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LilyFestre-Mommy+Daddy+Baby...now on to Life!

maeve 03 Feb 10 - 04:17 PM
gnu 03 Feb 10 - 04:12 PM
SINSULL 03 Feb 10 - 03:59 PM
wysiwyg 03 Feb 10 - 02:24 PM
VirginiaTam 03 Feb 10 - 02:19 PM
SINSULL 03 Feb 10 - 11:29 AM
wysiwyg 03 Feb 10 - 10:59 AM
LilyFestre 03 Feb 10 - 10:58 AM
wysiwyg 03 Feb 10 - 10:39 AM
AllisonA(Animaterra) 03 Feb 10 - 10:37 AM
maeve 03 Feb 10 - 10:21 AM
LilyFestre 03 Feb 10 - 10:17 AM
wysiwyg 02 Feb 10 - 09:50 PM
LilyFestre 02 Feb 10 - 09:23 PM
SINSULL 02 Feb 10 - 07:31 PM
Sandra in Sydney 02 Feb 10 - 05:32 PM
Janie 02 Feb 10 - 03:52 PM
AllisonA(Animaterra) 02 Feb 10 - 03:26 PM
jacqui.c 02 Feb 10 - 02:33 PM
wysiwyg 02 Feb 10 - 11:28 AM
LilyFestre 02 Feb 10 - 11:25 AM
SINSULL 01 Feb 10 - 11:40 AM
wysiwyg 01 Feb 10 - 11:31 AM
jacqui.c 01 Feb 10 - 11:10 AM
Catherine Jayne 01 Feb 10 - 11:07 AM
Tinker 01 Feb 10 - 11:07 AM
LilyFestre 01 Feb 10 - 10:48 AM
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LilyFestre 01 Feb 10 - 10:19 AM
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Maryrrf 30 Jan 10 - 11:32 AM
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katlaughing 30 Jan 10 - 11:02 AM
Stilly River Sage 30 Jan 10 - 10:43 AM
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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: maeve
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 04:17 PM

Still here.

maeve


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: gnu
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 04:12 PM

As in maeve's thread, a lot of peeps are walking anongside. Keep the faith, everyone.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: SINSULL
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 03:59 PM

Sometimes I find that counting backwards from 100,000 makes the time go faster or me fall asleep...100,000; 99,999; 99,998;99,997...


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Subject: VTs Color Garden
From: wysiwyg
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 02:24 PM

VT, that is GORGEOUS! As of today I am tagging your artposts by changing my subject line (same trick used when a lyric is added in a thread but the poster has not followed form).

~Susan


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 02:19 PM

quick peek in to add extra good wishes. glad you are resting... waiting with others for news.

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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: SINSULL
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 11:29 AM

And so once again we wait.
Breathing with you, Lily, with a bit of a wheeze. A simple cold and I turn into Sarah Bernhardt.
If and when you are ready to share your news, we'll be here.
Mary


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 10:59 AM

OK, we'll assume posts made between now and get-back will not be seen til later.

Drive safe, and have FUN with your car-buddy/ies.

~S~


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 10:58 AM

Susan,

    Yes, we are headed to see my surgeon...leaving shortly.

Thanks to all of you for your prayers and good thoughts....they are appreciated more than you know.

Michelle


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 10:39 AM

Michelle, do I assume correctly that you are off now on your way to the hospital where you did the surgery?

LIVESTRONG!

Keeping a strong thought (prayers) for you.

~S~


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 10:37 AM

Amen!


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: maeve
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 10:21 AM

Breathing here with you, Michelle.

maeve


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 03 Feb 10 - 10:17 AM

*Deep Breath*


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 02 Feb 10 - 09:50 PM

(((Michelle)))

OK, now look. What I know FOR SURE is that you are up to whatever challenges lie ahead of you, whether they involve recovering from the surgery and a little post-surg chemo to vibrant health, or whether you have to duke it out a little longer against this damn cancer. I think I know HOW you will do it, too, and it will involve quite a bit of creativity.

