BS: folky singles dating ?

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Genie
Date: 03 Dec 09 - 12:38 PM

BTW, my last post and Amergin's last one were in response to a bizarre, off-topic post by a weird anonymous "GUEST." Now that the MudElves have, wisely, removed that distraction, my post and Amergin's don't make much sense in the flow of the discussion.

Genie

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,Steamin' Willie
Date: 03 Dec 09 - 11:29 AM

Just trying to conjure up an image of an ideal "folky" playmate.

No, sorry.

We are all different, and unfortunately, any stereotyping would involve hairy legs, vegan diet, ethnic skirt, copy of The Guardian and one of those Afghan coats that smell of dog when they get wet.

I can't see where anything other than broad love of music and a penchant for pubs would be relevant. Being "folky" definitely doesn't float my boat. Not that many people fit in that stereotype, luckily.

I'll get me coat.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: McGrath of Harlow
Date: 02 Dec 09 - 04:10 PM

Ultimate in speed dating is surely a dance like the Circassian Circle.
..............
Someone up the thread wrote about how "couples we've known with identical interests and tastes can appear to be just a bit creepy" - but one skim through a "What is Folk" thread will show that a shared love of "folk music" by no means implies "identical interests and tastes"!!!

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Amergin
Date: 11 Nov 09 - 12:39 AM

The legal drug (well legal if over a certain age) is called alcohol....

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Genie
Date: 10 Nov 09 - 11:25 PM

Getting back to the topic ...

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating?
From: Genie
Date: 09 Nov 09 - 04:36 PM

Back before I entered geezerhood, I used to find festivals great places for one-night stands and weekend romances -- of course, that WAS back in the '70s and '80s mostly -- but, as with pubs, I haven't personally found party atmospheres and booze to be great tools for initiating real relationships.

Mostly, I find festivals good places for singing and dancing with other people "in the moment" and enjoying the company, often without even exchanging names.   I think a lot of people experience them that way. But I guess if your intent is to connect with people you'll continue seeing after the festival, they can be good places for that. The smaller regional music camps, such as Singtime Frolics (Oregon), RainyCamp (Washington), etc., do seem to be prime soil for budding romances.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Genie
Date: 09 Nov 09 - 04:27 PM

Jacquie,

I agree that distance doesn't matter that much once you've really fallen in love. But it can be a huge impediment to an attraction or infatuation or friendship developing to that level - even if you do get the chance to meet briefly in person.

Plus, many of us are not financially able to do a lot of long-distance travelling.

But you and Kendall are one of the great success stories! : D

Genie

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Folkiedave
Date: 09 Nov 09 - 01:35 PM

Lilly, I am prepared to bet you have had a few PM's. Without naming names of course why not let us know? :-)

I think this is a great idea - but I always thought that was what festivals were for.

So please do not undermine festivals.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Georgiansilver
Date: 08 Nov 09 - 05:16 PM

Actually, since my ex and I have been sleeping in separate beds, things seem to have improved between us........ her bed is in Australia.. mines in England!!!!

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: jacqui.c
Date: 08 Nov 09 - 04:58 PM

That's what I thought, Genie. Problem came when Kendall visited the UK. All of a sudden that distance didn't matter - I was going to be with him even if it involved changing continents.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Genie
Date: 08 Nov 09 - 03:23 PM

LOL, dead horse!

Problem with most dating sites that target the kind of men who might be interested in me and vice-versa is that geography would most likely to be a huge barrier to the development of anything beyond an online or telephone romance. Some kinds of musical collaboration can be done that way, but some aspects of relationships suffer when you and your partner are on different continents. (Which, I suppose, is better than being in-continent, but I digress ...)

Genie

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Joe_F
Date: 07 Nov 09 - 05:44 PM

Downwardly mobile, 72, seeks banjo player to wake him at 7 a.m. Sex irrelevant.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: dick greenhaus
Date: 07 Nov 09 - 04:20 PM

Dating site?
Oddly enough, that's what square dances were back in the day.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,Mr Red
Date: 07 Nov 09 - 06:36 AM

Speed dating?
A ceilidh does that for the touchy, feely, visual energy, sensual motion, co-operation & phoaaaar! end of the scale. No need to talk if that ain't working.

