrasts
broadening the cultural 'gene pool'..

I do appreciate having a virtually separate social life from my mrs
and the free space to develope my own interests
for a few hours every week..

We then make the most of things we do enjoy doing together....

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: MAG
Date: 22 Jul 09 - 05:33 PM

I'm with Sinsull. Too very set in my ways.

Although I WOULD like to move. If I can bring these rescue cats. 5 of them.

60ish, no longer chubby, not current in my field librarian, needs support and health insurance if I move.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: David59
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 03:02 PM

Lilly,

I think that you have hit on a real issue. I have been thinking about this for some time. I was on a well-known dating site for a while and one of about 4 people in the country that had folk music as an interest.

I think a singles area at folk festivals would be good. A corner of a bar, tent what ever where single people could socialise. Dance tents are good, but most women there are married (to husbands who don't like dancing).

I will be at Shrewsbury Folk Festival in August - any other singles going perhaps we could set up an informal meeting point.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Crow Sister (off with the fairies)
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 03:10 PM

As a seriously coupled female to a non-folkish male, I also think the idea of 'singles moots' 'badges' 'beer tents' yadda yadda at Folk Fests, is a brilliant notion! Get with the love ;-)

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 05:34 PM

I think that many people will not want to look that desperate.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Georgiansilver
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 05:44 PM

Think you nailed it Richard.. I tend to keep myself to myself at Folk get togethers... always have a laugh etc but don't flirt or make overtures to women..... not because I don't want to look desperate but basically because I am not that desperate. Being 'single' has a lot of benefits and as has already been mentioned... becoming a bit settled or set in ones ways takes some effort to change. Have many female friends and enjoy female company,... it would however take someone special... more than special to upset the 'status quo'.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: David59
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 06:16 PM

I wasn't suggesting it was mandatory for singles, just that there should be mechanism to meet up with other single people for those that want to.

Not sure what hat mechanism should be. If you are content with your lot good for you.

I did wonder then who you are worried about looking desperate too though. Folk festivals tend to be full of people who are not too worried about what they look like.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: kendall
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 09:02 PM

The stories I could tell no one would believe.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Amergin
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 09:27 PM

Especially, since alot of your stories tend to be on the tall side, Kendall....

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Leadfingers
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 09:52 PM

Tall Stories ? My mate Kendall ? Never ! ALL Gospel Truth !! Aren't They ?

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: bobad
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 09:57 PM

"folky singles dating"

May I suggest using Carbon-14.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: kendall
Date: 24 Jul 09 - 05:52 AM

Sometimes I dont have to stretch the truth. It really is true that truth is stranger than fiction.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: TheSnail
Date: 24 Jul 09 - 08:21 AM

David59

Not sure what hat mechanism should be.

I think you can get "Kiss me quick" hats at Blackpool.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: lilly
Date: 26 Jul 09 - 01:48 PM

Since many folkies seem to be better educated or more intelligent than pub rock lovers, why not learn that "fed up of" is a solecism and see if the quality of conversation you get improve................

what a pompous bore you must be !!!!!Richard.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 26 Jul 09 - 02:52 PM

I see your punctuation is as expert as the rest of your grammar. You demonstrate a significant failing with contemporary British and North American society - the belief that if enough people do something wrong, that makes it right. It is more than time that people recognised their failings and strove to improve, rather than demanding that standards should fall.