The past year or so has been an intense and rewarding time for you, of deciding over and over and over to simply follow the joy. And that's all you have to keep on doing! Joy will lead you exactly where you need to go.

And about those stages of reactions-- screw 'em. OK, if you find yourself in the midst of a hissy fit, you'll know that it's one of the "expected" stages. But you do not need to conform to them or pay attention to them at all-- just recognize, each day, that you are already doing absolutely the best that you can. Not almost-enough, and not according to anyone else's idea of what ought to be possible.

Just assume that you are already doing the best that can be done, and EN-JOY IT.

~Susan


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 02 Feb 10 - 09:23 PM

I'm going to wrap myself up in the shawl that Jacqui sent and melt into the hugs it holds.

There's part of me that says ok....the report will say what it says and we'll find out what's the next step to getting me healthy. Then there's the other part that is scared shitless. I don't want a port. I don't want to be sick all the time. I don't want to lose my hair.

But I DO want to be healthy and so I will do whatever it is I need to do and lean when I need to lean.

What I need now is a hug.

:( Michelle


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: SINSULL
Date: 02 Feb 10 - 07:31 PM

The pathology report is what it is. We are all here.

Don't come anywhere near me. I have a cold. You do not need to be coughing and sneezing while trying to hold you stitches in place.

Maybe you can distract yourself with plans for a Valentine's surprise for Pete. He has earned it.
SINS


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Feb 10 - 05:32 PM

sending more good wishes

sandra


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: Janie
Date: 02 Feb 10 - 03:52 PM

In a circle, all around. Waiting? Yes. But also very present right here, right now.

Birdwatching anyone?


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 02 Feb 10 - 03:26 PM

Holding you close, waiting with you.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 02 Feb 10 - 02:33 PM

Good to hear that you are resting melove. All good thoughts here for the right result from the pathology report, but whatever happens just know that we are here.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 02 Feb 10 - 11:28 AM

Michelle,

Waiting with you for the news.

Please keep in mind that whatever they tell you, all you really have is today-- and you get to choose how to live it.

~Susan


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 02 Feb 10 - 11:25 AM

Well, my incision looks better after only one dose of the new antibiotics....hard to believe, but true. My navel is still a mess and I'm dreaded the poking that is sure to go on tomorrow when I meet with the surgeon. Side effect of the antibiotic? A little bit dizzy and nauseous.

Spent the entire day on Mom's couch yesterday doing NOTHING. Sleeping and watching television....following orders from Dr. Jacqui and Sins. I did good! ;)   I did NOT go to the yoga class as I thought it might just depress me to watch everyone jumping back into chatarangas...something which I love to do and can't right now...so I stayed on the couch.

Today I'm spending the day in my own recliner, feet up, a snuggly blanket with a book and water by my side. Gotta get more fluids in....they can't find my veins when I'm all dehyrated which means MORE needle sticks for me. NO THANK YOU.

And Susan, I'll take you up on the offer for the wing chair at church. I had no idea that the pews would cause that kind of pain....it's why I was so wiggly and holding my prayer shawl over my belly...putting pressure on to ease some of the uncomfortableness.

Off to the recliner! Have a great day everybody! Pathology report comes in tomorrow, please keep your fingers crossed, think positive things or pray for me....please, please, please!

Love to all,

Michelle


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: SINSULL
Date: 01 Feb 10 - 11:40 AM

Jeez, Tink. Don't quit your day job. You are almost as talented as WAV. Not quite, just almost.

I was housebound for three weeks. Chaos all around me. And I slept - a lot. In a few weeks you will be back to normal. Meantime, be kind to yourself. And watch that infection.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 01 Feb 10 - 11:31 AM

Michelle, about the hard church seats. That wing chair up the aisle-- well, you would not be the first Saturday Nighter to curl up there, and it's easily moved, too, if you want James to put it anywhere you point. Or tell me here, and it will be waiting for you-- one nice spot is in front of the chapel, where the kids' toys and activity bags hang out.