IMNSHO

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Georgiansilver
Date: 25 Aug 09 - 06:21 PM

LOL @ MuddleC

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: MuddleC
Date: 25 Aug 09 - 06:17 PM

To Folkieguy
From Computo-match dot com

Our highly clever and expensive computer has searched our database and found you a match
Her details follow:
Seperated woman with 2 young kids(different fathers), loves pets (has pit-bull and pet alligator), likes to listen to music (jazz and 'club'), attends live music events (such as an acid-house all-night rave) and enjoys travelling, (mostly in the back of a paddy waggon returning from a drunken city centre pub crawl still wearing stilletos and a pink stetson singing 'Alice, Alice..who the f%c$.is Alice'). Likes overseas travel ( destination Majorka', Ipizza ) and interested in ethnic culture (a la Albert Square...)

hmmmmmmm. yeah, ....right

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Dead Horse
Date: 17 Aug 09 - 10:46 AM

Advert:
Young, soon to be famous male folk singer, desires to meet with young female accompanist. Object: Group fun, etc.

Update:
Middle aged, soon to be famous male folk singer, wants to meet with young female musician. Object: Matrimony (if necessary).

Update:
Old, soon to be famous male folk singer, desperate to meet with reasonably actractive female. Object: To grow even older together.

Update:
Octogenarian, soon to be famous for something or other, needs any female with memory faculties in order. Object, finding stuff I am always losing.

Update:
Obit: Another old folkie done gone. Leaves his entire collection to Cecil Sharp House.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,Matt S
Date: 16 Aug 09 - 02:39 PM

Hi Lilly,

Young, intellectual, Peterborough based morris dancer here!!

Interesed? :P

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Paco Rabanne
Date: 30 Jul 09 - 06:06 PM

I met the current Mrs Rabanne thanks to mudcat. I met her at a mudcat gathering where my eldest daughter was singing.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,Name and address withheld
Date: 30 Jul 09 - 01:05 PM

I met 2 SO's at folk events. And we are all still friends.

**BG**

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,storyteller
Date: 29 Jul 09 - 08:41 PM

Ah, MAG, what a nice surprise. Who are YOU? Hmmm... life is filled with mysteries! What fun! Best friends are hard to find; a precious commodity (or maybe just an oddity).

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: lilly
Date: 29 Jul 09 - 02:12 PM

Well said Muddle C !

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: MAG
Date: 29 Jul 09 - 09:45 AM

Who are you, guest storyteller; my bestfriend?

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,david
Date: 29 Jul 09 - 07:00 AM

Also looking for folk guitarist and love. Black guitar very unsual!

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,storyteller
Date: 28 Jul 09 - 09:18 PM

A-people to that, Muddle!

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: MuddleC
Date: 28 Jul 09 - 05:26 PM

-well, I'm going to put this thread back on the rails... yes, I think a folkie-speed-dating thing would be kinda fun... and as for 'worried about looking desparate' .. hey, haven't you sung at any venues where they just don't want to know... and how nice it was to find a place that wanted folk music??? it works for the heart too you know.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,storyteller
Date: 27 Jul 09 - 08:37 PM

Bobad... your "carbon 14" is the funniest comment on this thread! FOMALOL! Where have you been all my life?!
My ad: One-eyed, cat-loving, comfortably abundant, 60-ish book collecting female storyteller and folk singer seeks amiable curmudgeon for occasional duets and/or puns.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 27 Jul 09 - 04:02 PM

Oh, I have plenty of those, not sure about the love, how about a pluck?

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Emma B
Date: 27 Jul 09 - 03:00 PM

Seeking for folk guitarist and love - send photo of guitar :)

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: CarolC
Date: 27 Jul 09 - 02:06 PM

I met my husband here in the Mudcat and we will be celebrating our 7th anniversary in October. We think it worked out quite well. Neither of us was particularly looking for anyone. We just became best friends over time and things progressed from there. We both are of the opinion that being friends first is very important.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Mr Red
Date: 27 Jul 09 - 11:26 AM

The kind of answer required is in the question.

lilly wants to share folkdom with a soulmate.
Opposites do not attract. Research has been reported in the New Scientist which indicates that whatever the differences that appear to outsiders (who arbitrarily choose a subset of each whole person to describe them) - the similarities are more numerous by a large margin. You have to be able to share a lot of similarities to be able to share a lot of time. Dis-similarities can be highly annoying.

The only time I have seen a lot of what appeared to be "odd couples" was in New Zealand out in the Wapwaps. Rural communities in remoter areas have less chance to mix and presumeably have to be less choosy in some aspects. Or remain single. Or move.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 26 Jul 09 - 05:49 PM

For what it's worth, if I were to day any such thing, the tagline would go: -

"Very grumpy short fat old left-wing lawyer with long grey hair and attitude seeks well spoken slim female folkie (age largely immaterial, ethnicity immaterial) to enjoy discomfort (of the camping kind) and alcohol at folk festivals. Ability to play a musical instrument (that excludes banjo) and sing harmony an advantage. Liking for real ale and fast old cars (and the ability to keep such cars out of the scenery) a further advantage."