~Susan


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 01 Feb 10 - 11:10 AM

Michelle - it really does take time and energy to heal. At two weeks I was arguing with my daughter to be allowed to make a cup of tea and the only way I was allowed out was with her and being pushed round in a wheelchair if we went into a shop.

I did feel rather useless during that time but it did me good as I was able to get back to normal life, living alone and working in London, with an hour and a half commute each way, in five weeks from my operation.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: Catherine Jayne
Date: 01 Feb 10 - 11:07 AM

Still thinking about you and holding you close in our thoughts.

Love and Healing

Khatt x


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: Tinker
Date: 01 Feb 10 - 11:07 AM

Naming our personal "icks"
Is key if the "icks" you will lick
So diss not the talent
for it keeps you in balance

And add it to the list
(In case it's an action you might have missed)



Not really prime poetry.... but perhaps a giggle...

I'm sending a PM too....


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 01 Feb 10 - 10:48 AM

Great idea Kat...I think I WILL do that because I do feel rather useless.

Dr. just called and they are giving me a new script for a different antibiotic, one that matches my infection so HOPEFULLY on Wednesday when I go to see my surgeon, he won't have to re-open the incision to pack it due to infection.

Yep. I know ick when I see it.

My special talents are endless I tell ya.

;) Michelle


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: katlaughing
Date: 01 Feb 10 - 10:41 AM

Michelle, fwiw, I had trouble with part of my incision from heart surgery. It wasn't healing properly. The surgeon looked at it a couple of times and said to just keep putting Neosporin (antibiotic ointment) on it. All that did was make it itch like crazy, which I thought meant it was healing. It was not. It was just getting more irritated. I remembered what the vet had said about not "smothering" my cat's wound as it needed oxygen to heal. He instead told me to use iodine in a diluted solution with water. Finally, I stopped using the ointment and painted my incision with iodine. I had felt, instinctively, that would do the trick and it did. Within a day or two it felt better and healed up quickly after that.

I am not saying that is what you should do, but it worked for me. Good luck.

Oh, and another thing...when I was so ill and feeling useless, i.e. as though I'd done nothing all day, my friend asked me to make a list of everything I did, including usual things such as getting up and going to the bathroom, letting the dog outside, etc. no matter how small and seemingly insignificant, I was to write it down. Then she and I would talk in the evening and after reading her my list it occurred to me I really had done more than I realised. Try it, you'll see.:-)

kat


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 01 Feb 10 - 10:19 AM

Yeah well, church wasn't the best idea I had.....I wasn't comfortable at all.....hard seats are painful after just a few minutes...it was good for my spirits but kinda hard on the body.

I am weepy today. The bottom of my wound is healing very nicely but the top....well, it's not. I called my local Dr. today and she's not in. Got to speak to a nurse who said that my surgeon needed to see me. I pointed out that my local Dr. is the one who took a sample of the yuk and gave me antibiotics to begin with and why won't they see me. She passed me on to another nurse who was better. She said they have the preliminary results back to match the infection to the antibiotic. She was going to call the hospital to see about the final results which they may have but not have sent over just yet and at 10:30, the head Dr. comes in and she's going to talk to him about what's going on with me and give me a call back. In the meantime, I'm showered, put some antibiotic cream along my incision, steri-stripped it with my homemade band-aid kind of way because I don't have steri-strips and a 4x4 gauze patch over my belly button area.

I haven't thrown anything yet but I have done some from the gut screaming...no words...just screaming in my empty house. Once it's out, I feel better. And tired. I'm tired all the time and it seems I sleep a lot. That's good for me, I know.

Today I am going to spend the day at Mom's house....most likely on the couch where I will sleep or read. I am hoping to go to yoga tonight...to just sit on my mat or lay down or legs up the wall....whatever is comfy....to just be in a space I love with people I love and am missing (it's been over a month since I've been there I think). No yoga....just yoga people and yoga space....maybe a little yoga nidra...we'll see.

Anyway, I'm amazed that you think I do a lot because I feel like the world's biggest slug. I shower and sleep. Eat, sleep. Pet the dog, sleep. Eat, sleep. Answer the phone and sleep. You get the idea....

And how is it that I can't feel that there are parts of my body missing? That freaks me out. No uterus. No fallopian tubes. No ovaries yet I don't feel an emptiness in those areas.....how come?

What I do feel is that my belly button is trying to escape...feels like it's pulling itself out to make a mad dash to somewhere warm. I don't know. Weird but true.

Michelle who just had Boost and 11 pills for breakfast. YUM.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: SINSULL
Date: 01 Feb 10 - 08:56 AM

Yeah, Michelle. The anger will come. There are certain steps towards final acceptance. Disbelief, denial, anger, fear, guilt - all sorts of what seem negative emotions but each is a step towards healing. They don't come in any set order. And some come back.

Remember I told you how good it made me feel to throw things? A satisfying smash and the calm after the storm when I got to clean up the mess.

You will experience it differently.

I am amazed you can do as much as you are doing. Wonderful - as long as you recognize when you are tired.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 31 Jan 10 - 04:56 PM

'nigh-night, sweet Michelle! You sound as though you're doing very well. Sleep well!


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 31 Jan 10 - 03:54 PM

The baby reception was nice...loads of people, many of whom I did not know. An old friend from high school was there so we sat together and chatted. I sat and held the baby for probably half an hour or so and also got to feed her....heaven....I'm telling you, I was in heaven. I didn't stay long as I tire so fast but I'm glad I went!

When I got home, I took a nap...a few hours or so and decided that I wanted to go to church. My husband wasn't interested in driving me over and my Mom is plain old worn out from driving me everywhere so I drove myself. No pain meds for the previous 24 hours and I'd also had a nap. It was fine although I won't be gallavanting around the countryside on a daily basis just yet. It was good for me to go....to hear the sermon, the enjoy the music and just to see other people....also, just the atmosphere makes me feel better.

I will say that the day was tiring and I slept all night and didn't wake up until 10:30ish this morning...something I hardly EVER do. My husband likes to tease if I sleep past 7:30am, he'll tell me I slept the entire day away.

We went to town this afternoon to the feed store (I sat in the car), to lunch (where I had 1/6th of a steak , a side salad and we both got cake to bring home) and then to Walmart. My list was short but of course I needed things from BOTH sides of the store. One complete trip around and I had to sit on the bench for a little bit....totally wore me out. Pete assures me it will get better.

I'll be going to the Dr. tomorrow as the infection is looking worse and is going further up on my incision.

I'm also not feeling as panicked as I had been....now it's more of a quiet, inside panic...instead of the screaming, crying, freaked out panic. Apparently there are stages to how people go through such a diagnosis. My mom keeps telling me, "You're supposed to get mad now, remember?" I've read about the stages and honestly would be happy to feel some anger as anger brings energy with it and has a tendency to do away with fear....I'm just not there yet.

What I do need is a nap.

I love you people. Every last one of you.

Night.

Michelle


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: SINSULL
Date: 31 Jan 10 - 12:47 PM

I'm impressed. Jacqui posted from her Grammy Awards weekend.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 04:32 PM

More mothering - give yourself time to heal properly and try not to take risks that might land you back in hospital. As has been said - don't lift th baby, have her sat on your lap and then taken off by others.

Treat yourself kindly, you're worth it.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: Maryrrf
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 11:32 AM

Hey Michelle, I have not been on Mudcat much lately but am following this thread and want to add my support. A friend of mine had a similar surgery two years ago and is now fine - you will be fine too. Good vibes headed your way!


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 11:19 AM

what the other mothers said... I am echoing. remember that incision is not only on the surface... it is internal. things have been and will be shifting. don't do anything to encourage unnatural shift.

glad you like the gifts though.