Frankly, not that bothered about most things, apart from ignorance and wilful stupidity (and the BNP and other right wingers, but that is covered by the foregoing).

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST
Date: 26 Jul 09 - 04:55 PM

I am just now realizing that when I did get brave and traverse the online dating scene, I don't think I ever even mentioned folk music, at all!

Guess I figured when I found the right person, they would affectionately tolerate, if not completely share, that part of my life.

Check ; )

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Maryrrf
Date: 26 Jul 09 - 04:50 PM

Gosh Richard I don't think you'll be getting many interested matches on the Folkie Dating Forum.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Ebbie
Date: 26 Jul 09 - 03:20 PM

"It is more than time that people recognised their failings and strove to improve, rather than demanding that standards should fall."

Goodness gracious, Richard.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 26 Jul 09 - 02:52 PM

I see your punctuation is as expert as the rest of your grammar. You demonstrate a significant failing with contemporary British and North American society - the belief that if enough people do something wrong, that makes it right. It is more than time that people recognised their failings and strove to improve, rather than demanding that standards should fall.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: lilly
Date: 26 Jul 09 - 01:48 PM

Since many folkies seem to be better educated or more intelligent than pub rock lovers, why not learn that "fed up of" is a solecism and see if the quality of conversation you get improve................

what a pompous bore you must be !!!!!Richard.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: TheSnail
Date: 24 Jul 09 - 08:21 AM

David59

Not sure what hat mechanism should be.

I think you can get "Kiss me quick" hats at Blackpool.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: kendall
Date: 24 Jul 09 - 05:52 AM

Sometimes I dont have to stretch the truth. It really is true that truth is stranger than fiction.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: bobad
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 09:57 PM

"folky singles dating"

May I suggest using Carbon-14.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Leadfingers
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 09:52 PM

Tall Stories ? My mate Kendall ? Never ! ALL Gospel Truth !! Aren't They ?

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Amergin
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 09:27 PM

Especially, since alot of your stories tend to be on the tall side, Kendall....

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: kendall
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 09:02 PM

The stories I could tell no one would believe.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: David59
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 06:16 PM

I wasn't suggesting it was mandatory for singles, just that there should be mechanism to meet up with other single people for those that want to.

Not sure what hat mechanism should be. If you are content with your lot good for you.

I did wonder then who you are worried about looking desperate too though. Folk festivals tend to be full of people who are not too worried about what they look like.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Georgiansilver
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 05:44 PM

Think you nailed it Richard.. I tend to keep myself to myself at Folk get togethers... always have a laugh etc but don't flirt or make overtures to women..... not because I don't want to look desperate but basically because I am not that desperate. Being 'single' has a lot of benefits and as has already been mentioned... becoming a bit settled or set in ones ways takes some effort to change. Have many female friends and enjoy female company,... it would however take someone special... more than special to upset the 'status quo'.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 05:34 PM

I think that many people will not want to look that desperate.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: Crow Sister (off with the fairies)
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 03:10 PM

As a seriously coupled female to a non-folkish male, I also think the idea of 'singles moots' 'badges' 'beer tents' yadda yadda at Folk Fests, is a brilliant notion! Get with the love ;-)

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: David59
Date: 23 Jul 09 - 03:02 PM

Lilly,

I think that you have hit on a real issue. I have been thinking about this for some time. I was on a well-known dating site for a while and one of about 4 people in the country that had folk music as an interest.

I think a singles area at folk festivals would be good. A corner of a bar, tent what ever where single people could socialise. Dance tents are good, but most women there are married (to husbands who don't like dancing).

I will be at Shrewsbury Folk Festival in August - any other singles going perhaps we could set up an informal meeting point.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: MAG
Date: 22 Jul 09 - 05:33 PM

I'm with Sinsull. Too very set in my ways.

Although I WOULD like to move. If I can bring these rescue cats. 5 of them.

60ish, no longer chubby, not current in my field librarian, needs support and health insurance if I move.

Subject: RE: BS: folky singles dating ?
From: GUEST,punkfolkrocker
Date: 22 Jul 09 - 09:44 AM

..on the other hand..

couples we've known with identical interests and tastes can appear
to be just a bit creepy..

..even downright sinister when they also show up in public
dressed in identical fashion..


Theres definitely something to be said for 'opposites attract'
and the positive effects of dynamic contrasts
broadening the cultural 'gene pool'..

I do appreciate having a virtually separate social life from my mrs
and the free space to develope my own interests
for a few hours every week..

We then make the most of things we do enjoy doing together....