Now I am off to do a happy dance in the declutter thread.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: SINSULL
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 11:06 AM

Hideous????
That comment made me think of the Getaway. The first night we are all at our best, a little tired from the commute but up and happy. Day 2, after stating up way past midnight we look a little less attractive. By Day 3, we are all tired and look it, slightly grubby from dressing on the run, and maybe a bit hung over. Outsiders would probably see a bunch of middle-aged messy people who ought to know better. We see only the beauty of friends sharing their music.

No amount of surgery, lack of sleep, crying or just feeling miserable could make you hideous to your real friends. Your husband feels the same way - grateful to have you home and alive. To yourself? That is something you will have to come to terms with. Your cancer group will help you.

With the loss and pain comes a knowledge of how beautiful and precious life is and how fleeting is superficial beauty. It will come to you eventually.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: katlaughing
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 11:02 AM

More mothering from here...please be sure not to lift the baby yourself. Let someone hand him to you and be very careful while you hold him. Just as with driving, any sudden movement, a natural lifting up to soothe, etc. would not be good for your incision.

Let's see, you've been home since Jan. 18th. Today is the 30th, so it's been a whole 12 days, not even two full weeks...you might want to slow down a bit, darlin'..for what you've been through 12 days is not a lot of recovery time for MAJOR surgery and to get the anaesthesia out. (That stuff can settle in your muscles for months.) IMO, no church tonight. Even seeing the babe is questionable.

Feel free to tell us if you get tired of the mothering.:-)

kat


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 10:43 AM

Michelle, if you drive that far from home and get too tired before you get home, you're going to have to pull over and have Pete come get you, and someone else is going to have to drive him to where you are. It's going to chafe for a while longer, but when you're tired from something like this, you have to remember to pace yourself.

My browser wants to shut down. Better send this while I can.

SRS


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 09:24 AM

Michelle - lucky you can't see me heading off to the loo at a wintery folk festival - faded yellowy or blue ankle-length short sleeved summer nightie, black thermal pants & matching top, hand-knitted Nepalese rainbow wool socks, topped by my big black woollen coat!

I'll look even better next year as these 2 nighties are in the rag bag. I've made 2 new ones: apple green with white spots, & bright yellow with white stars.

One of my friends lost her hair a few times in her chemo, & had a great collection of wigs. She was known to haul off her wig & show off her new curls at appropriate moments!

have fun with the baby.

sandra


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 08:57 AM

Sins,

    The pills I'm taking at night are not sleeping pills per say, they are more to help me relax so I can get a good night's sleep which SHOULD help ease the intense morning anxiety. I was skeptical but you know what? It's working and I am happy to not be balled up in a knot of fear sobbing until 10:00am or later.

   And the hair. I know it's vain but I don't want to lose it...I don't think anyone does....and at this point, for all I know, I might NOT lose it. Not only will I be more hideous than I already am but I have a life long habit of playing with my hair as a comfort....so there's a fear there of taking away something that is self soothing. So...I talked to my hair dresser and if my hair starts to come out, before it gets all scraggly, she is going to put it into lots of little pony tails and cut them off one by one. This will allow me to still be able to feel the softness of my own hair. I've looked at wigs, turbans, hair halos and the like....I don't know what I want in that line so I suppose it will be a wait and see kind of deal. The American Cancer Society has a program called Look Good Feel Better. These classes are run by beauticians and they have all kinds of wigs/turbans/etc for us to try on. They also will do make up tips and send me home with lots of makeup and I believe a wig or two. I had to register with the ACS and requested that my mom be able to come along. The woman on the phone didn't know if that was allowed but later she called me back to say that would be fine and that makes me feel better...to have someone along for support.

As far as driving goes, I ALMOST did some yesterday but decided I was tired and wanted to stay home. I'd like to go to church tonight but because church is about 40 minutes from our home, I'm not sure I'll be going. I hate to ask my husband to drive me there as he is on the road all week and is not interested in going to the service. I MIGHT drive myself. We shall see. The Dr. said that once the staples were out and I was off the pain pills, I could drive. We shall see.

I'm cold this morning (picture this: giant gray sweat pants, a long sleeved, long green and blue flannel nighty, a shawl around my shoulders and a blue blanket in my lap....lookout Miss America, you've got competition!!!!

I have been invited to a baby reception this afternoon and am looking forward to holding the beautiful baby Audrey!

Michelle


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: SINSULL
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 08:27 AM

Lily,
Only once did I take (read: was I allowed to take) Ambien. I had nightmares but they were in such wonderful psychedelic colors that I loved them. Until you mentioned your dreams, I had forgotten how horrific the dreams themselves were.

Hair - my neighbor in NYC had Hodgkins Lymphoma and underwent chemo twice for it. She never lost her hair. Go figure. Hats will help. But feel free to grieve if it falls out. And remember it will grow back. My niece had long straight hair. Hers came back in all curly and very beautiful.

Do not drive! It was the one thing my doctor harped in. Just getting into and out of the car can pull stitches. A fast slam on the brakes could put you back in the hospital. It is not worth the chance of prolonging your recovery.

I re-read this and I do sound very bossy. Sorry. And feel free to ignore anything that doesn't suit you at the moment.

SINS, in mothering mode.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 08:02 AM

Dreams are often just manifestations of our fears. You are "shedding" the fears along with the cancer, and donning yourself with color and brightness and hope. Good for you!
love,
Allison


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 07:58 AM

I think medications make you dream strange things. I woke up this morning dreaming about chemotherapy. In my dream they had to remove a 4x4 inch area of skin for each treatment.

*sigh*

Gross & scary.

I'm aiming for dreamless naps and sleep later today!!!

Michelle


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 07:55 AM

VT,

   I love just about all colors....I am a photographer at heart and know that it is ALL the colors of the world that come together to make this such a beautiful place!! I LOVE LOVE LOVE that you sent me a head dress....I've looked at them on eBay for Ren Fairs (and the dresses too) but never got one. Now I think I might spend some time looking at the dresses and patterns....I mean, I have HALF of the outfit now, right? *G*

Much love from Michelle who is going to church tonight wearing brown boots, black pants, a neon green turtleneck (maybe dark green), white compression stockings, a dark purple hat, a scarf of many colors and a purple coat!!!   See? Lots of colors!

PS. I can't believe you can do beading like that....they are so tiny....that is a gift in itself!

PPS. I've moved the fairy to sit with me...she's right beside my chair with her sweet, delicate wings! <3


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 30 Jan 10 - 04:17 AM

Michelle having learned from the JacquiC shawl installment that your fav colour is green, wish I had sent the jade/sage green headdress.

Anyway, I guess you can put that head dress to some fun use.

Whew! what a relief. thought it had gone missing.


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 29 Jan 10 - 09:29 PM

sending more hugs

sandra


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 29 Jan 10 - 09:24 PM

I have to get shopping this weekend. I have a couple of things to send to people.

SRS


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 29 Jan 10 - 06:34 PM

And speaking of GOOD THINGS, guess what I found in my mailbox today? The sweetest little fairy and a head dress that looks like lots of FUN!!!!!

VT, you are too sweet and I loved the card!!!!!!

The fairy is sitting on my desk and I plan to play with the head dress tomorrow....I've never had one!!!!!

Thank you for thinking of me....you brought a smile to my face and I'm sure I'll be having some fun tomorrow too! Now....my sweet little fairy needs a name....Hmmmmmmmmmmmm.........

(((((((Hugs)))))))))

Thank you!!!!!!!!
Much love,

Michelle


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Subject: RE: BS: LilyFestre -UPDATE - she's home, resting:-)
From: LilyFestre
Date: 29 Jan 10 - 05:08 PM

Outsides = hair

*Sigh*

You are right, I am worrying about something that is ahead that I am unsure of. And Mary you are also right, it IS a small price to pay to live a long, happy, HEALTHY, life.

I had no idea it would freak me out so much.

(((((((((Thank you for the reminders of the good things in my life))))))

Michelle


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